5 things that will help you get her back:
1. Stopping the apologies
Most guys apologize over and over again to a woman in this kind of situation.
For example: A guy might say things like, “I can’t believe I made you feel that way. I’m so, so, so sorry! I would never do anything to intentionally hurt you. Please trust me when I say I regret my actions and I feel terrible about what I put you through and I promise I will never make you feel like you’re not good enough ever again. Please forgive me.”
Yet, although he is being sincere, apologizing over and over again is not the best approach to convincing a woman to give him another chance. Why?
Continuing to apologize makes a guy seem desperate and gives a woman a false sense of power over him.
As a result, she might then start treating him badly (e.g. by being rude to him, blaming him for ruining their relationship).
She may also create unnecessary drama when she interacts with him and say things like, “I don’t know if I can ever trust you again! You destroyed my confidence by being so cruel to me”) to see if he will put up with it and continue to chase her.
If he then apologizes to her even more and says things like, “Please forgive me! What can I do to make it up to you? I’ll do anything to prove to you how sorry I am for how I treated you,” she will pull away from him even more. Why?
Even though a woman might give a guy the impression that she wants to be in control, she’s not going to respect him if he actually falls for it and submits to her.
So, if you want to get your ex back after making her feel like she wasn’t good enough, make sure you don’t make the mistake of seeming so desperate for her forgiveness that she starts to feel like she has control over you.
By all means apologize to her, but one or two sincere apologies are enough.
Then, after apologizing, just show her via your actions, behavior and the way you treat her when you’re together, that you’ve truly changed.
When she can see that for herself, the idea of giving you another chance starts to feel like something she may be willing to do.
Another thing you can do to get your ex back after being dumped for making her feel like she wasn’t good enough is…
2. Deciding to truly love her from now on
Sometimes a guy might find himself in a relationship with a great woman, but at the back of his mind he might be wondering if he can do better.
Then, every time he sees a woman who is more attractive/better educated/ contributes more money for household expenses/is a better cook than his girl, rather than remember her good points, he might focus instead in things about her that aren’t perfect.
As a result, he may then become critical of her and say things like, “Why is your hair always in a mess? Can’t you do something about it?” or “My friends’ wives are so career oriented while you’ve been in the same dead-end job for years!” or “You’re the only woman I know who can’t even boil an egg without stuffing it up.”
Naturally, being criticized in this way may cause a woman to start feeling like she’s not good enough for her man.
Of course, most guys don’t intentionally go out of their way to be hurtful or critical.
However, if you got dumped for making your woman feel like she wasn’t good enough, your actions and behavior clearly made her feel like you didn’t truly love her the ways she was.
So, if you want to get her back, you need to prove to her that from this point onwards you will love her the way she deserves.
This includes loving and accepting who she is, flaws and all.
If you can truly love her for who she is, that is one of the best gifts a woman will ever receive in life.
She will then naturally want to be good to you, treat you well, be affectionate and loving towards you, and put in the effort to please you.
So even though there will always be other women out there who are more attractive, intelligent or even have more things in common with you, when you decide to truly love your woman, you will develop such an amazing love and connection with her that it’s not something you will ever be willing to throw away again.
Another thing you can do to get your ex back after being dumped for making her feel like she wasn’t good enough is…
3. Understanding the give and take nature of relationships
Couples who have been together for years and who are still completely in love with each other understand that a relationship has to be balanced, otherwise resentment builds up.
If you feel like you are too good for your woman, you’re naturally going to feel like things aren’t fair to you (e.g. you may feel like you’re settling for second best, you can’t relax in the relationship because you’re always the one pushing and trying to improve things).
Likewise, if she feels like you don’t see her as being good enough it will erode away her confidence and then she won’t feel motivated to contribute to the relationship and be a good, loving, respectful, affectionate woman to you.
This is why, if you decide to get back with your ex, you need to make sure that you are prepared to accept her the way she is.
That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t encourage her to be the best version of herself, but you must do it in a way that makes her feel loved and respected.
If she doesn’t, she will start to feel like she isn’t good enough for you again and the relationship will end one more time.
Remember: A woman is at her happiest in a relationship when she is with a man who is good to her and makes her feel valued.
If you can do that, she will want to be good to you, treat you well and make you feel loved and valued as well.
