Above: Behind the scenes for the making of The Ultimate Guide to Conversation – a 10 hour audio program. The above video includes some free techniques for flirting, keeping conversations going and keeping them interesting.
Add to Cart“Hi Dan.
I have been meaning to send you one of my success stories for some time now.
There is one in particular that has happened recently that I would like to share with you.
I was at a friend’s house party and there was a girl there that I’ve known for some time.
I have been wanting to get with this girl for quite a while, but I never had the foggiest notion on how to approach, what say to her, or have the confidence to (due to my way below average looks, etc).
Anyways, had to leave the party early, unfortunately, but while I was there I merely used some of the teachings from “mastery methods and mindsets and the ultimate guide to conversation”.
After applying some of the simple techniques (being real, not being too nice, avoiding nervousness, etc), the following day I got a text message from an anonymous number, that eventually turned out to be the girl at the party that I’ve been after all this time. She was asking me out!
I couldn’t believe what was happening!
I literally thought that I was dreaming.
The funny part is that I was simply just being myself! The same friendly guy! I honestly believe that it’s paramount that every decent man out there should know about the modern man. I have truly being struggling in my life.
All I needed (which I obviously didn’t know) was a few simple changes and a push in the right direction. I am still taking it one step at a time and these two products alone have opened my eyes in ways I could never have imagined.
I can’t wait to get hold of some of the other products and see what else my life has in store for me. I would like to say a monumental thank you to you guys. You have got me out of this dark, lonely hole that I’ve been hiding away in.
You have completely turned my life around for the better and not just in regard to relationships with women.
Everything from my new job to meeting new people. EVERYTHING! I will never be able to emphasize the impact you have had on my life. So a great big thank you again and I wish only the best for you guys. Sincerely, Jonathan”
“Hey guys,
My first approach since I listened to ultimate guide to conversation. I’m not even halfway through the program and I got results!
I used Stu’s approach of saying two words and pausing to start the conversation. The response was hilarious. Here’s what happened:
I was grabbing a coffee at Starbucks and saw this hot woman sitting in front of me. Her back was facing me so it was awkward positioning but it opened up as I settled for about 5 minutes.
We smiled at each other immediately and she started playing with her hair. She turned around to stretch back and I said “nice shoes”. She said thank you. I said it wasn’t a compliment.
She put her feet out and looked at her shoes with a smile and said they are cute. Now we are off in conversation. We talked about basic stuff what she does for work, exercise etc.
I spoke from my perspective, threw in some flirting and humor and after 15 minutes of talk got her number and left. Texted her last night and arranged a date for tomorrow. Unbelievable how well this works.
The funny thing is when I saw her I immediately started feeling anxious inside because she was so pretty.
It wasn’t until I relaxed and activated confident mindsets that I calmed down and started thinking clearly and waited for my opportunity to begin the conversation.
Thanks for making this program and sharing your knowledge and experience with us guys. It really works! Wes”
“I got Dating Power, Better Than a Bad Boy, Alpha Male Power and your Conversation product after using The Flow to get laid three times in about 6 months.
I wasn’t putting much effort into using The Flow because I am busy with my work but I think getting laid 3 times was good especially when I hadn’t had sex for 2 years prior to that.
Something hit me though about 3 months ago when I saw my friends getting into relationships and I was still just getting laid and not following up to keep the girl.
So I decided to keep learning from you and deepening my knowledge. I watched those 3 programs and listened to the ultimate guide to Conversation and then hit the bars in my city about 1 month ago.
I made a conscious decision to only talk to the very attractive women as you suggest and to my surprise I was able to get them attracted to me.
I was genuinely surprised but I know that your advice does work so it was sort of like another confirmation that I was doing this right.
I got 2 phone numbers and a kiss that night and then had a date the following week with the woman I liked the most. She and I started having casual sex and now we are seeing each other at least twice a week.
I am not yet fully ready for a relationship though I think. Something in me tells me to keep having fun and maybe settle down in about a year or more.
So I have been going out on Friday nights and I have had sex with 2 more women and I have another few who text me and call me looking to set up dates. It feels good to have this power.
I spent most of my life clawing and fighting to just get one woman interested enough to date me and now I have plenty of offers.
I will let you know when I have more success stories to share Dan but that is all for me now! Jake”
“Hey Dan!
At first I was unsure about learning from The Modern Man.
Eventually, after a failed relationship (in which I felt “whipped”) and continuous failure with women, my frustration made me realize that I needed a little help.
I decided to take a leap of faith and learn from the guys at The Modern Man. Now, I can definitely say that learning from you guys was one of the best decisions I have ever made.
The programs you guys provide are extremely detailed yet very easy for men to relate to and understand.
The material is geared towards women, but becoming good with women is only one of the benefits one gains from learning from these guys.
Better Than a Bad Boy, The Ultimate Guide to Conversation, and of course The Flow have improved all areas of my life, including my work, happiness, relationships, and of course my ability with women.
After learning from Dan, Ben and Stu a few months ago I still feel like I am dripping with confidence!
I can now chat and attract any woman I meet and that usually leads to something sexual now which has been a lot of fun.
My occasional depression has been replaced by an excitement for life, and all my social anxiety has disappeared.
People can see my masculinity and confidence, and treat me better.
I used to have seemingly endless problems with women. Now my problems revolve around deciding which women I want to date!
