Here are 5 common reasons why:
1. When she unblocks you, she gets annoyed that you’re texting her too much
Sometimes, if a woman has cut off all communication with her ex (e.g. she’s blocked his number so he can’t call or text her, she’s unfriended him on social media), she might feel a little guilty about it.
She may then start thinking something along the lines of, “Maybe I’ve been too hard on my ex. After all, we did care for each other once, so maybe cutting him entirely out of my life like that isn’t really fair to him. Besides, if I’m honest with myself, I have to admit that he’s not all bad and that he’s quite a nice guy in many ways. I suppose I can unblock him and interact with him again from time to time.”
She then goes ahead and unblocks his number, only for him to start texting her all the time and about nothing in particular.
What he doesn’t realize, however, is that texts can be annoying when the person who is sending you texts isn’t someone that you have feelings of respect, attraction or love for.
So, if your ex girlfriend keeps blocking and unblocking you, make sure that it’s not because you’re annoying her by over texting.
Remember: Your intentions might be good, but it just won’t matter to your ex girlfriend if she’s no longer feeling respect, attraction and love for you.
So, what should you do instead, the next time your ex girlfriend unblocks you?
You should only use text if it’s absolutely necessary and only as a stepping stone to getting her on a phone call with you, so you can then re-attract her and get her to meet up with you in person.
On a phone call, it’s so much easier for her to see that you’ve changed and improved since the break up.
As she listens to the confidence in your voice and smiles and laughs and feels good to be talking to you again, she naturally starts to feel attracted to you again.
Some of her walls start coming down and then, when you suggest a meet up, rather than make excuses as to why she doesn’t want to see you again, she instead feels curious about the new you.
As a result, she drops her defenses and says, “Yes” to seeing you in person again and seeing where things go from there.
Another common reason why your ex girlfriend keeps blocking and unblocking you is…
2. She just unblocks you to check that you’re still missing her and wanting her, so she can move on with that peace of mind
In some instances, a woman might hate the idea of her ex moving on before her.
So, even though she’s blocked his number on her phone, she may occasionally unblock him to see what he’s up to and if he’s moving on without her.
She might then text him and say something along the lines of, “Hey, I was thinking about you. How have you been?”
If he then responds with something like, “Hey! I’m so glad you’ve unblocked me. I’ve been thinking about you too! I really miss you,” she will know that he hasn’t been moving on and that he’s probably been feeling sad and lonely and struggling to get over her and she will feel better about herself.
She will then block him again and focus on moving on and finding herself a replacement guy, without having to worry about him moving on first.
Another common reason why your ex girlfriend keeps blocking and unblocking you is…
3. She has mixed feelings about you and isn’t sure if she should get back with you
Sometimes, a woman might struggle to make her mind up about being broken up.
For example: Some days she might be thinking about her ex and remember all the good things about him (e.g. he was honest and reliable, he treated her well, he made her feel loved and appreciated).
She may then say to herself, “He wasn’t that bad. In fact, he was really good to me. I think I may have made a mistake by breaking up with him. Maybe I should give him another chance.”
When she is thinking that way, she decides to unblock him to see what happens.
Of course, on other days she might only be thinking about all the things about him that turned her off (e.g. he was too smothering and needy, he lacked confidence in himself around her and others, he didn’t know how to keep creating a relationship dynamic between them that would make her want to treat him well, be attentive, loving and affectionate towards him).
This causes her to think things like, “What was I thinking! Why did I ever unblock him? He’s all wrong for me.”
She then blocks his number again.
Naturally, this might leave a guy feeling confused and asking “Why does my ex girlfriend keep blocking and unblocking me?”
In many cases, the answer to that question is: She’s not 100% sure if she should move on and find another guy, or if she should give him one more chance.
As a result, she keeps blocking and unblocking him in the hope that he will do something definitive to help her decide which way to go (e.g. he either behaves so badly that she loses so much respect for him that she never wants to talk to him again, or he re-attracts her in the ways that she wants so she gives him another chance).
Another common reason why your ex girlfriend keeps blocking and unblocking you is…
4. She keeps hoping that you will have changed, but you haven’t
A woman will sometimes break up with a guy because certain aspects of his thinking and behavior are turning her off (e.g. how he sees her as the leader of the relationship and is hoping for her to guide and support him through life, how he’s unable to pass her simple confidence tests, how he’s unsure of himself around her and other people).
She will then take steps to fully cut him out of her life so she can get over him and move on.
As a result, she blocks him, only to realize that she still misses him so she unblocks him.
If he then contacts her and turns her off by behaving in unattractive ways (e.g. he’s too nervous and insecure around her, gives her too much power over him, is too nice and neutral with her), she then changes her mind again and starts thinking things like, “This was a mistake! I should have trusted my instincts to break up with him. Clearly he’s not the right guy for me after all.”
She then blocks him again, only to start missing him again over and over.
Essentially, she’s waiting for him to do something that will break this loop, re-attract her and get her back.
Another common reason why your ex girlfriend keeps blocking and unblocking you is…
5. She’s testing to see how you will react
Sometimes a woman might feel unsure about whether she made the right decision to break up with her guy or not.
So, to put her mind to rest, she might decide to test her guy to establish once and for all if he’s the right guy for her.
Essentially, she wants to see how emotionally strong he really is, based on his reactions when she messes with him by constantly blocking and unblocking him.
