Here are 4 possible reasons why your ex still texts you, even though she has moved on:
1. She enjoys the power she has over you
It’s only natural that when a guy still has feelings for his ex and is hoping they can work things out and get back together again, he’s going to feel a bit confused when she continues to text him whenever she wants, even though she has moved on.
However, he might also feel excited that she’s still in contact with him and begin thinking things like, “Maybe she still has feelings for me and it’s her way of letting me know. This could be my one chance to get her back.”
He may then respond to her in what he assumes is a cool, or neutral way and wait around hoping that she will make her feelings obvious to him.
Yet, rather than his ex woman coming out and saying something like, “I think I made a mistake. Will you give me another chance?” she gets a thrill out of knowing that she can still control her ex and make him panic, worry and try hard to impress her whenever she wants.
Here’s the thing though…
If you respond to every text your ex sends you, are always available to her or are always super nice and sweet to her, then she knows that you are very excited to get a text from her, even though you might try to act cool or as though you don’t really care either way.
You gave her that power and if you continue to text in a way that suggests she still has the power, the she will enjoy messing with your head whenever she wants.
Yet, it won’t necessarily make her want to be with you though.
Why?
In a relationship, if you hand your power over to a woman, she won’t be able to respect you anymore.
If she can’t respect you, she won’t be able to feel sexually attracted to you and without those two things in place, seeing you as a better option to her new guy simply won’t happen.
So, don’t give your ex power over you and allow her to manipulate you by texting you whenever she wants even though she says she’s moved on.
You need to take your power back and show her (in a loving, but dominant way) that you’re not going to let her push you around anymore.
For example: You can do that by putting an end to texting back and forth with her whenever it suits her and just call her on the phone and re-attract her (e.g. by using humor to change the vibe between you and her, flirting with her to create some sexual tension, showing her that you’re a new, more confident and emotionally strong man that she can’t push around).
Then, even if she initially pretends to be annoyed with you and says something along the lines of, “You shouldn’t be calling me. I told you I’ve moved on,” you just need to maintain your confidence with her and not let her call the shots.
In other words, take control of the situation in an assertive manner, but still be a good guy about it.
Then, reawaken some of her sexual and romantic feelings for you (e.g. by using humor to lighten the mood, making her feel excited to be talking to you again, making her feel feminine and girly in contrast to your masculine vibe) and get her to meet up with you in person so that you can get her back.
Another possible reason why your ex said that she has moved on but still texts you whenever she wants is…
2. She misses you from time to time and texts you to see what will happen
Sometimes, a woman will continue to miss her ex and wonder about what could have been if she hadn’t broken up with him, even after she’s moved on.
For example: She might think to herself, “I really do miss so many things about him. He was a good guy in so many ways. Maybe if I stay in touch with him, I can find out if he’s changed and is now able to make me feel attracted in the way I really want, or if he’s still the same as before.”
She may then text him from time to time to see how he responds and what happens from there.
Unfortunately, in most cases, the guy will simply feel confused and think something like, “She said she has moved on but she still texts me whenever she wants. What does that mean? Is it a sign that she still has feelings for me, or is she just doing it to mess with my head?”
He will then usually do nothing to reactivate his ex’s feelings of respect and sexual attraction for him and show her that he truly has changed and become a better man since the break up (e.g. more confident and emotionally courageous, more assertive and ballsy, more relaxed and easy-going) and will instead wait for her to make her feelings clear to him first.
Yet, that rarely (if ever) happens.
Instead, she will start to realize that she’s just wasting her time with him and that he’s still stuck at the same level he was at when they broke up and she will then focus on truly getting over him and moving on for real.
So, if you don’t want that to happen to you, don’t waste time wondering why your ex is still texting you.
Instead, take it as a positive sign that she still has feelings for you and take action to get her back.
Get her on a call, or meet up with her in person and show her that she didn’t make a mistake by continuing to text you whenever she wants.
Start re-attracting her in the ways that she always wanted you to, so that her guard comes down and she opens back up to kissing, sex and a relationship with you once again.
Another possible reason why your ex said that she has moved on but still texts you whenever she wants is…
3. She wants to keep you around as a back up plan in case her new relationship ends soon
There are some women who don’t like the idea of being single for very long.
So even though she may have moved on quickly after a break up (i.e. to avoid being alone) and has a new man in her life, she might also like the idea of keeping her ex on a string in case her new relationship doesn’t work out.
In that way, not only does she get to experience the thrill of being in an exciting, new relationship, she also has an ex who is available to her if she ever needs him.
That may sound cruel to you, but that’s the way some women are.
This is why, you need to take action right now and decide what you really want.
For example: Ask yourself, “Do I want to get back with my ex, or do I want to let her go and move on?”
If you decide that you want to move on without her, stop allowing her to manipulate you by texting you whenever she wants.
You can do that by sending her a text saying something like, “Hey, you said you’ve moved on, so I think it’s time for us to accept what we had is over and go our separate ways. I wish you only the best. Bye,” and just stop responding to her texts from then on and focus on moving on too.
On the other hand, if you decide that you really do want your ex back, then don’t allow her to mess you around by treating you as her back up plan.
Instead, shake things up by calling her on the phone or meeting up with her in person and begin sparking her sexual and romantic feelings for you again.
Make her want you more than she wants her new man.
You can do that by making her laugh and smile, by standing up to her in a dominant (yet loving) way and by flirting with her and making her feel girly and feminine in comparison to your masculine vibe and approach to conversations and interactions.
The more you do that, the less she will push you away because she will naturally feel drawn to you more than she does to her new man.
