Here are 5 common reactions from a woman when a man openly accepts her decision to break up with him:
1. She believes him and feels relieved that she can now move on in peace
Sometimes, when a woman breaks up with a guy, he might say something along the lines of, “That’s fine. If that’s what you want, I accept your decision and I promise I won’t act like a crazy, love-struck ex who always chases after you and try to make you change your mind.”
In his mind, he may be hoping that if he says that to her and doesn’t resist the break up, it will shock her into realizing that she actually does still care for him and reverse her decision.
However, in many cases, this approach can backfire, because rather than change her mind a woman might instead think something like, “Oh, thank goodness! I honestly thought he was going to make a big fuss and try to talk me out of leaving. Fortunately though, he’s handled this much more maturely than I anticipated and now I can move on with my life without constantly having to deal with a desperate ex trying to get me back. What a relief!”
Yet, here’s the thing…
Even if your ex does feel relieved that you told her that you accepted the break up and she’s planning to move on now, deep down, she will likely also be feeling some respect for you for not giving her a hard time about leaving you.
You can use that to your advantage, because she will probably be open to at least interacting with you now (e.g. via text, social media, over the phone and even seeing you in person).
All you need to do is to make sure that you spark some of her feelings for you each time you interact with her (e.g. by making her laugh and smile and feel good, by showing her that you’ve leveled up as a man, by being emotionally masculine with her so she feels feminine and girly, by flirting with her to create some sexual tension between you).
The more you do that, the more her guard will come down around you.
When that happens, it’s only a matter of time before she wants to be your girl again.
On the other hand, if you just say that you accept the break up with her and then do nothing to reactivate her feelings for you, she will likely just move on without giving you a second thought.
Another possible reaction from a woman when a guy accepts a break up is…
2. She doesn’t believe him and suspects that he’s just saying that to bring her guard down
If a woman knows that her ex still has feelings for her and if she gave him half a chance he would do anything to get her back, then him saying that he’s accepted the break up won’t sound very convincing to her.
Instead, she will likely think something along the lines of, “It’s just his way of making me think that he’s moving on, so that I will drop my guard around him. Then he’ll likely try to worm his way back into my heart and convince me to give him another chance. Well, I’m not falling for that. I’ve broken up with him for good reasons and unless he can show me that he’s changed the things that truly matter to me, telling me that he accepts the break up isn’t going to be enough to make me change my mind.”
She then becomes even more closed off towards him (e.g. she unfriends him on social media, blocks his number on her phone, refuses to see him in person), making it even more difficult for him to reactivate her feelings and get her back.
Another possible reaction from a woman when a guy accepts a break up is…
3. She feels like the relationship is fully over now, so she begins to regret it and want him back
In some cases, a guy saying that he accepts the break up with his ex is just the shock she needs to make her realize that she made a mistake and wants him back.
As a result, she might…
Text him to say “Hey” and see what happens from there (e.g. will he start re-attracting her and try to get her back, or will he act like a nice neutral friend towards her).
Give him hints during interactions that she’s open to getting back together again (e.g. she might flirt with him and act like she’s still interested in him, she says things like, “What we had together was good. I wish we could go back to that again,” she makes excuses to talk to him and hang out with him more often).
Do nothing and hope that he was only lying when he said he accepts the break up and that he will actually try to get her back.
Accepts that she stuffed up and forces herself to get over him and move on.
Call him and say something along the lines of, “I know you said that you accept the break up, but I now realize that I made a big mistake. Can you forgive me and give our relationship another chance?”
Yet, here’s the thing…
You can’t count on your ex to make it easy for you to get her back, by actually saying that she regrets breaking up with you.
In fact, it’s more likely that she will try to get over you and move on, because she will fear being rejected by you if she tells you that she regrets her actions.
So, getting her back really is up to you.
If you want her, you need to make it happen and not sit around hoping for signs from her.
You need to interact with her and actively spark her sexual and romantic feelings for you again, so she can’t stop herself from saying something along the lines of, “I’m so sorry about breaking up with you. It was a stupid mistake and I truly regret it. Can we just put it all behind us and try again?”
