Important: Only ask your ex these questions after you have interacted with her and made her laugh, smile and feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
If you ask her questions like this before doing re-attracting her, then you will get completely different answers because a woman will typically answer questions like these based on how she feels in the moment.
For example: If a guy first doesn’t reactivate his ex’s feelings of attraction during interactions and instead just asks her something like, “Do you miss me?” she is much more likely to respond with something along the lines of, “No. Why should I? We’re broken up, or have you forgotten that?” Because she’s not feeling enough attraction to say something like, “Yes, I do.”
Attraction is what draws an ex back to you.
Without first reactivating and reawakening her feelings of attraction, you will get completely different answers.
You have to be clear on that.
How much attraction she feels for you (and therefore, how much motivation she feels to get back with you) depends on how you approach interactions with her from now on.
If you do it right, your ex is so much more likely to respond to a question of, “So, do you miss me?” with something like, “Yes, I do miss you sometimes.”
So, make sure that you attract your ex first and then ask her things like…
1. So, how much have you missed me?
You might be able to notice that asking the question in that way is a lot different to just asking, “So, do you miss me?”
In this case, you’re asking how “much” she misses you, which then results in a woman feeling much more comfortable saying something like, “A bit” rather than answering, “No” if you ask her, “Do you miss me?”
So, after you have made your ex feel a renewed sense of attraction for you based on how you’ve been interacting with her (e.g. you’ve been confident, you’ve been making her laugh, you’ve been flirting with her), go ahead and ask her, “So, how much have you missed me?”
She might answer honestly and tell you that she has been missing you a bit, or she might be reluctant to admit how she has been feeling.
In a case like that, she might say, “You’re so arrogant! Who says I’ve missed you?” to see how you react.
If you react by losing confidence, then she won’t feel attracted to you.
If you react by maintain your confidence, she will.
For example: You might respond by laughing in a relaxed, easy-going way and saying something along the lines of, “Of course you’ve missed me! Come on… admit it. On a scale of 1 to 10 how much did you miss me? At least a 5, but maybe even a 6.”
She might joke back and forth with you a bit by saying, “Okay fine, I missed you 1 out 10,” and you can then laugh and say, in a joking way, “Aha! I knew it. I knew you missed me. I bet it’s 2 or 3 out of 10 though. I missed you 1 out 10.”
Then have a laugh with her.
Being able to remain confident and turn whatever she says into something that you and her can laugh about together makes her feel more relaxed and at ease.
As a result, she feels more willing to begin reconnecting with her feelings of respect and attraction for you.
It’s then up to you to build on those feelings and make her fall back in love with the new you.
You can do it.
Men all over the world get ex women back using this method.
It’s simple, natural, automatic and it works.
Another question to ask your ex to see if she still likes you is…
2. Hey, so we should catch up for a coffee sometime this week and say hi. Cool? You in?
Once again, even if your ex actually wants to say “Yes,” right away, she probably won’t do that.
That’s women and it’s why, as a man, you always need to remain confident in yourself no matter what a woman says or does around you.
You have to maintain belief in yourself no matter what.
Don’t let a woman kill your confidence with a few words.
You have to be stronger than that.
The reality is that women are universally attracted to men who have what I call, Independent Confidence.
Having Independent Confidence means that you remain confident no matter what people say or do around you.
As a contrast, Dependent Confidence means that you can only feel completely confident if people are being nice, supportive and encouraging towards you.
Having Dependent Confidence makes a woman feel like you would be or are a burden to her.
She doesn’t want to feel that.
She wants to feel safe and protected by you because you are emotionally bulletproof.
Having Independent Confidence not only to your life, but to interactions with women when you first meet them, on a date, in a relationship and when getting an ex back.
So, prepare yourself to remain confident no matter what your ex says to you.
For example: Understand in advance that she might say something along the lines of, “I don’t know…” or, “I’m not sure if that’s a good idea” if you suggest catching up for a coffee sometime this week.
A guy who has Dependent Confidence will think, “Well, I guess I have my answer then. Clearly she still doesn’t like me. If she did, she would have agreed to catch up with me” and he will then lose confidence.
Don’t do that.
Instead, you need to understand that most women play a bit hard to get with an ex guy, because they don’t want to come across as being too easy.
Most women do that when it comes to picking them up as well.
It’s a classic female move, so don’t be surprised by it.
If she doesn’t initially agree to your suggestion of catching up, simply maintain your confidence, laugh and say in a relaxed, easy-going way something like, “Hey, come on. It’s no big deal. It’s not as if having a cup of coffee together means we’re going to get back together. It’s simply two friends saying hi in person. We mature enough to do that, right? You’re a grown woman. You can catch up and say hi and have a coffee. It’s no big deal. We’re mature enough to catch up and say hi as friends. It’s all good. So, look – I’m busy on Tuesday and Wednesday, but free on Monday and Thursday. Which day suits you best? Monday or Thursday?”
In most cases, a woman won’t want to seem immature based on not meeting up, so she will agree to catch up.
