Here are 6 of the most common reasons why a woman will say that and how to get her back:
1. She is interested in getting back together, but wants to see if you can create enough of a spark
Most relationships start off with a lot of sexual attraction and desire between the man and the woman.
Yet, although some couples are able to maintain that spark and even grow it over time, a lot can’t.
As a result, the relationship might go from being passionate and exciting to feeling more like a friendship, or like two people living together as roommates and nothing more.
Some women will choose to stay in a relationship with a guy they no longer feel attracted to (e.g. because he’s a good guy, she’s worried that she won’t be able to find a suitable replacement, they share the bills).
However, most women won’t and will decide to break up.
In some cases, a woman may decide to break up with her guy as a way of shaking things up between them in the hope that the spark will come back.
Essentially, a woman like that still loves her guy; she just doesn’t want to stay stuck in a relationship that lacks sexual attraction.
As a result, she may then say something along the lines of, “I’m willing to see what happens,” as a way of hinting to him that she’s open to being re-attracted by him.
If the guy then takes action and reactivates her sexual and romantic feelings for him during interactions, she will open back up to being his girl.
On the other hand, if he continues to think, talk, act, behave and treat her the way he did before the break up (e.g. like a neutral friend, a roommate), she will cut her ties with him and try to move on and find a new man who does know how to make her feel attracted and desirable.
So, if your ex said that she is willing to see what happens, take it as a sign that she’s waiting for you to re-spark her sexual and romantic feelings for you.
Then, take action and make it happen.
For example: Call her on the phone or meet up with her in person and make her laugh, smile and feel good to be talking to you again.
Add in some flirting to create sexual tension between you and her.
From there, if she seems open, try to get to sex with her.
Sex speeds up the process of reconciling a relationship and stops a lot of the mind games or playing hard to get on a woman’s part.
Of course, sex doesn’t fix everything, but it definitely helps bring the spark between you and her back to life.
So, lead the way and make it happen.
Get her to feel surges of respect and sexual attraction for you again and guide her to a hug, kissing, sex and then back into a relationship.
2. She isn’t planning on getting back with you and is just trying to get you to be nice to her
Even if a guy is a really good person and would never do anything to hurt a woman (e.g. get angry with her and insult her, begin stalking her, say bad things about her to other people), it’s still a woman’s instinct to get out of a relationship with as little drama as possible.
So, rather than cut the guy off completely and say something along the lines of, “It’s over and nothing will ever make me change my mind. My feelings for you are dead and I never want to see you again,” which can blow up in her face if he loses control of his emotions, a woman will often try to let him down gently.
For example: If the guy asks her if he will ever be able to change her mind, rather than come out and say what she’s secretly thinking (i.e. “No”), she will often say that she’s willing to see what happens.
Essentially, by giving him some false hope, she ensures that he will continue to be nice to her, because he won’t want to risk losing her.
In the meantime, she can secretly move on and find a new man, who can then protect her if her ex becomes emotional and unreasonable.
So, if your ex is being nice to you and is hinting that maybe you and her can get back together again, it could be because she doesn’t want to trigger an angry or desperate reaction from you.
However, it’s likely that she currently has no real intention of getting back with you.
The good news though is that you can change that, but you have to change your approach to her.
For example:
- If you’ve been pushing her to give you another chance, take the pressure off by focusing on simply making interactions with her fun and laidback from now on.
- If when you’re interacting with her you’re always on your best behavior and always being careful of what you say or do in case you upset her so she cuts you out of her life, switch to being more of a challenge to her so she feels as though she needs to be the one impressing you to maintain your interest.
- If you’re too serious and tense around her, start using humor to make her smile and laugh and feel good to be around you instead.
- If you’ve been treating her like a neutral friend, switch to flirting with her to build up sexual tension between you.
- If you’ve been afraid to be more assertive around her and stand up to her when she’s out of line or creating unnecessary drama, switch to being more emotionally dominant around her.
When you change how she feels, she will then naturally change her mind and open back up to you.
You can then easily get her back because she wants it too.
Another common reason why a woman will say that she is willing to see what happens is…
3. She’s going to try to get over you and if she can’t she might come back
In many cases, a woman will break up with a guy even though she still does have some feelings for him.
Even though she does care for him, there are certain aspects of his thinking, actions and behavior that turn her off (e.g. he’s too insecure, not manly enough, gives her too much power over him).
As a result, she goes through with the breakup and fully intends to move on, but knows that she might not be able to do.
So, she says that she’s willing to see what happens, or that she isn’t fully closing the door on them yet, in case she wants to go back to him.
In the meantime though, she will focus on getting over him by going out and having fun with her single friends, focusing more on her work or studies, or using dating apps to line up dates and hook up with new men.
If she struggles to forget her ex and also notices that he’s improved in at least some of the ways that are important to her, she might then come back to him and try to make the relationship work.
So, if you want to get your ex back, it’s important that you prepare to give her an upgraded attraction experience whenever you interact with her from now on.
That way, she will have reason to get back with you faster or avoid dating new men altogether.
For example: When you interact with her over the phone and in person from now on, ask yourself…
- Am I making her feel sexy and desirable, or am I making her feel more like a neutral friend?
- Am I being a bit of a challenge to her so she feels that she needs to impress me, or am I being boring and predictable so that she feels she doesn’t have to be nice to me at all and I will still want her?
- Am I being confident and self-assured while interacting with her, or am I coming across as nervous and unsure of myself?
- Do I stand up to her in an assertive yet, loving way when she’s being bossy, or do I submit to her like a good little boy?
