5 common reasons why a woman will do that:
1. She wants to get him back, make him love her and then dump him to break his heart
Sometimes, even though a woman gets into a relationship with another man immediately after a break up, she might still find it difficult to get over the pain her ex caused her.
As a result, she may constantly be thinking things like, “I still feel so much anger and resentment towards my ex for breaking my heart, that it is all I can think about. I realize now that I can’t stay in this relationship with my new guy until I resolve my feelings for my ex and the only way I can think of doing that, is by getting back with him, making him fall in love with me and then dumping him to make him feel as much pain as he caused me.”
She then breaks up with her new guy and gets back into a relationship with her ex.
Naturally this leaves her new guy wondering, “I don’t understand why my girlfriend has gone back to the guy who broke her heart. How can I get her back if she actually prefers the guy who hurt her to me?”
The good news is that regardless of her reasons for breaking up with you (e.g. she wants to get revenge on her ex, she still loves him), her feelings aren’t set in stone, so they can change.
Even if your ex never felt strong attraction or love for you before, it doesn’t mean that you can’t make her feel like that now.
In fact, when you interact with her and reawaken her feelings of respect and attraction for you (e.g. by making her laugh, smile and feel good to be around you, maintaining your confidence with her even though she dumped you for the guy who broke her heart, making her feel like an attractive, desirable woman by being more emotionally masculine than her), she won’t be able to stop herself from feeling drawn to you again.
Even though she might desperately want to hurt her ex for breaking her heart, the more you make her feel attracted to you, the more she will begin to think things like, “I know my plan was to get revenge on my ex for what he did to me, but I now realize I’m doing that at the cost of losing a man who may actually be the one for me. Suddenly hurting my ex doesn’t seem so important anymore when the price might be so high. I think I made a big mistake.”
As a result, she starts to feel drawn to you again and opens herself up to getting back together again.
So, don’t let it bother you that your girlfriend has gone back to the guy who broke her heart.
Just interact with her and make her feel surges of sexual and romantic feelings for you, so that she quickly regrets her decision and wants you back.
Another possible reason why your girlfriend has gone back to the guy who broke her heart is…
2. He made her feel more attraction than you did because he’s not as nice or neutral
In some cases, even though a guy might be a jerk in some ways and ends up breaking his woman’s heart, it doesn’t necessarily mean he can’t make her feel attracted to him again.
So, although a woman might initially get into a relationship with another guy who is the opposite to her ex (e.g. nice and sweet, allows her to make all the decisions in the relationship, predictable and stable) something about the relationship just doesn’t feel right to her.
She realizes that her new man doesn’t make her feel the kind of respect, attraction and love that her ex did.
Yes, her new man is a good guy, but her ex has the kind of masculine edge or masculine toughness to his personality that she prefers.
She realizes that even though her new guy treats her like a princess, she needs a man with more balls and who knows how to make her feel feminine and girly in contrast to his masculine vibe.
She then goes back to her ex, leaving her new man feeling confused (because she chose the guy who broke her heart over him) and like he can’t get her back.
Yet, here’s the thing…
Even though right now your girlfriend’s ex makes her feel a more compelling type of attraction than you, it doesn’t mean that he’s perfect for her, or that you can’t get her back.
When you make some attractive adjustments to the way you think, act and behave around her (e.g. you stop allowing her to dominate you in the relationship by always giving in to her, even when she’s being a brat, by treating her more like a sexy, desirable woman than like a neutral friend), you will be ready to properly re-attract her.
Remember: Right now, she’s focusing on the positive things about her ex that make her feel attracted to him (e.g. he is more emotionally dominant than her, he makes her feel feminine and girly by being more emotionally masculine, he is more assertive and confident and doesn’t put up with her drama).
However, that doesn’t mean that there aren’t things about you that are more attractive to her than what her ex can give her (e.g. you’re a loving caring guy who doesn’t take her for granted, you’re more emotionally mature, you’re intentions with her are good).
This is why if you want her back, you need to start attracting her in all the ways that matter to her (e.g. by being more emotionally masculine while still being a good guy).
The more she sees for herself that, not only are you a great guy in your own unique way, but that you’ve also changed and improved on some of the things that caused her to feel more attracted to her ex, she won’t be able to stop herself from doubting her decision go back to him.
You can then fully reactivate her feelings for you and easily get her back.
Another possible reason why your girlfriend has gone back to the guy who broke her heart is…
3. She just wants to make herself feel better by knowing that she has the ability to re-attract him
In a lot of cases, when a woman gets broken up with, her confidence and self-esteem can take quite a dent.
She might even start wondering things like, “Why didn’t he love me? What did I do wrong? Was it because I’m not attractive enough?”
These types of thoughts can make her feel unworthy.
Even if her new man is very loving and constantly reassures her of her attractiveness and value to him, somewhere at the back of her mind she might still be wondering if he’s just saying those things because he wants something from her (e.g. sex, affection).
What a lot of guys don’t understand is that in most cases, women are a lot more insecure than men.
In fact, according to a global study conducted by Dove Cosmetics, 96% of women don’t consider themselves to be beautiful.
So, even though your girlfriend might have seemed really confident and like she had it all together, chances are that deep down she was a lot more insecure, anxious and prone to feelings of depression than you realized.
As a result, she may have decided to prove to herself that she is good enough, by making her ex fall for her again.
This stops her from feeling unworthy and gives her the self esteem boost that she has been craving.
Another possible reason why your girlfriend has gone back to the guy who broke her heart is…
4. She can see that he is a changed man, so she wants to give it a try
You might not know this, but the main reason a woman leaves a relationship with a man is because certain aspects of his thinking and behavior has caused her to disconnect from her feelings of respect, attraction and love for him (e.g. he takes her for granted, he has a wandering eye, he tries to change her core personality and identity, he lies to her).