It’s then up to you to guide her through the final steps of the ex back process and make her your girl once again.
Another possible reason why your ex said that she has moved on but still texts you whenever she wants is…
4. Her new guy is boring, so she texts you for some feelings of excitement
There are many reasons why a woman will move on really quickly after a break up.
For example:
- She dislikes the idea of being without a man in her life, so she gets into a new relationship as quickly as possible.
- She got lucky and found a guy who made her feel good about herself at a time when her confidence had taken a dent (i.e. because her relationship failed).
- She fears that her ex will move on first, so she hooks up with the first man who shows interest in her to make sure that she’s not the one left behind.
Then, if she also happens to meet a guy (e.g. at work, university, in the neighborhood, through friends) who gives her the feelings that she is craving (i.e. love, attraction, respect), she will quickly hook up with him.
However, just because a woman moves on, it doesn’t mean the new man in her life is the perfect guy for her.
In fact, in some instances, the guy is actually just a rebound relationship to her while she figures out what she really wants.
Then over time, once the initial excitement of being with someone new wears off, she might begin to notice things about him that turn her off (e.g. he’s boring and predictable, isn’t ballsy enough, is a push over).
As a result, she begins to lose interest in him.
At the same time, she begins thinking about her ex and how he used to make her feel when things were still good between (e.g. how he was unpredictable and fun to be around, how he always made her laugh, how he had was always up for a new adventure) and she begins to miss that about him.
When that happens, she may decide to text him to hopefully spark some excitement in her and spice up her life; even if it’s only briefly.
The good news is, if this is the case with your ex, you can use that to your advantage and reactivate her feelings for you so that you can get her back.
How can you do that?
You need to interact with your ex over the phone and in person and actively make her feel a renewed sense of respect and sexual attraction for you.
The more you reawaken those feelings inside of her, the faster she will reconnect with her original feelings of love for you and want you back.
Then, dumping her new guy and getting back with you will happen very quickly and easily.
3 Ways You Can Go Wrong With an Ex Who Keeps Texting You Whenever She Wants Even Though She’s Moved On
Right now, your ex seems to have all the power.
Basically, she’s the one who texts you whenever she wants, while you’re the one who is left feeling confused and unsure of what to do.
You need to change that.
You need to take the lead so that she can begin respecting you as a man again.
When she respects you, she will automatically start to feel sexually attracted to you.
You can then build on those feelings and make her fall in love with you all over again.
However, that won’t happen if you make the following mistakes:
1. Being really nice or very neutral via text
If you suck up to your ex and pretend that you’re only interested in being her nice, neutral friend by being on your best behavior when she texts you, rather than make her think, “I never realized this about him before, but he’s such a sweet guy. He’s so sensitive and patient and nice. Even though I told him that I’ve moved on, he still treats me so well, while never putting any pressure on me to dump my new guy and get back with him. That’s just so attractive to me. Maybe I should give him another chance,” she will likely just continue to mess with your head (i.e. by texting you whenever she wants) while she continues to enjoy the benefits of her new relationship.
So, don’t do that to yourself.
If you want to get your ex back, make your intentions clear to her.
Of course that doesn’t mean you should be rude to her, or come on too strong and throw yourself at her.
Instead, you need to make sure that you’re using every interaction you have with her (via text and especially on the phone and in person) to actively make her feel sexual and romantic feelings for you again.
Don’t pretend that you’re not interested in getting her back.
If you only focus on making her feel unremarkable, friendly feelings for you (i.e. by being nice or neutral towards her), she probably won’t see any reason why she shouldn’t stay with her new man instead.
So, if you don’t want that to happen, make sure that you flirt with her and make her feel attracted, rather than acting like you’re just a friend now.
Another mistake to avoid making is…
2. Asking her why she does that to you
A guy might sometimes go on and on about how confused he feels when his ex continues to text him whenever she wants, even though she’s moved on and how badly it hurts him knowing that she’s with another guy.
In some ways he may be hoping that she will feel sorry for him and then let slip that she still has feelings for him.
She will then dump her new guy and they can get back together again.
Yet, that almost never happens.
Instead, asking a woman why she still texts you whenever she wants even though she’s moved on only inflates her ego and gives her a stronger sense of power over you.
She might enjoy hurting you in that way, but it doesn’t make her feel attracted.
So, don’t try to get pity out of her, or even worse, a confession of undying love.
That’s not going to happen unless you actively reawaken the respect, attraction and love inside of her first.
So, focus on that.
Another mistake to avoid making is…
3. Not making her feel the pain of losing you
Just because your ex keeps texting you whenever she wants, it doesn’t mean you have to respond to her right away.
Right now you’re just too available to her, so it seems like you’re just sitting around waiting for her to change her mind and come back to you.
Don’t you realize that giving off that impression is unattractive when a woman isn’t attracted?
If a woman is attracted and a guy is waiting for her, then it’s intriguing.
However, if she’s already moved on and she gets a sense that her ex is accessible to her 24/7, she won’t feel very turned on by what she perceives as his desperation.
So, if you want to reawaken some of your ex’s feelings for you again, make sure you don’t let her get away with texting you whenever she wants.
Instead, focus on having some fun without her and only responding to her when you’re not busy.
The more she senses that you’re not sitting around like a puppy dog waiting for some scraps from her, the more attracted she will start to feel to you again.
Suddenly the idea of losing you for real starts to bother her and she then opens up to talking on the phone and meeting up in person.
You can then fully reactivate her feelings for you and make her your girl once more.
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