The best ways to meet women are often seen as the worst ways to meet women for some guys.
Some guys like to meet women in bars and nightclubs, whereas others hate that and would prefer to stop a woman in her tracks at a shopping mall, have a quick chat, get her phone number (or add her to Facebook) and then set something up later.
How about you? Which of the following do you think is the very best way to meet women?
- Bar or nightclub
- Speed dating
- House party
- Through friends
- Dance classes
- Shopping mall
- Dog parks
- Coffee shop
- The gym
- Weddings
- Mixed sports team
- Supermarket
- Concert or show
- Athletic event
- Cultural event
- Trivia night
- Public transport
- Wine or beer tasting event
- Hobby groups
- Volunteering
- Online dating
- Museum or art gallery
- Weekend markets
- Work/office functions
- The laundromat
- Hairdresser at a salon
- Yoga class
- Group fitness classes
- Approaching on the street
- Bus tours / organized group trips
- Bookstore
- At a strip club
- Cooking classes
- Singles events
- Chat sites
As you can see from the big list above, there are endless ways to meet women, but believe me – the LOCATION is not the most important part. What matters is whether or not you make the woman feel attracted to you when you meet her.
Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man works and how you can use that to get quick and easy results when you go out to meet women…
As you will discover from the video above, you have a lot of control over how much or little attraction a woman will feel for you.
If you display the personality traits and behaviors that naturally attract women, most of the women you meet will like you and be interested in talking to you and hooking up with you.
Bars and Nightclubs Are Often the Best Place to Meet Women
I’ve had sex with more than 250 women and I’ve found that bars and nightclubs are usually the best place to get yourself a girlfriend.
Some guys mistakenly assume that a girl from a bar or nightclub won’t be “marriage material” will cheat on them or dump them later on. However, some of the nicest, most loyal women I’ve ever met where in bars and nightclubs.
As for my girlfriend who met in a nightclub when she was 20 and I was 35 (photo above), I’ve never met a girl who is more “marriage material” than her.
She is honest, has great family values, truly cares about me and doesn’t believe in divorce. Some guys believe it’s impossible to meet girls like her in a nightclub, but from my experience, I’ve found that it easy because most guys are afraid of the hotties or simply don’t know how to pick them up.
Often, the women you see on the street, at cafes or walking through a shopping mall are the same types of women who are at bars and nightclubs on the weekend. They may look more “innocent” when in a bookstore, restaurant or cafe, but they are pretty much all the same.
3 Facts About Meeting Women
The truth is, meeting women is a LOT of fun if you do it correctly (i.e. you begin interactions by making the women feel attracted to you, rather than trying to be nice to them and hoping that they are nice back).
Meeting women is a source of fun, excitement and happiness that you simply can’t get anywhere else as a man.
You might try to dull your built up sexual desire by regularly masturbating to porn, but you will eventually realize that you need to grow a pair of balls and actually meet REAL women.
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Loading ...So, if you are at the point where you’re sick of not having any real women or sex in your life and are willing to get out there and meet women (rather than hiding behind endless masturation), take note of the following…
Fact 1: Women Do Want to Be Approached
When I was afraid to approach women, I would go to places (like bars, clubs and social events) and hope that if I dressed up well enough, maybe a woman would make it really obvious that she wanted to talk to me (e.g. wave me over) or she might even approach me herself.
Back then, I didn’t know that women are completely open to being approached in social environments as long as a guy comes over in a confident, easy-going way. I thought that women didn’t want to be bothered by guys and were simply out having fun.
Man, was I wrong.
I’d spend most of the night just looking at the women and imagining what I could say or do to get them to have “Wow!” reaction and really like me. Some women would look my way and I would try to maintain eye contact with them or smile, but nothing would ever happen.
Eventually, when I’d had enough drinks and was feeling drunk to the point of not caring about rejection anymore, I would muster up some courage to walk over and talk to some women, only to have them reject me for being drunk or coming across as nervous or awkward with them.
In the movies, standing alone at a party usually makes the male character seem “mysterious” and a beautiful, female character will then become curious to meet him.
The woman will often be shy herself (but really beautiful and innocent) and they will go down the path of the typical movie love story, where she rejects him initially and then he gets her in the end by being a good guy and saving the day, saving her or saving the world.
In the real world, women rarely approach men and being the guy who “saves the day” or does nice favors for women doesn’t get you laid.
If you want to be successful at meeting women, you have to approach with confidence and then trigger the woman’s feelings of attraction for you. These days, women play hard to get and if a guy doesn’t know what he’s doing, he will usually get rejected or ignored by women when he tries to meet them.
Are you confident enough to approach the beautiful women that you really want to meet? If not, watch this video…
Fact 2: Shyness Doesn’t Turn Women On
In the movies, a shy, nervous male character will often have a beautiful, confident and sexy female character interested in him.
The script will play out and he’ll get her in the end and they’ll live happily ever after. In real life though, women are sexually turned OFF by shyness, nervousness and anxiety in guys. Why? Women are attracted to the strength in men, not the weakness.