However, that doesn’t necessarily mean there aren’t other things about him that she still feels attracted to (e.g. he has a great sense of humor, he’s very manly and makes her feel feminine and girly in his presence, he is great in bed).
It’s just that the bad tends to outweigh the good, so she chooses to break up rather than continue to try and make things work with him.
So, when a guy gets his ex back even though he broke her heart, it’s usually because he has changed the things about himself that were turning her off and in the process regained her respect and trust.
Of course that doesn’t mean he’s now perfect and he might quickly slip back to his old way of thinking and behaving, now that he has her back.
That’s why you can’t give up and say, “It’s too late. He’s got her back now and there’s nothing I can do.”
The truth is, there’s a lot you can do.
You can interact with her and show her that you’re a much better man than her ex (e.g. you’re more confident, you are more ambitious and driven, you’re loving yet masculine).
The more attracted you make her feel, the more confused she will feel about her decision to go back to him.
She will then start to look at you in a positive light and realize that you probably are the right guy for her after all.
Another possible reason why your girlfriend has gone back to the guy who broke her heart is…
5. He used the ex back process to get her back and it worked
Although you might not want to think about it, it’s possible that the guy who broke your girlfriend’s heart simply educated himself on how to get her back and then went ahead and did it.
The question you need to ask yourself right now is, “What am I going to do? Am I going to just let him win or am I going to do whatever it takes to get her back?”
What approach have you been using so far to get her back?
If you’ve just cut off contacted and waited around, then you probably already know that using that approach doesn’t work on most women.
Like most women, she hasn’t come running back simply because her ex cut off contact.
Likewise, if you’ve been begging, pleading or even just sending her long letters, e-mails or text messages telling her how much you still love her, she will perceive you as being desperate and her ex will automatically seem so much more attractive to her than you.
This is especially true if her ex is doing all the right things to charm her (e.g. being confident and emotionally strong, being emotionally masculine, making her feel feminine and girly).
She will naturally be comparing him to you and you will be coming in second best.
However, you can change all that.
When you change the way you interact with your ex and focus on re-sparking her feelings by making her laugh, smile and feel good to be around you, she won’t be able to stop herself from feeling drawn to you again.
Then you can easily win her back, because no matter how great her ex is now, he’s still the one who broke her heart, not you.
She will remember that and she will realize that she made a mistake by letting you go.
Where Guys Go Wrong With an Ex Who Goes Back to a Guy Who Broke Her Heart
Regardless of why your girlfriend has gone back to the guy who broke her heart, if you want her back, you need to be the one who takes the lead and makes it happen.
However, it won’t if you approach getting her back with the wrong mindset.
For example: Some common mistakes that guys make in a situation like yours are…
1. Assuming that she wants to be treated badly again
Just because a woman decides to go back to a guy who broke her heart, it doesn’t mean she wants to be treated badly.
Instead, it might simply be a matter of him having made her feel so much more attracted than the guy she’s currently with, that she’s willing to risk it.
So, rather than think things like, “How can she prefer him to me? She must be a sucker for punishment. Clearly she doesn’t like being treated well and instead wants to be abused and disrespected. She must be crazy!” you need to focus on making your girlfriend see that you’re so much better than her ex.
When you can make her feel attracted in the ways that her ex can (e.g. you’re equally as confident and emotionally strong as him), but also in ways that he can’t (e.g. you’re emotionally mature and have a definite purpose and direction In your life while he’s childish and immature), there will no longer be a reason for her to want to be with him over you.
Then, risking getting hurt by him again just won’t be worth it to her anymore and you can easily get her back.
Another common mistake that guys make in a situation like yours is…
2. Thinking that women are crazy to not want a nice guy
Many guys believe that to keep a woman happy in a relationship, they need to be extra nice to her, treat her like a princess and never disagree with her, even when she’s throwing a tantrum or behaving like a brat for no reason.
So, a guy like that will usually feel quite shocked if his woman dumps him and goes back to a guy who didn’t treat her as well as he did.
Yet, what he doesn’t realize is that because her ex doesn’t tolerate her drama and instead puts her back in her place in a loving, but assertive manner, it makes her feel more attracted to him than to Mr. Nice Guy.
Here’s the thing…
Women do like nice guys, but only if the nice guy is confident, emotionally masculine and doesn’t give her too much power in the relationship.
However, if he’s a nice guy and she can walk all over him and dominate him with her assertive personality, she will prefer a guy who is a bit more of a challenge over him.
Of course that might not make much sense to a guy who believes that niceness is the key to success with women, but that’s the reality.
Another common mistake that guys make in a situation like yours is…
3. Waiting and hoping that she will realize her mistake and come running back to him
Sometimes a guy might think to himself, “Sooner or later she has to realize that going back to that jerk was a mistake and when that moment comes, I will be here waiting for her.”
He then sits around for weeks or even months, doing nothing (i.e. he doesn’t interact with her, doesn’t improve himself to become more attractive to her) and hoping she will eventually come back to him.
Of course, that can work if she still feels attracted to him and gets dumped again by the guy who broke her heart.
Yet, in most cases, a woman will just move on if her ex doesn’t re-attract her and lets her see that coming back to him would feel so much better than before.
So, don’t let that happen to you.
If you want your girlfriend back, you need to interact with her every chance you get and make her feel strong surges of sexual and romantic attraction for you again.
The more you spark her feelings for you, the more she will start to see you as the right man for her compared to the guy who broke her heart.
So, get started.
She’s waiting for you.
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