5 possible reasons why your ex is moving on faster than you:
1. So she can avoid the pain of the break up
Some women find it difficult to deal with the pain of being broken up.
In fact, according to a study published in Evolutionary and Behavioral Sciences, women experience more emotional pain than men after a breakup.
So, rather than face lonely nights and weekends, or deal with the memories of her failed relationship, a woman will usually try to start dating other guys as quickly as possible (in some cases even a few days or weeks after the break up).
Here’s the thing though…
Just because your ex is moving on faster than you, it doesn’t mean you can’t get her back if you really want to.
The most important thing now is that you don’t allow negative thoughts, such as, “Did our relationship mean nothing to her?” or “Did she ever love me at all, or was everything we had just a lie?” stop you from getting her back.
Thinking that way will only cause you to lose confidence in yourself and potentially delay your attempts to get her back.
If you want her back, you have to do something about it.
You have to actively interact with her (e.g. via text, e-mail, on social media, the phone and in person) and reawaken her feelings for you again.
The more respect and attraction you make her feel for you, the less she will want to move on with someone else.
She will then start wondering, “Why am I feeling like this all of a sudden? Why am I thinking about him all the time? Why does the idea of being with someone else make me feel regret now? Maybe I made a mistake by breaking up with him,” and she opens herself up to the idea of getting back with you.
Another possible reason why your ex is moving on faster than you, is because…
2. You didn’t re-attract her after the break up, so she didn’t feel any motivation to want to get back with you
Regardless of how badly a guy stuffed up in the relationship, a woman can and usually will change how she feels about him if he attracts her.
A man can interact with her and get her respect back, make her feel attracted and she will then begin to feel sparks of love for him again.
Unfortunately, most guys don’t know how to go about doing that.
A guy will try to get her back by telling her how much he still cares about her, apologizing to her over and over again for his past mistakes and promising to do anything she wants if she will just give him another chance.
Yet, that isn’t what re-attracts a woman and motivates a woman to want to get back into a relationship with a guy that she is no longer attracted to.
What will?
Interacting with her and showing her that you are now a new and improved man (e.g. more confident and self-assured, more emotionally independent, more able to stand up for yourself), so she can naturally feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction.
Of course, just showing her that you’ve changed doesn’t get the relationship back together by itself, but does make her think about you in a more positive light.
She then starts to feel differently about moving on with another guy and instead begins to consider the idea of getting back with you.
The next possible reason why your ex is moving on faster than you, is because…
3. You have been waiting for her to want you back, rather than going through the ex back process and getting her back
Sometimes, a guy might think to himself, “If I give my ex enough time apart and allow things between us to calm down, she will start to miss me. She will then get in touch with me, we can fix our problems and get back together. So, the biggest mistake I can make right now is put pressure on her in any way and cause her to close herself off from me even more. When it comes to getting an ex back, slow and steady wins the race. I will cut off contact and wait.”
He then sits around waiting for a sign from his ex that she’s ready to give him another chance, only to be shocked when he realizes that she’s been moving on.
Here’s the thing…
If you want your ex back, you have to be active about it, rather than passive by cutting off contact and waiting.
Don’t sit around waiting for her to give you permission to begin the ex back process.
Get her back.
If you’re not texting, e-mailing, private messaging, calling and meeting up with her in person and reactivating her feelings of respect and attraction for you, then another guy make her feel attracted and take her away from you.
If she has started to move on though, don’t worry.
It’s not too late to get her back.
Just start interacting with her and interrupting the process of her moving on, by making her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
For example: Call her on the phone, or meet up with her in person and then focus on:
- Making her laugh, smile and feel good to be talking to you again.
- Making her feel feminine and girly in your presence, rather than treating her like a neutral friend.
- Flirting with her to create a sexual vibe, rather than being neutral or being on your best behavior around her to not scare her away.
The more sexual and romantic feelings you spark inside of her, the less she will want to cut herself off from you.
