Here are 7 things that often happens when a man gives his woman space after a breakup:
1. She becomes comfortable with the idea of not having him in her life and decides that she doesn’t want him back
You’ve probably heard the expression “Out of sight, out of mind,” right?
Well, when it comes to a woman asking for space from her relationship, chances are that she has disconnected with at least some of her feelings of love, respect and attraction for her man.
As a result, the more time she gets where she doesn’t interact with him (i.e. they don’t talk over the phone, see each other face to face or even text or message on social media for weeks and even months) the more likely it is she will fully get over him.
Even if she started off asking for space because she was unsure about her feelings for him (e.g. she cares for him but she’s unhappy with his approach to attraction in the relationship), the less she interacts with him, the more likely it is that she realizes she can live pretty happily without him.
For example:
- She stops missing him and begins enjoying the freedom of being single and making her own decisions based on her personal likes and dislikes, rather than taking his feelings into account.
- She starts noticing that she’s happier and more relaxed now because she’s no longer getting into arguments and disagreements with him, which had caused her to feel tense and stressed in the relationship.
- She can go out with her friends anytime and go anywhere she wants, rather than being restricted by her relationship (e.g. she can go to a club or bar if she wants to and it won’t upset her man).
- She enjoys the feeling of freedom she now has where she can be flirted with by other men and not feel guilty or like she’s doing something wrong.
So, by the time the guy realizes that a few weeks, or in some cases, even months have gone by and he then begins asking things like, “I gave her space. Now what?” it’s usually too late.
Why?
Essentially, his girl has gotten used to living her life without him in it and is even enjoying it, so she no longer wants to get back with him.
She may then say something along the lines of, “I’m sorry. I know I said I needed space to think, but now I realize we’re better off breaking up for real. I hope you understand, but I’ve come to realize that our relationship wasn’t working out. I’m happy being single now. I didn’t mean to hurt you, but that’s how I feel.”
He’s then left feeling devastated and wondering what he did wrong.
After all, he gave her the space she asked him for, so why did it backfire on him?
The answer is that he gave her too much space.
Remember: The more you’re out of her sight, the more you’re out of her mind too.
So, give your ex some space if she asked for it, but more than 7 days is just too much.
It leads to her becoming comfortable being single and then she may decide she doesn’t want you back.
Don’t let that happen to you.
Call her after a few days and up to a week of space, and begin reactivating her sexual and romantic feelings for you again (e.g. by making her laugh and smile and feel good to hear your voice again), so she wants to at least meet up with you in person to see where things go from there.
3 to 7 days is more than enough time to prove the point that you’re not being needy, desperate or pushy and have given her some ‘space’ and time to think.
Some guys assume they need to give 30 days of space to get a woman back.
You don’t.
In almost ALL cases, that is way too much time and she will simply move on.
Watch the video below to learn what Dan Bacon, founder of The Modern Man and creator of Get Your Ex Back Super System advises in terms of giving space after a breakup.
2. She misses him and reaches out to him, but he turns her off again
Sometimes, giving a woman space can make her miss her guy.
She may then begin thinking things like, “Maybe I made a mistake. Maybe this is enough time apart. I should contact him again and see how things go.”
Yet, when she does get in touch with him and experiences the same old guy with the same type of insecurities and underlying issues that caused her to break up with him in the first place (e.g. he lacks confidence and emotional strength, he’s submissive around her, he hasn’t grown up and matured), she will quickly regret her decision.
If he then begins talking about them getting back together again, she will likely say something like, “No, I’m not ready yet. I need more space,” to give herself more time to move on.
Alternatively, she might just decide to break up with him there and then and make a fresh start without him.
He’s then left wondering why giving her space didn’t fix the relationship.
Yet, here’s the thing…
Giving a woman space is not the magic solution to fixing a broken relationship with any woman.
In fact, in a lot of cases, when a woman asks a guy for space, it’s usually her way of breaking up with him gently.
This is why, if you don’t want that kind of outcome, you need to use the time where you’re apart from your ex to improve your approach to attraction with her.
Then, if she misses you and reaches out to you, she will be surprised by the new version of you (e.g. more confident, more manly, more focused and goal-oriented, more charming).
She then feels drawn to you again in new and exciting ways and she opens up to seeing you in person.
At the meetup, get her to feel properly attracted to you again and guide her to a hug, kiss, sex and then back into a relationship.
