To begin with, just reply with…
1. Lol…
This shows her that you see her fake, annoyed or disinterested behavior in a funny way.
You’re not worried or taking her too seriously.
Instead, you still feel confident about yourself, even though she is being blunt and trying to put you off or make you feel uncertain about where you stand with her.
Remember: Women are naturally attracted to confidence in men, so when you project a confident, self-assured energy, she will naturally look at you in a more positive light, even if she pretends not to.
Don’t be afraid to show her that you’re not intimidated by her bluntness.
Let her see that, even though you still have feelings for her and want her back, you don’t actually need her back, or even need her to be nice to you, to feel confident about yourself and your value to her.
You don’t need her to send nice, sweet, friendly texts to feel good about yourself.
You already feel good about yourself.
The more she notices that you’re not falling for her bad behavior (i.e. because you’re not getting upset and asking her why she’s being so blunt towards you), the more she will begin to feel rushes of respect for you again.
Even though she probably won’t openly admit it to you, she will be impressed that you’re being an emotionally strong, independent man who is handling her bluntness in a confident way.
As she begins to respect you, she will also start to feel some sexual and romantic attraction and that is the opening you need to begin getting her back.
Another example of how to respond to blunt texts from your ex is…
2. Use humor to bring her guard down
Humor is a very effective way to make a woman stop putting up walls every time she gets a text from you.
Humor via text, even though she probably won’t admit it to you, will make her smile, laugh and feel happy to be hearing from you.
When she is laughing and smiling, it becomes a lot more difficult for her to be blunt or bitchy towards you.
So, don’t be afraid to use humor to diffuse the tension between you and her and make her look forward to your texts.
For example: Imagine that you send your ex a text to say hi and she responds with something along the lines of, “What do you want?”
She will likely be expecting you to get upset and possibly even respond with something like, “Why are you being so blunt with me? I contacted you to say hi because really wanted to know if you’re okay. I’ve already told you that I’m sorry for what happened. Can’t we at least try to be civil to each other?”
Instead of reacting to her bluntness in a negative way, you can shock her (in a good way) by being emotionally strong and taking the risk to joke with her.
So, when she texts you something blunt like, “What do you want?” you might reply with something like, “I want me to cook me that noodle dish you used to make. I’m hungry, so get in the kitchen. I’ll come over” and then add a smiley face emoji with the tongue sticking out 😛
She will likely smile or laugh at your response and she will be wondering, “I thought he would respond by trying to suck up to me, but instead he’s being funny. This is so unlike him. What has gotten into him?”
She then becomes more open to texting back and forth to see if you really have changed or if your confident, fearless reply was just an act.
By the way…
She will likely continue being blunt to you for a little while longer to make sure that your confidence wasn’t just a front.
So, be prepared for that.
She may even act (yes, act) like she is angry.
Don’t take it seriously.
If you joke around with someone, you have not done anything wrong.
If they get angry about it, they know that they’re being ridiculous.
So, don’t ever worry if a woman you’re in a relationship with, or an ex woman gets angry over a joke.
That is her issue, not yours.
Of course, not all women who have been sending blunt texts to their ex guy react in the same way.
Some will send a rolling eyes emoji to act unimpressed by the joke, some will send an angry face, some will send a smiley face with a tongue sticking out and some will send nothing.
This is why, by the way, you shouldn’t try to get your ex back just via text.
Sometimes, you just need to have the balls to call her, even if you think she doesn’t want to hear from you…
Get her on a call so she can sense the new and more confident confident, emotionally stronger version of you is for real.
When she notices that you really have changed, her guard will come down and she will become more open to meeting up with you in person to see how she feels.
Another example of how to respond to blunt texts from your ex is…
3. Stop trying to get her to want a relationship via text
This is one of the main reasons why a woman will be blunt when texting her ex.
The romantic feelings aren’t mutual and the guy is either asking for another chance, or hinting at it.
