These days, there are millions of older, divorced women who are starving for sex, love and attention
Cougar (noun): An older woman, aged between 30 and 60 who prefers to have sex with younger men.
If you feel like mixing things up by having sex or even having a relationship with an older woman, make sure you read this article to understand what you’re getting yourself into first!
1. Hot-to-Trot Cougar
She is generally more interested in ‘just sex’ rather than a serious relationship. You’ll find her in clubs that normally attract a younger, hip crowd.
She will look and dress younger than her age and often more provocatively than the younger women (i.e. showing more cleavage, wearing shorter skirts and really ‘flaunting it’ with her outfit). This type of cougar is just as likely to seduce you as you are to try to get her into bed.
Her type of man: Looks aren’t important as long as you’re flirty, great in bed, and can make her feel incredibly sexy, young and desirable.
2. Took the Money, Now Let’s Have Fun Cougar
She’s done very well in her divorce settlement and now prefers to have expensive fun with younger, more virile men. She doesn’t like guys who want to sit around on the couch all weekend and she is even willing and eager to pay for your social companionship.
However, although she is willing to pay, it is always a good idea to at least attempt to pull out your wallet or credit card regularly so she can stop you. This is especially true in the beginning and occasionally later while you’re dating.
If you have a longer relationship with her, you will likely travel often and dine in great restaurants. She will be very adventurous in bed and just like the “Hot-to-Trot Cougar,” you will find her at trendy dance clubs, upscale hotel bars and country clubs.
Her type of man: She wants someone fun, energetic, flirty and adventurous; and while looks and attire aren’t her top concern, she is looking for a well-groomed companion. Basically, she wants to live out the sort of fantasy romances that she’s seen in movies and TV shows.
3. I Want Revenge Cougar
Her husband cheated on her with a much younger woman and possibly even married the younger woman and now she wants to show him that two can play at that game. If you’re looking for a discreet relationship, this isn’t going to be it.
She’s going to want to show you off as often as possible and in as many places as her ex-husband/boyfriend or his friends may frequent.
She will discuss you with almost anyone she can to ensure that the word of her desirability gets back to her ex-boyfriend or husband. You’ll find her at country clubs, on the golf course or tennis courts as frequently as you’ll find her at trendy restaurants, bars and clubs that attract a considerably younger and fashionable crowd. She will be aggressive in bed to prove that “she’s still got it.”
Her type of man: She likes men who are young, confident, attentive, athletic and fun. You have to be a grade above her husband in all areas, or else the revenge plan won’t work and she’ll feel worse about herself.
4. Corporate Cougar
This cougar is well-paid, in a position of power in her workplace and busy with work. Similar to the “Hot-to-Trot Cougar,” she’s more interested in a quick roll in the sack than a relationship because she simply wants to get laid while she’s away on a business trip, or wants to squeeze in some quick sex before she gets back to thinking about her work.
She will likely be eating alone or having a martini at one of the town’s best business hotels, while she is in town for a business meeting.
She’ll probably be working on her laptop or Blackberry or chatting with the bartender, but she’ll also be scanning the room to see if there is any potential prey. Look out to see if she isn’t wearing a marriage or engagement ring on her finger and walk up to start a conversation.
Her type of man: She likes a cub (slang for the men who cougars prey on. Also referred to as: Cougar Bait or Boy Toy) who is intelligent, articulate, and great in bed and who has a flexible schedule (or who can take a long lunch break so you can hook up and have a quickie).
She’s attracted to someone who dresses in a suit or business-casual attire (in case she runs into a client or business associate). She wants you to allow her to take the lead both in and out of bed, while also being ready to take charge of her when the time is right.
5. The Society Cougar
With her, you will be as much of an escort as you will be her lover. So if you love the theatre, art, museums, music (opera, symphony, classics – not hip-hop or techno), then she’s the cougar for you. She wants someone that she can show off to her friends, is articulate on a variety of subjects and can join her for a tennis match or golf game.
She will expect you to look good in a tuxedo, suit or in country club attire.
She will also usually expect you to be very attentive to her, show great social skills and etiquette and handle yourself with confidence on the ballroom floor. You need to be able to mix well with her other society friends (who could also be great business or social contacts for you) and she will assess this when you meet for the first time, so make sure you brush up on your conversation skills.