The next thing that can happen when a man gives his woman space is…
3. She uses the space to move on with the guy that she already has lined up
When a woman is attractive chances are high that even when she’s in a relationship, other guys will hit on her or ask her out on dates (e.g. guys she meets at work, university, in her neighborhood).
Of course, if she’s in love with her guy and feels a lot of respect and attraction for him, she almost certainly won’t do anything with these guys and she will remain faithful to her man.
However, almost all women will still feel flattered and enjoy the attention of other men.
In cases where a woman is experiencing problems in her relationship (e.g. she and her man are always arguing and fighting, he treats her more like a neutral friend or roommate rather than a desirable woman, he takes her for granted), she might subconsciously find herself thinking something along the lines of, “Well, at least I know that if things don’t work out with my guy, there’s always other men who think I’m attractive and would want to date me right away.”
In some instances, a woman might even flirt back with a guy she finds particularly interesting and emotionally attractive.
That doesn’t mean she cheats on her man, but she also isn’t 100% loyal to him.
Instead, she opens herself up emotionally to falling in love with someone else if things don’t work out in her current relationship.
Then, if she notices that she’s constantly feeling unhappy and that nothing seems to be changing or improving no matter how often she nags, whines or gets into arguments with her guy, as a last resort, she might ask him for some space to help her figure things out.
She may then use the time apart to follow through and pursue a relationship with one of the guys that were already interested in her.
So, if you don’t want that happening to you, don’t make the mistake of waiting endlessly for your ex to come back to you when she’s ready, because that might never happen.
Remember: 7 days of space is more than enough time to allow for things to calm down between you and your woman.
After that, you’re just giving her time to move on with someone else.
So, don’t sit around waiting and asking, “I gave her space. Now what?”
You need to take action right away and begin reactivating her sexual and romantic feelings for you, so that even if she does have another guy lined up, he stops being as appealing to her as you are.
When she feels drawn to you again in a way that feels good to her, she will naturally want to give your relationship another try, rather than move on with another man and end up regretting it later on.
The next thing that can happen when a man gives his woman space is…
4. He eventually reaches out to her, but she just asks for more space
A woman might stall for as long as she can, while she focuses on fully getting over her guy and moving on with someone else.
So, if he contacts her after giving her some space and she hasn’t yet found a replacement man to move on with, she may say something like, “I’m just not ready yet. I need some more space. Please don’t push me.”
Of course, being the good guy that he is, he will usually respect her wishes and back off for a few more weeks or even months.
Then, when he reaches out to her again, he’s shocked to find out that she has fallen in love with someone else and is in a new relationship already.
He’s then likely left feeling like a fool for having given her so much space and then losing her anyway.
So, make sure that you don’t fall for the “I need more space,” ploy from your girl.
Instead, if she says something like that to you, laugh and say in a confident, relaxed tone of voice something like, “I have a better idea. Let’s meet up for a quick cup of coffee to say hi as friends instead. Then if you decide that seeing me again was so terrible, I promise I’ll give you more space if you still want it.”
Chances are, she’ll likely say “Yes,” even if it’s just a tactic to get you off her back so she can get that extra time she wants to move on.
Then, when you meet up with her, be prepared to give her an upgraded attraction experience (e.g. use humor to break down her defenses and make her feel happy to be seeing you again, flirt with her to create sexual tension between you so she wants to release it with kissing and sex, be more of a challenge to her so she feels compelled to impress you to maintain your interest).
The more you begin to attract her in ways that she doesn’t expect, the less she will want to be apart from you again (i.e. the idea of more space no longer appeals to her).
It’s then pretty easy for you to fully reactivate her feelings of respect, attraction and love for you and get her back.
Another thing that can happen when a man gives his woman space is…
5. He hopes that the space will stop him from feeling so clingy, but it just makes it worse
Sometimes a guy finds himself being too clingy in a relationship with a woman.
For example: He might…
- Spend all his spare time with her, rather than taking a more balanced approach where he also takes time to pursue his own interests and hobbies.
- Stop hanging out with his friends unless he can bring his girl along.
- Give up on his big goals and dreams in life and say to himself things like, “She’s the most important thing in my life. Nothing else matters but her. She is all I care about.”
This will almost certainly lead to her feeling smothered by him and his needy focus on her.
