When a guy is trying to get his ex girlfriend, fiancé or wife back, it can seem like an impossible thing to do.
She’s saying things like, “Get away from me” or “Give me space” or “I don’t want to be with you anymore.” Anything along those sorts of lines means that he is experiencing direct emotional rejection from her. She is saying “No!” to the idea of being with him and isn’t open to giving it another shot.
If you’re reading this post now and are trying to get your ex back, then you’ve most-likely already tried to reason with her and explain to her that you will change and that she should give the relationship another chance. You may have also made the mistake of begging or pleading with her for another chance. From here on, don’t worry about what mistakes you have made and instead just focus on the correct things that you need to say and do to get her back.
If you are serious about getting her back and you want to learn what you need to do, make sure that you read this entire post. I’m going to explain 7 reasons why you CAN get her back and I’m going to explain these reasons from my all of my vast experience with helping guys to get their ex back.
I’ve seen all sorts of cases where it initially seems like a hopeless case, but the guy then gets her back into a relationship by using my tested, proven to work approach. I’ve seen cases where a man has been married to his wife for 20 years and she says, “Leave me alone. I never want to be with you again. There are too many painful memories” and then he gets her back.
I’ve dealt with cases where, for example, a 20 year old guy has had his first girlfriend at university and then stuffed it up by being clingy and needy.Yet, when he went through the process that I’m going to provide for you if you get my program, he gets her back.
It really is an awesome job to have and I am really keen to help you out if you are serious about getting your ex back. In this post, I’m going to explain why you CAN get her back and why it’s possible for YOU to do it. As you will discover, when getting an ex back, you actually NEED to have the belief that you CAN get her back. Without it, you end up communicating and behaving in ways that actually turn your ex off.
The first reason why you can get your ex back is that…
1. People can change the way that they feel about someone
As you may have noticed throughout your life, a person can literally go from hating someone to then forgiving them, liking them and even loving them. You may have seen that with other people or you may have experienced it yourself where, for example, someone at work annoyed you and you hated them for it. They then changed their behavior, communication style and attitude towards you and then you liked them.
You literally went from hating them to liking them, which shows you that it is possible to change how you feel about someone. Use the experience that you’ve had in life to see that people can change the way that they feel about someone. A person can literally go from not liking someone to really liking someone, or from hating someone, to forgiving them and then liking them and even loving them.
In the case of getting an ex back; an ex girlfriend can literally go from not wanting to be with a guy, to really wanting to be with him and it all depends on the approach that the guy uses when trying to get her back.
Your ex can change the way she feels about you. At the moment, she may not feel like she wants to be with you, but her emotions definitely can change. How quickly your ex is going to go from not wanting to be with you to be being open to being with you, depends on the approach that you use.
If you look online, most people will tell you, “Get out of her life” and use the No Contact Rule where you don’t contact her for a long period of time and then hopefully she misses you and everything magically fixes itself. Yet, that isn’t a good solution because it usually just allows the woman to move on.
Of course, sometimes the No Contact Rule does work and makes the woman to contact her ex, but if she contacts him and discovers that he still has the same issues that lead to the break up in the first place, then she isn’t going to want to get back with him for real. She’s just calling up to see if he is still missing her and what is happening in his love life, so she can feel good about continuing to move on and leave him behind.
So, what you need to know is that you can actually make her feel differently right away. You don’t have to sit around wasting time and hoping that things change themselves because you can actively make the changes to her emotions happen very quickly.
2. When you make her feel differently, her thinking and behavior changes
If the current way that you’ve been communicating with your ex has been turning her off, then she’s not going to be thinking that she wants to get back with you. She’s going to be behaving coldly towards you and she’s going to be saying that she doesn’t want to be with you. She will be trying to push you away, get away from you and make it clear that she just doesn’t feel the same way about you anymore.
However, when you change your communication style with her in a way that makes her feel attracted to you, she will naturally begin to think and behave differently. She will become more open to being with you or at least meeting up with you to have a chat.
Right now, you might be able to make your ex feel attraction and respect for you in many different ways or, maybe you are the sort of guy who doesn’t know how to make his ex feel attracted and respectful towards him anymore. Maybe you feel like you seem to have lost your way with her.
