Dealing With a Break Up: Do You Want to Move on or Get Her Back?

If you’re a guy dealing with a break up, you’re probably sick and tired of people telling you it’s time to pick yourself up and move on.

Maybe you think they are right, or maybe you still believe that you should try to get her back.

Whatever the case, you know that you don’t want to keep feeling this way forever. Yet, when you’re hurting, it’s often hard to see a way out of the dark place you’re in, right? You might even wonder if you’re ever going to be able to fully get over her. She’s always on your mind in one way or another.

Of course, you’re not the first guy to be dealing with a break up, and you won’t be the last, so why is it that some guys seem to be able to pick themselves up, dust themselves off, and get “back in the saddle” within weeks of being heartbroken, and others find they’re still not over it years down the line? The answer really comes down to a guy’s mindset.

Down and Out

At The Modern Man, We often hear from guys who are really struggling to move on after being dumped.

In most cases, the biggest barrier in the way is a lack of confidence. Being dumped can really knock a guy’s confidence for six and, depending on the circumstances, it can leave a guy feeling so low about himself that he doesn’t want to risk “getting back in the saddle” for fear of being rejected all over again.

The safest option is just to stay down. Yet, of course, staying where he is isn’t making him any happier and he knows he wants to find a way out of there, he just doesn’t know how.

The way out of there is to regain confidence, and develop even greater self-confidence in your ability to attract new women. Do you know how to attract women when you interact with them? Are you able to enjoy your choice of women, or have you essentially gone through life hoping to “get lucky” with women who will give you a chance?

Watch this video by Dan Bacon (founder of The Modern Man) to understand the importance of being able to attract women and how you can quickly develop that skill…

The One and Only

We also hear from a lot of guys who are not only dealing with a break up, they’re dealing with watching the woman they believed was “the one” for them walk out of their lives. They don’t see how it’s possible to move on when their one shot at true love has gone and no other woman will ever be able to take her place.

A lot of people believe in the idea of a “soul mate” and that destiny dictates whether or not you meet “the one” for you.

There’s absolutely no real world evidence to suggest that as humans we can only ever find “true love” with one person, but there’s plenty of evidence to support the idea that it’s possible to find love many times throughout life, with each relationship providing its own unique love experience.

The key to moving on is to remain open to experiencing a new and different love with another woman.

Dealing With It

Okay, break ups hurt, there’s no denying it, but going through life feeling lonely because you’re struggling to deal with a break up doesn’t sound like much fun either, right?

Of course you’re going to miss your girlfriend and the relationship you had, that’s natural, but the way forward is to stop thinking about how much you’re missing her and to begin thinking about what you’re missing out on by not letting her go! You’re not happy where you are, so why deny yourself the opportunity of finding happiness again by moving on from where you are?

“Easier said than done,” you’re thinking, and you’re probably saying to yourself, “I don’t think I’ve got the confidence to approach new women.” You might be right. Your confidence might have taken such a beating that you don’t feel you’ve got the “guts” to go out and start again.

Yet, what if you could regain your confidence? What if you could develop genuine self-confidence and eliminate all self-doubt from your mind? What if you could change your mindset and learn how to use setbacks as stepping-stones to better things and never experience a fear of failure ever again?

Doesn’t that sound better than sitting around licking your wounds? Too right it does, and that’s exactly what The Modern Man programs can do for you. Watch this free video by Dan Bacon (founder of The Modern Man) to learn how to begin building up the confidence to approach women that you find attractive…

Getting Back In the Game

Well, when it comes to dealing with a break up, the quickest way to get over it and move on is to get lots of attractive women interested in you and begin having sex with them.

Now, if your confidence is at rock bottom, you’re going to find it hard to imagine yourself in that position, but being in that very position is just a matter of taking action to regain your confidence and develop even greater self-confidence – you know what you need to do.

If you’re struggling to imagine yourself in that position because you’re holding on to the idea that your ex was “the one” for you, it’s time to change the way you think.

The good memories you have of the relationship you had might make you think that you’ll never find that kind of love again, and maybe you’re right, but that doesn’t mean you can’t find a whole new different kind of love with a new woman in a new relationship. One thing is for sure, if you don’t make yourself available to new women, you’re never going to know.

When you learn to think like an alpha male, you learn to think like a man who knows he has his pick of women.

You become a man with genuine confidence; a man who knows how to approach women confidently, how to flirt and make conversation confidently, and how to escalate a conversation into a kiss, a phone number, a date, and sex. You become a man that women feel instinctively attracted to, in fact, they find you hard to resist.

They want to get your attention and they’re prepared to work hard at doing whatever it takes to get it. Doesn’t that sound better than sitting around licking your wounds? Too right it does, and that’s exactly what the guys who pick themselves up, dust themselves down, and get back in the saddle within weeks do.

So, the choice is now yours. Do you want to get her back or do you want to attract and pick up new women to get over your ex?