My ex girlfriend loves me more than ever now that she can relax into her feminine mode.
Even though I don’t want an exclusive relationship anymore, she still wants to date and have sex with me. I could write way more about how my life has turned around, but it would get too long!
Thanks Dan, Ben and Stu! From Cameron”
“Just a quick note to you guys as I know you get a lot of emails!
Anyway, I used the tips from your conversation program to FINALLY talk to a woman I’ve liked for about 6 months…I know her through a friend.
I’d always been too shy to talk to her and worried about stuffing up because I didn’t really know what to say and how to ask her out.
Well, I said what you guys recommended to say and it worked!
We went out on a date last night and it ended with a passionate kiss next to her car. The conversation on the date was exciting, interesting, funny and her eyes were basically popping out of her head with excitement. Was so cool!
She texted me this morning saying she had a great time! Unbelievable result! Thanks guys – couldn’t have done it without your guidance. PJ”
“Awesome guys! You’ve really done it this time.
Your other information on approaching women is stellar and has helped me get dates, but I have to admit that I’ve been struggling with keeping conversations going and keeping them interesting – and that has been holding me back from really achieving what I want with women.
The best part of this program is the amount of examples of what to say. I feel like I am ready for battle this weekend for sure! Chad”
“Hey guys, loving the program!
The things that are really standing out for me and are really helpful are: conversation jam session, fixing women’s problems, listening, fears and frustrations, questions to keep conversations going.
You covered all the questions I needed answering about difficult women which is what I was looking for!!!
When Stu said if a woman is giving 20% you gotta give 80% and so on really helped, because I used to feel that if a woman isn’t giving much, it is wrong to continue the conversation because feels forced, but now I know its the right thing to do!
I have to stick with the conversation instead of giving up because women often test a guy by not saying much. Now I know how to handle that. Thank you!
Also when you were talking about Ash and if woman doesn’t like him “well she’s boring, she doesn’t deserve my time and effort, bad luck for her.”
I started to look at women that way too, but hearing it from some one else made me think I’m really on the right track. Go out and have fun, and bring women into your good nite.
If they don’t join in, go find someone else who is up for a good time. That’s the key! Dinesh T”
“Hey guys, just wanted to let you know I’m working through the ultimate guide to conversation, and so far it’s really entertaining and educational, which is great. Shaun”
“It’s an amazing revelation for me that your stuff works so well. 2 weeks ago my super hot hairdresser was asking if I had my own place, flirting with me and arranging to meet out at a club etc.
Before I listened to the Ultimate Guide to Conversation I was so socially/emotionally dumb I would have just thought she was just making conversation and taken everything literally…lol!
But now I know that there’s a whole world of sub communication as you well – VERY COOL to know this stuff! I met my hairdresser out last night and kissed her! Lol…I feel amazing right now!! AB”
“I’ve just recently bought the conversation product. I’m half way through it and it iss brilliant.
I’ve always been good with conversation, been a good listener and able to connect but this has just upped my game so much because I am now getting to understand the attraction side of things.
This has already improved the quality of my conversational ability ten fold … I’ve put some of it into practice and I’m consciously seeing some of the things I was oblivious to, like signs of interest from women. I was missing all the cues from women who liked me. This is a game changer! Michael”
“I got your conversation program 1.5 months ago and got a girlfriend within 2 weeks of using the material (I met this girl at the cafe she works at).
Now, I haven’t had a proper girlfriend for 7 years prior to this, so you can imagine the boring life I’ve been living.
Anyway, I just wanted to write you and say thanks for teaching us guys this stuff, because I am now in a relationship with an amazing, loving and caring woman who is also beautiful.
On the weekend when she was staying over my place, we were lying in bed in the morning and she turned to me and said I love you. Man, I can’t tell you how good that made me feel!
I feel like a new man and I owe a lot of thanks to what I got from your conversation program…it really helped me bring out the more interesting side to my personality.
Most women found me boring when I talked to them, so they would lose interest pretty quickly.
Now people love talking to me and I feel like I’m really being my true self these days…and that makes me feel so good as a person.
I also no longer feel awkward when talking to people I don’t know, or to beautiful women who used to made me feel nervous – now I just speak with confidence and ease, which makes me feel so good as a person.
Women at work are now treating me with more respect now too. I can’t thank you guys enough – keep up the great work! Paul”
“I would also like to congratulate you for the quality of the content of the material. You are really professional and I am glad with my purchase. Fabrico”
“…have only listened to about 2 hours so far and I’m smiling ear to ear. I’ve been wondering how to talk to a girl I like at work and now I have the answers…I’m going to give it a try tomorrow. Wish me luck! PH”
“I’ve almost completely gone through your guide to conversation now.
I must say, at first, I felt a little reluctant to buy your product over the internet because I ‘d never bought something in this way and I also didn’t know what the quality of your product would be.
But now I’m glad I did.
It’s been a lot of fun to listen to, and of course very enlightening. It really exceeded my expectations.
In this way I want to thank Ben, Stu and you for supplying this kind of product.
Now I have some guidance in conversations with women. I still need a lot of practice, I know that, but I’m eager to get out there and go for it. Mark”
“I skipped straight to the part on flirting because it is what I need the most.
When girls talk to me they get the idea that I’m just ‘too nice’ and there’s no spark or anything between us…I’ve tried to flirt before but couldn’t get it to work.