As a result, she keeps her guard up and thinks something along the lines of, “He still hasn’t realized that we have broken up for a reason. He thinks that all he has to do is say that he’s sorry and then I will magically want to be his woman again. What he doesn’t get, is that I don’t have romantic feelings for him anymore. He hasn’t even awoken my feelings yet. He wants me back, but I still don’t even want him back. So, even though he’s going on and on about how much he cares for me and how he thinks we can work things out, all I feel like want to do is to get on with my life.”
As a result, she then responds to his texts in a blunt way, in the hope that he will give up and leave her alone.
Here’s the thing…
Getting back into a relationship is the last step of the ex back process, not the first, second or third.
The first step is to reactivate your ex’s feelings of respect, attraction and love for you in person, so that she wants to get back together again.
That’s how it works.
Attraction first, relationship last.
So, don’t push for a relationship if you haven’t re-sparked her feelings for you, because she won’t respond favorably to you.
Another example of how to respond to blunt texts from your ex is…
4. Make sure that you’re not being super nice, or sucking up to her via text
After a break up, a guy might make the mistake of being on his very best behavior when texting his ex, in the hope that she will then forgive him and open up to giving him another chance because of how good he is being to her.
Yet, in most cases, sucking up to a woman has the opposite effect when it comes to romantic relationships.
Here’s the thing…
If a woman smells desperation from a guy, she gets turned off because she perceives the guy as being too emotionally weak and wimpy for her.
It also gives her a false sense of superiority over him, which makes her end up thinking that she is more valuable than him, even though she isn’t.
Then, rather than think, “Awww, he’s really such a sweet guy to me, even when I’m being a bitch to him. That must mean he really loves me. Maybe I should lighten up and give him another chance,” she instead thinks things like, “It’s so annoying to see a grown man act like a total wuss because he thinks that sucking up to me is the key to getting me back. The funny thing is that if I had any doubts before, him being such a doormat after the break up has convinced me that I made the right decision to end things with him. I can now move on without any regrets. He’s not the one for me. He’s not man enough for a woman like me.”
A woman wants to be with a man that she can look up to and respect, not a guy that submits to her and allows her to walk all over him, just so that he can get her back.
So, if you want to stop getting blunt texts from your ex, make sure that she doesn’t perceive you as being desperate.
Of course, that doesn’t mean you should be mean to her, treat her with disdain or disrespect or act like you don’t care about her.
Instead, focus on interacting with her in a confident, self-assured way, where you are being good to her, but aren’t letting her walk all over you.
When she can see for herself that you’re not bothered by her bluntness and are turning the tables on her by making her laugh and smile, she will automatically feel respect and attraction for you.
She will then become open to talking on the phone and meeting up in person, making it so much easier for you to fully reactivate her feelings for you and get her back.
Where Guys Go Wrong With an Ex Who is Being Blunt Via Text
Now that you have a better idea of how to respond to blunt texts from an ex, here are a few mistakes to avoid making:
1. Thinking that text is the only way to get her back
Sometimes a guy assumes that because his ex said things like, “Don’t bother calling me, because I won’t answer” when they originally broke up, the only way to get in touch with her is via text.
By only texting her, he might also be secretly hoping that she will be impressed about the fact that he is following her instructions (i.e. not calling her).
He may also think, “I will tell her how I feel via text and she can have time to think about it. Maybe that will make her react in a better way, rather than rejecting me on a phone call.”
Yet, in almost all ex back cases, the opposite is actually true. Why?
If a woman has lost touch with her feelings of respect, attraction and love for her ex guy, getting a text from him where he trying to get her back only turns her off even more.
Why?
She realizes that he has romantic feelings for her, but she doesn’t feel the same way about him.
Think about how that plays out when guys are trying to pick up women or get a woman out on a date.
When the romantic feelings aren’t mutual, the woman doesn’t react well to offers that seem as though the guy is after a relationship.
The same applies to the ex back process.
So, if a guy is trying to get his ex back purely via text and is trying to convey his feelings or ‘work things out with her’ (so he can get a relationship), her guard will remain up.
Then, instead of opening up to the idea of talking to him over the phone and meeting up with him in person, she instinctively feels turned off and doesn’t like the idea of texting with him.
