In this post, I’m going to give you tested examples of what to say to a woman when you first meet her.
Before I begin, I just want to make something very clear…
If a guy uses these conversation examples, but doesn’t also focus on making the woman feel attracted to him, she won’t be very interested or impressed.
Why? If a woman isn’t feeling a spark of sexual attraction for a guy that likes her, she will feel as though he isn’t a match for her and her guard will go up. She will lose interest in what he is saying because she knows that he just isn’t a good romantic or sexual match for her.
However, if she is feeling a strong spark of attraction for him, she will feel like they are a match and her guard will come down.
She will then become open to seeing where the conversation leads to (e.g. to a phone number, kissing, sex and a relationship).
How can you attract women while you talk to them? Attracting a woman is as easy as displaying some of the personality traits and behaviors that are naturally attractive to women (e.g. confidence, charisma, humor).
Even just displaying one trait is attractive and enough to pick up some women because many women aren’t as picky as they make themselves out to be.
Of course, if you want to attract high quality women, it is much easier when you can display a few more attractive traits than other guys (e.g. masculine presence, charm, flirting).
When you are making a woman feel attracted you, pretty much anything that you say to her will seem interesting to her because it’s coming from you and you are the guy that she is feeling so attracted to.
Once you’ve sparked her attraction and begun to build on it, she will feel excited about continuing talking to you and seeing where things will lead from there (e.g. phone number, kiss, sex, date, relationship).
Turning a Boring Conversation Topic Into Something That Makes Her Feel Attracted
Every conversation with a woman is an opportunity to either spark her feelings of sexual attraction for you, or turn her off.
You can take normal conversation topics and make a woman feel turned on and excited to be talking to you, or you can make her feel bored and unimpressed.
Here are some examples of how the same topic of conversation can feel dull and ordinary to a woman, or can be fun and trigger her feelings of sexual attraction for you.
1. Ask her what she does for a living
Asking a woman what she does for a living is an obvious conversation starter.
Most guys will ask this question, but the key is to use it as an opportunity to learn something about her, share something about yourself (especially if you have something in common), while at the same time sparking her feelings of attraction for you as a man.
For example: Where most guys go wrong when asking a woman what she does for a living is…
Him: So, what do you do for a living?
Her: I’m a student.
Him: What are you studying?
Her: I’m studying to be a doctor.
Him: Oh, that’s nice.
Her: Thanks.
Him: Do you enjoy it?
Her: Yes.
Nothing about that style of conversation is going to make the guy stand out and make her think, “Wow. This guy is different, I like him.”
It’s not going to trigger her feelings of sexual attraction for him and it’s not going to turn her on.
A better, more attractive way to ask her what she does for a living is…
You: So, what do you do for a living?
Her: I’m a student.
You: What are you studying?
Her: I’m studying to be a doctor.
You: Oh right, so you’re not only hot, but you’re also a smarty, huh? Well, don’t think I’m going to let you play doctor-doctor with me!
Her: (Most likely laughing) Okay.
You: (Smile and say in a joking manner) I’ve see the way you’re looking at me. You’re thinking, “What kind of operation could I perform on him? Preferably something where I get to take his shirt off.”).
Her: (Most likely laughing some more)
The reason the above conversation is different from the first example is because you are confidently using humor, rather than just having a boring question and answer session with her.
Your confidence will make her feel attracted to you because it is one of the main personality traits that women find naturally attracted to in men.
By also being funny as you talk to her, she will see that you are not intimidated by her or the fact that she’s studying to be a doctor (like most guys would be), which will make you stand out from the crowd and draw her to you.
You don’t always have to cracking jokes and using humor in response to everything she says. Instead, just make sure that you add that kind of thing into conversations.
2. Ask her about her interests
Asking a woman about her interests is a good way to get her talking about something she’s passionate about and really enjoys.
It’s also a good way for you to then share your interests with her, which will show her that you are the kind of man who has things going on in his life. This will be attractive to her because she will see you’re not a boring guy who doesn’t have any goals or interests.
Her attraction and interest in who you are will then really get the conversation rolling.
Here’s an another example: Where most guys go wrong when asking a woman about her interests is by talking in a boring way like this…
Him: So, what do you like to do for fun when you’re not in classes or studying?
Her: I love to cook; it helps me relax.
Him: That’s nice. What kind of food do you like cooking?
Her: Anything really, but I really like cooking Indian food.
Him: Cool.
Her: What do you like to do on your time off?
Him: Nothing really, I just like to relax and chill out.
Again this type of conversation is going nowhere. It isn’t making her feel excited about talking to this guy because it’s just a boring, straight-forward conversation she’s probably had with hundreds of other guys before.
Another reason why this conversation isn’t making her feel attracted is that it suggests he may be another typical guy who lacks goals and ambitions in life, or who doesn’t have many good friends.