She might then begin saying things like, “I can’t take it anymore. I feel like I can’t do anything anymore without you being there too. You’re driving me crazy! Maybe we should break up.”
So, to avoid that from happening, the guy might offer to give her space as a way of proving to her that he can stop being clingy.
Yet, once they separate, he realizes that rather than making him stop being clingy, it actually makes him feel even worse.
He may then spend a lot of time thinking things like, “What if she meets another man? What if she forgets all about me now that I’m not there with her all the time?”
This can lead to him obsessively checking up on her via social media and in some cases, even secretly stalking her at work, home or when she goes out with her friends.
Not only doesn’t that help him get over his initial problem (i.e. being too clingy), it now creates even worse issues where he becomes obsessive, jealous and compulsive.
He might then contact her out of frustration and fear of losing her.
What he likely doesn’t realize though, is that his insecurity will come through in the tone of his voice and most especially in the way he talks to her, interacts with her and responds to what she says (e.g. he sounds whiney or suspicious if she doesn’t immediately want to get back together again, he asks too many questions about what she’s been doing and with whom causing her to become guarded).
She will then likely realize that he’s not going to change his clingy, insecure ways and that it’s even gotten worse now that they’ve been apart for a while.
She may then ask for more space, or just go ahead and suggest that they break up for real.
Here’s the thing…
If you agreed to give your woman space to help you stop being so clingy, you can’t just sit around and hope it will go away.
Instead, you need to take steps that will help you feel less clingy (e.g. focus more on your goals and dreams, pursue a hobby or interest, make new friends).
Then, not only won’t you find yourself focusing on what your woman is doing during the time apart (i.e. you won’t be obsessing over her), when you finally do contact her, she will sense the new emotionally strong, independent you via the way you come across to her during conversations.
She will then naturally feel respect for you again for getting your emotions and insecurities under control.
When she respects you, she will also feel attracted to you and then the idea of giving the relationship another chance will feel like the right thing for her to do.
Another thing that can happen when a man gives his woman space is…
6. He loses motivation to follow through on other things in his life, which then turns her off when she picks up on it
Quite often, when a woman is taking a break from her relationship with a guy, rather than use the time to do some of the things he wasn’t able to do when he was with her, he instead sits around wallowing in feelings of sadness and hopelessness.
Yet, what he doesn’t realize is that if his woman finds out about it, rather than feel flattered and think something along the lines of, “Oh the poor guy. He’s falling apart without me. That must mean he really loves me. I think I’ve had enough space. It’s now time to get back with my man,” she will instead feel turned off by his lack of life without her.
Here’s what a lot of guys don’t know…
Women are attracted to men who are confident in themselves and can get on with life and enjoy it, especially after a separation, a breakup, or when giving a woman space.
So, if you want to quickly regain your woman’s feelings of respect and attraction for you and make her want to get back together again quickly, start showing her that you’re getting on with your life without her (e.g. by pursuing your goals and dreams, making progress in your career, actively doing some of the things you always wanted to do but have been putting off because of your relationship with her).
By the way…
You can show her these things by posting interesting updates and photos on your social media pages.
The more she notices that you’re an emotionally independent and strong man, the more attractive, appealing and likable you seem to her.
She may then contact you via text or a phone call to say “Hi,” and you can then re-spark her sexual and romantic feelings for you and get her back again.
Another thing that can happen when a man gives his woman space is…
7. She opens back up to the idea of seeing him casually, but he wants a serious commitment, so she backs off
A woman is only going to fully commit to getting back into a serious relationship with a guy if he completely reactivates her sexual and romantic feelings for him.
However, that’s probably not going to happen while they’re apart and not interacting with each other.
So, if a woman then opens back up to hanging out with a guy to see what happens and he starts pressuring her into getting back together again right away, she is understandably going to resist the idea. Why?
She’s not re-attracted to him yet, so she doesn’t feel motivated to commit to him again.
This is why, if your ex opens back up to the idea of seeing you casually, don’t push for a relationship with her right away.
Instead, keep things light and fun and focus instead on making her laugh, smile and enjoy herself every time she’s interacting with you.
The happier she feels in your presence, the more she will start to want a serious relationship with you for her own reasons.
So, focus on that, re-spark her feelings and then enjoy a new and exciting relationship with her that has withstood a separation and has come back stronger and better than ever.
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