Here are 5 possible reactions she will have when she receives an anonymous gift:
1. She knows it’s from you, but doesn’t value it because the feelings aren’t mutual
Sometimes a guy will try to do all sorts of things to make an ex woman reconsider her decision to break up with him.
For example: He might…
- Beg and plead with her to change her mind.
- Promise her that he will do whatever she wants if she gives him one more chance.
- Be extra nice to her and do whatever she says to please her.
- Pour his heart out to her in a card or love letter.
However, if none of those things convince his ex to change her mind or if he doesn’t want to try those approaches, he may decide to send her an anonymous gift instead.
Secretly, he will be hoping that she will know that it’s from him, feel flattered by his gesture and think something along the lines of, “He’s being so sweet. Maybe I’ve been too hard on him. After all, a guy who is so romantic can’t be all bad. In fact, guys like him are hard to find and if I let him go, I may end up regretting it later on. I think I’m going to give him another chance.”
They can then get back together again and everything can go back to the way it was.
Yet, that’s not how it works.
Instead, when a woman who has disconnected from her feelings of respect, attraction and love for a guy, receives an anonymous gift that she knows is from him, rather than feel flattered by his token of affection, she usually feels even more turned off by him.
She might then think something along the lines of, “Does he honestly believe I wouldn’t know this is from him after everything else he’s done to make me change my mind about breaking up with him? Not only am I not impressed by his anonymous gift, it actually makes me see him as a desperate, childish guy who doesn’t have a clue about what I really want from a man. Instead, he’s hoping that he can just buy me off with a gift. Well, he’s in for a shock because I’m not even going to mention that I received it. I wonder what he will do then. I just wish he’d get the message and leave me alone. I’m tired of having to deal with him. I just want to move on and find a man who knows how to spark my feelings for him.”
If she doesn’t mention the gift to him, her ex might decide to confess that it was from him to see if she’ll open up to him again, only to feel crushed if she then says something like, “Yes, I knew it was from you all along, but I don’t really care. In actual fact, I’ve already thrown it away,” because she’s hoping to discourage him from pursuing her anymore.
Here’s the thing…
Sending an anonymous gift to your ex before you have reactivated her feelings of respect and attraction for you is unlikely to get the response you’re hoping for (i.e. to impress her so that she will give you another chance).
So, don’t waste your time trying to impress your ex with superficial things like gifts.
Instead, focus on using interactions with her on the phone and in person to re-spark her feelings for you.
The more respect and attraction for you she starts to feel again, the more open she will become to the idea of giving you another chance.
Then, if you want to, you can give her a gift in person and she will appreciate it, because she feels drawn to you in a way that feels good to her.
However, if your plan is to send an anonymous gift to your ex as a way of getting her back without doing anything else to change her feelings for you, you will just be wasting your time.
Another possible reaction your ex might have to the anonymous gift is…
2. She knows it’s from you, is flattered and excited and then contacts you
In some cases, a woman might still have some feelings for her ex and she may even secretly be hoping that he will try to get her back.
So, if she receives an anonymous gift in the post of something that she recognizes only he knows she likes, she will naturally guess that the gift is from him.
She will also be flattered that he still remembers the little things that please her and she may then contact him to say thank you, in the hope that they can work things out so they can get back together again.
Naturally this is what the guy was hoping will happen when he sent her the gift in the first place.
However, even though the woman is contacting him and is even open to interacting with him, it doesn’t mean that he will automatically get her back from there.
Why not?
If the woman contacts him and he then turns her off (i.e. by making the same attraction mistakes he made before), she will likely feel disappointed and she may think something along the lines of, “I really thought we could work things out between us, but I see now that it’s not possible. Although he’s a nice guy and I can’t deny that I still care for him in some ways, I’m also aware that he is unable to change and improve. Instead, he’s still stuck at the same level he was at when we broke up and I simply won’t be able to overlook that for very long. Eventually I’m going to get so fed up with it that I may end up hating him. I don’t want that. I think it’s better if I let him go now while we can still be friends.”
She might then say something like, “Thanks for the gift. It was really sweet of you to send it. However, it doesn’t change what happened between us. We broke up for a reason and I think we’re better off just being friends, rather than a couple. I hope you can accept that.”
So, don’t let that happen to you.
If you do send your ex an anonymous gift and she contacts you, you need to be ready to show her that you haven’t been wasting the time apart.
Instead, you’ve changed and improved and become a better man.
