You have 3 main options at this point.
You can either:
1. Get her back and love her
One of the best ways to get over a broken heart, is by making your ex fall back in love with you and starting a new relationship with her that is even better than before.
So, rather than sit around feeling sad and rejected, focus instead on getting your ex back to enjoy a new relationship with her where you are in the position of power.
Of course, right now you might be thinking something along the lines of, “How can I do that if my ex said that she hates me and doesn’t want anything to do with me? Surely that’s impossible, right?”
No.
It’s not impossible.
When you approach the ex back process in the correct way, your ex can go from hating you and saying things like, “I never want to see you again!” to loving you again and saying something along the lines of, “I’m so glad you didn’t give up on me, even when I was being so closed off and bitchy to you. I love you so much!”
So, how can you make that happen?
It’s actually easier than you may think right now.
How so?
Firstly, you need to understand your ex’s real reasons for breaking up with you.
This is important, because a lot of the time, guys aren’t really sure about it.
Yes, most guys have a vague idea (e.g. they haven’t been getting along lately and have been getting into more arguments and fights than they used to), but they don’t really know her deep, secret reasons.
This is why you need to start with that.
By the way, if you’re unsure of how to go about doing it, here are some questions to ask yourself to help you gain clarity:
- Did you remain emotionally strong and independent in the relationship, or did you end up becoming clingy, needy or wimpy?
- Were you able to maintain her feelings of respect and attraction, or did you become insecure and stopped being the cool, confident guy that she originally fell in love with?
- Did you create a relationship dynamic that made her want to treat you well and be a good, loving, devoted woman to you, or did you make her feel like pulling away from you, being closed off and treating you with less and less respect over time?
- Were you an emotionally masculine man who made her feel like a feminine, girly woman in your presence, or were you submissive and timid and made her feel like she had power over you and like she was the dominant one in the relationship?
- Did you make her feel sexy and desirable when she was with you, or did you treat her more like a neutral friend?
- Did you lead in the relationship, or did you expect her to be the boss and make all the decisions for the both of you?
Once you know where you went wrong, you can quickly make some attractive changes and improvements to yourself.
From there, the next step is to interact with your ex and show her via your attitude, actions, behavior and the way you respond to her that you’ve moved past the level that you were at when she broke up with you and are now a better man.
When she experiences the new you (i.e. you are now behaving and responding in a completely different way to the way she remembers), her guard will naturally come down and she will start to feel a renewed sense of respect for you again.
When she respects you, she will naturally also begin to feel attracted to you.
She will then feel drawn to you and want to explore her new, fascinating feelings of attraction for you by being around you more and more.
You can then fully reactivate her feelings for you and get her back into a relationship that has withstood a break up and is now even better, stronger and more loving than before.
From that point onwards, you will only want to be with each other, because that’s where both of you feel the happiest, most fulfilled and most loved.
Another example of how to love again after a broken heart is…
2. Attract a high quality woman and enjoy a new kind of love
Although it sucks to lose the woman you love, it doesn’t have to be the end of the world.
In fact, in some instances, losing one woman can open the door to finding the woman who is truly perfect for you.
So, even though you and your ex may have shared a special connection, it doesn’t mean that she is the only woman who is ideal for you.
In reality, there are many millions of different women across the world who can easily be the one for you.
All it takes is confidence in yourself and in your value as a man to find her, as well as the ability to make her feel attracted to you as you talk to her.
When you know how to attract women as you talk to them, you instantly feel a resurgence of confidence and hope about your future.
As a result, you will naturally begin to talk and behave in the kind of ways that will attract a new, high quality woman to you.
You will then discover that there are many kinds of love in the world and although what you and your ex had together was special, you can easily find love with another woman if you want to.
Essentially, every woman you fall in love with has something special and distinctive about her that makes the relationship unique.
So, don’t waste time feeling depressed or dejected and wondering if you will ever be happy again.