When that happens, the relationship becomes almost unbreakable and both of you feel fulfilled and happy.
Another thing you can do to get your ex back after being dumped for making her feel like she wasn’t good enough is…
4. Understanding that it could just be a test
Sometimes, a woman will say that kind of thing to see if she can gain power over you in a relationship.
She fears that you could break up with her if another pretty woman came along, so she wants to gain some kind of control over you for her emotional protection.
Here’s the thing though…
If it is a test, you can’t make the mistake of giving your power to her by saying things like, “I’m so sorry I made you feel like that! Tell me how to make it up to you. I will do anything you say!”
That’s exactly what she’s waiting for so that she can feel more in control.
Yet, at the same time, she feels disappointed because you failed her test (i.e. of not submitting to her) and now she can’t stop herself from losing respect and attraction for you.
So what should you do instead?
The next time your ex says something along the lines of, “I don’t know if I can ever give you another chance. You made me feel like I wasn’t good enough before. I just can’t trust you,” use it as an opportunity to re-attract her.
For example: You can laugh and say, “I never realized you were such a little drama queen. You poor thing. What a horrible boyfriend/husband I was. Okay, how about this? From now on, I will only tell you how wonderful, brilliant and perfect you are. I’ll just compliment you all day long. How about that? Will that make you feel good enough? I’ll even start right now… you’re amazing! You’re glorious! You’re fantastic! You’re magnificent! Should I go on?” and then laugh at her, (for trying to test you) and with her about it.
Initially, she might be a bit shocked that you’re not allowing her to control you and she may even say something like, “That’s what I’m talking about! You just think I’m your joke and you don’t care about my feelings at all! ”
Just remember though…
She’s only keeping the test going (i.e. are you going to crack if she says that to you or are you going to maintain your confidence).
Then, in a gentle, loving way you can add something along the lines of, “Look, I’m not making fun of your feelings. In fact, I accept that some aspects of my behavior may have caused you to feel like you weren’t good enough for me. However, I want you to know that’s not how I feel about you at all. I have always only felt love and respect for you as a person. If I failed to make you feel like that when we were together, I’m truly sorry. Of course, you probably don’t believe me right now and I understand. So, how about we just hang out as friends for a while and get to know each other over again with a clean slate? Then, if you decide that I still make you feel like you’re not good enough, I will get out of your life forever. I promise.”
By saying something like that to her, you’re passing her test.
You’re also automatically sparking her feelings of respect and attraction for you.
As a result, she will feel differently and begin to drop her guard and open herself up to the idea of getting back together again.
Another thing that you can do to get your ex back after being dumped for making her feel like she wasn’t good enough is…
5. Being a more balanced man from now on
You were out of balance by not making her feel good enough, so make sure that you don’t go to the other extreme and make her feel like you worship the ground she walks on now.
A mistake that some guys make in a situation like yours is thinking things like, “I can’t believe I made her feel so bad. I must be such a terrible person. The only way I can make this up to her is treat her like a princess from this moment onwards. Maybe then she will forgive me and give me another chance.”
He might then start being extra nice to her, agreeing with everything she says and never speaking his mind in case he hurts her feelings and makes her feel like she’s not good enough for him.
Secretly he’s hoping this will make her happy and convince her to give him another chance.
Yet, it almost never works out that way.
Rather than feel satisfied that he’s now treating her like she’s valuable to him, her instincts kick in instead and let her know that he’s now potentially the kind of guy who she will be able to walk all over.
She then loses even more respect and attraction for him and decides that she made the right decision to break up with him.
That’s why, if you don’t want that to happen to you, you need to make sure that you are being a man that she can look up to and respect.
That means you’re a good, loving man who treats her well, but you don’t go overboard.
When she experiences that side of you, she won’t be able to stop herself from feeling drawn to you again in a way that feels good to her.
You can then easily reactivate her feelings for you and get her back.
Common Problems Guys Experience in This Situation
If you want to get your ex back after she dumped you for making her feel like she wasn’t good enough, you need to make sure that you don’t make even more mistakes that will push her away.
That’s why you need to look out for the following problems:
1. She plays hard to get during the ex back process and he loses confidence
A woman will sometimes pretend that nothing her ex is saying or doing is going to convince her to give him another chance to see how he will react.
