Here are the 4 most common reasons why a woman will say that to her ex boyfriend:
1. She believes that it might be possible to get back together at some point
When a woman breaks up with a guy, she’s usually going through a lot of conflicting emotions.
On the one hand, she may be feeling certain that breaking up with him is the right decision for her to make at that point in her life (e.g. because the relationship has become too stressful, she wants to concentrate on her studies or career for the time being, she’s matured a lot faster than him, she’s moving away).
However, at the same time, she may also be experiencing some sadness that the relationship is over and maybe even secretly be hoping that they will somehow be able to work through their issues and get back together again.
As a result, she might then say, “We will get back together again one day.”
Yet, what usually happens is that both her and her ex gradually move on and don’t get back together.
For example: Eventually, she decides to go out with her single friends to a club or bar.
While there, she happens to meet a new man who makes her feel exciting sparks of sexual and romantic attraction.
They end up kissing and then go back to his or her place and hook up sexually.
That then leads to them dating and falling in love.
All of a sudden, thoughts of getting back with her ex begin to fade away and she enjoys a relationship with the new guy.
Of course, the same can easily happen to the guy where he meets a new woman, moves on with her and forgets all about his ex.
This is why, if you want your ex back, you need to get it done now, before you and her grow into different people and get involved in serious relationships with other people that don’t break up.
So, get her on a phone call or to a meet up with you as soon as possible and begin re-sparking her sexual and romantic feelings for you again (e.g. by making her smile and laugh and feel good to be interacting with you, letting her see that you believe in your attractiveness and value to her by maintaining your confidence around her, flirting with her to create sexual tension between you).
The more respect and attraction she feels for you again, the more she will begin to doubt her decision to be broken up.
Then, when her walls have come down and she’s feeling open to being with you again, you can hug, kiss and hook up with her, blow her mind and get her back.
Another common reason why a woman will say, “We will get back together one day,” is…
2. She is letting you down slowly
Even if a guy is a really good guy who would never behave badly, cause a scene or hurt his ex in any way, it’s still a woman’s instinct to get out of a relationship as easily and peacefully as possible – even if that means giving him false hope.
So, if your ex is being nice to you and encouraging you to believe that you still stand a chance of getting back with her, it could be because she doesn’t want to trigger an angry, desperate reaction from you.
So, she gives you the old, “We will get back together one day” or, “I don’t want to be together now, but maybe we can reunite in the future,” excuse instead, to protect herself and get the space she needs to move on without you holding her back (e.g. by chasing after her and begging and pleading with her to change her mind, promising her you’ll change, offering to do whatever she wants for another chance with her).
However, it’s likely that she currently has no real intention of getting back with you.
The good news though is that you can change that, but you have to change your approach to her.
For example:
If you’ve been irritating her by begging for another chance, switch your approach to being easy-going and fun around her from now on.
If when you’re interacting with her you’re always trying to have serious discussions about the relationship and about how long it will take her to feel ready to get back together again, switch to using humor to make her smile and laugh and feel good to be around you.
If you’ve been treating her like a neutral friend, switch to flirting with her to build up sexual tension between you.
If you’ve been afraid to stand up to her and question her decisions, switch to being more emotionally dominant around her.
When you change how she feels, she will then naturally change her mind and open back up to you.
However, if you continue using the same old approach over and over again (e.g. giving her reasons why you think the relationship deserves another chance, telling her how much you love her, letting her know her that you don’t know if you can cope without her), she will just keep saying things like, “Look, I know it’s difficult for you, but we will get back together one day. I just need some space now. So, please hang in there and things will work out between us eventually,” while she secretly moves on without you.
Another common reason why a woman will say, “We will get back together one day,” is…
3. She doesn’t know what else to say to end a relationship
Although some women have no problem saying, “I’m sorry, but I don’t have feelings for you anymore. Please accept that it’s over between us and try to move on,” when talking to an ex, a lot of women find it difficult to be that direct.
Common reasons why include:
- She’s a nice person and she doesn’t want to hurt her ex’s feelings, so she tries to break away from him gently, rather than dumping him all at once.
- She doesn’t have a lot of experience with break ups and doesn’t really know how else to handle it.
- She doesn’t like the idea of her ex guy hating her, so she tries to get out of the relationship while still being perceived as a good person.
- She’s afraid that he might break down and start begging, pleading and crying with her to change her mind.
- She can’t handle confrontations, so letting him down slowly is her way of hopefully avoiding a big fight, or series of fights and arguments.
So, rather than just tell her ex that it’s over, a woman might instead say something like, “I can’t be with you right now, but we will get back together one day. I’m just not in the right space at the moment for a relationship and I don’t want to hurt you while I try to sort myself out. Please give me time to be on my own for a while” as a way of letting him down easy.
Her guy might then think, “Well at least she didn’t say it’s over, so there’s still hope for us. All I have to do is be patient and wait and eventually we can be together again.”
He will then likely accept her decision and give her some space (i.e. he cuts off all or most contact with her), in the hope that the more space she has to figure things out in her life, the quicker she will come back to him.
Yet, in almost all ex back cases, giving a woman too much space actually backfires.
Then, rather than them getting back together again, she instead meets a new man, falls in love with him and moves on.
Her ex is then left feeling hurt and wondering things like, “She said we would get back together one day, so why did this happen? Why did she find a new man when she knows I’m waiting for her? I just don’t understand! How could she do this to me?!”