Instead, be emotionally strong and confident enough to go out there and find yourself another, even better woman than your ex and be happy with her.
By the way…
As an added bonus, when you are happy and moving forward in your life without your ex, you suddenly seem more attractive to her and she begins to want you back for herself.
You can then choose to stay with your new woman and build a long-lasting relationship with her, or break up with her and get your ex back.
Either way, the choice will be yours.
Another example of how to love again after a broken heart is…
3. Enjoy several casual relationships to experience different kinds of love
A great way to get over a break up is to have sex with and date many different women.
Not only does this restore your confidence, it also shows you that although the love you experienced with your ex was special, it is not the only love that is available to you.
Most women really love sex and want it as much as men do.
To get a lot of sex, you’ve simply just got to know how to make them want it with you.
It’s very easy to do.
The thing is, with each woman that you have a relationship with, you will experience a completely different type of sexual experience and, if you get into a relationship, a different type of love.
It is never the same and cannot be, because each woman is a unique person and the subtle nuances and differences in your relationship will create a new type of love.
At the same time, if you learn from the mistakes that you made in the past, you will inevitably become a better and more attractive man (e.g. more confident, emotionally masculine, charismatic), and as a result, your relationships will get better too.
Then, you will have your choice of quality women that you can build a happy, long-lasting relationship with, or even re-attract your ex if you want to.
So, don’t be afraid to love again after a broken heart.
Fearlessly open yourself up to love, knowing that no matter what happens, you can always find love with another woman if it doesn’t work out.
4 Mistakes That Some Guys Make When Trying to Love Again After a Broken Heart
Although losing the woman you love can be perceived as a bad thing, it can also be a time of growth and improvement if you want it to be.
Unfortunately though, a lot of guys get stuck in a cycle of negativity and despair and end up making a bunch of mistakes that prevent them from either getting their ex back, or moving on and finding another, even better woman than her.
For example: Some of the mistakes that guys make when they have a broken heart are…
1. Not improving his ability to attract women, which means that he only has access to women he doesn’t want
One of the biggest mistakes that some guys make after a break up, is focus more on the pain and loss they’re experiencing, rather than on the reasons why it happened in the first place.
As a result, these guys stay stuck at the same level and then end up not being able to re-attract their ex and get her back, or find a new, better woman than her.
Instead, a guy like that may end up staying single, becoming bitter and jaded about love and go around saying things like, “Love sucks! It’s just not worth it, because it never works out and you always end up being the loser and getting hurt.”
Alternatively, he might get into relationships with women he doesn’t really want (e.g. unattractive or insecure women), because that’s the best he can do.
This is why, if you want to get your ex back, or to find yourself another high quality woman, it’s absolutely essential that you improve your ability to make women feel attracted to you.
For example: Some of the ways you can do that are by…
- Being more emotionally independent, so you don’t need a woman’s approval or emotional support to feel good about yourself. You’re a self-approving, confident man who also knows how to make a woman feel good about herself when she’s with you.
- Believing in your attractiveness and value as a man, so you don’t feel as though any woman is too good for you. You know that you are more than good enough for any woman you want and that belief comes through in your attitude, body language, conversation style and behavior, which then makes women automatically feel more respect and attraction for you.
- Being more emotionally masculine now and not allowing any woman to have power over you. You’re a good man to women, but you don’t let them get away with walking all over you.
- Being less insecure and self-doubting, so that no woman can get under your skin and make you feel unsure of yourself around her.
The more you think, act and behave in these attractive ways, the easier it becomes for you to attract any woman you want (including re-attracting your ex).
By the way…
When your ex sees that you are being man enough to quickly learn from your mistakes and improve, she won’t be able to stop herself from feeling some respect and attraction for you again, even if she tries to deny it to your face.
She will feel drawn to you again for her own reasons (e.g. she fears walking away from the new you and then regretting it later on, she feels curious about her new feelings for you and wants to explore them).
It’s then up to you to get her back if you want to, or get another woman if you don’t.
