5 possible reasons why:
1. They believe that she has made a mistake by breaking up with you
Sometimes, a woman’s family might be more in love with a guy than their daughter/sister was.
From their point of view they likely perceive him as being perfect for her (e.g. because he’s a good guy, is kind and gentle, he treated her like a princess).
Unfortunately though, what they believe doesn’t matter.
Even if your ex’s family thinks you’re the one and only man for her, when it comes to her relationship with you, it’s only what she believes that counts.
So, if she’s currently feeling as though she can no longer love, respect and feel attracted to you as her man, what anyone else thinks or believes isn’t going to change that.
The good news though is that you can change that.
You can reactivate her sexual and romantic feelings for you and make her want you back.
However, that means you first have to understand what caused her to disconnect with her feelings for you in the first place and then change your approach to attraction with her.
By the way…
If you’re not sure where to start, here are some questions that will help you uncover the thinking and behaviors that may have caused your ex to lose touch with her feelings for you…
- Did your ex like that you were an emotionally strong, confident and independent man, or did she often complain that you were being too clingy, needy, insecure or overly emotionally sensitive?
- Did she feel like a sexy and desirable woman with you, or did she feel more like a neutral friend, or even worse, a big sister to you?
- Did she feel loved, appreciated and taken care of by you, or did she feel a bit taken for granted or neglected?
- Did she feel as though you were a bit of a challenge to her as a man and that she needed to work hard to keep you interested in her, or were you too predictable and boring and she felt like she didn’t have to put in any effort to impress you?
- Did she like that you took the lead in the relationship and allowed her to relax into thinking, acting and behaving like a feminine woman around you, or did she feel that she had to be the emotionally strong one and make all the decisions for both of you?
- Did she feel proud of you as her man because you were rising through the levels of life and achieving your goals, or did she feel embarrassed by your lack of drive and ambition?
- Did she feel supported in achieving her dreams and ambitions, or did she feel as though you were unsupportive and maybe even discouraging of her wants and desires?
- Did she feel safe knowing that you and her wanted the same things for the future, or did she feel insecure and like you and her weren’t in sync with each other?
When you understand what really turned your ex off about you, you can take action on improving those things about yourself right now.
Then, the next time you interact with her over the phone or in person, you will be able to give her the type of attraction experience that she always wanted from you but didn’t get.
She will then naturally open back up to at least spending more time with you to see how she feels.
Then, having her family on your side will be a good thing, because they won’t be trying to talk her out of giving you another chance when she starts wanting you back.
Another possible reason why your ex’s family is contacting you is…
2. They can see that she misses you, but is afraid that you might not want her back now after what she put you through
Some breaks up can be pretty nasty.
For example: A woman might dump a guy and say hurtful things like, “I hate you! You’re such a jerk and I never want to see you again! My feelings for you are dead and I’m so angry with you and with myself for wasting so many months/years with you. Don’t ever try to get me back because I will never, ever give you another chance.”
She may also tell him that she’s already found another guy who is so much better than him to move on with, even if it’s not the truth, just to hurt him.
Yet, once the initial anger and resentment she was feeling that led to her breaking up with her guy settle down, she may begin to feel as though she made a mistake.
She realizes that she misses him and she might even start to feel as though she overreacted.
This could lead to her moping around and saying things like, “I’m such an idiot. I can’t believe I messed things up so badly with him. I ruined a perfectly good relationship, when what I should have done was try and work things out with him. Now I just have to live with the knowledge that I’ve lost him for good because there’s no way he would want me back after the way I treated him.”
Of course, if her family notices how miserable she is without him, they might decide to take the first step and contact him to see if he’s possibly open to working things out with her.
Here’s the thing…
In most cases, a woman will rarely make the first move in getting back together with her ex guy.
This is especially true if she was mean to him during the breakup, or said hurtful things that she now regrets.
Essentially, she will be too afraid to contact her ex, in case he rejects her and says something along the lines of, “Why are you even calling me after what you said? You were a total bitch to me and there’s no way I’m going to forgive you. I wouldn’t make the mistake of taking you back after everything you put me through. So, go away and find yourself another man whose life you can ruin. I’ve had my shot with you and I’ve learned my lesson, thank you very much.”
She will then feel rejected and humiliated.
So, to avoid that from happening, she won’t make a move.
However, that doesn’t mean her family can’t do it for her.
In this way, they can gauge how you feel about your ex (i.e. do you still have feelings for her or do you hate her and never want to see her again?)
Then, depending on what they discover, they can either urge her to maybe call or text you, or encourage her to forget about you and move on.
Here’s the thing though…
If you still have feelings for your ex and want her back, don’t sit around waiting for her or her family to make a move.
As a man, it’s up to you to be fearless in getting what you want.
In other words, you need to be emotionally strong enough to handle the ex back process and guide her back into a relationship with you.