For example:
- You’re more confident and self-assured now, rather than doubting yourself and your attractiveness to her.
- You’re more emotionally independent now, rather than needing her to prop you up and make you feel good about yourself.
- You’re more emotionally masculine now and make her feel feminine and girly as a result, rather than making her feel neutral or even turned off around you.
- You’re more ballsy now and stand up to her in a loving way, rather than being wimpy and timid and letting her dominate you with her strong personality.
When your ex experiences those kinds of changes in you, she naturally feels happy that she contacted you.
She then drops her guard and opens up to being with you romantically and sexually again.
However, if you continue to think, act, behave and interact with her in all the same ways as before, she will regret her decision to contact you and she will then likely make an excuse to get away from you as quickly as possible.
When that happens, it becomes even more difficult to get her back.
Another possible reaction your ex might have to the anonymous gift is…
3. She knows it’s from you and is glad that she finally has an excuse to text you
Sometimes a woman may be waiting and hoping that her ex will make a move to get her back.
So, if she suddenly receives an anonymous gift and she realizes that it’s from her ex (e.g. because it’s something special that only he would know about), she feels excited and possibly even a bit relieved that he’s reached out to her, albeit indirectly.
She then feels more confident about contacting him, because she now has an excuse.
For example: She might text him something like, “Thank you for the gift. I know it was from you and I appreciate it.”
Of course, it’s then up to the guy to take the lead and begin the ex back process for real.
He needs to call her on the phone and begin reactivating her feelings of respect and attraction for him right away, so he can get her back for real.
A mistake that a lot of guys make when their ex contacts them, is to play it safe by texting back and forth with her for a while.
A guy like that will often think something like, “I don’t really know if she’s interested in getting back with me again, or if she’s just being nice because of the gift I sent her. So, rather than ask her to meet up with me and risk getting rejected, or even worse, scaring her away because she feels I’m coming on too strong, I’m just going to play it cool for a while until I’m more certain that she’s keen to see me again.”
Yet, what he doesn’t realize is that his ex has likely given him all the signs he’s going to get from her (i.e. texting him).
From there, she’s going to wait to see what he does to get her back (e.g. because she doesn’t want to come across as being too easy, she wants to make sure he has the confidence to lead the ex back process).
However, if he doesn’t make a move and just continues to text her about random things, she may begin thinking something like, “I guess I misunderstood his intentions when he sent me that anonymous gift. I thought it was a sign that he still had feelings for me, but seeing as he’s not actually doing anything to get me back, maybe he only just wants to be friends now.”
She then focuses on getting over her feelings for him and moving on.
He’s then shocked when she one day texts him something along the lines of, “Hey, I wanted you to be the first to know that I’ve met someone else. He’s really so great and I think I’m falling in love with him. Maybe we can arrange for you to meet him sometime. It would be nice if you and him can be friends too, just like we are.”
So, don’t make that mistake.
If you decide to send your ex an anonymous gift and she texts you, get her on a call with you right away, make her laugh and smile and feel happy to be talking to you and then arrange a meet up.
At the meet up, fully reawaken her sexual and romantic feelings for you, hug, kiss, have sex and guide her back into a relationship with you.
That’s how it’s done.
Another possible reaction your ex might have to the anonymous gift is…
4. She doesn’t know who it’s from and is too afraid to contact you to ask
Don’t always assume that your ex will guess that the gift is from you, even if you send her something you believe will point to you.
Quite often, a woman might receive an anonymous parcel and wonder something like, “I wonder who this is from. It is possible that my ex sent it to me, but I’m just not sure. What if he didn’t send it and I reach out to him and he’s moved on already and I look foolish for assuming it was him. Alternatively what if I text him to ask if it was from him and he is cold and rejects me? That would really hurt. I guess I just need to ignore it and wait to see if the sender will reveal himself to me.”
She then doesn’t contact her ex and she also doesn’t do anything to give him a sign that she’s open to interacting with him.
He may then think to himself something like, “She must have guessed by now that the gift was from me, but she hasn’t even sent me a text to say thank you. I suppose she’s letting me know that she’s just not interested in me anymore. I need to accept that and try to forget about her, even though I still have feelings for her and want her back.”
He may then give up on the idea of getting her back, even though that’s not what he wants and likely, not what she wants either.
Here’s the thing…
If you want your ex back, don’t miss out on the opportunity of making that happen, just because you didn’t have the courage to contact your ex.
