4 ways to make your ex miss you after a breakup are:
1. Interact with her on a phone call, reactivate her feelings and then give her 3 to 7 days of space
One of the most effective ways to make a woman miss you after a breakup is by actively re-sparking her feelings of respect and attraction for you on a phone call and then cutting off communication with her for up to a week.
Some of the ways you can do that are by…
- Using humor to lighten the mood and taking away any awkwardness that might be there.
- Showing her your confidence by not feeling nervous or unsure of yourself when she is being withdrawn and unfriendly towards you.
- Flirting with her to create some sexual tension, rather than being too nice and neutral.
The more you spark her feelings for you, the more likely it is that she will miss you when you don’t contact her again right away. Why?
Essentially, because the last thing on her mind is how nice it was to talk to you on the phone again, how different you seem since she broke up with you and how attracted she suddenly feels to you.
Here’s the thing…
If you try to make her miss you after a breakup by simply ignoring her (i.e. following the No Contact Rule), because her feelings for you are switched off, she’s not really going to care.
Instead, she’s going to use the time apart to move on and possibly even find herself another man.
On the other hand, if you interact with her first, reactivate some of her feelings of respect and attraction for you and then ignore her for a few days to a week, she’s more likely to think things like, “Why isn’t he calling me again? I know I thought it was over between us, but all of a sudden not hearing from him after the last conversation we had is driving me crazy! I can’t stop thinking about him and how different he was on the phone. I actually miss him and I’m starting to doubt my decision to break up with him. What should I do?”
By the way…
You may have heard the expression, “If a little is good, then more must be better.”
That expression is true in some instances, but when it comes to ignoring an ex, more contact is almost never better.
So, even if you did successfully make her miss you, you will likely end up blowing it if you give her too much space (anything longer than 7 days). Why?
Rather than miss you more, she may start thinking that you’ve moved on.
As a result, she will simply focus on fully getting over you, moving on and finding herself a replacement guy.
So, don’t let that happen to you.
After 3 to 7 days of space, call her again, spark her feelings for you some more and get her to agree to a meet up.
In most cases, all it takes is 2 to 3 interactions where the guy is sparking her feelings (on the phone and in person), before a really closed off woman will begin to drop her guard and open herself up to getting back together again.
In easy cases (i.e. where a woman still has some feelings for her ex), all it takes is one phone call and one meet up and the couple is back together.
Another way to make her miss you after a breakup is…
2. Post up photos on social media of you enjoying your life with other people
Even if your ex has unfriended you on social media, chances are, she will still take a peek at your profile from time to time to see what you’re up to.
Secretly she will want to find out if you’re still missing her or if you’ve moved on.
This is why you need to make sure that you update all your social media accounts and don’t leave any sad, lonely photos of you posted around.
Instead, make sure that from now on, all your photos are of you having fun with other people (e.g. at a party with friends, doing something fun with other women, at a concert or some other social event).
By the way…
If she isn’t your friend on social media or isn’t following you, just make sure that the photos are public so she can see them from the outside.
Chances are, when she checks up on you, she will be pleasantly surprised to see that you’re not sitting around feeling sorry for yourself.
She may then start thinking things like, “Wow, he’s really looking good. Not only isn’t he being sad and lonely, he’s actually having so much fun. I can’t believe I’m even thinking this, but I wish we were doing those things together. I miss him.”
How can that be?
When you post photos of yourself having fun with other people, rather than make your want to move on, it actually makes her feel drawn to you again.
All of a sudden, she feels a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you and she wants to talk to you again, meet up with you in person and see where things go from there.
Another way to make her miss you after a breakup is…
3. Let mutual friends see you confident, happy and doing fine without her
One of the best ways to make a woman miss you and make her want you back, is to simply get on with your life and let her find out about it.
You actually don’t have to do anything other than have fun and make sure enough mutual friends see you doing it.
The news will inevitably get back to her when she talks to them, or when her friends talk to them and pass on the details to her.
She will then likely feel a bit sad and left out.
She might even start thinking things like, “I miss him and I miss the way we used to have fun together as a couple.”
By the way…
If you’re wondering, “How will me having fun with other people make her miss me?” the answer is quite simple.
The more you enjoy your life without her, the more drawn to you she will become. Why?
When a guy isn’t moving on after a breakup and is just sitting around moping and feeling sad, it signals to his ex that he lacks confidence in his attractiveness to her and probably doesn’t believe that he can attract other quality women.
As a result she feels like she made the right decision to break up with him.
On the other hand, when a guy is happy and moving forward in his life, even though he may still feel a bit sad about being broken up, it’s a sign that he is emotionally strong, confident and self-assured.
She then instinctively feels attracted to him, because those are qualities that women find attractive in men.
So, when you feel genuinely happy and fulfilled without your ex, you naturally seem more attractive to her and she begins to miss you.
Another way to make her miss you after a breakup is…
4. Don’t be so responsive and available
If your ex is still staying in touch with your after the breakup, it might be tempting to want to keep the connection going.
In your mind you may even be thinking things like, “If I don’t reply immediately, she might stop texting/calling me,” or “If I don’t go with what she wants to talk about she might get annoyed and stop contacting me.”
Yet, that kind of thinking makes you appear too available to her and as a result, it’s unlikely that she will get a chance to miss you.
So, a better way to interact with your ex is…
Don’t always reply to her texts, don’t always LOL and don’t always be willing to talk about whatever she wants.
This then makes her think about you and wonder why you’ve changed so much since the breakup (e.g. you’re more confident and emotionally independent now).
As a result, she starts to think about you in a positive way and begins to miss you.