So, stop sitting around wondering, “Why is my ex’s family contacting me?” and take control of the ex back process to get her back.
Call her on the phone and spark some of her feelings for you (e.g. by making her laugh and smile and feel good to be talking to you again).
Then arrange to see her in person so that you can fully reactivate her sexual and romantic feelings for you.
However, at the same time, you need to regain the position of power with her.
The way to do that is to make her feel attracted to you again and to want her, but not need her.
In other words, show her that even though you’re taking the lead in the ex back process, you’re not chasing the relationship.
You’re not still hurt over what she put you through.
You’re doing fine without her.
Yet, you want her back and you’re taking action like a real man to get her back, but you don’t actually need her.
When she notices that you’re not chasing her, or pressuring her to get into a relationship with you, but instead you just focus on making her feel attracted, she won’t be able to resist feeling drawn to you again in a way that feels good to her.
Her guard will then naturally come down and getting back together again happens easily and naturally.
At the same time, she ends up feeling like she’s the lucky one to get another chance with a guy like you.
As a result, she puts in a lot of effort to be the most, loving, devoted and attentive woman she can be.
All you need to do then is be a good, loving man back to her and your relationship is almost 100% guaranteed to last.
Another possible reason why your ex’s family is contacting you is…
3. They just miss having you around and will get over it soon enough
What a lot of couples don’t realize is that when a breakup happens, it’s not just the man and the woman that break up, it’s also their respective friends and family as well.
Here’s the thing…
In most serious relationships, a woman will eventually introduce her guy to her family and friends.
This is especially true if a woman is close to her family and values their opinions and views.
He will then automatically begin to get included in family get-togethers (e.g. religious holidays, birthdays or wedding anniversary celebrations).
Over time, if he’s a really great guy with good social skills, he will naturally develop a bond with his woman’s family and friends.
So, if you and your ex’s family got on well together (e.g. you and her brothers or her father used to enjoy watching sports together, you used to hang out with her kid sister when she was working and helped out with her homework, you were always running errands for her mother), it’s natural that they will miss you now that you’re no longer around.
So, if your ex’s family is contacting you, it may be because they haven’t yet been able to accept that you’re no longer a part of their family unit.
They miss you and the fun times you all shared together and they just want to say “Hi,” and catch up with you.
They might also be a little bit worried about you and just want to make sure that you’re coping after the breakup.
Of course, if you don’t do anything to get your ex back, her family’s feelings for you will eventually begin to fade away.
They will then likely just focus on creating a bond with her new man, rather than hang on to what they had with you and potentially upset their daughter/sister.
The good news is that, if your ex’s family really liked you and if you decide to get her back, you will almost certainly have their approval and even their help.
However, once again, you can’t depend on anyone else to pave the way to you getting your ex girl back.
If you want her, you’re going to have to have the balls to go and get her.
Another possible reason why your ex’s family is contacting you is…
4. She has asked them or hinted at wanting them to contact you and try to help fix things between you and her
It’s quite possible that the reason why your ex’s family is contacting you is that she still has feelings for you.
She may then have asked (or just hinted at the idea) of them contacting you to see if they can get any information regarding your feelings for her and possibly even put in a good word for her.
Of course, depending on your reaction (e.g. you seem happy to hear from them and you don’t say bad things about your ex when they mention her to you vs. you’re quite cold and aloof and you refuse to talk about your ex and the relationship with them), she will have a better idea of what her chances of getting back with you might be.
She may then either take a chance and send you a text or call you on the phone to say “Hi” and open the lines of communication with you, or if you don’t seem keen, she will try to get over you and move on.
In most cases, this will entail her going out to clubs or bars with her single friends and hooking up with other guys.
Of course, even if you do seem interested, a woman won’t necessarily make a move.
Instead, she might hope that her family contacting you is enough of a hint to make you get in touch with her.
She may then wait for a little while to hear from you, but if that doesn’t happen, she will usually resign herself to the idea that you and her are not going to get back together again.
She will then just go ahead and try to get over you by finding herself a new man.
Don’t let that happen to you.
If you want your ex back, take control of the ex back process and make it happen.
Just remember: Even if your ex still has feelings for you, if she interacts with you and realizes that you’re still stuck at the same level you were at when you and her broke up, she will quickly lose interest.
This is why you need to be ready to give her an upgraded attraction experience this time around.
For example: Some of the changes she might want to see in you are…
- You’re less insecure and unsure of yourself now, which means you don’t feel the need to cling to her out of fear of losing her to someone else.
- You’re more ballsy now, which means you don’t put up with her (or anyone else’s) bad treatment of you. Instead, you stand up for yourself in an assertive yet, loving way and put her back in her place when she tries to walk all over you with her confident personality.
