It depends on the following 5 things:
1. If you are able to easily attract high quality women to find one that will be a good enough replacement
Although breaking up with the woman he loves, isn’t something a guy wants to experience, it doesn’t have to be the end of the world.
In fact, in some instances, losing one woman can open the door to finding an even better woman.
Of course, a lot of guys don’t believe that is possible, so they end up feeling stuck.
Guys like that can go through years of dating women they don’t really like or feel attracted to (e.g. insecure, unattractive women) and thinking things like, “I just can’t find the right woman. No one seems to be as good as my ex.”
So, if you want to successfully move on and find someone else after your breakup, you need to make sure that you’re going to be able to attract high quality women, rather than settling for what you can get.
If you don’t improve your ability to attract women, you may end up believing that your ex was the best woman for you, even though she might not have been.
This is why your first step to finding someone else after a breakup is improving your approach to attraction.
For example: Some of the ways you can do when interacting with a woman, include:
- Being more ballsy and emotionally masculine when interacting with a woman, rather than always being really nice, sweet and agreeable.
- Taking control and being the man during interactions, rather than handing all your power over to the woman and allowing her to call the shots.
- Making her feel like a feminine, girly woman in your presence, rather than treating her too much like she’s angelic and pure.
- Being more of a challenge so that a woman feels as though she needs to put in a lot of effort to impress you and maintain your interest in her, rather than feeling that she doesn’t have to do anything and you will still chase after her and want her.
- Being confident and believing in your value and attractiveness to women, rather than doubting yourself and wondering if you’re good enough.
The more you improve your approach to attraction with women, the easier it will be for you to find another high quality woman to start a relationship with.
Remember: There are many millions of different women across the world who can easily be the one for you.
All it takes is confidence to find her, as well as the ability to make her feel attracted to you as you talk to her.
When you know how to attract women as you interact with them, you will naturally start to feel more confident and hopeful about your future.
As a result, you will naturally begin to think, talk, act and behave in the kind of ways that will attract your perfect woman to you.
As an added bonus, when you are happy and moving forward in your life with someone else, you suddenly seem more attractive to your ex as well.
She then begins to want you back for herself.
You can then choose to stay with your new woman and build a long-lasting relationship with her, or break up with her and get your ex back.
2. If you don’t lose confidence by seeing her move on quicker than you and being happy without you
Some women (especially very attractive women) are able to move on very quickly after a breakup.
So, within weeks of breaking up a woman like that can already be in love and in a new relationship with another man.
In some cases, when a guy sees that, he might begin thinking things like, “Wow! I can’t believe she’s moved on so fast. I guess she couldn’t have really loved me if she can replace me so quickly with a new man. Maybe I just wasn’t good enough for her.”
As a result, he begins to lose confidence in himself and in his attractiveness to his ex and to women in general.
Unfortunately though, when a guy starts thinking like that, it begins to show in his attitude and in the way that he talks, thinks and behaves around his ex and other women.
For example:
- He seems nervous and unsure of himself and struggles to maintain eye contact.
- He says negative things about himself, or puts himself down by making jokes about his faults.
- He has a defeatist attitude.
- He feels unworthy of getting his ex back or finding a new woman.
This naturally makes him unappealing to women.
Of course, when he notices that his ex and other women feel turned off by him, he then loses even more confidence in himself and in his ability to get her back, or find someone else instead.
This is why you have to be able to maintain your confidence regardless of what your ex does now that you and her have broken up (e.g. she starts dating another man really quickly and seems happy and in love).
If you can’t do that, you’ll end up struggling to find someone else.
Remember: Women are attracted to confident men who believe in themselves.
Likewise, women are turned off by insecure men who doubt themselves.
On the other hand, if you are able to believe in yourself and in your value to your ex and to women in general, it will be pretty easy for you to find another high quality woman.
In fact, if your ex senses your confidence and emotional strength based on the way you talk to her, react to her, treat her and get her to treat you, she won’t be able to stop herself from feeling a tremendous amount of respect and attraction for you again.
As a result, you will suddenly seem more appealing to her and she may decide to interact with you more to see how she feels.
You can then choose to take her back if you want to, or just move on and enjoy a new relationship with someone else.
3. If you don’t change your mind and want her back
If you’re 100% sure that you’re over your ex and ready to move on and make a fresh start with a new woman, then chances are high that you will find someone else.
However, if you’re going to spend a lot of time going out with friends, meeting new women, hooking up with them and getting to know them, only to realize that you’re just trying to trick yourself into forgetting about your ex, it’s going to be a lot more difficult for you to find another woman and hold on to her.