The answer is this: If you give a woman too much space and she secretly doesn’t have strong feelings for you, she will almost always use the time to find a replacement guy and move on.
This is why, if your ex is currently saying that you and her will get back together again some day, it’s up to you to not make the mistake of thinking that if you give her enough space, she will come back to you.
She almost certainly won’t.
The only time that will happen is if you interact with her and actively re-spark her sexual and romantic feelings for you again.
So, make sure you focus on doing that, rather than sitting back and patiently waiting for her to come back on her own one day and then end up feeling betrayed when she moves on with someone else instead.
Another common reason why a woman will say, “We will get back together one day,” is…
4. She wants you to keep showing interest in her while she moves on without you
Sometimes a woman is just a selfish, self-centered person who doesn’t care about anyone else’s feelings other than her own.
So, to avoid feeling hurt if her ex moves on without her before she has a chance to get herself a new man, she keeps him hanging on by giving him false hope and promising him that they will get back together one day.
In that way, she ensures that she will be able to move on before he does and she won’t feel the pain of being left behind like he will.
Of course, it’s up to you to not let this happen to you.
If you want your ex back, make sure that you actively do whatever it takes to re-spark her feelings for you and make her see you as a better option to any other man she might meet along the way (e.g. interact with her over the phone and in person, make her laugh and smile and feel good to be around you again, flirt with her to create sexual tension between you and her, show her that you’ve transformed yourself into a new man) and get her back.
Alternatively, if you don’t want to do that, then make sure that you don’t get caught up in your ex’s silly mind games and waste months or even years of your life waiting for her to come back to you one day.
If she does come back and you happen to be available and still want her, great.
You can get back together again.
However, you can’t wait for that to happen.
It’s now up to you.
Start the ex back process and get her back right away, or move on and enjoy your life with other women until you find your ideal woman, or you and your ex hook up again one day.
So, what’s it going to be?
Avoid the Following 3 Mistakes to Get Her Back Faster
Right now, your thinking and behavior will either help you re-attract your ex and get her back, or turn her off and make her feel even more determined to put her relationship with you behind her and move on.
It all depends on your approach.
This is why, you need to avoid making the following 3 attraction mistakes:
1. Patiently waiting for her for months, while slowly losing confidence in yourself day by day
Sometimes, when a woman tells her ex that they will get back together again one day, he takes it as a sign that he needs to wait for that to happen.
He might then justify his decision not to move on by thinking things like, “If she comes back and she finds me in another relationship, she will assume that I’m over her and move on. Then I will lose her for real. At the same time, if I just date a lot of random women, she might feel disappointed in me for not valuing our love enough to wait. Either way, I’ll be ruining my chances of getting her back. This is why, I think it’s best if I just wait for her to figure out what she wants and come back to me when she’s ready. Then she will be flattered and impressed that I waited for her and she will want me even more.”
He then waits around for weeks, months and in some cases, even years for her to come back to him.
Yet, the longer he waits, the more he begins to lose confidence in himself.
He then starts thinking things like, “Why isn’t she coming back? Did she change her mind and doesn’t want me back after all? I don’t know what to do. On the one hand, I want her back so badly, but on the other hand, what if I ask her if we can get back together again and she tells me that she’s over me now? What if it’s too late to get her back? I’ve been waiting for her for so long that I can’t imagine myself moving on without her.”
The more he thinks like that, the more he spirals into a cycle of negative, insecure thinking, which eats away at whatever remaining confidence he has in himself.
If he then happens to interact with his ex and she picks up on his low self-esteem (e.g. via his attitude, behavior and conversation style), she loses even more respect for him as a man and doesn’t want to get back with him anymore.
Here’s the thing…
Women are attracted to confident men who believe in themselves.
Likewise, women are turned off by insecure men who doubt themselves.
So, don’t sit around waiting for your ex to come back to you and end up losing confidence in yourself along the way.
That will only damage your chances of getting her back.
So, what should you do instead?
Believe in yourself and in your value to her and other women.
Not only will you then be able to make your ex feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you, you will also be able to attract other beautiful women if you want to.
You can then easily get her back, because she feels attracted to you again, rather than sitting around waiting for her to come back to you one day.
Another mistake to avoid making is…
2. Closing yourself off to other women because you’re afraid of getting hurt again
Sometimes, a break up can cause a guy to think things like, “Why should I risk opening myself up to another woman like I did to my ex, only for her to stomp on my heart and crush it when she’s had enough? I don’t think I can take that again. As far as I’m concerned, love just isn’t worth it.”
He then becomes emotionally closed off from women and avoids getting into relationships with any woman that he senses might make him fall in love again.
Unfortunately though, what a guy like that doesn’t realize is that by closing himself off from love, he’s stopping himself from finding real happiness with a new woman, or with his ex woman.
In the end, he’s just making himself unhappy, rather than taking action and getting what he really wants in life (i.e. to fall in love again with a new woman, or to get his ex back into a relationship that is even better than before).
So, don’t let that happen to you.
Another mistake to avoid making is…
3. Not following through on the full ex back process to actually get her back now
Regardless of what your ex says, nothing will happen until you make it happen.
So, rather than sitting around waiting for her to come back to you one day, take action and get her back now.
If you don’t, you might end up regretting it when you discover that she got bored waiting for you to make a move and found herself another man instead.
It’s up to you.
Are you going to take control of the ex back process and get her back, or are you going to wait for her to come back to you one day and lose her for real?
It seems that your choice is quite easy.
Get her back today and enjoy the great times ahead.
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