Will he remain confident and emotionally strong regardless of her lack of interest, or will he crumble and give up on ever getting her back?
If he gives up at the first sign of resistance from her, she will likely think something along the lines of, “Even though I dumped him because he made me feel like I wasn’t good enough for him, I see now that he’s not good enough for me. He’s actually not the confident, emotionally strong man I thought he was and I’m actually better off without him.”
She may then close herself off even more making it even more difficult for him to get her back.
So, regardless of how hard your ex is making it for you to get her back, don’t let it erode your confidence.
Instead, try to see the funny side of how she’s behaving and use it as an opportunity to spark her feelings of respect and attraction for you by maintaining your confidence with her.
When she sees for herself that you’re not losing confidence in yourself, she will automatically feel a surge of respect and attraction for you again.
Her guard will come down and she will then become a lot more open to talking to you and seeing you in person to see where things go.
Another problem you need to be aware of is…
2. He tries to get her back via text and she goes cold
In some cases, a guy thinks that texting an ex who dumped him for making her feel like she wasn’t good enough is the best way to break the ice with her.
Essentially, he’s hoping that by texting her she won’t feel like he’s pushing her to give him another chance and she will then relax and open up to him.
Yet, in most cases, rather than see it from his point of view, a woman just assumes that he’s asking her for a relationship via text because he hasn’t really changed and is too afraid to face her, where she will be able to see it for herself.
She may then start thinking things like, “He just proved my point. He doesn’t even think I’m good enough to waste a phone call on. All he’s doing is texting me like I’m an afterthought and hoping we can get back together again.”
The thing is, you need to make sure that when you try to get your ex back, you do it face-to-face where she can see for herself that you’re being sincere, and only after you have first reactivated her feelings of respect and attraction for you.
Another problem you need to be aware of is…
3. He uses the No Contact approach, which makes her feel like she wasn’t good enough for him to pursue after the break up
No contact might work in some situations (e.g. if a woman is still in love with her guy and is hoping they will reconcile, she is struggling to find a replacement guy).
However, in a case where a woman dumped her guy because he made her feel like she wasn’t good enough, him ignoring her for 30 or 60 days is most likely going to have a negative effect on her.
Rather than make her contact him, she’s most-likely going to feel hurt and rejected and she’s going to be thinking things like, “I guess I was right. If I had any doubts before, he’s made it very clear now that he doesn’t believe I’m good enough. In fact, he must think so little of me, that he didn’t even care enough to call me after I dumped him to see how I’m doing. Well, I can’t cry about it anymore. I need to forget about him and find myself a guy who will appreciate me.”
As a result, if he finally contacts her after weeks or months of No Contact, he’s shocked to discover that she’s moved on.
So if you don’t want that to happen to you, don’t waste time ignoring your ex.
Another problem you need to be aware of is…
4. He goes overboard with contact and comes across as desperate
While some guys will decide to use No Contact to try and get their ex back, others will go the opposite way and bombard her with endless text or social media messages, calls and e-mails.
A guy like that is usually hoping that if he overwhelms his ex with attention, she will stop believing that he thought she wasn’t good enough and give him another chance.
Yet, that rarely happens.
Instead, his constant attention turns her off and she begins to feel relieved that she’s no longer his girl.
Here’s the thing…
Women don’t want to reward desperation with respect, affection, sex and love.
So, when a guy is calling, texting and generally going overboard with his efforts to get her back, rather than think, “Wow, that’s so sweet. I guess I was wrong about him not thinking I was good enough. Clearly I must be special to him for him to put in so much effort to get me back,” she instead thinks something along the lines of, “I never realized this about him before, but he’s so needy and emotionally wimpy. I think I made the right decision to dump him after all.”
Here’s the thing…
Although you must be active about getting your ex back, going overboard with contact is not the way to do it.
Instead, you need to relax and stay in control of your emotions.
Then text her once or twice as a way of getting her on a phone call with you.
On the call, spark enough of her feelings to make her want to see you in person.
Then prepare to re-attract her, meet up with her and get her back.
That’s how it works.
Want Her Back FAST?
Watch a secret video by Dan Bacon where he reveals the fastest way to get your ex back.
It's only available here. Enter your email below to watch the video for FREE right now.