Suddenly, she will feel drawn to you in a way that feels good to her and will go back to looking at you as a potential boyfriend again, rather than focusing on moving on without you.
Another possible reason why your ex is moving on faster than you is because…
4. She never really felt a strong enough attraction or love for you
A woman will sometimes date a guy even though she doesn’t feel fully attracted or compatible with him, simply because she doesn’t like being single.
Additionally, sometimes a woman will get into a rebound relationship (the relationship a woman has right after getting out of a serious, long term relationship) with a guy who isn’t her ideal man, just to help herself get over her ex man and not go back to him.
In both cases, a woman will usually justify her decision to date a guy that she’s not fully attracted to by thinking something like, “He’s a nice enough guy. I should at least give him a chance. Maybe he will grow on me over time.”
If the guy can then build on her feelings of respect, attraction and love for him (i.e. grow on her), she will change how she feels about him and she begin thinking of him as her ideal man.
However, if he fails to build on her feelings for him, she will never fully commit herself to being his girl.
She will always secretly be planning to break up with him at some point, even though she will act like she is happy during the relationship.
She will know that when she is ready, she will break up with him and he will be heartbroken.
Then, when she eventually breaks up with him, it will be easy for her to move on because she never felt the kind or attraction and love for him that would cause her to struggle to get over him.
Of course, the good news is that feelings are never set in stone and can and do change.
Even if your ex never felt strong attraction or love for you before, it doesn’t mean that you can’t make her feel like that now.
In fact, when you interact with her and reawaken her feelings of respect and attraction for you (e.g. by making her laugh, smile and feel good to be around you, making her feel like a sexy, desirable woman by being more emotionally masculine than her), she won’t be able to stop herself from feeling drawn to you again.
Even though she may have previously just thought of you as her ‘good enough for now’ guy, she will suddenly start imagining what it would be like to stick with you for the long term.
She will realize that you have leveled up as a man and have now become what she always wanted you to be, so if she doesn’t give you another chance, it will be her who loses out.
As a result, she will feel drawn to you and will want something to happen.
So, don’t let it bother you that your ex is moving on faster than you at the moment.
Just interact with her, reawaken her feelings for you and all of that will change.
Another possible reason why your ex is moving on faster than you, is because…
5. She got lucky and found a replacement quickly
In some cases, a woman meets a new guy pretty quickly after her break up who fills in the gaps she felt were lacking in her relationship with her ex (e.g. he’s more confident, he makes her feel like a feminine woman around him rather than like a friend, he doesn’t give her too much power over him).
If she is lucky to find a guy like that right away, she will use him to get over her ex and move on.
Yet, here’s the thing…
Just because she is happy with him now, it doesn’t mean that he is the one for her, or that you can’t get her back now.
You can get her back.
So, call her on the phone or meet up with her in person, reactivate her feelings for you and she will immediately begin to doubt her decision to move on so quickly without you.
3 Common Mistakes That Guys Make When They Realize Their Ex is Moving On Faster Than Them
Although it doesn’t feel nice to see your ex moving on while you’re still missing her, you need to maintain control of your emotions and interact with her in a way that makes her want you back, rather than turning her off and causing her to want to continue moving on without you.
So, to avoid making it easier for her to get over you, be sure to avoid making one or more of the following mistakes:
1. Asking her if she ever loved you
Simply asking a woman, “Did you ever really love you?” causes her to feel turned off and naturally want to say something like, “I don’t know…maybe. I’m not sure.”
Why?
When a man is insecure about his attractiveness and value to a woman and has to ask whether or not she sees him as being good enough, a woman loses respect and attraction for him.
Women are not attracted to men who need a woman to reassure them of their love or devotion, in order for him to feel confident, worthy, happy or secure about himself and his place in her life.
Women are attracted to men who believe in themselves no matter what a woman says or does.