Now I get it, finally. Thanks a bunch for all the flirting examples – I’ll be using this stuff on Friday night at my local bar. It’s going to be fun I know it. Gary”
“Dan I got laid today when I went for my CPR class.
We had lunch during our break then we wound up having sex in the woods next to our campus.
I can’t wait to listen to the rest thank you so much for your help. It was the craziest thing that ever happened to me! Jordan”
“The Ultimate Guide to Conversation is so satisfying that I feel obligated to help you convince other guys to take a leap of faith and buy it.
I suppose I should start with the condition I was in before I bought the product about two and a half weeks ago. I was (and still am) a 17 year old senior in High School.
I know that your first thought will probably be that at this age I am too YOUNG to be worrying about this sort of thing (I notice that a lot of guys who buy your stuff are between 20 to 35), but I have had unusual difficulties, and it is not in my temperament to procrastinate even with things I know are easy.
I avoided girls on purpose until I had my first crush at the age of 15.
It was a terrible shock to suddenly find a girl I had ignored for the previous decade to be indescribably delightful.
After about three months of careful observation and thought, I realized that girls love to talk, and so talking to the girls I liked might be a good way of dealing with my new emotions.
I started by simply announcing to the girls I liked that I liked them, and telling them that I would like to get to know them better if they were willing.
That only worked only partially with one girl who unfortunately lives in Alabama (I live in Kansas).
I was so clueless that I set myself up for rejection on purpose because I felt as though that was a more honest way of going about picking up girls.
After a few failures, I became methodical in the way I got myself rejected so that I could try to isolate certain factors that might have caused the rejection.
At the time I bought the product, I was at the point where rejection was almost guaranteed, but not a horrible ordeal that would make the girl not want to talk to me again.
After several weeks of going through about one girl a week in nearly the same pattern, I had stopped learning new things and had run out of ideas, so was getting ready to ask out the girls I thought were likely in the order I saw them until something happened or I thought of something new.
Luckily I made up my mind to buy the product the day before I was going to do that, and canceled my previous plan because I had a new approach to take.
I listened to two hours of audio the first night I bought it, and was so excited that I stayed awake for 4 hours after first trying to sleep because I kept thinking of new applications of the information I could use.
I managed limited and sporadic use of some of the techniques at school, and by the end of the week I got girls in nearly every hour of class showing signs of romantic attraction.
The results were so fast that I found myself skipping to whichever section in the guide that had most immediate need, and lost a lot of opportunities simply because it hadn’t occurred to me that I could get results so fast.
The Saturday after I bought it there was a winter formal in which I got three consecutive hours to do nothing but try out the techniques. It was great!
I asked for two numbers and got both, and got another I didn’t ask for.
I was so successful that I must have spent half as much energy trying to stay away from the girls I didn’t like without hurting their feelings as I did going after the ones I did like.
I spent two nearly consecutive hours with one girl.
I did initially try to avoid spending too much time with her like was suggested in the audio, but she kept coming back to me, and I liked her, so I didn’t stop it.
I have since been over to that girl’s house twice. The second time we snuggled during a movie and then played a board game. I am happier now than I have ever been.
I have also found that many of the techniques work on males as well for making friends, which means a lot to me because I’ve only ever had 1 or 2 friends at a time…now I have heaps of new friends and am getting invited to parties, which is really cool.
Thanks a lot guys – really enjoying what I’ve been learning from this program. Jack”
“Dan,
Thanks so much. Because of the Ultimate Guide to Conversation I am dating one of the HOTTEST girls from High School that guys, including me used to drool over.
We’re both a little older now (I’m 52 and she’s 53), but she is still SMOKIN! And succesful.
After running into her and her good looking friends at a club this past Friday word got around to each of us that the other was single.
I noticed her checking me out and giving me the “green light” with her eyes and smile.
I approached confidently, started chatting, dancing and when she was leaving I handed her my phone and told her to put her number into it, which she did, just like one of your stories from the program.
While I was still at the bar she sent a text saying our chat time was too short and that she was going to leave the bar even earlier, but is glad she didn’t.
The NEXT morning she sent a text telling me her plans for the day and asked if I had plans that night, which I didn’t.
She asked ME out!
I took her to a romantic restaurant then to a few different clubs.
End of the night after making out for a little while, she had to get home to her teenage kids.
We hadn’t been apart for 5 minutes and my phone rang it was her saying that she missed me already!!!
I’m a good looking guy, but none of this would have been possible before I used your product cause I was lacking confidence and obviously women could sense this.
I also have 2 other women on the back burner that are interested in me.
I have also chosen to purchase the Mastery Methods and Mindsets today because I am on such a roll and want to keep it going.
Thank you, Fred”
“Hey Dan
Thanks for all your help with the new dating advice videos, they have been really insightful.
By the way things have been going great.
In the last six months I’ve met and subsequently dated a whole bunch of girls, met 2 in a shopping mall (one being a promo girl), a model I knew from a couple years back, had a blind date that lasted 3 months before I moved provinces and the newest girls I met are; at a pharmacy and a pizza store.
At the moment I have 4 girls on the go, the model, the pharmacist (will prob have a first date next week), a friend with benefits and the promo girl in Durban (I live in Joburg now).
I must tell you about the promo girl, was on holiday in Durban visiting the family.