Whatever the case is for you, what you need to understand is that you can do better. You might be a great guy already, but you can do better. You can communicate with her in a different way on the phone, in person and via text or social media. You can use different body language when you’re around her, you can have a different attitude towards her, you can have a different vibe and you can display a different level of confidence.
Those are qualities that will allow you to attract her and make her feel differently about you. If you understand what attraction is, you will know what I am talking about here. The dictionary definition of attraction is:
Attraction (noun): A quality or feature of someone that evokes feelings of interest, liking or desire.
A bit part of making your ex feel differently so she wants to get back with you is being able to make her feel attracted to you and respectful towards you. If the majority of your behavior, communication and attitude or vibe is turning her off, then she’s not going to feel drawn to you.
There may be some things that that your ex finds attractive about you at the moment, but if she feels like she doesn’t want to be with you right now, it means that the things that are turning her off are outweighing the things that are drawing her to you.
You’ve got to be able to present qualities and features about yourself that are attractive to her, that are going to draw her to you. It’s actually very easy to make your ex feel differently once you know what you’re doing. There are things that you can say to her via text, on the phone and in person that will make her feel differently right away.
You don’t have to sit around wasting time and hoping that if you just stay out of her life, something will magically happen. What you need to do is make her feel differently and a big part of that is being able to make her feel attracted to you when you interact with her, whether that is on the phone, via text, on social media or in person.
3. Forgiveness makes her drop her guard and open back up to you
If your ex doesn’t forgive for making mistakes in the relationship and is going forward without you, with her guard up saying, “No! You stuffed up. It’s over…I cannot forgive you” it will make the process of getting her back a lot more difficult.
So, you do actually need to get her forgiveness. How do you do that? Getting her to forgive you is something that I explain in detail in my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System. There are specific conversations that you need to have with your ex to get her to forgive you and understand that you did make mistakes in the past, but that isn’t going to happen anymore.
Once you do get her forgiveness, she drops her guard and becomes more open to you and when she becomes more open to you, she doesn’t stop herself from feeling attracted to you or feeling respectful towards you. When she allows herself to feel attracted to you and respectful towards you, that’s when she starts to feel drawn to you.
Forgiveness allows her to open herself back up to you and when she does open herself up to you, you need to make sure that you’re able to make her feel enough respect and attraction for her to actually want to be with you in a relationship again.
If you need help with making her feel enough respect and attraction for you, that is one of the many things that you will learn in my program. You will learn exactly what to say when talking to her, you will learn the the process to go through to get her back and also how to make her feel respect and attraction for you once again. There is a lot to it and if you are serious about getting her back, then I welcome you to try my program.
4. You can fix any of your emotional issues and show her that you’ve improved and changed
When getting an ex back, she needs to be able to see that you have fixed any emotional issues you have that were turning her off and that you’ve improved and changed. Emotional issues such as: Being clingy, taking her for granted, being needy or insecure. Those are emotional issues that turn women off and they don’t want to be in a relationship with a guy who can’t be stronger and get over those sorts of things.
You don’t have to fully fix everything and become perfect to get her back, but what you need to do is start working on those emotional issues properly. You need to get expert advice on how to fix the emotional issues that you have, which I can provide you with in my program.
If you have begun to fix your issues and improve yourself emotionally as a man, she will be able to pick up that when you interact with her. She will sense it by looking at your body language, she will hear it in your tonality and in what you say to her and she also will notice it by looking at the changes in your behavior. She will be able to see that you really have improved and changed.
If you try to get an ex back and you haven’t really fixed or improved anything and are just saying that you “will” change, it’s not enough for most women. Some women (e.g. women who are inexperienced with relationships or women who haven’t been able to find a replacement guy), will give their ex another chance if he says that he will change. However, the relationship will break up again if he continues to turn her off by having the same old issues.
5. You can make her see you as a better option than other guys
Your ex may have already moved on with another guy or she may be at a point now where she feels like she wants to get out there and “find herself” and have a good time. Whatever the case is for you, what you need to understand is that you can make her see you as a better option than other guys.
Unfortunately, when a lot of guys get broken up with by their woman, they start to behave in ways that are unattractive to the woman; they become insecure, they feel like they’re not good enough and they essentially make the woman feel like she would be doing them a favor by giving the relationship another chance.