All it takes is one phone call where you make her laugh, smile and feel good to be talking to you again to reawaken some of her feelings of respect and attraction for you.
Then, when you suggest a meet up, she’s more willing to say “Yes,” because you’ve begun to replace her negative thoughts about you with positive feelings.
Then, at the meet up you can build on her feelings for you, show her that you’re a new and improved man now and then get to a hug, kiss, sex and back into a relationship.
On the other hand, it will really suck if you wait for her to give you a sign, which she doesn’t do because she’s afraid of being rejected by you and you both end up losing out on being with the love of your life.
Another possible reaction your ex might have to the anonymous gift is…
5. She doesn’t care who it’s from because she has a new boyfriend and is happy
In some cases, a woman moves on pretty quickly after a break up and finds herself a new man right away.
So, if she then gets an anonymous gift, rather than sit around trying to figure out who it’s from, she usually puts it out of her mind, because she’s too happy in her new relationship to care.
Even if she does guess that it’s from her ex, it no longer matters to her, so she forgets about it.
So, if you’re hoping that sending your ex an anonymous gift is the key to getting her back, be prepared to be disappointed.
Here’s the thing…
The fastest and easiest way to get an ex back is to be active and direct about it, rather than being secretive and passive.
This means, you stand a better chance of re-attracting her, even if she does already have a new boyfriend, if you contact her over the phone or in person, and begin re-sparking her sexual and romantic feelings for you (e.g. by using humor to break down her defenses, being ballsy enough to flirt with her and create some sexual tension between you and her, by showing her that you’re a new and improved man now).
However, if you just sit back and wait for your anonymous gift to re-attract her, don’t be surprised if she ignores you and continues to be happy with her new man.
Get Her Back Faster By Avoiding These 3 Mistakes
If your aim is to get your ex back, focus on saying and doing the types of things that will make that happen, rather than making mistakes that will reduce your chances with her even more.
For example: 3 mistakes to avoid making are…
1. Hiding behind anonymous gifts, texts or e-mails
One of the most attractive qualities to a woman is when a man has the balls to go after what he wants in life regardless of how difficult it may seem or how impossible the odds.
This is why, when a man doesn’t have the courage to talk to his ex in person, or over the phone and instead sends her anonymous gifts, texts, or e-mails in the hope that she will figure out that it’s him and make the first move, it usually turns her off in a big way.
She usually sees it as something an emotionally weak, wimpy guy would do and she doesn’t want to be in a relationship with a guy like that.
As a result, his sweet gesture has the opposite effect to getting her back and instead convinces her that she made the right decision to break up with him.
So, if you want to get back with your ex, show her that you’re an emotionally strong, ballsy man by taking control of the ex back process, calling her on the phone or meeting up with her in person, re-sparking her feelings for you and making it happen.
Another mistake to avoid is…
2. Not knowing that there is a much more simple, more effective way to get a woman back
Maybe you think you need to hide behind anonymous gifts because your ex has said things like, “I never want to see you again,” or “Don’t try to text me or call me because I won’t reply to you.”
Maybe you’ve convinced yourself that there’s no other way to reach out to her and let her know, albeit anonymously, that you still have feelings for her.
Yet, here’s the thing…
There is another way.
The truth is, just because your ex is being closed off to you right now, it doesn’t mean she will feel the same way a week from now after you’ve reactivated her feelings of respect and sexual attraction.
So, don’t give up.
You really can change how she feels and get her back, if you want to.
You can take control of the ex back process by focusing on actively re-attracting her, rather than hiding in the background and hoping she will eventually change her mind about you.
When she can see for herself that you’re the kind of man she always wanted you to be (e.g. confident, persistent, motivated, emotionally strong), her walls will naturally start to crumble and then getting back together becomes something she wants too.
Another mistake to avoid is…
3. Thinking that a gift will win a woman over
Although your ex might realize that the gift is from you and even appreciate your thoughtful gesture, it’s probably not going to make her think something along the lines of, “Wow, this is so sweet of my ex. Maybe he deserves another chance.”
Why?
A woman isn’t going to be in a relationship with the gift.
It is him that she needs to feel attracted to and in love with, not a gift.
So, if all she gets is a thoughtful gift, but he doesn’t follow up with a call and then a meet up to fully reactivate her sexual and romantic feelings for him, she’ll likely just forget about it and move on with her life.
The only way you’re truly going to get your ex back is if you face her and make her feel strong surges of respect, attraction and love for the new you.
So, what are you waiting for?
She’s waiting for you!
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