You can then get her back into a relationship with you that’s so much better than before.
Another possible reaction from a woman when a guy accepts a break up is…
4. She doesn’t care what he thinks or feels anymore, so it doesn’t mean much to her
Usually, when a woman breaks up with a guy, she’s already made up her mind about it many days, weeks or even months before she actually goes through with it.
She’s gradually prepared herself and has disconnected from her feelings of respect, attraction and love for him, so when the time comes to say the words, “I’m breaking up with you. It’s now over between us,” she’s ready.
So, if he then tells her that he accepts the break up, rather than think something like, “Oh no! What have I done? I realize now that this is a mistake. I don’t really want to lose him. I only thought I was over him, but now that he’s willing to let me go, I see that I still love him. I need to tell him I’ve changed my mind before it’s too late,” she instead thinks things like, “Well hooray for that! He makes it sound like I care if he accepts the break up or not. Well, I don’t. He can take it or leave it, but as far as I’m concerned, I’m moving on with my life and I’m making sure he’s not in it.”
She then focuses on meeting new guys, hooking up and falling in love.
Meanwhile, her ex is still hoping that by telling her that he accepts the break she will suddenly realize her mistake and change her mind.
Yet, that doesn’t happen, because when she broke up with him, she no longer had feelings for him.
So, she just doesn’t care whether he accepts it or not.
This is why, if you want your ex back, telling her that you accept the break up can’t be your main strategy.
It can be part of the ex back process, but not the only thing.
For you to get her back for real, you need to do more than that.
You need to reawaken her feelings for you, so she starts to feel as though losing you will be something that she will regret for the rest of her life.
For example: Some of the ways you can do that are by…
- Making her laugh, smile and feel good to be talking to you again over the phone or in person.
- Maintaining your confidence with her, especially if she’s pretending not to be interested in you anymore and is trying to make you feel nervous or unsure of about yourself.
- Flirting with her to create some sexual tension between you, rather than being on your best behavior around her and treating her like a neutral friend.
- Not giving her too much power over you (e.g. by doing everything she tells you to do, letting her call all the shots) and instead, letting her see that you are now even more masculine in the way you think, talk, behave and react when interacting with her.
When you approach the ex back process in that way, your ex will naturally begin to feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you and start to drop her guard.
She realizes that you really are different now and that you make her feel differently when she’s with you as well.
She becomes curious about her new feelings for you and wants to explore them, rather than cutting you off and then potentially regretting it later on.
She then becomes open to talking to you, hanging out with you and seeing where things go from there, thereby allowing you to fully reactivate her feelings for you and get her back.
Another possible reaction from a woman when a guy accepts a break up is…
5. She feels like it’s too late to tell her that now, because he has already turned her off by being needy and desperate for a while after the break up
Sometimes, the shock of being broken up with might cause a guy to react in unattractive ways.
For example: He might…
- Beg and plead with her and say things like, “Please baby, don’t do this to me! I can’t stand to lose you. I know I’ve stuffed up and made you feel unhappy with me, but I promise that if you give me just one more chance I will do whatever it takes to make you happy again. Please give me a chance. I promise you won’t regret it.”
- Break down and cry.
- Promise her that he will do whatever she wants him to do if she will change her mind.
- Tell her how much he loves her and how he can’t live without her.
- Call her or text her constantly to try and stay on her mind.
- Show up at her house or workplace to try and “talk things out” with her.
- Ask mutual friends or family to put in a good word for him.
As a result, when he finally gets to the point where he tells his ex that he’s accepted the break up, it’s usually too late, because she’s lost too much respect and attraction for him as a man.
So, if you’ve behaved in any of the above-mentioned ways, it’s very likely that you’ve turned your ex off in the process.
However, that doesn’t mean you can’t turn things around and get her back.
You can.
As long as you focus on saying and doing the types of things that will reactivate her feelings for you from now on (e.g. being confident, emotionally strong, more manly, more emotionally independent), her defenses will naturally begin to come down.
You can then show her that you really have changed and make her fall in love with the new you.
