If your ex girlfriend doesn’t feel very attached to you anymore, then she is going to open herself up to being with other guys.
When she hooks up with another guy, she won’t really be missing you or worrying about you and will simply begin to move on without you.
On the other hand, if you take action now to make her feel emotionally attached to you again, then she will feel drawn to you and won’t want to open herself up to other guys.
If she happens to go on a date with a new guy in the meantime, she won’t be fully invested into it and will be wondering whether or not she should just get back with you.
So, how can you make her feel emotionally attached to you again, so she only wants to be with you?
Here are 5 things you can do:
1. Attract her in new, more mature ways
For example: In the relationship, a guy stopped acting manly around his girlfriend and instead, became a bit of a wimp (e.g. emotionally sensitive, needy, jealous).
His girlfriend then stopped feeling attracted to him sexually and romantically and as a result, no longer felt that boyfriend-girlfriend attachment that she felt initially.
All of a sudden, she starts to feel as though he is like a stranger to her, or like a guy who is just hanging around her and trying to hold onto something that just isn’t there anymore.
If a woman feels that way long enough, she will eventually break up with her boyfriend.
So, in a case like that where a guy is trying to get his ex girlfriend to feel attached to him again, he needs to interact with her and attract her in new, more mature ways.
Rather than being emotionally sensitive, needy or jealous, he needs to let her see that he is now very confident and emotionally independent.
When she sees that he really is different now and more importantly, she really does feel differently while interacting with him, she will naturally start to reconnect with the attachment she used to have for him.
How about you?
Can you think of any ways that you behaved in the relationship that she would have seen as immature or unattractive?
For example:
- Getting into arguments with her when she was moody, rather than being mature and emotionally strong enough to change her mood with humor, flirting or playful behavior. Mature men who know how to handle women are aware of the fact that you don’t always have to get into arguments with a moody woman.
- Taking her tantrums too seriously because you expected a woman to behave more like you (a man), where she should always maintain a steady mood. You took her seriously because you didn’t realize that a woman’s mood changes all throughout the month (not just during her period) due to the ovulation cycle and how it effects her hormones.
- Wanting to check her phone to see if she was messaging anyone and if so, what she was saying and what it could mean. A mature man knows that the best solution to keeping a woman faithful is to create a relationship dynamic where she wants to impress you and feels lucky to be with you. Then, give her your 100% trust and don’t see any other man as competition for your woman. If you do that, a woman will always respect you, feel attracted to you, love you and want to be with you and only you. She will know that it will be her loss if she loses you, because the majority of men never truly figure out how to approach relationships with women in a mature, effective way that results in a loving, passionate, happy relationship that lasts for life.
The list goes on.
There are so many subtle things that you might not be aware of when it comes to women and how to handle them in a relationship.
However, if you are willing to learn and then interact with her and attract her in new, more mature ways, she will definitely feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
When she feels that, she will then begin to worry that if she doesn’t get back with you, she will regret it for the rest of her life.
As a result, she will naturally begin to feel attached to you again.
2. Meet up with her, re-attract her and create new, unforgettable moments based on how you and her now connect
So many guys get stuck in the ex back process by simply texting their ex girlfriend and hoping that something happens.
Yet, the reality is that if you want to fully reawaken her sexual and romantic feelings, you need to meet up with her in person and let her experience the new and improved you for herself.
If you don’t think she will agree to meet up with you, then make sure that you ask her on a phone call, or video call, rather than text.
It’s way too easy for a woman to play hard to get via text, or say yes and then cancel later, but if you talk to her on the phone (and get her laughing and feeling good) and then suggest catching up, she is so much more likely to agree and stick to her decision to meet up.
One of the reasons why is that she can see that you’re not being needy, desperate or awkward about the whole thing.
You’re being confident, easy-going and have the courage to joke around with her to get her laughing and feeling good when talking to you.
As a result, she feels as though if you and her met up in person, it would be like that as well.
Yet, if she gets the sense that a meet up with you would be tense, awkward and uncomfortable, she will naturally want to say no, or cancel after agreeing.
So, if you’re talking to her on a phone call, or video call and have gotten her laughing, smiling and feeling good, you can then say something like this.
“Hey, I know that we’re not a couple anymore and I totally accept your decision to be broken up. We’re never getting back together and I accept that. However, I really do believe that we’re mature enough to be able to meet up for a coffee as friends and say hi. It would be good to catch up, have a chat and say goodbye on good terms. So, let’s have a coffee sometime this week. I’m not busy on Wednesday or Thursday, so any of those days is fine. How about 7pm on Thursday?”
She will most likely agree, but if she doesn’t, you can always add on this, “Okay, well let’s agree to this then. After we catch up to say hi, if you never want to see me again, I promise that I will never contact you again. So, let’s catch up for a coffee. Thursday at 7pm. See you then?”
Then, when you meet up, make sure that you are ready to attract her in new ways and create new, unforgettable moments based on how you now connect with each other.
Based on the changes you’ve made to your approach to her, you and her connect on a whole new level.
It feels exciting for the both of you.
She feels so much more respect for you than she did in the past because you really have leveled up as a man and as a result, she feels more feminine and girly in comparison to you.
A new spark develops between you and she begins to feel attached to you in a new way.
She doesn’t feel the need to keep her guard up and look at you as her ex boyfriend that she no longer wants anything to do with.