Additionally, because she can’t see his body language, hear the tonality of his voice, or judge his actions and behavior in person or on a phone call, she will almost certain assume that he is hiding behind texts because he hasn’t really changed or improved anything about himself and is too afraid to face her in person, where she will be able to see it for herself.
Here’s the thing…
Although texting an ex to break the ice is perfectly fine (especially if she’s not answering her phone), it’s not very effective in making her want to have a relationship again.
Instead, when she realizes that her ex doesn’t have the courage or motivation to call or meet up with her and instead he just wants to hide behind the safety of text messages, she will almost certainly feel annoyed and turned off by him and what he’s trying to achieve with her.
She will then respond to his texts as bluntly as possible in the hope that he will get the message (i.e. that she’s not interested) and leave her alone.
At the same time, she will focus even more on moving on by finding herself a replacement man.
Then, if or when her ex finally plucks up the courage to call her sometime in the future, she can then say to him, “Sorry, but it’s too late. I’m in a relationship now and it would be disrespectful towards him to continue speaking with you, so please don’t call me or text me again. I don’t want to ruin what I have with him. You’ve done enough damage in my life. Just accept that it’s over. Goodbye.”
Another mistake to avoid making is…
2. Thinking that she would be annoyed or would never answer if you called her
Maybe she would, maybe she won’t.
However, isn’t it worth the risk?
At least if you do call her and she reacts by seeming a bit annoyed, you can use that as an opportunity to spark her feelings for you by using humor to turn her bad mood around by getting her laughing and smiling.
On the other hand, if you only stick to texting, she will probably stop replying to you sooner rather than later and then what will you do?
Text her more?
It almost certainly won’t work.
I hear from guys all the time who’ve been blocked by their ex woman for doing it.
So, don’t be afraid of the dreaded phone call, even if you think she might not like it initially or she prefers text.
It doesn’t matter what she prefers.
What matters is what works.
Just get her laughing, smiling and enjoying talking with you on a phone call and you will be so much more likely to get her happily agreeing to meet up with you and then actually turning up to see you.
Then, you won’t have to waste the next few months of your life trying to have a text conversation with her that leads to nowhere.
She goes from replying in a blunt way, to not replying at all.
Meanwhile, she has been moving on without you and just doesn’t care anymore.
Don’t put yourself through that kind of heartache.
Just text her and then call her.
Attract her on the call by getting her smiling, laughing and feeling good to be talking to you again.
Then, meet up with her in person, build on her attraction and get to a hug, kiss and possibly even sex if both you and her are up for it.
If you approach it that way, you are so much more likely to get her back and fast.
Yet, if you stick to texts, you’re probably going to end up being left behind by a woman who would’ve gotten back together with you if you approached the ex back process in another way.
Another mistake to avoid is…
3. Giving up on calling her if she doesn’t answer the first time he tries
Most women won’t make it easy for a guy to get them back the first time he tries.
So, in many cases, a woman will initially ignore her ex’s calls to see if he’s going to give up right away, or if he will remain confident enough to keep trying.
Of course, that doesn’t mean you should bombard your ex with call after call until she picks up the phone.
Instead, it simply means you shouldn’t always give up at the first sign of resistance.
If your ex doesn’t answer her phone right away, just try again the next day, or the next time she’s texting back and forth you.
If she still doesn’t answer your call, here’s an example of what to do to make sure that you will finally get through to her:
- Try to call her at a time when you know she’s most likely to be available to take your call (i.e. don’t call her when she’s at work or university, or on a Friday or Saturday night when she might be busy or pretend to be busy).
- If she doesn’t answer, send her this text: “Hey, I’m trying to get in touch with you to ask you something, but I haven’t been able to reach you. It’s not serious, but I do need to talk to you on the phone quickly. I’ll give you a call tonight at about 6PM so that we can talk. It’ll only take a minute.”
- She might then reply with something along the lines of, “I’m really busy, what do you want to ask me?” or, “I’ve got plans for tonight. Tell me now.”
- Regardless of how she responds, don’t make the mistake of texting back and forth with her. Instead, just say that you’ll tell her when you call her tonight, or just call her right away.
In most cases, a woman will be curious to find out what you want to talk about, so she will answer the phone.
