Here are the 4 most common reasons why a woman will do that:
1. She cheated on you at her bachelorette party
This is probably the last thing a guy wants to believe about his fiancé, but it can sometimes happen when alcohol is involved.
A woman might get carried away during her bachelorette party (i.e. because she’s had too much to drink and her inhibitions are down, the environment is open to flirting, sex and wildness, there are male strippers who are making moves on her to make her girlfriends cheer) and before she knows it, she’s cheating on her fiancé with one of the strippers or entertainers.
Then, the next morning when she realizes what she did, she may decide to call off her wedding.
For example: Some of her reasons for doing that might be…
- She feels guilty for cheating on her fiancé right before the wedding.
- She’s disgusted with herself and is punishing herself for what she did by losing the man she loves.
- She sees it as a sign that her fiancé is not the right guy for her after all.
- She’s had her doubts about her feelings for her fiancé and now she has proof that she doesn’t really love him enough to want to spend the rest of her life with him.
- She realized she felt more attracted to the guy she had sex with at her bachelorette party than her fiancé.
Here’s the thing though…
If your fiancé cheated on you at her bachelorette party, it doesn’t really matter why she did it, only that she did it.
The fact is, in a relationship, a man and a woman must be able to fully trust each other, or else it will lead to arguments and fights and eventually the love will erode too much for the relationship to stay together.
So, right now, you need to decide if your fiancé is worth getting back with, or if you’re just going to cut your losses and find yourself another, more loyal and trustworthy woman than her.
However, if you decide that you’re willing to forgive your fiancé for cheating on you at her bachelorette party and get her back , you need to be sure of two very important things.
Firstly, you need to ensure that your reasons for wanting her back are because you know she’s the one for you and not for other reasons (e.g. you secretly fear that you won’t be able to find yourself another, even better and more attractive woman than her, you feel embarrassed about telling everyone that it’s over at this late stage, you don’t want to disappoint your family).
If you are only trying to get her back because you feel insecure about yourself and your chances of finding another woman, or because you don’t want to let anyone down, you’re going to end up hurting yourself more somewhere down the line if you find yourself married to this woman, you have children with her and she cheats on you again.
Secondly, if you agree to take her back after she cheated on you, you have to be able to fully forgive her so you can both move forward with a clean slate.
If you get back with her and can’t fully trust her so you become clingy, needy, jealous or controlling, the relationship isn’t going to last.
So, make sure that you’re truly ready to put what happened behind you and make your relationship work if you get back with your fiancé.
If you’re not, let her go and find yourself a woman who deserves to be with a great guy like you.
Another common reason why a woman will call off her wedding after her bachelorette party is…
2. She’s always had her doubts and doesn’t want to keep pretending that everything is okay
Most couples will experience some doubts before their big day where they wonder things like, “Is he/she really the one for me?” or, “Am I really ready to settle down with just one man/woman for the rest of my life?”
In most cases, those doubts are fleeting and go away pretty quickly when the other person makes them feel loved, appreciated and wanted.
However, in some instances, the doubts will continue to eat away at a woman (or man) and she may begin to feel confused, depressed, uneasy and even trapped.
However, by this stage the wedding plans and other arrangements will likely have already been made (e.g. the invitations have been sent out, everything has been ordered/booked/paid for, guests from afar have started to arrive), so she might suppress her doubts by telling herself things like, “It’s just pre-wedding jitters. I will feel better once all the stress of organizing everything is over. Besides, he’s a great guy and I could do a lot worse than him. I’m just being silly.”
Yet, those feelings never truly go away.
Then, if she finds herself at her bachelorette party and realizes that this is her last chance to back out if she wants to, she may finally pluck up the courage to listen to her instincts and call off the wedding before it’s too late.
In your case, if your fiancé felt unsure about her feelings for you (e.g. because you treat her more like a friend than the woman you love and want to spend the rest of your life with, you don’t have much ambition and aren’t really moving forward in life, you’re insecure about your value to her so you behave in needy, jealous or controlling ways, you lack the balls to stand up to her or other people when they’re taking advantage of you), then it’s only natural that when the time came for her to settle down with you for real, she would have panicked.
So, to prevent herself from making a big mistake and regretting it later on when things between you and her had gotten more complicated (e.g. you now have children to think about, divorces are expensive and emotionally messy), your ex may have decided to call off the wedding before it became too late.
This is why, if you decide that she’s truly the woman for you and that you want her back, you need to address the underlying issues that caused her to call off the wedding in the first place.