When you are that type of guy, women automatically love you.
However, when you have ask them, “Do you still love me?” or, “Are you still attracted to me?” or, “Did you ever really love me?” then you’re the kind of guy who automatically ruins a woman’s feelings for you.
So, don’t put yourself in that position.
Just believe in yourself and know that she loved you.
Thinking or saying anything else automatically causes women to lose respect and attraction for you and then question whether or not they really loved you.
Based on the lack of respect and attraction she will be feeling, the answer that will come through for her will be something like, “Well, now that you ask…maybe I didn’t really love you. It took you asking me that to realize it.”
Unfortunately, many guys don’t realize that and mistakenly ask their ex woman something like, “How could you move on so quickly? Are you really that shallow? Didn’t our love mean anything to you? Did you even love me, or was it all a big joke to you?”
Although he is being honest about his feelings, his lack of belief in himself with turn her off.
Additionally, trying to make her feel guilty about moving on, isn’t going to make her want him back.
Rather than think, “He’s right. I am shallow for moving on so quickly! I have to get back with him right now!” she will feel annoyed with him for being so weak minded, doubting himself and trying to make her feel guilty for moving on without him.
The next mistake to avoid making is…
2. Thinking that you have no chance to get her back now that she is moving on
When an ex is moving on, a guy might begin to think, “Well…I guess I’ve lost her then. There’s no way I can get her back now. I should just accept it. Even though I still care for her and want her back, she’ll never be mine again. It’s over between us.”
By thinking in that way, he’s actually preventing himself from moving forward and becoming the kind of man who can attract her back (e.g. confident, determined, a go-getter, emotionally masculine).
If he then happens to interact with his ex on a phone call or in person and she senses his defeatist, self-doubting attitude (i.e. that he’s given up on the idea of attracting her back, feels unworthy of her now), she will see it as a sign that she made the right decision to break up with him and will continue to move on.
Here’s the thing…
Even though it’s difficult to watch your ex moving quickly, you shouldn’t allow your feelings to paralyze and stop you from doing what you need to do to get her back.
If you don’t take action (e.g. by changing and improving, interacting with her and reawakening some of her feelings of respect and attraction for you), not only will you continue feeling depressed, but you also lessen or ruin your chances of getting her back.
Why?
While you sit around assuming you don’t have a chance with her anymore, you’re just giving her more time to get over you and possibly even fall in love with another guy.
So, if you want her back, stop focusing on the pain of the situation and focus instead on what is actually required to get her back.
The next mistake to avoid making is…
3. Losing confidence in his value to her and other women
Naturally, seeing his ex moving on while he’s not can really dent a man’s confidence and self-esteem.
For example: He might say to himself, “She was the only woman who truly wanted me and now that she’s gone, I’m lost without her. She doesn’t want me and I will never be able to get myself another beautiful woman like her. If I’m honest with myself, I’d have to admit that my chances of starting over with another quality woman like her are close to zero. Most women these days aren’t interested in ordinary guys like me. They only want very good looking guys with big muscles, lots of money and fancy cars. I just can’t compete with that. I’m never going to find another woman. I’m going to end up single and lonely for the rest of my life. It’s hopeless.”
Yet, here’s the thing…
A woman’s attraction to a man’s physical appearance isn’t as powerful as her emotional attraction to him.
What matters most to a woman is who he is when she’s interacting with him and that makes her feel (i.e. is he confident or insecure, is he charismatic or awkward, is he emotionally masculine or emotionally sensitive?).
That’s what really matters.
So, don’t waste a lot of time sitting around putting yourself down because your ex is moving on faster than you.
You have to believe yourself and your ability to re-attract her.
Even though she has been moving on, when she experiences the new you, she will naturally begin to feel like she made a mistake to leave you.
When her guard comes down, you can then build on her feelings and get her back.
So, don’t waste any more time doubting yourself and focus instead on doing whatever you need to do to get her back.
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