Either way, by becoming a more emotionally attractive man, you won’t have to settle for any woman that you don’t really want.
Another mistake that guys make when they have a broken heart is…
2. Focusing more on the pain of his broken heart than the solution to getting past it
Sometimes, after a particularly bad break up, a guy might find himself stuck in a dark place where he’s constantly thinking things like, “This was the worst thing that ever happened to me. I feel like my heart is broken into a million pieces. I miss her so much! I can’t deal with all this pain. I don’t know what to do to get past it. I just want her back so badly!”
Yet, by doing that, he’s focusing on the problem (i.e. the pain of losing the woman he loves), rather than on finding a solution (i.e. re-attracting her and getting her back).
So, don’t let that happen to you.
Of course that doesn’t mean you should pretend that the break up with your ex didn’t happen, or that you’re not feeling sad and broken-hearted.
However, dwelling on how bad you feel and how empty and aimless your life is without her in it isn’t going to help you love again or get her back.
What will?
Reactivating your ex’s feelings of love, respect and attraction for you and getting her back.
So, focus on that.
When your ex can see for herself that you’re handling the break up in an emotionally strong, confident way, rather than falling apart and being unable to function without her, she will automatically start to feel a surge of respect and attraction for you again.
She then drops her guard and opens back up to interacting with you more often over the phone and in person, to see where things go from there.
Another mistake that guys make when they have a broken heart is…
3. Thinking that it would be impossible to re-attract his ex and enjoy a new kind of love with her
Even though right now your situation might seem hopeless, because your ex is pushing you away and possibly saying things like, “I don’t have feelings for you anymore,” or “I never want to see you again,” or even, “I hate you and nothing can ever change that,” when you spark new feelings of love inside of her, anything becomes possible.
The truth is, thousands of couples around the world break up and get back together again (often more than once), every single day.
You and your ex can be one of those couples.
Remember: Feelings aren’t set in stone.
You can literally change how a woman feels about you.
Think about it this way…
There was a time where you were a stranger to your ex and she had no feelings for you whatsoever.
Then, after she met you the first time, she probably started liking you and thinking things like, “He’s cute.”
From there, you built on her feelings for you (i.e. by saying and doing the types of things that are naturally attractive to women) and she began to fall in love with you.
However, over time, you stopped behaving in those attractive ways and she then started to disconnect from her feelings of respect, attraction and love for you and began to feel more negative emotions such as anger, resentment, or disillusionment.
As you can see, your ex’s feelings for you have changed many times already.
So, they can definitely change again.
When you interact with her and reactivate her feelings by showing her that you truly are a better man now (e.g. more confident and self-assured, more manly, more assertive and decisive), she won’t be able to stop her feelings from changing (in a good way) again.
So, don’t sit around feeling hopeless and thinking, “She said it’s over between us, so I don’t stand a chance of getting her back.”
You can get her back.
Men from all over the world get an ex back every day and you can too.
Another mistake that guys make when they have a broken heart is…
4. Accepting a less attractive woman who he will never really love in the same way he loved his ex
Sometimes, a break up can cause a guy to become fearful of falling in love again.
At the back of his mind he might be thinking things like, “My ex was special. What we had together was unique and I will never be able to find another beautiful woman like her again. I just need to accept that and be content with what I can get from now on.”
He then settles for a less attractive woman that he just can’t fully love.
Yet, here’s the thing…
If you don’t ever attempt to get your ex back and instead settle for second best in life (i.e. get into a relationship with a woman who you don’t fully love or feel attracted to), you may spend the rest of your life regretting it and never truly being happy.
Do you really want to live that kind of life?
The answer is almost certainly, “No!”
So, if you want your ex back, don’t settle for a woman you don’t want instead.
Take a risk to relight the fire between you and her and experience what comes with it.
Remember: The biggest regrets people have is not the things they’ve done, but the things they didn’t do when they had the chance.
This is your chance right now.
Take it and get your ex back.
You can do it!
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