So, if what you really want is to get your ex back, then focus on re-attracting her and seducing her now, rather than walking away and trying to find someone else to replace her with.
If you’re unsure how to go about re-attracting your ex, here are some tips to help you:
- Call her on the phone, or even better meet up with her in person, so she can experience the changes in you and feel attracted and drawn to the new you.
- When talking to her, maintain your confidence regardless of what she says or does to make you feel insecure and unsure of yourself (e.g. she says things like, “I don’t have feelings for you anymore,” or “I don’t think we’re right for each other,” or “It’s best if we just move on.”)
- Use humor to break down her defenses and make her laugh, smile and feel happy to be interacting with you again rather than feeling tense, stressed out, or eager to get away from you.
- Flirt with her to create some sexual tension between you again so she’s left thinking things like, “I wish he would kiss me,” or “I want him so bad.”
- Be more of a challenge to her than ever before, so she doesn’t know where she stands with you, causing her to put in more effort to impress you, rather than take you for granted.
The more that you give your ex the kind of attraction experience she always wanted from you, but never got, the more she feels like she just has to give you another chance, or else she might end up regretting it.
Even if she has been saying that she doesn’t want anything to do with you, it really is possible to change how she feels in a matter of days.
As a result, you don’t have to waste time looking for another woman to move on with if you don’t want to.
4. If you’re not in a lot of emotional pain after the breakup
Sometimes a relationship just reaches its end and even though a couple may have cared about each other at the start, they instinctively know that they are not right for each other now.
So, when the breakup happens, the guy (and probably the woman too) aren’t that heartbroken about it, because he had already disconnected from his initial feelings of love, respect and attraction for her and was already ready to move on and find himself another woman to be in a relationship with.
A guy like that, is almost certainly not going to struggle to find someone else.
Instead, he’s going to begin going out to clubs and bars with his friends and he’s going to start hooking up with other women.
Over time, he will inevitably find a woman that he feels a connection with and then that will lead to a relationship and maybe even something more (e.g. moving in together, getting married, starting a family).
His ex will then become a distant memory to him.
However, if a guy struggles to get over his ex and spends many weeks, months and in some cases even years, missing her and thinking about her, then chances are he’s going to struggle to find someone else.
The reason why, is that if he manages to force himself to actually go out and interact with other women, rather than staying home alone and moping, they will instinctively pick up on his feelings of dejection and despair.
It will come through in the tonality of his voice, his body language, the way he seems so despondent and demoralized around them and how he fails their confidence tests and they will instinctively feel turned off by him.
He then gets rejected, which only compounds his feelings of inadequacy and despair.
So, if you are currently struggling to get over your ex, moving on and finding someone else might not be the best decision for you.
Instead, a better approach might be to quickly get control of your emotions and then focus on re-attracting your ex so that you can get her back.
You can do that.
There’s no rule that says you have to move on after a breakup and find someone else.
In fact, there are hundreds of thousands of guys around the world that are not doing that after a breakup.
They’re actually following their heart and getting their ex back instead.
You can do that too.
So, if you’re not over your ex already and you spend most of your time missing her and thinking about her, do something about it.
Interact with her, re-attract her and get her back.
Another thing finding someone else after a breakup will depend on is…
5. If you don’t make the mistake of comparing every new woman you meet to her and how she made you feel
Sometimes a guy will try to move on after a breakup, only to find himself thinking things like, “She’s sweet, but she’s nothing compared to my ex. My ex was so amazing. She had everything going for her – beauty, brains and a sweet personality. I just can’t find a woman that can live up to that,” every time he’s with any other woman.
Yet, here’s the thing…
Regardless of how great an ex woman is, comparing her to every other woman won’t help him move on and find someone else.
Instead, he gets caught up in a negative loop where he subconsciously misses his ex and wants her back, but he keeps forcing himself to forget about her and move on.
As a result, he remains stuck in limbo.
He can’t find himself someone else, nor does he take action to get his ex back.
So, if you’re sure that you want to move on and find another woman to be in a relationship with, then make sure you don’t fall into the trap of comparing your dates to your ex.
Remember: Every woman is different and some women will be better than your ex and some won’t.
What you and her shared was unique and it can’t be replaced or replicated by another woman.
However, that doesn’t mean you can’t create something special and unique with another woman if it’s what you really want to do.
On the other hand, if comparing every other woman to your ex is your way of avoiding getting into a new relationship, because what you really want to do is get her back, then you’re not doing yourself any favors.
Instead, you’re wasting precious time where you could be re-attracting your ex and getting her back.
So, if what you really want deep down is a relationship with your ex again, just focus on making it happen.
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