You can then call her, make her laugh, smile and feel good to be talking to you again and arrange to meet up with her in person so you can then fully reactivate her feelings and get her back.
Another mistake to avoid is…
4. Taking her bluntness so seriously that you allow it to kill your confidence
Sometimes a guy might fall into the trap of taking every blunt text his ex woman sends to in a negative way.
As a result, he may end up thinking things like, “What does she mean by that?” or “She sounds like she hates me right now” or, “Does that mean she is completely over me?” or, “Why did she use an exclamation mark (!)? Why does she seem so blunt? Does it mean that she has finally decided that she wants nothing to do with me?”
He’s taking her texted words too seriously and putting a negative slant on them, even though she might be missing him and just playing hard to get.
He can’t know that of course, because it’s just text, which is why I always recommend that men grow a pair of balls and call their ex woman.
If a guy doesn’t do that and instead, continues to hide behind the ‘safety’ of text messages, then he will usually get nowhere with his ex woman.
She will continue to be blunt and he will naturally lose more and more confidence in himself and in his ability to re-attract her and get her back.
In many cases, what the guy doesn’t realize is that the more he doubts himself and his attractiveness and value to her, the more unattractive he is becoming to her.
Here’s the thing…
If a woman senses that a guy needs her to be nice to him via text (or in person) so he can feel better about himself and feel worthy enough to follow through and get her back, it will actually turn her off him even more.
Women are attracted to men who are confident in their attractiveness to a woman, without needing a woman’s constant approval or niceness to feel that way about themselves.
In other words, the guy is independently confident.
His confidence isn’t dependent on her being supportive, encouraging and nice.
He knows that he is good enough for her and as a result, it comes through in how he talks, behaves and takes action and she then naturally feels attracted to him.
So, if a guy loses confidence in himself at the first sign of resistance from his ex woman, she won’t be able to fully respect him and feel attracted to him.
She will feel disappointed by his lack of emotional strength and will become even more motivated to move on and find a replacement guy fast.
This is why it’s very important that you maintain your confidence, no matter what your ex says or does to test you.
When she can see that no matter what she throws at you to test your confidence, you remain emotionally strong, then she won’t be able to stop feeling rushes of respect and attraction for you again.
She will then drop her guard and then, getting her back becomes a matter of you taking the lead and making it happen.
Another mistake to avoid is…
5. Slowly turning her off or annoying her via text until she stops replying
In some cases, a guy will be receiving blunt replies from his ex woman because he has been unknowingly annoying her, by:
- Texting her too often (sometimes even multiple times a day).
- Being too nice and sucking up to her.
- Trying to discuss the relationship and asking her what he needs to do to make her give him another chance. (You should never try to have discussions via text with an ex. Get on a call, make her smile and laugh and then arrange to talk to her in person).
- Appearing insecure and nervous.
- Asking her too many questions.
- Trying to have an in-depth conversation via text when she’s busy.
She then ends up thinking things like, “This is so annoying. Why is he bothering me like this? What do I have to do to make him understand that I’m not interested in texting back and forth with him? I mean, I’ve already tried being blunt and he still won’t stop bothering me. If I wasn’t convinced about the break up before, I am now. He’s just proven to me that the only thing he knows how to do is make me feel annoyed and turned off. I don’t feel good with him. I want a man that I feel good with. This relationship isn’t fun. He doesn’t get that. He’s annoying me.”
She then stops responding to him altogether, or she blocks his number on her phone so she doesn’t have to deal with him anymore.
Then, getting her back becomes much more difficult for him.
So, if you don’t want to end up annoying your ex girlfriend and turning her off more than you probably have already, just stop texting her and get her on a call with you right away, so you can then re-attract her and get her to meet up with you in person.
On a phone call, it’s so much easier for her to see that you’ve changed and improved since the break up.
As she listens to you talk and notices that you are making her smile and laugh, she realizes that she’s feeling some respect and attraction for you again.
She then allows some of her defenses to come down and becomes more open to seeing you in person and exploring her new feelings for you.
In person, you can then show her that you really are a new man now and get her back.
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