This is unattractive to her, because most women like to know that the guy they are with is moving through the levels of life reaching for his true potential as a man.
If he doesn’t have big goals and ambitions, she at least wants to know that other people like him (i.e. he has friends) and he isn’t just sitting at home alone all the time.
So, how can you spark her feelings of sexual attraction when asking her about her interests? Here’s an example…
You: So, what do you like to do for fun when you’re not in classes or studying?
Her: I love to cook; it helps me relax.
You: Awesome 🙂 Not only an aspiring doctor, but a cook too? It sounds too good to be true. You can’t possibly be good at both things, so does this mean that you’re a good med student or a good cook?
Her: (Most likely laughing) Both. I’m a good med student and a good cook!
You: (Smile and say in a joking manner) Nah! I don’t believe you. You seem smart, but I don’t know about the cooking. You’re going to have to prove it to me. When are you going to cook something for me?
Her: (Most likely laughing some more)
You: Just kidding, I like to cook too. I once made an amazing scrambled eggs.
Her: (Most likely laughing some more)
In this example, you are once again creating attraction by showing her that you are not overwhelmed by how smart and talented she is. You are also making her feel attracted by getting her laughing and enjoying herself when she talks to you.
2 Mistakes That Many Guys Make When Talking to a Woman They’ve Just Met
When a guy is unsure about what to say to a woman he has just met, he will often make one or more of the following mistakes.
1. Trying really hard to impress her during conversation.
Many guys don’t believe they are good enough for the kind of women they really want.
So, if a guy like that happens to be talking to an attractive woman for the first time, rather than being relaxed and natural, he might on a fake persona and try to impress her by being someone he’s not (e.g. by being overly nice, acting really cool, bragging, not allowing his real personality to come through).
The fact is, women hate it when guys try to impress them during a conversation, because it shows that they lack confidence and belief in themselves and that is off-putting for most women.
Most women are instinctively attracted to the confidence in a man and turned off by self-doubt and insecurity.
One of the most important things you need to know when you’re talking to a woman is you have to get her to try and impress you.
In this way, she will do most of the talking, and she will be eager to please you so that you can make her laugh again and continue making her feel excited and attracted.
Watch this video to understand why women like it when a man makes her feel like she has to impress him…
Being a challenge isn’t about pretending that you don’t like a woman.
Instead, it’s about having real standards and not allowing a woman a chance to kiss you, have sex with you or be your girlfriend unless she impresses you in ways other than her looks.
It’s very easy for us men to feel attracted to a woman’s looks and be willing to have sex with her based on that. However, if you want to be successful at picking up women, you’ve got to have standards and only allow some women to get a chance with you.
2. Being extra nice to her in the hope that she likes him enough as a person to give him a chance.
There’s nothing wrong with being a nice guy, but if the only thing you’re doing while talking to a woman is trying extra hard to be nice, polite and sweet to her, while at the same time avoiding showing any sexual interest in her, it will usually only create friendly, non-sexual feelings inside her.
Watch this video for more info…
If you want to start a sexual relationship with a woman, you need to make her feel sexually attracted to you first.
If you don’t do that, most women will lose interest in talking to you, even if you’re a really good guy who would be a great match for her.
Only when you have sparked her feelings of sexual attraction will she then be interested in how nice of a guy you are. However, prior to attraction, niceness means nothing to women.
Many guys make the mistake of thinking that for a woman to be interested in them sexually, she first has to like them as a person. Yet, what they really need to focus on is triggering her feelings of sexual attraction.
Attraction comes first and then everything else will follow naturally and easily after that.
The main thing you need to remember when you are talking to a woman you’ve just met is that although there’s nothing wrong with being nice to her and being a good guy, you have to focus on triggering her feelings of sexual attraction for you first.
Then, all those other qualities about you that are likeable (e.g. you’re a good guy, you’re intelligent, you’re interesting) will make you even more attractive to her.
Being Yourself in an Attractive Way
All women are attracted to men who are confident enough to simply be themselves.
Of course, by “being yourself” I’m not talking about the guys who believe that their real self is nervous, insecure and shy.
Who they really are on the inside is a confident, intelligent and charismatic guy, but they don’t know how to bring that out when talking to attractive women.
Women don’t want nervous, insecure, shy guys who feel intimidated by attractive women. Why? Women aren’t attracted to emotional weakness.
We live in a challenging world and if women rewarded emotional weakness with sex, love and devotion, the human race wouldn’t get stronger. Women instinctively feel attracted to the emotional strength of men (e.g. confidence, determination to succeed) and turned off by the emotional weakness (e.g. insecurity, self-doubt).
So, when I say “be yourself,” I mean, “Be yourself in an attractive way.”
If you are a nervous guy around attractive women, that isn’t who you really are.
You know that you’re much stronger than that and you simply need to fix that nervousness by becoming a more confident guy.
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