On the other hand, if you make yourself too available to her, she will likely start thinking something along the lines of, “Why is he so responsive? Doesn’t he have a life? When does he sleep, or eat, or go to work and when does he go out with his friends? I wonder if he’s just sitting around waiting to hear from me all the time. I hope not, because that would just be weird.”
So, just relax and reply when you want, use humor and most importantly, get to a meet up, re-attract her and get her back.
Where Guys Go Wrong When Trying to Make a Woman Miss Them After a Breakup
When you know how, making your ex miss you after a breakup is actually quite easy.
However, if you use the wrong approach, rather than make her miss you, you might convince her that she made the right decision to break up after all.
So to prevent that from happening, make sure you avoid making the following mistakes:
1. Assuming that the No Contact approach will work on any kind of woman
Not all women are the same.
So, even though some women might respond well to be ignored by an ex (e.g. a woman who still has some feelings for her ex, is struggling to find herself a replacement guy, or is curious to see what he’s doing), most women don’t.
In most cases, a woman will likely just use the time apart to move on and find herself another guy (especially if she doesn’t feel much, or any, respect, attraction and love for him anymore).
Even if a woman does still have some feelings for her ex and is hoping they might be able to work things out, if she doesn’t hear from him for 30 or even 60 days, instead of contacting him she might decide that he obviously doesn’t feel the same way about her, if he’s not calling her.
She may then focus on getting over her feelings for him and moving on.
If he then contacts her after a few weeks or months, he will likely be very disappointed to discover that she’s no longer interested in giving him another chance.
So, if you want to make your ex miss you, don’t think that ignoring her for a long time will work.
Of course it might, but chances are high that it will more likely backfire on you.
Is it a chance you’re willing to take?
Another mistake to avoid is…
2. Becoming insecure and losing a lot of confidence as you wait weeks or months for her to miss you on her own
A guy will sometimes wait a long time for his ex to initiate contact with him.
Yet, the longer he waits, the more he begins to doubt himself and his value to her.
He then starts thinking things like, “Why isn’t she calling me? I guess she doesn’t miss me after all. She’s probably forgotten I even exist. Well I don’t blame her. I deserve to be forgotten by her after the way I stuffed things up in our relationship. I’m just such a loser.”
He then stops believing in his ability to re-attract her and gives up on the idea of getting her back.
Don’t make that mistake.
Don’t wait around hoping she will make the first move.
Instead, believe in yourself, take action and get her back.
Another mistake to avoid making is…
3. Pretending to be happy about your life via text, when she can sense that you aren’t
Sometimes a guy will put on an act of being happy without his ex as a way of making her jealous and as a result, miss him.
He might then send her text messages saying things like, “Doing really great! Things are looking up for me. So, how are you?” or “Having so much fun. My life is so great. What are you up to these days?”
Yet, in most cases a woman can sense that’s not really true (i.e. because his texts are too obvious, he always responds to her right away when she replies, he tries too hard show her how happy he is).
She may then test him to see if he’s really happy or only putting on an act.
For example: She might text him back and say that she has been missing him and is thinking about giving him another chance.
She might also ask if he misses her and if he wants to get back together to find out how he’s really feeling.
If he then quickly responds with something along the lines of, “Yes! Of course I miss you too! Getting back together is the only thing I’ve been thinking about since the day we broke up,” she will know that he was lying to her and she will feel turned off.
Another mistake to avoid making is…
4. Being too neutral with her via text
Sometimes a guy might text his ex and pretend that he’s only interested in being her neutral friend by being on his best behavior and avoiding any flirting.
Secretly he may be hoping that being neutral with her will make her relax and not feel pressured into getting back together with him.
Yet, in most cases, rather than make a woman think, “Wow, my ex is being so sweet. I really appreciate the way he’s taking things so slow and just being a nice, neutral friend to me. That makes me miss him so much all of sudden. Maybe, I should give him another chance after all,” she will likely be thinking something like, “Oh well. I guess it’s over between us. He clearly only sees me as a friend now, so I should forget about him and move on,” instead.
She will then just get on with her life and hook up with a guy who actually flirts with her and makes her feel attracted.
So, don’t let that happen to you.
If you want to get your ex back, don’t pretend you only want to be her friend.
No matter how you interact with her from now on (i.e. via text, a phone call or in person), make sure that you flirt with her and make her feel attracted again.
Only then will she begin to miss you, think about you and open herself up to the idea of being your girl once again.
Another mistake to avoid making is…
5. Focusing on improving your physical appearance, rather than your emotional attractiveness
In some instance a guy might think to himself, “If I change my appearance (e.g. go to the gym and build some muscles, lose/pick up some weight, change my wardrobe), my ex will feel attracted to me again and she will then start to miss me and want me back.”
Yet, what a guy like that doesn’t understand is that a man’s physical appearance doesn’t matter as much to a woman as his emotional attractiveness.
How he makes her feel when she interacts with him is what counts.
Does he make her feel feminine and girly in his presence (i.e. because he’s being emotionally masculine) or does he make her feel neutral or like a friend?
Can she look up to him, respect him and feel proud to be his girl, or does she feel a bit embarrassed by him, or like she can do better for herself?
Does he make her feel loved, appreciated and respected, or does she feel taken for granted.
These are the kind of things that matter much more to a woman than what a guy looks like on the outside.
Of course, that doesn’t mean she will accept a guy who is a slob either.
So, if you want to take care of your appearance for your own sake, go right ahead and do it.
Then, when you also make her feel attracted in some of the ways that matter to her, she will also appreciate that you’ve put in the effort to look better physically, but not the other way around.
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