While walking through the mall on Sunday I spotted her in a clothing store and just thought … wow, she’s hot … so walked straight over and started a conversation, about 10 minutes later I got her phone number and left the interaction.
I was completely honest about where I live and that I was going back in 3 days time so she knew where I stood.
Phoned her the next day and set up a date for Wednesday morning.
Within 15 / 20 minutes on that date we were kissing quite intimately.
Looking back on it I can see the change.
Before I would have been all in my head about how hot she is and wouldn’t it be great to talk to her and then kicking myself afterward knowing I would never see her again.
It’s not just with girls but the confidence I’ve gained in all area’s of my life have helped me tremendously.
I have a great job as Financial Manager in a private hospital which my new found social intelligence and understanding of women helped me a great deal in getting. Have a busy social life where I have to plan the days I’m at home so I can make sure my place is clean and the washing is always done.
So I just wanted to say thank you very much to you, Ben and Stu.
If it wasn’t for you guys I’d still be clueless, lacking confidence and trying to make any average girl like me. So while I’m not at mastery level yet, I feel like my entire life has changed and that’s all thanks to you guys. Michael”
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Dan,
Thanks so much. Because of the Ultimate Guide to Conversation I am dating one of the HOTTEST girls from High School that guys, including me used to drool over. We’re both a little older (I’m 52 and she’s 53), but she is still SMOKIN! And succesful.
After running into her and her good looking friends at a club this past Friday word got around to each of us that the other was single. I noticed her checking me out and giving me the “green light” with her eyes and smile, I approached confidently, started chatting, dancing and when she was leaving I handed her my phone and told her to put her number into it, which she did, just like one of your stories. While I was still at the bar she sent a text saying our chat time was too short and that she was going to leave the bar even earlier, but is glad she didn’t.
The NEXT morning she sent a text telling me her plans for the day and asked if I had plans that night, which I didn’t. She asked ME out! I took her to a romantic restaurant then to a few different clubs. End of the night after making out for a little while, she had to get home to her teenage kids. We hadn’t been apart for 5 minutes and my phone rang it was her sayong that she missed me already!!!
I’m a good looking guy, but none of this would have been possible before I used your product cause I was lacking confidence and obviously women could sense this. I also have 2 other women on the back burner that are interested in me.
I also chose to purchase the Mastery Series because I am on such a roll and want to keep it going.
Thank you,
Fred
Hi Fred
Thanks for your positive feedback and congratulations on your success so far!
It gets even BETTER from there, so enjoy the great times ahead!
Cheers
Dan
Hi Dan
What’s the best line to use when approaching? I always get hung up on over thinking what I should say and need to have a default thing to say other than just hi or hello…I think those are too basic do you?
Hi PJ
Thanks for your question.
It depends on where you are approaching the woman. For example, here are SOME of the examples of starting a conversation that we discuss in The Ultimate Guide to Conversation:
1. Woman is shopping in the fruit & vegetable section of a supermarket.
2. Woman is getting a drink at a bar.
3. Woman has a cocktail in a bar.
4. Woman is standing alone in a bar
5. Two women in a bar. One is talking to a guy. The other is not included in the conversation.
6. Woman makes eye contact with you in a bar and smiles.
7. Women seated in a bar and it’s difficult to talk to them (i.e. it’s loud and there’s too much of a distance between you).
8. Women seated in a bar and it’s easy to talk to them (i.e. you can stand next to them, it’s not too loud, etc).
9.In the line to get tickets for a movie.
10. Woman is reading a book/magazine on public transport or in café.
11. Woman has a musical instrument with her.
12. Woman with a dog in a public place.
13. Woman doing some study or reading a magazine in a café.
14. Woman walks into an elevator. There are multiple people in the elevator and no one is talking.
15. Woman walks into an elevator and it is just you and her.
16. Women hanging around and talking outside a bar
17. Women is wearing headphones and walking past you on the street.
18. Woman wearing bright red shoes.
19. Woman wearing fluffy boots.
The same conversation starter would not work every time in every situation, so you need to use a situational-based conversation starter. In addition to the many examples we provide in The Ultimate Guide to Conversation, we also teach you our simple, proven method for coming up with your own situational-based conversation starters instantly. So, when you see an opportunity to approach and start a conversation, you don’t have to stop and think.
However, if you are looking for a global conversation starter that you can use in any situation, we always say, “Hey, how’s it going?” and then use our conversation skills to keep the conversation going and keep it interesting.
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan
Thanks for all your help with the new dating advice videos, they have been really insightful.
By the way things have been going great. In the last six months I’ve met and subsequently dated a whole bunch of girls, met 2 in a shopping mall (one being a promo girl), a model I knew from a couple years back, had a blind date that lasted 3 months before I moved provinces and the newest girls I met are; at a pharmacy and a pizza store. At the moment I have 4 girls on the go, the model, the pharmacist (will prob have a first date next week), a friend with benefits and the promo girl in Durban (I live in Joburg now).
I must tell you about the promo girl, was on holiday in Durban visiting the family. While walking through the mall on Sunday I spotted her in a clothing store and just thought … wow, she’s hot … so walked straight over and started a conversation, about 10 minutes later I got her phone number and left the interaction. I was completely honest about where I live and that I was going back in 3 days time so she knew where I stood. Phoned her the next day and set up a date for wednesday morning. Within 15 / 20 minutes on that date we were kissing quite intimately. Looking back on it I can see the change, before I would have been all in my head about how hot she is and wouldn’t it be great to talk to her and then kicking myself afterward knowing I would never see her again.