In other cases of course, she will say, “Yeah, okay” or, “I suppose so. Just as friends though” or something along those line.
Just be prepared for any type of response and remember that what will make her feel attracted is if you can maintain your confidence.
She will feel even more attracted if you talk to her in a relaxed, easy-going manner, but also be a bit assertive to get her to meet up with you.
Women like assertiveness from a guy, but it’s not something that they can go around admitting because most people will assume she means that she likes a guy who bosses her around all the time.
That’s not what being assertive means.
You don’t need to be totally bossy and order a woman to do whatever you want.
Instead, you just need to have the masculinity (or balls) to be a bit assertive at times, while still being a good guy.
Women love that.
So, get to the point where agrees to meet up and then catch up at a time that suits you both.
Then re-attract her further at the meet up and get to a hug, kiss and sex.
From there, you and her will naturally begin to get back together if she can see that you have changed a lot since the break up and now understand how to attract her in ways you previously couldn’t.
Another question to ask your ex to see if she still likes you is…
3. So, even though you hate me now, what’s one thing you do like about me?
It’s a funny way of asking the question and will usually get a woman to laugh say, “No, I don’t hate you” which then makes her connect with her positive feelings for you.
Then, since you are asking her to tell you one thing she does like about you, it further helps her to stop focusing on all of the things about you she doesn’t like and begin thinking about some things she does.
For example: Some of the things she might be currently overlooking or forgetting about you are that…
- You’re a good guy who treats her well.
- You’re ambitious and hard-working.
- You always treated her family and friends with respect.
- You’re honest and reliable.
- You have a great sense of humor and can make her laugh even when she’s angry or feeling down.
- You are intelligent and loyal.
- You get along well with others.
- You have great potential for the future if you follow through on your goals.
- She really did love you and feel attracted to you at the start.
- You’re a cool guy in your own, unique way.
By getting her to stop and think about at least one thing she likes about you, it can lead to her thinking about multiple things she still likes about you.
This causes her to have to look at you in a more positive light, which then begins to bring her walls down.
She remember that even though you and her did have some problems, you aren’t all that bad.
All you then have to do then is to get her to reconnect with her sexual and romantic feelings for you and she will feel drawn to the idea of being in a relationship with you again, or at least hooking up with you to see how she feels afterwards.
Then, if you really have changed, you and her will get back into a relationship that is so much better than before.
Another question to ask your ex to see if she still likes you is…
4. I know that we’ve broken up and are never getting back together, but what’s your favorite memory of us together?
By asking her the question in that way, she doesn’t have to put her guard up as much and worry that you’re trying to get her back.
You’re saying that you and her are broken up and aren’t ever going to get back together and then asking what her favorite memory of you and her being together was or is.
This helps her to stop focusing on some of the recent, negative memories she has of you (e.g. arguments, fights, disagreements, loss of attraction for you) and instead focus on some of the good times you and her shared.
As a result, she can then begin thinking things like, “If we could have been so happy before, maybe we could be happy again. Who knows? Clearly we do have chemistry. I didn’t feel that much in the end, but maybe we could get back to how it felt at the start.”
She then becomes more open to letting her newfound feelings for you develop.
By the way…
When she opens up and shares her favorite memory of you and her together, you can then reciprocate by telling her some of the things you remember that made you smile.
Yet, if you want to make sure that she feels attracted to you at that point, then add in what I call, Playfully Challenging Humor.
For example: She says, “I used to really enjoy getting pizza with you and watching Netflix” and rather than just being nice and saying, “Yeah, me too” you can be playfully challenging and say, “Yeah, but you did have horrible taste in Netflix shows…that’s for sure.”
Then have a laugh with her about that.
Then you can add in, “Just kidding. It was good to chill out and do Netflix and pizzas. Those days are over though. At least we’re mature enough to be friends now, right?”
She will then most likely agree and at the same time, feel a little rejected because she will be feeling attracted to you (i.e. pulled towards you), but you are pushing her away with your words.
That makes her want you more.
In that moment, she starts realizing that she doesn’t just want to be friends.
Heck, maybe she even wants to get some pizza and chill while watching TV, Youtube, Netflix or whatever with you.
When she starts feeling that, she might hint at wanting to do that, or will tell you directly.
If she doesn’t want to show too much interest, she might just accept it and say, “Yeah, we’re friends” and then continue talking to you in person or texting you, to subtly show you that she is interested.
BTW: Many women worry about showing too much interest in an ex boyfriend who is making them feel attracted because they fear that he will change his mind, reject her and she will then be the one who got dumped.
This is another reason why you need to have Independent Confidence.
Don’t base your confidence on what she is saying or doing.
Remain confident no matter what she says or does and simply guide her through the ex back process while building on her feelings of respect, attraction and love for you.
By the way…
When you get an ex woman to fall back in love with you after a break up, it is one of the most amazing feelings she will ever experience in her life.
Why?