Your ex doesn’t want to feel like she is doing you a favor by getting back with you. She wants to feel like you ARE a better option that other guys and you CAN make her feel that way. To get her to feel that way is a lot easier than most guys think. There are things that you can say to her right now and there things that you can say and do when you meet up with her that will make her feel differently about you.
When you use the techniques that I provide in my program, your ex sees you in a new light. She feels differently about you, she has a new perspective of you and it draws her to you.
6. Love doesn’t die
If your ex doesn’t want to get back with you, it doesn’t mean that the love is dead.
It may feel like it is dead and she may have even said, “I don’t love you anymore,” but, what that really means is that she doesn’t feel like she can be in love with you right now. It doesn’t mean that you can’t reconnect with the love and make her want to be in love with you once again. It also doesn’t mean that you can’t make the love stronger than it ever was before. You can and I know that from helping so many guys to get their ex girlfriend, ex fiancé or ex wife back.
The love is there in the background; it’s just that she is not willing to connect with it right now. She doesn’t feel like she wants to be in love with you right now, but you can change the way that she feels about you.
When a woman feels differently about a guy, when she feels enough respect and attraction for him and she also forgives him for his past mistakes, then she becomes more open to reconnecting with the love.
Before I devoted my life to helping guys get their ex back, I didn’t know that about love. I thought that if a man and a woman broke up and the woman said, “I don’t love you anymore,” it meant that the love was completely dead and it was unrecoverable. However, that isn’t the case at all; love doesn’t die.
If you and your ex did experience love together, it is still there in the background and she will become open to reconnecting with that love when you change the way that she feels about you. Additionally, if you and your ex never experienced true love, it doesn’t mean that you can’t create that connection between you and her now.
To get her to feel differently about you, you’ve got to be able to get in contact with her and in my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System I provide you with tested examples of text messages, phone calls, what to say at the meet up, what to do at the meet up, etc. When you text her, when you call her up and when you meet her in person, you’re going to know exactly what to say and do to get her to want to give the relationship another chance.
When getting an ex back, you need to be confident in the process that you’re going through. You need to believe in yourself that you can actually get another chance with her and that you can make her feel differently about you. Some guys get their ex back immediately and for other guys it takes a couple of days, weeks or a couple of months. It really depends on how bad the relationship became and how you treated her during the break up process.
I’ve seen so many examples of relationships getting back together within hours, within days, within weeks and there are also examples where it takes a little longer than that. However, what you need to do is believe in yourself and keep pushing forward, knowing that you can change the way that she feels about you.
Ironically, just having that belief in yourself makes you more attractive to your ex. Women are attracted to guys who are emotionally strong, so if you are insecure and don’t think that you’re good enough for her, it’s actually unattractive to her and it will turn her off.
One of the things that you need to do when getting an ex back is believe in yourself and belief in yourself is one of things that you’re going to get from my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System
7. There is a proven, step-by-step system for you to follow
When getting an ex back, it’s so easy to make mistakes.
There are many mistakes that guys make along the way that turn their ex girlfriend, fiancé wife off and make the process of getting her back much more difficult. It isn’t just 5 or 10 mistakes that a guy needs to avoid. There are a lot of mistakes that you need to avoid making and if you don’t know what they are, you will most-likely make the mistake, turn your ex off and make the process of getting her back more difficult than it needs to be.
So, if you want a plan to follow, then I welcome you to try my program. It comes with a 30 day money back guarantee and if you’re going to get my program, promise me one thing: You will go through the entire program and you then put the advice into action. If you do that, you will be amazed at how your ex responds to you.
“Hi dan 5 months after me and my wife broke up we are now back together and so happy , I’ll be honest with you I thought after I went through your programmes that they would be of no use to me I couldn’t have been more wrong , certain parts of the programme i couldn’t reeally use but the majority was so helpful , it got me in the right mindset and helped me through the toughest part of the break up and showed me how to be a man that my wife would want and in all fairness it just felt natural to be this way so many many thanks to you and the team at modern man because without you it would have been impossible for me to get my wife back in my arms so if any of you guys are in liverpool England any time don’t hesitate to contact me because I would like to take you guys out for a drink again thank you thank you thank you you don’t realise how much you have helped me I am eternally greatful thanks again from the happiest man in Liverpool Matty PS thank you again”
“Dan, my girlfriend and I are now back together. Thank you!! Pete”
“Hi Dan
I got my girlfriend back!! She had become jealous due to [Edited: Customer revealed important technique from Get Your Ex Back: Super System] so she messaged me on Fb and on my phone. We met at a coffee shop close by my home and kissed afterward. Following that she announced that she regretted breaking up and wanted to give it another chance.