It’s not just with girls but the confidence I’ve gained in all area’s of my life have helped me tremendously. I have a great job as Financial Manager in a private hospital which my new found social intelligence and understanding of women helped me a great deal in getting. Have a busy social life where I have to plan the days I’m at home so I can make sure my place is clean and the washing is always done.
So I just wanted to say thank you very much to you, Ben and Stu. If it wasn’t for you guys I’d still be clueless, lacking confidence and trying to make any average girl like me. So while I’m not at mastery level yet, I feel like my entire life has changed and that’s all thanks to you guys.
I’m planning on submitting a more detailed success story but want a few more stories to choose from before I type it out.
Cheers,
Michael
Hey Michael
Thanks for your positive feedback and congratulations on your success so far!
You have four girls on the go now? Nice! Welcome to our world.
You also said, “It’s not just with girls but the confidence I’ve gained in all area’s of my life have helped me tremendously.” Yes, we hear that a lot from guys and we’ve experienced ourselves. When I was working on The Flow and still working in the corporate world, my new found confidence and ability to be an alpha male meant that I got promoted 3 times in 6 months to the highest levels of leadership. Being truly confident and not having issues about women results in a completely different life that unfolds for you.
Enjoy the great times ahead and thanks again for sharing your success!
Cheers
Dan
Thanks Dan.
First I would like to thank you for those great e-mails you send. These are really great stuffs and have helped me a lot while dealing women.
I am having problem with conversation, the topics of coversation in fact. I mean, what should be the topic of conversation when i am talking to women. I often meet the girl next door (she is alone), say HI, Hello, ask her what she has been doing recently and other regular stuffs. But I need a more smarter and triggering method of approaching women i think. While conversation is the initial way of triggering her, I feel lack of confidence about ‘on what topic should i talk to her right now’. Thinking about this in front of her, I loose my confidence and later I fear approaching women that the same might happen again and consequently, I don’t take further chances. That’s it, My old problem.
Thanks again for your nice e-mails and friendly help.
– Maruf
Hi Maruf
Thanks for your positive feedback and question.
The most important thing you need to include when talking to a woman whom you want to ATTRACT and have sex with is flirting. If you don’t flirt with women, your conversations will only be platonic (friendly) and she usually won’t be interested in you sexually.
You also said, “I feel lack of confidence about ‘on what topic should i talk to her right now’…” This is a big problem. You should not be thinking that when talking to a woman. Why? It means you are trying too hard. If you try hard to pick women up, what do they do? They see that you are desperate and then play HARD TO GET. Don’t do that to yourself. Talk to her about whatever you feel like talking about, BUT include some flirting so the conversation can have a sexual vibe. If you don’t know how to flirt, listen to The Ultimate Guide to Conversation for loads of examples and explanations. I also give a free example of flirting in this video: http://www.themodernman.com/videos/question-and-answer-video-series-part-1.html
Here are some articles on conversation that you might find useful:
http://www.themodernman.com/having_an_interesting_conversation.html
http://www.themodernman.com/5_conversation_killers.html
http://www.themodernman.com/4_conversation_topics.html
Cheers
Dan
The situation: When you’re ianhvg a conversation with someone and they seem to be slightly misinformed, (although it’s just a minor misunderstanding, nothing big) would you try to correct them or do you choose to bite your tongue?The alternative perspective: When explaining your opinion/thoughts/point of view, and the person you’re conversing with decided to point out and correct you for your minor error that’s hardly relevant to the topic, would you feel offended? Annoyed? Or would you genuinely appreciate this gesture?
Hi Dan,
Greetings from the UK!
I was just wondering, do the techinques in the Ultimate Guide to Conversation work on Facebook chat? The reason why I ask is because about 10 months ago I met this girl at university and I became and was very intrested in her and (I don’t know if this is true, you can be the judge of that) she seemed to be somewhat intrested in me; she’d laugh at some of the things I said (despite the fact we wouldn’t see one another that often), would smile when she saw me, would tease me (I think) and when she left (to go to another university to do another course) she’d gave me a hug and introduced me to her friends (somewhat briefly), and so I was thinking of getting a Facebook profile (I know I don’t have one! How lame is that!!) adding my mates and checking out what they’ve been up to and getting into contact with the ones I haven’t seen in a while, in addition to adding her and talking to her over Facebook Chat in an attempt to make her my girlfriend (and I thought that the Ultimate Guide to Conversation would be the best product to use, seeing how it is soley concerned with what you say when you are interacting with a girl you find attractive or are intrested in, like I am), seeing as I don’t have her number or email address or other contact details.
Your advice would be greatly appreciated Dan.
Yours Sincerely,
Chris.
Hi Chris
Thanks for your question.
You don’t have a Facebook profile? Dude! You have to get with the times man. These days, not having an FB profile is like not having a phone number or e-mail. It’s an important communication tool for modern society.
About your question: Yes, The Ultimate Guide to Conversation will definitely teach you all you need to know about communicating with a woman in a confident, attractive way that also causes her to begin falling in love with you. However, you sound very unfamiliar with women, so you might need more help than the average guy.
