What to Say to Get Your Ex Back

If you are a guy who wants to get a woman back, you will no doubt be hoping that there is something you can say to her to get her back.

Well, you’re in luck!

In my recent post called, What to Say to Your Ex to Get Her Back, I provide 4 examples of what you can say to get your ex back.

However, as I explain in the post, while it is important to say the right things to her, the most important thing that you need to do is fix or improve the things about you that caused her to break up with you in the first place.

Since you’re looking for examples of what to say to get your ex back, here is a video that I’ve recorded on the topic…

Saying the right things to your ex does begin the process of getting her back, but it’s not all you need to do.

The most important part of getting an ex back is meeting up with her and getting her to feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction to the new and improved version of you.

If you are unsure what to say to get her to meet up with you or how to make her feel a lot of respect and attraction for you at the meet up, I recommend that you watch my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System

When Getting an Ex Back, Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Instead of only thinking in terms of what to say to get your ex back, you also need to begin thinking in terms of what to do to get your ex back.

There’s a lot of truth in the old saying, “Actions speak louder than words” and it when it comes to getting an ex back, your words will be much more meaningful to her if she can actually see that you’ve already improved and changed significantly since she broke up with you.

Many guys make the mistake of hounding an ex with phone or text messages in a desperate attempt to get back with her, but there’s nothing a guy can say that will completely change how she’s feeling about him 100%.

Whatever it was that caused her to fall out of love with him or to feel less attracted to him is still there and words alone can’t change all of that, but actions can.

For example: A guy might resort to begging and pleading on the phone by saying, “I can change … just give me another chance and I’ll prove to you that I can change.”

Yet, what a woman wants to see is that her ex has already realized where he was going wrong and has already significantly changed and improved. She doesn’t want to just hear that he will change; she wants to sense that he already has changed.

The prior actions that he took to already change prior to calling her will speak much louder than any of the words he is saying. She will feel as though she can trust him a bit more and begin to let down her guard.

However, when a guy refuses to fix or improve anything about himself (e.g. his insecurities) and resorts to pleading with her to be given another chance, it’s not going to make her change her mind.

In fact, it’s likely to turn her off completely and any lingering attraction she felt for him will be further diminished.

If a guy begs and pleads by saying things like, “My life is not worth living without you,” or, “No other woman could ever take your place,” he’s going to make the situation even worse.

Why? Women feel the most respect, attraction and love for men who are emotionally strong and happy with or without her in his life.

A woman wants to see that you love her and want her in your life, but she doesn’t want to get the sense that your life would fall apart if she weren’t in it.

She doesn’t want to live with that type of responsibility for your emotional state. She wants you to be your own man, with or without her.

Back Up What You’re Saying With Actual Changes

Okay, so let’s assume you’re prepared to take action to improve yourself and fix the issues that caused the break up.

The first and most important action that you need to take now is to start being the sort of man that she can look up to and respect. When she see those changes in you, it will seem possible to her that she could once again feel proud to be in a relationship with you.

You’ve got to show her that you have the capacity to change and improve, by actually changing and improving. You don’t have to become Mr. Perfect, but you have to become an even better man than you are right now.

When the things that you’re saying to your ex are backed up by what you’ve actually been doing in your life since the break up, it demonstrates to her that you are the kind of man who can change.

You’re not all talk.

When she realizes that, she will be much more willing to give you another chance or at least meet up with you to see how she feels.

Getting Her to Open Back Up to Being With You

Not all relationships will get back together simply because a guy has changed.

Sometimes, a woman will feel as though the relationship has run its course and there’s no point in trying anymore.

However, that’s how she will think if her ex isn’t saying or doing enough to respark her attraction and feelings for respect for him.

Here’s the way that it works…

When you want to get a woman back, what you actually need to do is get her to feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you on a phone call (not via text).

You can get her respect back by truly understanding where you messed up in the relationship, making some real changes and then apologizing for the mistakes that you’ve made.

After giving the apology, you can then ask her to forgive you for the mistakes that you’ve made, simply so both of you can feel better about the break up and what happened between you from then on.

You have to make sure that you tell her that her forgiving you is not about getting back together. It’s just so she can get closure on what happened between you and for both of you to handle the break up in a more mature way.

Yet, that’s not what is REALLY going on when you get her to forgive you.

By getting her to forgive you, it’s actually a secret technique of persuasion that plays a trick on a woman’s mind and makes her become more open to having positive, loving feelings for you again.

Essentially, when you get her to forgive you, what happens is that her perspective of you and the break up changes and as a result, her feelings towards you instantly begin to change.

Rather than thinking about you and feeling emotions like hate, disgust and disappointment, the act of forgiving you will naturally begin to dissolve the negative emotions and allow her to feel more positive emotions towards you.

She then realizes that things did go wrong between you and her, but you have already fixed and improved yourself so much since the break up, so there’s no need to waste any more energy holding a grudge against you.

She will then begin to open herself back up to having some sort of feelings for you again, even if it begins with her feeling sorry for you because you were the guy who changed and improved too late to stop a break up from happening.

At that point, which can take anywhere from a couple of hours to a couple of days, she will then become more open to meeting up with you in person to have a chat and say a final goodbye to each other in person.

Again, this is a secret technique that you will be using on her.

Saying that the meet up is the “last time” you and her will meet up doesn’t actually mean that it will really be the last time. You are just saying what you need to say to get her to feel willing to meet up with you in person.

At the meet up, you can then make her feel a strong, renewed sense of respect and attraction for you based on how much you have already changed and improved.

Since her guard will already be down after forgiving you over the phone, she will allow herself to feel respect and attraction for you in person.

When she does that, her old feelings for you will begin to come back and she will naturally become more open to the idea of giving the relationship another chance.

So, if you want to know exactly what to say and do each step of the way, I recommend that you watch my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System

In the 10 hours of video training, I explain exactly what you need to say and do to get her back and then keep her in a relationship once you’re back together.