- Do I have goals and dreams that I’m actively pursuing in my life, or am I stuck in a rut and struggling to be happy without her?
Depending on how you respond to these questions, you will likely discover some of the things that may have been missing in your relationship with your ex.
You can then quickly change your approach to attraction with her, so that the next time you interact with her she can see for herself that you truly have leveled up as a man.
As a result, she won’t want to get over you, because she can now see that you’re a man worth holding on to.
When she starts thinking that way, her defenses come down and she opens back up to being your girl once again.
Another common reason why a woman will say that she is willing to see what happens is…
4. She’s going to try dating new men and if she doesn’t find a suitable replacement, she may open back up to you
There are some women who hate the idea of being single and not having a man in her life who takes care of her, loves her and appreciates her.
So, rather than risk struggling to get over the breakup and find herself alone for a long time, she might decide to keep her ex holding on to the hope of them getting back together again by saying that she is willing to see what happens.
Then, while the guy sits around wondering things like, “What does she mean by that?” or “Maybe that means she still cares for me, even if it’s a little bit and if I wait for her, she’ll eventually come back,” she can focus on fully getting over him by finding herself a new man as quickly as possible.
For example: She might…
- Go out to clubs, bars and parties with her single friends.
- Join an online dating site or go on an app like Tinder.
- Make it clear on social media that she’s now single, in the hope that any guys who might be interested in her will make a move.
- Accept dates from men that have been interested in her in the past (e.g. at work, university, from the neighborhood, a male friend).
However, if she happens to struggle to find herself a new man right away, she can always go back to her ex and stick in the relationship for a little while longer until she can find a new guy to replace him with.
She can then say something like, “I’m sorry, but it just doesn’t seem to be working out between us,” and then focus on dating the new guy.
Fortunately for you, it doesn’t have to work out that way.
If you want to get your ex back permanently, you can take control of the situation by reawakening her sexual and romantic feelings for you and making her fall back in love with you, before she starts moving on.
When you do that, the idea of losing you will begin to worry her, because she can see that what she had (i.e. you) was the best and that no one else can compare.
She will then naturally and easily drop her guard and open back up to not only being in a relationship with you, but also putting in the effort to be a good, loving woman to you.
Another common reason why a woman will say that she is willing to see what happens is…
5. She wants you to wait around a little longer, so she can move on before you do
In some cases, a woman doesn’t like the idea of her ex moving on with another woman, before she has had a chance to hook up with a new guy first.
So, to prevent, or at least slow down the chances of him finding a replacement woman, she will give him some hope by saying, “I’m not sure how I feel about us right now, but I want you to know that I’m willing to see what happens.”
Then, while her ex is likely waiting around for her and thinking things like, “This is a good sign. She could have cut me out of her life completely, but she’s keeping an open mind about us getting back together again. Maybe if I give her some space, she will realize that we’re right for each other and come back to me.”
He might then back off and not put any pressure on her to make a decision about the state of their relationship (e.g. he doesn’t call or meet up with her and maybe just sends her a text now and then to say hi).
In the meantime, she uses the time to get out, meet new guys and find herself a replacement man to get into a relationship with.
Then, after a few weeks or even months of not hearing anything from her, her ex might ask something like, “Hey, I haven’t heard from you for a while. How are things going? Have you decided if you want to work things out and get back together again?” she easily rejects him.
She might then say something along the lines of, “I’m sorry. I know I said that I was willing to see what happens, but I’ve met someone else now and I want to explore a relationship with him, rather than get back with you. I realize now that we broke up for a reason and we’re better off moving on, instead of rehashing a relationship that doesn’t work. I wish you all the best though. Bye.”
He’s then left feeling hurt, confused and wondering what he did wrong.
He may even develop a fear of relationships and not only give up on the possibility of getting his ex back now that she’s with someone else, but avoid getting into relationships with other women as well.
So, don’t let yourself get caught up in a situation like that.
If your ex said she’s willing to see what happens, that doesn’t mean you should back off and let her decide what she wants in her own time.
Instead, you need to take charge and start the ex back process right away.
That means you have to stay in contact with her, especially over the phone and in person and use every interaction you have with her from now on as an opportunity to re-spark her sexual and romantic feelings for you.
The more you make her feel a renewed sense of respect, attraction and love for you, the more difficult it becomes for her to move on with someone else.
She instead begins to want you back for real.
It’s then up to you to follow through and guide her back into a relationship that is better than ever before.
6. She hasn’t fully ruled you out as an option
Some women are attractive and can easily find themselves a new man after a breakup.
However, in some cases, a woman like that might not be sure about whether her new guy is exactly what she wants in a man (e.g. he’s too controlling and jealous, he’s unable to make her feel strong sparks of sexual attraction for him, he’s too independent and carefree and she can see that he has no intention of settling down soon).
At the same time, she might still have some leftover feelings for her ex and she may find herself comparing him to her new guy and wondering if maybe she made a mistake.
So, while she makes up her mind, she decides to keep her ex waiting for her by telling him that she is willing to see what happens.
This is why, even if your ex seems to be in a new relationship right now, you can’t take a back seat and wait for her to decide if she wants you again.
You have to make her want to choose you and that means you need to interact with her and re-spark her feelings for you every chance you get.
Shake things up by calling her on the phone or meeting up with her in person and make her laugh and smile and flirt with her and make her feel sexy and desirable when she’s interacting with you.
Spark her feelings so much that when she is with anyone else, all she can think about is you.
The more you do that, the more she will want you to be the option she takes.
It’s then easy for you to get her back and make her your girl again.
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