Instead, you and her automatically begin creating a new bond based on who you are and how you make each other feel now.
Once you’ve established a new, more appealing connection, you should then progress to giving her a hug, a kiss and then hook up with her sexually.
Another thing you can do to make your ex girlfriend feel attached to you again is…
3. Attract her in new ways and let her see that you are interested in her, but don’t need her back
Where a lot of guys go wrong when trying to get an ex girlfriend back, is that they make it obvious that they want a relationship BEFORE they’ve even re-attracted her.
That’s a failing strategy that almost always results in rejection, because without attraction, she isn’t going to feel a strong enough boyfriend-girlfriend connection to feel attached and want to get back together.
So, if you begin talking about getting back together without first giving her a different and more interesting attraction experience than what she’s had with you in the past, then she’s almost certainly not going to feel motivated enough to open back up and love you again like she used to.
Instead, she’s will focus on moving on by finding herself a new man who can make her feel attracted and turned on in the ways that she feels you can’t (e.g. if you’ve become too needy of her, then she will feel attracted to a man who is more of a challenge and who makes her feel needy for him).
So, if you want to make her feel attached to you, start attracting her in new and interesting ways so she feels drawn to you again, but don’t put any pressure on her to get back together.
For example:
- If you were always nice and sweet to her in the past, start being more challenging and ballsy, while still being a good guy to her.
- If you’ve become nervous and unsure of yourself around her since the break up, focus on being more confident and self-assured. Women are always attracted to confidence in men and turned off by insecurity, so make sure that she doesn’t sense that you are insecure, unsure of yourself or doubting yourself around her.
- If she has become more dominant during conversations, change the dynamic from now on by laughing at her in a loving way and showing her that she can’t dominate you with her confident personality anymore. Don’t tell her that though. Just let her see that you no longer feel intimidated, or no longer feel the need to be cautious and worried around her. You have gotten your balls/courage back, but are still being good to her.
- If you always bent over backwards to please her in the past, start being more of a challenge around her so she feels as though she needs to work hard to impress you too, rather than everything being so one-sided.
When you have made her feel attracted in new ways, let her see that you are interested in her by flirting with her and letting her see your attraction for her via your body language.
Yet, don’t come across as though you’re after a relationship.
Let her be the one who wants to get back together and she will then automatically feel attached to you in a way that is exciting and compelling for her.
Another thing you can do to make your ex girlfriend feel attached to you again is…
4. Do fun, interesting or adventurous things with friends and let her feel like she is missing out
After a break up, many guys want to curl up in bed and hide from the world while they privately deal with their pain.
That is one of the main reasons why you shouldn’t.
Women are attracted to the confidence, emotional strength and emotional independence of men (i.e. not needy).
So, if you want your ex to feel attracted and attached to you again, she’s not going to feel that if it seems as though you’re needy for her, or in pain without her.
What makes an ex feel attracted and attached very quickly, is the fear of missing out, or the fear of being left behind and having to live with regret.
This is why it’s so important for you to get out of bed, or the house and do fun, outdoor activities with friends where you can take photos and post them to social media.
Let her see how confident, happy and forward moving you are without her, so she can feel attracted to your emotional strength and emotional independence and as a result, feel like she is losing a man that she is attracted to.
Unfortunately, a lot of guys simply don’t understand how a woman’s attraction work.
As a result, a guy will sometimes believe that if he comes across as sad and lonely, it will make his ex girlfriend feel guilty and she will then open up to giving him another chance with her.
Alternatively, he might hope that she sees that he is being 100% loyal to her and isn’t interested in being around other people and potentially meeting new women.
He hopes that will make her realize how lucky she is to have such a loyal, loving guy who is still committed to her after the break up.
Yet, that’s just not how it works.
If a woman breaks up with a guy that she no longer feels enough respect, attraction or love to be in a relationship with, she isn’t going to get back with him because he wants her so badly.
What makes a woman want to get back with a man is when he has the courage to make her want him back badly.
Most guys don’t have the courage to do it, because they worry it (i.e. posting up photos of themselves having fun with other people) will piss her off and make her want to move on.
So, a guy will often just sit around waiting and hoping that his ex girl comes back because he’s not doing anything without her.
Weeks or months later, he will find out that she has moved on with another guy and his plan didn’t work.
Of course it didn’t.
If you want a woman back, you’ve got to re-attract her so she has a reason to be back with you.
Any other plan or strategy is just gambling with your chances to get her back and it’s usually a losing bet.
The winning bet is always to re-attract and let the woman feel the desire to want to be back together.
Then, you let her get back with you.
Unfortunately, a lot of guys who lose their girlfriend don’t know how to do that, or don’t have the courage to do it, so they never get her back.
Another thing you can do to make your ex girlfriend feel attached to you again is…
5. Reawaken her feelings of romantic love
A woman feels romantic love for a man that she is sexually attracted to and wants to be with.
If you want to get your ex to feel attached to you again, you absolutely must focus on making her feel sexually attracted to you in new and interesting ways.
When you do that, she will automatically begin to feel romantic love for you and when that happens, she will feel attached to you in a new way.
She will see you as the man she no longer wants to be broken up with.
She wants to be with you sexually and romantically.
She wants to spend time with you and make things work.
As a result, you get her back naturally and easily.
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