About your other question as to whether she likes you or not: It really doesn’t matter Chris. The thing is, nothing matters until you’ve at least kissed her. She can like you as much as she wants, but if another guy comes along (who knows what he’s doing) and kisses her and then has sex with her – you instantly become a distant memory. Conversation is critical to getting her attracted to you and making a connection, but make sure you don’t stay in that zone for too long. You have to move things forward, which we of course talk about in The Ultimate Guide to Conversation.
Enjoy the great times ahead! I hope to hear a success story from you someday soon!
Cheers
Dan
Hi Dan,
Thank you for the reply can you just explain what you mean by “you sound very unfamiliar with women, so you might need more help than the average guy.” Yes, I am inexperienced with women, I have never actually been with a girl and don’t (yet) know what I am doing or what I am meant to be doing when it comes to girls .Does this mean I will find it difficult to win her over, using these techinques?
And also just to make sure there are no misunderstandings, are you saying in your reply that this is in fact possible. That is, I can actually succeed in this situation with this girl, using those techinques.
Ps. Do you have any advice as to how I should set up my Facebook account?
Thanks,
Chris
Hi Chris
Thanks for your question.
Yes, you will be able to use the techniques. Improving your skills with women is like improving your skills in many other areas of life. Of course, because this is something that will be pushing you outside your comfort zone, you may feel a bit nervous at times. However, once you start using the techniques and see that they in fact do work (every time), your nervousness will go away and be replaced by confidence in your skills with women. Once that happens, it’s smooth sailing from there.
You also asked, “…And also just to make sure there are no misunderstandings, are you saying in your reply that this is in fact possible.” Yes, as long as you use the techniques properly (we explain it thoroughly in The Ultimate Guide to Conversation); especially flirting and creating a sexual vibe between you and her during conversation. By the sound of it, you probably would’ve been talking to her in a very platonic (friendly) way without much of a sexual vibe (if at all). It sounds like she was showing you loads of signals of interest and giving you plenty of opportunity to make something happen, but you stayed in the “friend zone” because you didn’t know what else to do. So, yes – you’ll be able to do it, but just make sure you follow the advice.
You also asked, “Do you have any advice as to how I should set up my Facebook account?” Yes, here are some articles about Facebook that you might find useful: http://www.themodernman.com/category/social/facebook
Cheers
Dan
Hi Dan,
So she really liked me! Wow!I’d didn’t expect that!
I’ve been thinking about what you wrote: “talking to her in a very platonic (friendly) way without much of a sexual vibe (if at all). ” and the reason why I think I behave/d in this way is because I lacked/lack confidence and had/have a fear of rejection and I noticed that the Ultimate Guide to Conversation includes infomation on Confidence and overcoming a fear of rejection, so do you think that this will solve my confidence and fear of rejection problems once and for all, because conversation and confidence are perphaps my two biggest weaknesses when it comes to girls and having success with girls, for that matter.
Also I was thinking that if this went sour and didn’t work out as planned I could always try my luck with some of the girls I currently go to university with. Which program do you think would best help me with this endevour?
Thanks,
Chris
Hi Chris
Yes, it does sound as though she liked you. However, there’s only so many chances a woman will give a guy before she eventually realizes that he doesn’t have the balls to make a move. I’m not sure if you’ve used up your chances yet, but I’d say you’re getting pretty close with that girl.
You asked, “so do you think that this will solve my confidence and fear of rejection problems once and for all, because conversation and confidence are perphaps my two biggest weaknesses when it comes to girls and having success with girls,” It depends. Some guys come to our site, read The Flow and then go on to enjoy the same type of success with women that we do because they can understand this area of life easier than other guys can. However, other guys need to learn a fair bit more and hear concepts explained in different ways before it really hits home for them. It may all click into place as you’re listening to The Ultimate Guide to Conversation, but if my read on you is correct you may need a bit more help than the average guy.
You asked, “I could always try my luck with some of the girls I currently go to university with. Which program do you think would best help me with this endevour?” Stu (who is the natural in our team here at The Modern Man. The team being myself, Ben and Stu) was one of the coolest and most popular guys at his university. So, in our program 21 Great Ways to Get a Girlfriend, Stu provides a lot of advice when we discuss meeting, talking to, attracting and picking up women in those environments.
I hope to hear a success story from you sometime soon!
Cheers
Dan
Hi Dan,
Thank you for the reply.
You said ” but if my read on you is correct you may need a bit more help than the average guy.” so what other programs would you recommend I look at in addition to purchasing the Ultimate Guide to Conversation and 21 Great Ways to Get a Girlfriend?
P.s. As I mentioned before, I think my biggest weaknesses when it comes to girls are:
1. Poor Conversation Skills
2. Lack of Confidence (to approach, interact and be “sexual” around and with women) and a fear of rejection’
3.Lack of knowledge of how to go from approach-to interaction- to esclation- to date and to a relationship when meeting women in a whole variety of environments. (E.g University, Gym, Shopping centres)
Thanks,
Chris
Hi Chris
Thanks for your question.
I think you should start with these 3 for now and if you need to learn more later, continue learning with Dating Power and Mastery Methods & Mindsets. The Flow (included in that special pack) contains a link to purchase Dating Power and Mastery Methods & Mindsets at a discount.
BTW: The main weaknesses you mentioned are very common and our advice is guaranteed to fix that for you. We can guarantee it with total confidence because we thoroughly tested our advice for years (and made sure it worked for all types of guys) before making it available on the site.