Props to you bro!!
H”
“I want to take this opportunity to thank you for saving my marriage. It was dead in the water and my wife had already began going on dates with a new guy that she knows from work. But I put your advice into action from the Get Your Ex Back system and boy did it work.
My wife came crawling back to me, crying and apologising. I am now in the position of power in the relationship and we are more in love than ever before. Your tips on sex where a huge eye opener for me as well. I would rarely get her to orgasm before but now it is happening more often every time we have sex.
You are doing great things for the men of this world Dan and you deserve a lot of credit. Had I known what your program would do for me I would have happily paid double the price.
I’ll be a loyal fan of yours for life.
Best regards, Bryon”
Some guys even get their ex back AND get new women hitting on them now that they are more attractive to women:
“Hi Dan
I got your Ex Back program and have used it to get my ex back. All that is fine now (thank you!) but there is a new problem that I’m confused about.
There’s a girl at work who is asking me to break up with my girlfriend to be with her. She’s very beautiful so I don’t know what to do. I’m at a crossroads in my life and wondering whether I should keep my girlfriend or have this new girl. I will admit that I even kissed her after work at a function we had. I’m not sure what to do. My girlfriend and I are very happy now but I am feeling very confused about this. Any advice?”
I also provide two bonus programs, Ultimate Make Up Sex and Facebook, Phone and Text Message Examples.
Ultimate Make Up Sex is about connecting with her sexually in a way that you probably haven’t done before. If you already good at sex and have enjoyed a great sex life with her, this program will give you some additional insights that will make the sex even better than it has been already.
Facebook, Phone and Text Message Examples is a quick reference guide that includes all the Facebook, phone and text message examples from Get Your Ex Back: Super System. You will always know what to say when communicating with your ex and will be able to quickly find the examples from the program to use when you are contacting her.
If you want a proven system to follow, I welcome you to try my program. One thing I really want to point out for you is that you actually can get another chance with your ex, even if you’ve already had six chances with her.
I’ve seen all sorts of cases and it’s always surprising to see that when you make a woman feel differently, she begins to think and behave differently and open herself back up to the relationship. That is natural psychology at work.
When you can present yourself in a way that makes her feel differently, she will start thinking differently, talking differently, behaving differently and she will then naturally feel more open to meeting up with you. For the meet up, I provide all sorts of techniques that you need to use to get her to feel more attracted to you, more respectful towards you, to get her to forgive you, to get her to drop her guard and become more open to having feelings for you again.
It’s all provided in the program and if you go through the process, you’re going to be amazed at how it works for you.
In Closing
I hope you’ve enjoyed this post and gained some valuable knowledge about how to get your ex back. If you have a question, feel free to ask it below.
If you’re interested in getting your ex back and you want a step-by-step system to follow that has been highly-tested and is proven to work, then I welcome you to try my program Get Your Ex Back: Super System
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Hello
My best congratulations for your marriage plans. I am happy to hear that. You are leading us by example.
I want to know how is the situation for people 1, 2 or more years broken up.
Althought the basics may be the same, it feels like more of an abstract thing to do because of time.
I’m more focused now on experiencing the rewards from my increasing level of skill with women, but I still link my improvements to the desire of wanting to have a huge impact on my ex.
Is that still possible, and realistic?
I hope you can answer this some day.
Thanks, and in wait for your new programs.
José
Hi Jose
Thanks mate. (For anyone reading along, I’ve recently decided to get married and that is what Jose is referring to: http://www.themodernman.com/blog/why-i-decided-to-accept-my-girlfriends-marriage-proposal.html)
About your question: Yes, it is possible and realistic. Any improvements to your overall attractiveness to women will help you when you next talk to your ex. Focus on building the most important type of attractiveness though. What is that? How you make her feel when you interact with her…not how you look.