You can’t brush everything under the carpet and assume that bunches of flowers or gifts, or you begging her to give you another chance will change how she currently feels.
Instead, you need to be prepared to figure out exactly what caused her to doubt her feelings for you and then quickly make some attractive changes and improvements to yourself to re-attract her and make her regret her decision to call off the wedding.
You have to show her over time (i.e. over the next few days and weeks), that you really are the right man for her, so she wants to be your wife.
When she gets confronted with the man she always dreamed of being with all along, her doubts will naturally drift away and she won’t be able to resist the idea of giving your relationship another chance.
Another common reason why a woman will call off her wedding after her bachelorette party is…
3. She realized that she just can’t let go of the single life and wants to party with her girlfriends again
In some cases, a woman might feel some social pressure to get into a relationship with a guy and settle down (e.g. because her friends are doing it, her family is nagging her, she’s worried that she might miss out if she doesn’t do it soon).
So, if she finds a nice guy that she enjoys being with, she may convince herself that he’s the one for her and that she’s ready to give up the single life to be with him.
However, at the back of her mind she may always be thinking things like, “I really miss being able to do whatever I want without having to answer to anyone else. Sometimes I feel like I’m suppressing my true self just to please my fiancé/my family. I wish I could just let down my hair and party without worrying about what anyone else will say or think.”
So, when she finds herself at her bachelorette party and suddenly for the first time in a long time she starts having a fun and enjoying herself (e.g. drinking, dancing, flirting), it might finally be the thing that convinces her that she’s not ready to give all that up to settle down with one man for life.
As a result, she calls off the wedding so she can experience all the things she feels that she’s missing out on.
Yet, here’s the thing…
If a woman is happy in her relationship with her man, nothing about the single life would be able to make her feel tempted to give up what she’s got.
She won’t want to be single again because what she has now is way better than anything else she might experience on her own.
This is why, if your ex called off the wedding after her bachelorette party because she was feeling more drawn to the single life than to you at this time, you need to show her that being with you will be so much better.
How can you do that?
By actively sparking her sexual and romantic feelings for you again every time you interact with her on a phone call or in person (e.g. by making her laugh and smile, making her feel like a sexy and desirable woman in your presence, being more ballsy, showing her that you’re a new man).
When she feels more attracted to you than she ever has before (i.e. because you are now making her feel attracted in new and exciting ways), she will quickly regret her decision to call off the wedding.
Suddenly being single doesn’t seem so appealing to her anymore and she wants to be your wife more than anything else.
Another common reason why a woman will call off her wedding after her bachelorette party is…
4. She’s bored of the relationship and worries that a marriage will be even worse
Sometimes a woman might notice that her relationship with her guy isn’t as exciting or fun as that of her friends and acquaintances and she may often find herself worrying about it and thinking things like, “Is this normal? Maybe I’m just expecting too much. Different people have different relationships. Ours just happens to be more routine and ordinary. There’s nothing wrong with that, is there? So what if there’s no spark anymore. Most couples lose that after they’ve been with each other for a while, right?”
Of course, in most cases the woman will quickly push those thoughts out of her mind by telling herself something along the lines of, “You’re being selfish and ungrateful. He’s a nice guy and you’re lucky to have him.”
She may then distract herself with the excitement of planning the wedding.
However, at her bachelorette party the reality of what she’s about to do (i.e. settle down with him for life) suddenly dawns on her and she may begin to panic and think things like, “If I’m already feeling bored, what will being married to him for 10, 20 or 30 years feel like? I don’t want my marriage to feel like a prison sentence and I don’t want to be the woman who sits around being jealous of all the other couples who are living happy and exciting lives. I don’t think I can go through with this.”
As a result, she calls off the wedding and then focuses on moving on and finding a new man who can make her feel the way she wants to feel when she’s with him.
Here’s the thing…
Gone are the days where a woman would go through with a wedding, or stay in a relationship regardless of how unhappy she felt, simply because it was expected of her (i.e. for the sake of her family and because it was frowned upon socially).
In today’s world, a woman can walk away from her relationship, even on the eve of her wedding, if her guy can’t give her the attraction experience she really wants.
So, if your fiancé called off your wedding because she was bored in the relationship, to get her back you need to re-spark her feelings for you by showing her that you’re no longer the same guy she broke up with (i.e. via your attitude, actions, behavior and the way you respond to her from now on).