For example:
- Is he going to get upset and start doubting his chances with her?
- Will he get annoyed with her and lose control of his emotions (e.g. he gets angry, shouts at her, calls her names)?
- Will he just give up and walk away?
- Will he beg and plead with her to stop messing with his feelings?
- Will he try to be extra nice to her so that she will stop doing what she’s doing?
If he reacts in any of those ways, he will fail her test and prove to her that he’s not really the man she wants to be in a relationship with.
So, here’s the thing…
If your ex girlfriend keeps blocking and unblocking you, the best way to handle that is by maintaining your confidence and not letting it get to you.
Just get on with your life and focus on pursuing your own goals and interests and having fun with or without her.
Let her see (she will probably check up on you on social media), that her actions are not eating away at your confidence and that you’re perfectly fine, no matter what she does.
When she realizes that you’re emotionally strong regardless of what she does, she won’t be able to stop herself from feeling a renewed sense of respect for you as a man.
When she feels respect for you, she will then start to feel attracted again.
When that happens, she stops messing you around by blocking and unblocking you and she becomes open to talking to you on the phone, meeting up with you in person and letting things unfold from there.
Where Guys Go Wrong With an Ex Who Keeps Blocking and Unblocking Them
It’s only natural that a guy will feel confused and even a little bit hurt by his ex’s erratic behavior.
Yet, when he realizes that his reactions are what will either convince her to unblock him for good, or block him permanently and move on, he will make sure not to do things that might turn her off.
For example: Some of the common mistakes that guys make are…
1. Sulking or seeking pity for what she is putting him through by blocking and unblocking him all the time
Sometimes a guy might try to make his ex girlfriend feel sorry for him and feel guilty about the pain he is experiencing, by sulking with her and saying things like, “How can you do this to me? I know I stuffed up, but after everything we had together, I don’t deserve this kind of treatment from you. Why are you messing me around? Do you enjoy torturing me like that? I really thought you were a better person than this.”
Yet, rather than make a woman think, “Damn, he has a point. I really am treating him badly. He doesn’t deserve that,” she instead feels turned off by his emotional weakness and inability to handle her feminine nature (i.e. that side of a woman that will test a man’s confidence by blocking and unblocking him to see how he will react).
As a result, she will lose even more respect for him.
So, if you really want to get your ex girlfriend back, don’t bother sulking and trying to make her feel pity for you.
Instead, focus on reawakening her feelings of respect and sexual attraction for you, so she naturally decides to unblock you and open herself up to interacting with you, so that you and her can get back together again.
Another mistake that other guys make when in your situation is…
2. Asking her to make a decision and stop messing him around, when she’s not even re-attracted yet
As tempting as it might be to say, “Hey, you need to stop messing me around. If you want to block me, do it and if you want to unblock me, do that, but you can’t keep changing your mind and expecting it to be okay with me,” it’s not going to fly with your ex if you haven’t re-attracted her first.
Instead, it might simply backfire on you when she decided to block you permanently, which will make it more difficult for you to interact with her and get her back.
So, don’t bother asking her to decide what she wants.
Instead, used every interaction you have with her (i.e. when she’s unblocked you), to spark her feelings for you.
The more attracted you make her feel, the longer she will keep you unblocked, until she stops altogether because she no longer wants to be out of touch with you.
However, if you don’t make her feel attracted first, the opposite will happen.
She will block you and refuse to talk to you again, making it so much more difficult for you to interact with her and get her back.
Another mistake that other guys make when in your situation is…
3. Being too nice or neutral when texting her and hoping that sparks will fly
Sometimes, when a woman is in one of her unblocking phases, rather than use it to re-attract her, a guy makes the mistake of texting her and being neutral or friendly with her (e.g. he texts things like, “Hi, how are you?” or “It’s been a while! What’s happening with you?”).
The woman then sees this and likely thinks something along the lines of, “Boring! He hasn’t heard from me in ages and this is the best he can do. I guess I was right in blocking him after all. This pointless chit chat is just a waste of my time,” and she then blocks him once again.
So, if you want to break the cycle of blocking and unblocking, rather than text your ex girlfriend and turn her off by being too neutral, just get her on a call instead where you can start re-sparking her feelings for you so that she then wants to meet up with you in person.
Another mistake that other guys make when in your situation is…
4. Giving her too much power during interactions
A guy sometimes doesn’t know how to behave with an ex who is blowing hot and cold, so he decides to just let her call the shots, in the hope that that will make her happy and then she will stop her bad behavior and open back up to him.
Yet, rather than make a woman think, “This is cool. I love the way he lets me be in control. It’s what I always wanted. Now I can give him another chance with me,” she instead loses even more respect for him for not having enough balls to stand up to her.
She might then treat him even worse (e.g. by being bitchy to him during interactions, blaming him for everything that happened between them), to see how he responds.
If he just takes it, she may then decide to block him for good.
So, if you don’t want that to happen to you, make sure you don’t give your ex girlfriend too much power during interactions.
That doesn’t mean you should be a bully to her, but you do need to stand your ground with her in an assertive, yet loving way.
So, don’t let your ex girlfriend call the shots when it comes to interactions and don’t wait for her to make it easy for you to get her back.
Instead, just take the lead, re-attract her and get her back into a relationship with you.
You’re the man and you are in control.
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