Enjoy the great times ahead!
Cheers
Dan
Hi Dan,
Lastly do you have any advice on how to actually learn the techinques; because it seems to me to be virtually impossible to listen to The Ultimate Guide to Conversation, for instance, once, remember every techinque that was discussed within it and be able to use the techinques in interactions with girls, in my case over Facebook Chat, perfectly.
Thanks,
Chris
Hi Chris
Thanks for your questions.
You said, “because it seems to me to be virtually impossible to listen to The Ultimate Guide to Conversation, for instance, once, remember every techinque that was discussed within it and be able to use the techinques in interactions with girls,”
Yes, you are right. It would also be impossible to read any book and remember every word from it. However, you don’t need to memorize the 10 hour product that is The Ultimate Guide to Conversation. During the 10 hours of audio, we don’t read out a script that you should follow, so no – you don’t need to remember 100s of lines or use 100s of techniques in sequence. It is much easier and much more simple and natural than that.
We teach you how to be a great conversationalist and provide you with loads of examples to use in different situations. From there, you will either quickly understand the right way to talk to women and begin to naturally say the right things when you talk to women, or you will go through a stage of using the dialogue examples we provide in the product as “training wheels” until you can naturally do it on your own.
I hope to see a success story from you sometime soon.
Cheers
Dan
Hi Dan,
Thank you for your answer.
Lastly, so on the basis of what you said in your last post, I should just listen to the Ultimate Guide to Conversation and then go out and interact with women and talk to that girl over Facebook Chat. Would that same strategy apply to the program 21 Great Ways to Get a Girlfriend?
Thanks,
Chris.
Hi Chris
Thanks for your question.
Yes, you are right. Simply learn and then apply.
Since you will know all the right things to do by listening to our advice, you may succeed on your first attempt with any woman. However, because you are very new to it, don’t be upset at yourself if you make a couple of mistakes early on. Unlike other guys who have no idea what they’re doing and try to fumble their way through it and hope to get lucky, you will know what you are doing right and wrong. As long as you are doing most of it correctly, you will succeed. Obviously, your success will be consistent when you follow the advice correctly without making mistakes, but just like with learning any new skill – you have to start somewhere!
Cheers
Dan
Hi Dan,
Greetings. Thanks for your help last time. Recently I’ve encountered a situation that I wanted to share with you, infact I need your opinion in this regards. I met a girl in facebook several months ago. She is a bit elder than me. Oneday she got a bit sexual over the facebook chat. So I responded in a similar manner. After exchange of some naughty (not very sexual at all) words sheasked, “dear are you trying to seduce me?…. you are so cold. You didn’t make me hot. I am cold.” Later she said she was kidding. I am not sure why she said I am cold. Is it because of my words or it is a different type of indication? I would like to know what you think about it.
Thanks.
Maruf
Hi Maruf
She was joking mate.
You will learn how to differentiate that sort of thing as you gain more experience with women. If you’re a newbie, it is best to talk to women in REAL LIFE situations, not over chat because you can see her body language and hear her tonality. Often, it’s hard to determine whether someone is joking over chat unless they use an emoticon.
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan, thanks for the insightful video of the Ultimate guide to conversation.
I admit, some of the things you say does make sense but at the same time, it feels daunting & scary at the same time, especially for some one like me who has very little or no experience with women.
Despite all the mistakes I made in my life, I want to make a change in my life, I want the same success that you guys had with women over the years & even now.
Hi Amrish
Thanks for the positive feedback mate.
Like with learning any new complex skill in life (e.g. driving a car, speaking a language, playing a difficult sport, etc) you will most-likely feel a little awkward at the start. However, if you have the right teacher to guide you correctly you will get there quicker and easier.
Don’t leave it too long to get started though. Listen to this audio to understand why:
http://www.themodernman.com/what_a_waste.html
Dan
Hey Dan
Thanks for the advice & the link to the audio recording about how guys who waste time doing other stuff to distract themselves from thinking about women.
I’ve done all the wrong things you’ve mentioned in that audio recording.
I’m glad I chose you compare to the female friend who wanted to coach, the downside for her she can’t hold a relationship with a guy but she thought her advice would be better than yours lol
I parted ways with her as she tried to dictate how I should do things when approaching women & she was unattractive as well
I’ve tried other stuff on the web & ended up with a huge disappointment, making a fool of myself in front of a woman.
Now I know why one woman in particular I use to like in my class is very moody when I try to talk to her.
That program you recommended should also give me the will power which most of us men lack when it comes to being successful with women.
Hi Dan,
Back to you again at a tough time. I have been talking to a woman since last month. By mistake(I think I made mistake) I showed more curiosity to her(kicking myself now) and perhaps a bit more emotion. She called me ‘desperate’. Still she talks to me… Is there any way to recover this situation and deal with her so that she remains interested? Please help. Thanks.
Maruf.
Hey Dan
You guys talk alot about how women want positive, emotional, engaging, interesting conversations and want to meet guys who provide this but why do I continuly run into interactions with women who can’t lighten up?
I stay in these interactions sometimes to see if the girls will warm up but they rarely do and I think this chick is boring me.
Why are some women like this?
Thanks
Clint
Hi Clint
Lol, that made me laugh.