- You’re more emotionally independent, which means that you want her to be your girl, but you don’t need her in order to feel happy and live a fulfilling life.
- You’re still a good guy to her and treat her with love and respect, but you’re now also more of a challenge to her so she can’t take you for granted. Instead, she feels as though she needs to work hard to maintain your attention and keep you interested in her.
- You’re friendly with her, but you no longer treat her like a neutral friend. Instead, you make her feel like a sexy, desirable woman when she’s interacting with you by flirting with her to subtly show your interest and create sexual tension.
- You’re more emotionally dominant now, which means that you don’t need her to lead and call all the shots like she used to.
When your ex experiences those kinds of changes in you, she naturally drops her guard and opens up to being with you again.
Before you know it, you and her will be in bed together, hugging, kissing and feeling that amazing love you used to feel for each other.
This time though, it will feel even more exciting because you will have leveled up and will be attracting her in new ways that make her want you more than ever before.
Another possible reason why your ex’s family is contacting you is…
5. They are the type of family who gets too involved in her relationships
Sometimes, a woman’s family just loves to meddle in her personal life.
They feel that they have a right to know exactly what’s going on in their daughter’s/sister’s life and why.
As a result, they may be contacting you to get your side of the story and see why you broke up.
If they then like you, they might try to force their daughter/sister to give you another chance, even though she no longer feels sexually and romantically attracted to you.
On the other hand, if they decide that you hurt their ‘baby’ they may focus on convincing her to walk away for good, even if she still has feelings for you and is secretly hoping you and her can work things out.
Here’s the thing though…
Regardless of the reasons why your ex’s family is contacting you, at the end of the day, it’s no-ones business what happens between you and your ex except yours and hers.
So, if you want to get back with your ex, just make it happen.
It’s actually easier than you might think.
All you need to do is…
Call her on the phone and spark some of her feelings for you (e.g. by using humor to break down her defenses and make her feel good to be talking to you again) and then get her to agree to meet up with you.
At the meet up, continue saying and doing the types of things that will prove to her that you’ve leveled up as a man (e.g. being confident and emotionally strong, making her feel like a feminine woman around you, making her laugh and smile and feel relaxed in your presence).
When she can see for herself that you really are at a different level now, her feelings for you will naturally begin to change.
Even if she tries to deny it to your face, she won’t be able to stop herself from feeling surges of respect and attraction for you for being man enough to change and improve so quickly.
She will then drop her guard and open back up to at least seeing you more often to see where things go from there.
Get Her Back Faster By Avoiding These 3 Mistakes
It doesn’t really matter why your ex’s family is contacting you.
What matters is if you want her back, what are you doing about it?
Is your approach turning her on, or is it turning her off?
Depending on that, she will either want to be your girl again, or she will just decide to move on with someone else.
If you don’t want that to happen though, make sure you don’t make these mistakes:
1. Trying to get her family to convince her to give you another chance, rather than manning up and re-attracting her in person
Even if her family adores you and wants you back in their daughter’s/sister’s life, it won’t matter if she doesn’t feel the same way.
In some cases, a woman will even resist getting back with a guy (even if she secretly wants to), just because her family is pushing her to do it.
So, don’t enlist her family to put in a good word for you.
You don’t need it.
You can show your ex yourself what a catch you are by being man enough to initiate the ex back process with her.
The more you interact with her and spark her feelings for you (i.e. by showing her by way of your behavior, conversation style and actions that you have already fixed some of the issues that were turning her off before), the more drawn to you she will feel for her own reasons (e.g. she’s attracted to the new you, she doesn’t want to walk away and end up regretting her decision later on)
You can then get her back because she wants it too, rather than because she was talked into it by her family and then risk losing her again later on when she realizes she made a big mistake.
Another mistake to avoid is…
2. Texting her family in a nice, friendly way and hoping that they continue putting in a good word for you
That might work for a little while.
It might even be fun to catch up with them and possibly even get a bit of news about your ex.
However, soon enough, they will realize that it’s a bit awkward to be texting their daughter’s/sister’s ex and they will stop.
Meanwhile, you will have wasted weeks or months texting back and forth with her family members, when what you should have been doing is focusing on getting her back.
So, by all means, be nice to your ex’s family, but don’t let that be your main approach to getting her back.
If you don’t take action to interact with her over the phone and in person, chances are you will eventually stop hearing from her family, or they will be telling you how she’s met someone else and is in love with him.
Another mistake to avoid is…
3. Assuming that if her family is texting you and putting a good word in for you, she will feel attracted to you
Many women are attracted to guys who are the opposite kind of guys that their parents want them to be in a relationship with.
So, basing your entire ex back approach on her family’s approval of you can be a big mistake and it can backfire on you.
This is why the best approach is to take direct and decisive action yourself.
Call her or meet up with her.
Reactivate her sexual and romantic feelings for you.
Get her back!
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