Due to you improving your ability to attract her and then attracting her in new ways, she ends up feeling more attracted to you than she ever has before.
It becomes an excited attraction, mixed in with reunited love, surprise, passion, closeness and pure joy.
It’s an amazing feeling.
When a woman feels like that, she naturally then wants to be in a committed relationship because it’s where she feels the best, most fulfilled, most loved and happiest in life.
It’s with you.
That’s what you can achieve if you go through the ex back process correctly.
3 Mistakes to Avoid When Asking Your Ex Questions to See if She Still Likes You
If you’re going to ask your ex questions to see if she still likes you, make sure that you do it in a way that sparks her feelings of attraction.
If you’re not sure how, you might want to reread the section above with the examples and explanations of how to do it.
Whatever you do, make sure that you avoid these mistakes that other guys make…
1. Asking her via text before you have sparked her feelings of sexual and romantic attraction
If your ex feels a lot of attraction for you and secretly wants to be back with you, then asking her, “Do you miss me?” via text isn’t a problem at all.
She will likely say, “Yes” or even hint at a yes in a case like that.
Yet, if your ex broke up with you due to not feeling enough respect, attraction and love to want to be with you anymore and you then ask her, “Do you miss me?” she will either ignore your text or let you know that she doesn’t miss you.
Texts are helpful in getting an ex back, but you shouldn’t try to achieve everything via text, especially if you haven’t re-attracted her yet.
The main reason why, is that when a woman can’t see your body language expressions or hear your voice and is only getting text messages from you, it’s easier for her to remain closed off.
Yet, when you get on a phone call and have the confidence to make her laugh and flirt with her, she will immediately begin feeling attracted to you and realize that meeting up with you in person would actually be fun.
Then, when you meet up with her in person, you can re-attract her further and get to a hug, kiss and then sex.
Before you know it, you and her will be back together for real.
Yet, if try to achieve everything via text, you will usually end up causing an ex woman to begin responding in a cold, distant or neutral (just like a friend) way and she may even stop replying all together.
For most guys, they will then take that as a sign that their ex woman isn’t interested and they should just give up.
What a guy like that often doesn’t understand is that it’s not her lack of feelings for him that is preventing him from getting her back, but rather his approach.
He’s trying to get her back via text, which, for most women, is a wimpy-ass way of trying to get a girl back.
Most women appreciate, respect and feel attracted to a guy who has the balls to call them, create a spark, arrange a meet up and then get the relationship back together in person.
So, what you need to understand is that texts can help when getting your ex back, but you shouldn’t use them as your number one way of getting her back.
If you only stick to texts and shy away from giving her a call, then all she has to do is ignore you, block your number or keep saying things like, “I don’t know how I feel. I need more time to think about it,” and there’s nothing you can really do about that via text.
However, on a phone call (where you’re making her laugh, flirting with her) or in person, it is a lot more difficult for her to keep her real feelings for you hidden.
It comes through in her body language, her tone of voice, her reactions to you, her laughter, her smile and so on.
So, if you think that your ex is attracted to you and secretly missing you, then feel free to just text back and forth a little and see how that goes.
Yet, if you think that your ex doesn’t want to get back with you, then it’s okay to start with a text to say hi, but you ultimately need to get to a phone call so you can properly (and quickly) make her feel respect, attraction and love for you again.
Another mistake to avoid making if you want your ex to admit that she still likes you is…
2. Asking her in a way that suggests if she says that she likes you, you are immediately going to see that as meaning she wants a relationship again
Sometimes a woman will avoid responding to a question about her feelings, because she knows that if she says something like, “Yes, I do still care about you,” her ex guy might take it as a clear sign that she wants him back.
For example: He might immediately start talking about how much he missed her and how he’s going to fix things and be a better boyfriend to her this time around.
If she’s not sure if she wants to get back with him yet, his reaction can cause her to close up, go cold, avoid him, ignore him and so on.
He then begins wondering, “Huh? Why is she being like that? I thought she said that she still cares about me, so why is she being so distant and cold now?”
He might then ask her, “Why aren’t you replying? Is it something I said? If so, I am sorry. I love you and want to work this out.”
Once again, she then feels like it’s too much, too soon.
So, what should you do instead?
Don’t immediately push for a relationship.
Instead, make her feel attracted to you and want to be with you so much that she is hoping it becomes a relationship again.
Another mistake to avoid making if you want your ex to admit that she still likes you is…
3. Remaining stuck in early parts of the ex back process and never getting to the point where she is back with you for real
Sometimes a guy will spend a lot of time trying to get his ex to admit that she still likes him, before he eventually feels confident enough to make a move to get her back.
Then, after many weeks of trying to get her back (usually via text), he is shocked when she eventually says something along the lines of, “I think it’s best if we don’t talk or see each other again” because she has met a new guy and is dating him now.
Here’s the thing…
If you want your ex back, you need to have the courage to move things forward with her.
Don’t get stuck in early steps of the ex back process and then find out that she has happily moved on without you.
Get her back while you still can.
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