Yes, it is true: Some women are boring, just like some men are boring. Not all people are going to be cool, socially-intelligent and fun to talk to. Additionally, not all women have good conversation skills. If you’re not compatible with a woman, it’s neither your fault or hers. Talk to another girl.
Cheers
Dan
Hi Clint
Thanks for your question.
Ahh, how glad I am to be past those days! I remember experiencing the exact same thing as you and wondering why the conversations felt so boring and the girls didn’t get as involved. At the time, my sister told me “Maybe you’re just not meeting the right girls” but she was WRONG. I simply wasn’t talking to women in a way that made them open up and get involved. When I changed my approach, women changed their response to me and I started getting some long-awaited action…!
Use the techniques we teach in The Ultimate Guide to Conversation and those days will soon become a distant memory.
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan
Lmao its true 🙂
I’m surprised I would never consider anyone ‘boring’ surely everyone has stories and passions just might not be able to display or showcase them because of nerves, lack of confidence, in a bad mood etc or just might not be interesting to me?
Thats interesting I never understood compatibilty. Is there such a thing as a personality clash were you and another persons personalities don’t compliment each others? They like a certain dynamic from people and vice versa.
In interactions I want girls to like to flirt, play games and make stupid conversation and be goofs but I thought everyone liked doing that?
Thanks
Clint
I’ve become good at interacting with women and sparking attraction by flirting and using humor. Last week I interacted with 15-20 women and got 10 phone numbers. From these I narrowed it down to 2 girls that I’d like to catch up with and go on a first date. The techniques really do work, with practice and repetition.
Hey Dan,
Someone, not on the Modern Man, was giving advice on introducing yourself to women. A lot of what they advised was little tricks to keep the conversation interesting, or so they said. Some of the things they said you should do were to pretend there was something in her hair even if there wasn’t and offer to take it out. Another thing was to say there was something really interesting but strange about her and then say you couldn’t tell her until later. To me this seems like it really violates your rules about exaggeration and lying and it seems like it would come off as a guy trying to pick women up. Maybe if on occasion there was actually something interesting but strange about a woman then you could tease her and say you would tell her what it was later, otherwise that would get old if done very often, and if it wasn’t actually true, then it would really become a problem, right? Wouldn’t most women be able to tell that something wasn’t quite right? Thanks
Hi Johann
Sounds like you found the lame advice of insecure pick up artists online. Yes, their “advice” is weird, lame and most women find it strange. Honestly, I didn’t even want to read the rest of your comment – as soon as I saw the bit about plucking something from her hair I thought, “Lol…pick up artists” and that was enough.
Johann – if you want to learn from insecure people, you too will become insecure like them. Think about it – if you hang around with negative people, they tend to rub off on you and make you start thinking in a negative way also. Our positive, forward-moving advice is based on a foundation of confidence, authenticity and being natural. If you continue searching around online and looking for magic cures from insecure people and fraudsters, you are asking for trouble. Be natural and real and you won’t run into problems with women.
I look forward to reading a comment from you where you explain how you have used our natural approach to get the results you with women.
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan,
I actually found that website quite a long time ago, and remembered while I was going through the Ultimate Guide to Conversation. Thankfully, I never really got around to using any of their “techniques” because it seemed a little over the top for me to do those things. The idea of making someone wait to hear something made sense though.
In some ways I see what you mean by not wanting to hang around insecure people. Sometimes, though, hanging around higher status people which I have begun doing more makes me feel really under pressure to compete and a little nervous , though it is getting considerably easier by being attentive and coming back with questions. Maybe I should stop feeling like I need to compete.
Finally, I had talked to this one girl on campus for around 5 minutes or so a couple times, flirting a bit and making a few connections. Later I thought I should get in contact, but since I never got her number and didn’t really see her around much, I thought I’d send her a quick compliment on her singing via facebook messaging recommending that she join choir next year. For a couple emails, she seemed pretty interested in what I had to say. Following your advice I included a little teasing and told a very short story completing leaving out the word “I” and instead describing how amazing something was on choir tour. However, after a couple replies she did not respond again, even though her last response to me had been very good and she sounded interested in talking more. After a few days I just left a comment thinking she had lost interest and just said “Well, see you around next year, then.” Within a minute of leaving that message, she shot a chat box message box asking surprised that I was leaving already. I responded but didn’t get a response. What do I do now? Nothing? If I had to bet I’d say that she just lost interest, that I’ve over analyzed the situation, and that I should just move on. Maybe it was a bad idea to compliment her, and talking about choir was a distraction that made her think that was all there was to talk about.
Hi Johann
High status people: Yes, stop trying to compete.
That girl: No, it’s just that you’re trying a little too hard, overanalyzing and spending too much time text/Facebook chatting rather than speaking on the phone or having sex with her in person. Stop chatting and start having sex. Ben explains the rules on e-mail/Facebook in Dating Power, in terms of when you should actually pick up the phone instead of sending a message. Too much messaging is lame for someone who has options (other people interested in them) and a life (other things to do rather than craft interesting replies to a Facebook message).
Cheers
Dan
Dan I got laid today when I went for my cpr class we had lunch during our break then we wound up having sex in the woods. I can’t wait to listen to the rest thank you so much for your help. It was the craziest thing that ever happened to me!
Hey Jordan
Nice way to spend your lunch break!!
Congrats on your success so far. Enjoy listening to the rest of the program and the great times ahead with women!
Cheers
Dan