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The Fastest Way to Get Laid or Get a Girlfriend
Despite the ever-increasing popularity of the internet, there is no faster way to get laid or find yourself a new girlfriend than to walk up to a woman and talk to her IN PERSON.
It has always been that way and it doesn’t look like it will be changing anytime soon.
Why?
What you actually want is a woman right there with you physically and she wants exactly the same thing. Online dating simply doesn’t come close to providing that feeling.
When you talk to a woman in person, you make her feel attracted to you and turned on by you. It doesn’t matter if there are 200 guys trying to pick her up via online, what she feels with you is real.
You’re a warm, real human man with a beating heart and a penis in your pants.
The guys on online dating are just random profiles and messages. You are real.
Almost all men still meet women in bars, at work, by getting introduced through family or friend introductions or in other situations where they can actually talk to the woman in person. Despite the advertisements from online dating sites and the heavy promotion of sites like “Plenty of Fish” in Hollywood movies, almost everyone is still meeting IN PERSON.
“Always do what you are afraid to do.” Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803 – 1882). American Essayist & Poet.
Approaching women in person is actually one of the easiest, most rewarding things that you will ever do. You simply need to build up the confidence to do it and then approach women and make them feel attracted to you.
Due to shyness, nervousness or simply not knowing what to say to women in person, a lot of modern men hide away and waste years of their life trying to get results from online dating.
After hundreds of online rejections, some of these men may begin to think that they are ugly or that women must be too picky about what they want in a man these days.
Yet, what is really going on is that women are much more picky online than they are in person. Online, women have hundreds if not thousands of guys hanging out, messaging and wishing they could bang her.
In person at a bar or a club, there are guys around, but the majority of them will never have the balls to approach and talk to her. In most cases, the only guys that women get approached by in person are nervous nice guys or sleazy drunk guys.
It’s extremely rare for a beautiful woman to be approached by a normal, confident guy who knows how to make her feel attracted. When I first began approaching women, I was surprised to notice that most guys simply stand around looking at the women.
There is almost NO competition compared to online dating.
Online Encounters vs. Real Life Dating
If you “meet” a woman online (i.e. you are one of the hundred or more guys messaging her and trying to get her attention), you won’t be that important to her until she has felt attracted to you in person.
You might be confident and witty online, but if don’t meet up with her and make her feel attracted to you in person, she is going to lose interest in you pretty quickly.
It doesn’t matter if you and her have exchanged messages online and she has replied with, “LOL!” or “LMAO…ur so funny!!!”; if a guy meets her in real life and makes her feel sexually attracted to him, she is most-likely going to hook up with him and forget about you.
If you want to use online dating, you have to understand that nothing happens until you meet her in person. Anything prior to that is just a maybe and can easily be forgotten if she meets a guy in person.
When a guy doesn’t get much attention from women offline, he may think that a woman that he’s chatted to online is thinking about him just as much as he’s thinking about her. Yet, in most cases, especially if she is attractive, she has 100s of guys interested in her and messaging her.
If he doesn’t get her to meet up with him in person, she will continue to remain open to dating other guys. All of sudden, she might stop returning messages and he will panic and start asking her what’s wrong and why she isn’t replying. Simple: She is having sex with another guy who met up with her in person.
Many Women Pretend to Like Guys Online
Imagine if you have 100s of women sending you messages saying how much they liked you and wanted to be with you.
It would make you feel pretty special, right? You’d feel confident, wanted, loved and in demand.
Well, that’s how women feel online. To increase the amount of guys that give them compliments and boost their ego with comments like, “You’re so beautiful!” or “I wish I could be your boyfriend” women often reply to those guys and show a little bit of interest to encourage them.
For example: She might reply with a smiley face and an “Lol!” but in person, she is actually rolling her eyes and thinking, “Weirdo…!” or “Loser…I would never sleep with you.”
Remember: You are nothing to her until you meet her in person and attract her. Prior to that, you are simply another random guy out of 100s and maybe 1,000s who are pursuing her online.
The only way to stand out as being special is to get her on the phone, make her feel attracted to you on a phone call, arrange a time to meet up, attract her in person and then kiss her and have sex with her.
Anything other than that means you are nothing to her and can be forgotten or replaced with a click of a button. It may sound cruel, but that’s online dating for you. Women have 100s and often 1,000s of options to choose from.
When you approach a woman in person, it’s just you and her. You are either going to make her feel attracted to you or not. If she feels attracted, she will give you her number, kiss you or begin having sex with you that night. If she doesn’t feel attracted, just talk to another woman.
When you know how to attract women, most (not all) of the women you meet will feel attracted to. You will be able to talk to women in a bar, club, shopping mall or anywhere else and make most of the women you meet feel attracted to you and be interested in seeing where it goes…
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When I was single I looked at online dating as a tool. One that seemed to work pretty well for me. I am a very confident man but due to my occupation and rural area in which I live it was tough to meet high quality women that were also single. Online dating afforded me the opportunity to meet and then date many high quality, pretty women.It was very good to me. I am now engaged to an amazing woman who I met online. I agree that it probably isn’t the easiest way to meet women but for a guy who is confident, has good understanding of who he is and what he wants it can be a useful tool for meeting great women.
Hi Scott
Thanks for your comment.
Yes, you are the exception (the 4% of guys I am referring to in the video). I assume you’ve been hanging around The Modern Man for relationship advice now, which is great to see.
We actually include “Online Dating” in 21 Great Ways to Get a Girlfriend, but unless a guy owns that program and uses the advice (or is VERY confident like you are), he is pretty much destined to fail. Online dating has become a VERY competitive place to find a girl. As I say in the video, every half-decent looking girl is being sent anywhere from 50-100 messages per day (a lot more for the bigger sites). A while back, I set up a fake female Facebook profile with a VERY hot woman as the person and, without promoting it or reaching out to anyone, it still gets a couple of “Friend requests” every day. The messages that guys send to “her” are the same crap. They are ALL clueless about what to say to a girl the first time they contact her.
In 21 Great Ways to Get a Girlfriend, Ben (from The Modern Man) explains how he has successfully used online dating to get dates very quickly. However, as I’ve said – unless a guy knows how to do it like Ben does or is already VERY confident with women, he has a 96% chance of failing.
Thanks for pointing out your success using online dating. I was going to talk about 21 Ways in this article, but I just didn’t want people to think the whole point of the article was to promote 21 Ways. I really did just want to say, “Hey, avoid online dating if you’re not good with women. Approach women in real life instead – it’s a much easier and faster way to get results!”
Cheers
Dan
Hi Dan
I agree with what you are saying in the vid. I have tried about 20 sites and nothing. I sometimes get a conversation going but it always ends at some time and the woman won’t contact me back. I understand now that she is probably being hounded by guys or has started having sex with someone in the physical world.
I guess I will have to start working on my confidence and skills to talk to women and finally walk up to them and do it.
Pete
Hey Pete
Thanks for your comment.
Well, the good news is that it’s not difficult to talk to women and get dates when you know what you’re doing. Check out the comments from guys who’ve read The Flow and posted on this page: http://www.themodernman.com/videos/the-flow-new-edition.html Most of them started out like you and have a read of what they are experiencing now.
Cheers
Dan