You’ll find her at high-profile local charity events that deal with the arts, children, education and animals (favorite causes of the wealthy), having lunch at an expensive restaurant, playing a round on the golf course, tennis court or taking her time walking through an art show, museum or any cultural venue.
Once you’ve snagged your “Society Cougar,” you may not have to pay for most things you do together. You may even be given an allowance or taken shopping as the relationship develops.
Her type of man: Upscale appearance, wears business or preppy attire, is knowledgeable about the arts and mixes well with a variety of people.
So, if you’d like to mix things up and start sleeping with the many available cougars, stop for a moment and work out where you fit in. Then, go on the hunt for the type of cougar who is right for you. There are a lot of divorced women out there these days that are starving for some cougar-cub sex.
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I often go after the older women, but only is she is hot like one of the women in your photo. If the cougar is going to try to pick up younger men, she needs to be attractive. More and more often, I am seeing recently divorced, middle-aged women who haven’t taken care of themselves (leathery skin, over weight, lots of stretch marks and spider veins and such) who are dressing provocatively, and not having any luck.
Lady, if you’re ugly, money isn’t important, we’re not going to go for you.
Before reading this post i only know the meaning of cougar but now i know a lot about cougar , their desire, choice , interest and need. Thanks for sharing even i am interested to go with cougar let see how much this article help me.
Nowadays the idea of older women with younger men has become more mainstream. Women are more economically secure and more independent as time has gone on — and it makes it possible to be with a younger guy. The younger guys are useful, hot, often in good shape and have lots of energy. I’m a 37 year old woman and there’s just something magical about a younger guy looking back at you so adoringly. It keeps me feeling young and vital!
Interesting article. I’m interested in younger women, though, or women of my own age. Are there tips on your site for finding the right type of girl in your own age group?
Hi Corey
Yes, we explain exactly how to do that in:
http://www.themodernman.com/21_great_ways_to_get_a_girlfriend.html
Enjoy the great times ahead with women!
Cheers
Dan
I like older women somewhat, mainly because they seem to be the “Been there, done that” type of women. I like that. I don’t like women that are really old. I think a woman in her 30s is the oldest I’d go.
Definitely a hot and sexy article <3 <3 <3 cougars !!
I don’t go out that much to be able to meet cougars. At least now I know what to expect. Thanks! Great article.
I’m 45 years old and, due to having been an “Omega Male” in my younger years, I have never had a girlfriend in the past. I’m finally learning better dating skills, but now wonder if my age is creating a new barrier. I wonder if “cougars” are the only type of women who won’t see my age as grounds for rejection.
Hi Daniel
Thanks for your comment.
Dude, check out page 5 of this report:
http://www.themodernman.com/download_the_flow_in_action.html
One of the guys has a 24 year old girlfriend and he is 51. Personally speaking, I am 33 and my girlfriend is 18. So, “No” you are not stuck in cougar town because of your age.
Cheers
Dan
Thanks for your feedback. Yes, hopefully I am still young enough to be an appropriate boyfriend for a woman who’s “still in her prime”. However, I think I need to do some work to eliminate negative age-related thought patterns about myself, such as:
1: “I’m no longer a sexy young stud; now I’m just an ugly ‘old fart’. She’ll probably think I’m too old to be sexy, too.”; “It may be too late to achieve my New Year’s resolution for 1993 — to get an appealing girlfriend — ‘wake up; it’s now 2011′”.
2: “When looking at personal ads, it appears that most women, even in the 28-32 age group, specify an age limit that’s under my age”.
3. “When ever I see a couple and find the woman to be attractive, the man almost always appears to be younger than I am”.
4. “Most women think it’s inappropriate for a young woman to date a 45-year-old man. Besides, that woman would get tired of people asking her ‘Is that your father?’ “.
5. “Sure, age-diverse relationships exist, but they may be rare enough to significantly reduce the liklihood for me to get to date a young woman”.
I hope that these negative mindsets can be invalidated like those other negative mindsets that are used as examples on the “Mastery Mindsets and Methods” audio program.
Hi Daniel
Thanks for your comment.
As you would know, negative mindsets about women will get you nowhere. It is up to you whether you are willing to start thinking more “intelligently” and instead put a positive spin on all of your unnecessary, negative mindsets. Think about it – they *are* unnecessary, just like putting engine oil on toast is unnecessary. Just put butter – it tastes nicer.
Try it – reply to this comment with the positive version of all those mindsets. I’d love to see that.
Cheers
Dan