Watch this: http://www.themodernman.com/blog/how-to-make-a-woman-feel-intense-attraction-for-you.html
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan!
Quick question: I dated this girl, who then stopped talking to me, who then reached out to me explaining why she stopped talking to me.
My initial response was harsh, and that pushed her away, but using your system I was able to set up a meet up with her.
Her problem was that there would be inequality in our relationship due to my wariness and caution of her actions, and the fact that she would feel she had to make it up to me.
Should I just address her issue straight on? (What she did was not that bad, and I admitted to overreacting, I want to tell her that I think this situation would actually make us stronger as a couple).
I apologized to her, but set up the meet up so we can do it in person. What are your thoughts?
Thanks again for the great program. You’re one of a kind my friend.
What are your thoughts?
Hi Danny
Thanks for your question and for sharing your success so far.
Sorry the delay in replying. I am catching up on all the comments across the site over the next two days (436 waiting)! 🙂 It’s hard to answer all these comments and make all the new posts and videos that I create here: http://www.themodernman.com/blog/
Okay, let’s see…
What you need to do is have a conversation about perfection. No one is perfect. People make mistakes and that is okay. I’ll copy and paste a bit below from this post: http://www.themodernman.com/dating/relationships/why-women-lose-respect-for-men.html
“Neither of us are perfect. We can never be perfect, we can only try to improve every day and iron out any creases. I don’t expect you to be perfect and fix all of your flaws in the next 5 minutes because I love you and have the patience to let you grow at your own pace. I hope you can do the same for me. If you can, then we can grow together as a couple. Our love can mature and become stronger, rather than being destroyed by petty fights or unreasonable expectations of how things should be.”
That’s essentially what you need to say. It’s a conversation about how when a couple improves themselves together for the sake of the love, the relationship grows strong and the love matures and becomes more beneficial and fulfilling for both.
My girlfriend (who recently became my fiance http://www.themodernman.com/blog/why-i-decided-to-accept-my-girlfriends-marriage-proposal.html) had that conversation early on and it stopped both of us from worrying about little communication mistakes, etc. It helps to get rid of the stress of trying to be perfect. Instead, you just love and moving forward together in life.
I’m planning on making a free post and video about that sometime soon. In the meantime though, hopefully the example above will help you!
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan!
You’ve got an awesome product. I just met up with my ex and everything went well; however, she needs a bit more time.
Nearing the end of our meet up I went in for a kiss, and she said that she’s not in a position currently to make smart decisions, and she doesn’t want me to be caught in the middle of that. We both are incredibly busy (she’s about to graduate, I’m engaged in a business venture). She said she feels the same way toward me as I do towards her, and she said to give us time.
I know that reconciling is not always done on the first meeting. What would the next step be after reconnecting with her? Being busy is a valid reason, but I feel it can be changed, given the right dynamic is in place.
Thanks for all your help Dan!
Hey Rick
Thanks for the positive feedback. Much appreciated.
About what she said to you: What you need to do now is jolt her into more a more urgent decision making process by putting Step 3 of the system into full effect. To be clear, I am referring to Plan A from the system, not Plan B. Focus on Plan A and keep it respectful, but still include the things that will make her feel what she needs to feel to want to see you again ASAP.
Cheers
Dan
what’s up Dan I have a question.
I just recently reconcile with my girlfriend but I can’t get over the fact that she was willing to move on with another guy and just leave after 5 years. I guess I was not over it like I thought I was. Do I just leave it alone or tell her I’m just not over it? What would you do?
Hi Brandon
Congrats on your success with getting her back.
About your question: Did she sleep with the other guy, or was she just dating him to see where it went?
If she didn’t sleep with him, just take it as a wake up call. She had lost her feelings of attraction for you, but you then got those feelings back. Case closed. Leave it at that and keep moving forward with her without fear or insecurity.
From now on, you must remain confident in yourself and your attractiveness to her. Worrying about the other guy in any way will make you think, behave and/or act in an insecure way. Insecurity is not attractive to women. Women are attracted to the strength in men and turned off by the weakness, so you must accept that you initially drove her away, but you then drew her back to you.
Focus on being an attractive man in the relationship, love her without fear and keep moving forward together.
Cheers
Dan