When you make her feel respect, excitement and attraction every time you interact with her, the more she will begin to regret her decision to call of the wedding.
She will want to hang out with you more to experience the new and exciting you for herself.
As she is doing that, she will naturally convince herself that she wants to hug you again, kiss you and have sex with you.
When that happens, the relationship automatically gets back together.
She will then only want to be together in a committed relationship, because that’s when she feels the happiest, most fulfilled and most excited.
Get Your Fiancé Back By Avoiding These 3 Mistakes
Even though right now things might look bleak, it’s not difficult to get your fiancé back.
When you approach the ex back process in the right way, you can be walking down the aisle sooner than you may have thought possible.
However, if you approach it the wrong way, you can turn her off even more and then getting her back becomes really difficult for you.
So, if you want to get to that wedding on time (i.e. get her back and get married), make sure you avoid the following mistakes:
1. Pleading with her to change her mind, rather than accepting it and giving her a week of space
As much as you probably want to talk your fiancé out of her decision, begging and pleading with her and saying things like, “Baby, please don’t walk away from what we have together! You’re the love of my life and if I can’t marry you like we planned for so long, it will destroy me. Just tell me what you want me to do to make you want to be my wife again. I will do anything! I only want to be with you. Please, reconsider your decision,” in the heat of the moment, it will usually only make her want to run away even more.
Why?
To justify her decision to herself and others, she’s already made up a list of reasons why she had to call off the wedding (e.g. you’re too clingy and needy, you’re jealous and controlling, you’ve been taking her for granted).
So, if you now start begging and pleading with her to change her mind, rather than make reconsider her decision, she will likely add insecure and emotionally weak to the list too.
You don’t want to give her more reasons not to come back to you, you want to make her miss you and realize that she made a huge mistake.
This is why, the best approach is to simply accept her decision in a calm, confident way and then give her a week of space where you don’t contact her all.
She will either begin to miss you right away and contact you herself, or if she doesn’t, just call her after a week and begin re-sparking her feelings of respect, attraction and love for you again (e.g. by making her laugh and smile, flirting with her to create attraction).
Just don’t push her to get back with you.
Let her come to that conclusion on her own, by making her feel so much love, respect and attraction for you again, that the idea of losing you makes her feel terrified.
Another mistake to avoid is…
2. Not improving your ability to give her the kind of attraction experience she really wants
If you try to make your fiancé recommit to the same kind of relationship that she just left, she’s going to keep saying things like, “I’m sorry, but I’ve made up my mind. I just don’t want to marry you anymore.”
This is why it’s very important that when you try to get your ex back, you offer her a new and improved attraction experience.
For example: Some of the ways you can do that are…
Instead of putting up with her bad behavior like you used to (e.g. when she sulks or throws a tantrum, when she demands that you do things her way), you stand up to her and put her back in her place in a loving, but firm manner.
Instead of putting her above yourself in terms of value like you used to, you now realize that not only are you good enough for her, she’s actually the one who is lucky to have a guy like you.
Instead of being a nice and sweet and predictable all the time, you’re now more of a challenge.
Instead of being the perfect gentleman who doesn’t say or do anything that’s out of line, you now flirt with her and use ballsy humor to make her feel strong surges of sexual desire for you.
The more that you give her the kind of attraction experience she always wanted from you, but never got, the more she feels like she just has to get back with you, or else she might end up regretting it for the rest of her life.
Another mistake to avoid is…
3. Not making her feel like she can choose what she wants
It’s only natural that you’re going to be feeling a bit shocked right now and you’re likely going to want to understand why this happened.
However, if you insist on having long, drawn out discussions with your ex fiancé about why she did this and then try to convince her to change her mind, you may end up getting the opposite result (i.e. she sticks to her decision).
Here’s the thing…
A woman doesn’t want to be made to feel like she can’t choose what she wants, even if that means calling off her wedding at the last minute.
She wants to feel free to think, act, behave and choose whatever she wants and that her man supports her in her decisions, even if he doesn’t always like them.
So, if you want to get to the point where your ex fiancé becomes your wife, you need to make her feel that it’s what she really wants to do.
However, don’t try to do it by through words, because she’s not going to listen to you.
Instead, just focus on interacting with her and using flirting and humor to reactivate her feelings for you and make her realize, on her own, that losing you is something she doesn’t want to do.
When she gets to that point by herself, everything falls back into place.
You can then finally walk down the aisle and make her your wife, knowing you’ve both been through a big test of your love for each other and you passed with flying colors!
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