Get Her Back Quicker and Easier By Avoiding These 4 Mistakes
If you want your ex back, it’s very important that you take the right approach.
If you don’t, you may end up turning her off even more and losing her for real this time.
This is why, you need to avoid making any of the following mistakes:
1. Hoping that telling her you accept the break up will be enough to make her want you back
Although telling your ex that you accept the break up is an important step in the ex back process, there’s a lot more that needs to happen after that before she will be yours again.
If you don’t take steps to fully reactivate her feelings of respect, attraction and love for you, the best you can hope for is for her to say something along the lines of, “I’m glad you’ve finally accepted that it’s over between us. At least now we can both begin to heal and move on. Maybe we can even be friends sometime in the future when things have settled down between us, okay? However, for now, let’s take some time apart and focus on ourselves.”
So, if that’s not the outcome you want, make sure that you follow up your acceptance with interactions that spark her feelings for you.
The more you make her feel drawn to you again in a way that feels good to her, the more open she will become to getting back together again.
On the other hand if you don’t do anything else now that you’ve told her that you accepted the break up, chances are high that sooner rather than later you’ll be finding out that she’s in a new relationship with a guy who isn’t you.
Don’t let that happen.
Take action now.
Another mistake to avoid is…
2. Not realizing that, whenever you interact with her, you still turn her off in subtle ways, which make her feel confident about her decision to remain broken up with you
Sometimes, a guy will continue to turn his ex off every time he interacts with her over the phone, or in person without even realizing it.
For example: Some of the ways he might do that are by…
- Always being available to talk to her no matter what time of day or night it is. This gives her the impression that he’s got nothing else going on in his life and that he’s just sitting around waiting for scraps of attention from her.
- Being nervous and tense while talking to her. This indicates to her that he’s lacking the all-essential trait of confidence that she’s looking for in a man.
- Seeming sad and depressed all the time. She then gets a sense that he lied about accepting the break up and he’s sitting around moping and feeling lost without her.
As a result, she doesn’t feel that all-important spark of attraction for him for being an emotionally strong, confident man that she can look up to, respect, feel attracted to and love.
She then feels that she made the right decision by breaking up with him and then opens herself up to meeting new men to move on with.
Another mistake to avoid is…
3. Hoping that she takes pity on you for having to accept the break up, when she’s not the sort of woman to feel pity and come running back
Most women in today’s world are emotionally and mentally tough.
So, when a guy tries to make an ex woman take pity on him for accepting a break up, even though he really still wants her back, rather than feel motivated to bend a little bit and give him another chance, she instead feels annoyed with him for trying to manipulate her back into a relationship.
She then becomes colder and more unapproachable, making it difficult for him to reactivate her feelings and get her back.
Here’s the thing…
If you want your ex back, don’t try to make it happen by trying to manipulate her feelings of pity or guilt.
If she’s a strong-willed woman, she’s simply not going to fall for it and it may even cause her to stop interacting with you altogether, making getting her back more difficult for you.
Another mistake to avoid is…
4. Accepting the break up and then leaving the ball in her court
In some cases, a guy will tell his ex that he accepts the break up and then distance himself from her while he waits for a sign from her that she’s missing him.
Yet, that almost never happens.
Instead, the woman will take his acceptance as a sign that the relationship is truly over and she will then focus her attention on moving on and finding herself a new man.
In cases where a woman still has feelings for her ex and was secretly hoping they could work things out, not hearing from him after he accepts the break up will likely be like a cold slap in the face.
She may then start thinking things like, “Why did I ever think that he still cares for me. Clearly he’s no longer interested and I’m just wasting my time waiting for him to make a move. I need to get over him and get on with my life. After all, that’s exactly what he’s done.”
Naturally, that’s not the outcome you’re looking for, so don’t leave the ex back process up to your ex.
You’re the man so it’s up to you to get her back if you want her.
So, now that you accepted the break up, focus on using interactions with your ex to spark her feelings of respect and attraction again.
The more attracted she feels to you again, the more worried she becomes about you moving on without her.
She then wants to talk to you over the phone and meet up with you in person more and more, making it easy for you to get her back and enjoy a new, exciting relationship with her.
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