It is our mental and emotional strength as a guy that represents the most benefit for a woman in terms of her chances of survival, prosperity, happiness and safety.
Regardless of the advancements that some of our societies have made, a woman’s instinctive attraction to a confident guys still remains and I don’t expect it to ever change. If a guy goes through life being shy around women or doubting himself when talking to attractive women, he shouldn’t expect everything to magically fix itself like it does in the movies.
A man has to fix his issues (e.g. insecurities, anxieties, etc) about women and improve his ability to trigger a woman’s feelings of sexual attraction for him, rather than expect that women will be gentle with him and accept his flaws when they could easily get a more confident, emotionally balanced man.
Movies and TV sitcoms always seem to show the beautiful leading woman eventually falling madly in love with the shy, anxious and socially awkward guy. In the movies, he’ll stutter and stammer when he’s around her because he’s so intimidated by her, but yet she finds this “sweet” and “flattering” and feels very attracted to him.
In the real world, women are not turned on by shy, awkward behavior and they do not feel sexually attracted to guys who lack confidence in themselves.
To be successful with women, a guy needs to drop the “shy guy” act and be the confident that women are desperately looking for.
Fact 3: Most Women Do Not Choose Men Based on Looks
Yes, it is true that some women are picky and will only accept a guy who looks like a male model and has loads of money.
However, the majority of women are much more flexible about what they find attractive in a guy.
Want some proof?
Watch this video to see the types of guys that women are willing to have sex with and even marry…
As you will discover from the video above, many guys make up all sorts of excuses about why they aren’t successful at picking up the women they meet.
However, the real reason they fail is that they simply don’t know how to trigger a woman’s feelings of attraction during an interaction and are instead hoping to be liked for being nice, dressing well or looking good.
Some guys make the mistake of thinking that one of the best ways to meet women is to make themselves look like a body builder or like a well-dressed male model.
Based on this strategy, a guy will spend thousands of hours in a gym or will spend endless money dressing himself up in the latest designer gear, wear the “best” colognes and style his hair “perfectly,” but he still won’t get laid.
Why? Success with women is not about looks. Yes, looks can help guy a guy attention from women (and some women will have sex with him simply because he’s handsome), but that doesn’t mean that a guy who isn’t good looking can’t get laid, get a girlfriend or get married to a hot women.
Even though you will hear women say, “Oh! He’s good-looking” or “Oooh, he’s hot” it doesn’t mean that success with women is all about looks.
Think about it…
Most guys that you have seen with a beautiful girlfriend or wife have been average-looking, below-average looking and even UGLY. They have been bald, short, fat, skinny, poor and unfashionable. Yet, they have a hot girlfriend or wife.
Why?
You know the answer already: It’s not about looks for most women. Most women are just looking for a man who makes them feel girly because he is so confident and masculine and who makes them laugh because he has a good enough level of social intelligence to ensure that he can survive, thrive and prosper in this world.
It doesn’t matter if you spend thousands on buying the latest designer clothes, none of that will help you meet women if you lack the confidence and conversation skills to pull off the pick up.
A woman might say, “Oooh, you have great fashion sense” or “Oh, I like you shirt!” but that doesn’t mean you need to be a pretty boy for women.
She is just saying that to you because it looks good. However, that doesn’t mean she wants to have sex with you. Instinctively, she knows that a man’s clothes do not mean he will be able to survive, thrive and prosper in the world. It may look nice, but it’s superficial and she knows it.
Of course, there’s nothing wrong with a guy presenting himself well by wearing good clothes, but a guy’s outward appearance won’t hold a woman’s interest for long if he’s unable to make her feel attraction and respect for him as a man.
Contrary to the message put across by all the marketing hype in magazines, on TV and on billboards, most women are not completely focused on how a man looks. Instead, most women (not all) are more interested in who the man is on the inside, rather than what he represents on the outside.
Time and money spent on dressing up is simply wasted effort if behind the window dressing you don’t have the inner qualities that women are looking for in a man.
If you want to be successful when you’re out there meeting women, you’ve got to be able to attract women with your personality, confidence, charisma and charm….
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Hey Dan,
How are you? I’ve got a quick question. So I’ve started approaching and talking to girls on my college campus, and so far the results are going good. As of now, there are two girls I’m potentially interested in. The problem is I’m not sure how to move things forward with them. I’ll explain to you below.
The first girl I met on a bus, and we hit it off pretty good. The problem here is that my campus is huge and it’s not very likely that I’ll see her again. I did see her at the library once soon after, but not sure if I can count on seeing her again soon. The second problem is that she’s a sorority girl, and they pretty much only do things with fraternity guys since those are the guys they usually hang out with. I’m not sure what to do in this case. Should I consider this a lost cause just because I’m not sure if I’ll see her again? And if I don’t, how do I show I’m better than those frat guys she spends her time with?
The second girl I met at the gym. She knows my gym buddy, and that’s how we met. Now I go to the gym (almost) every day, so I see her quite often. She’s always there with her friend and two other guys. One of the guys seemed friendly enough and I got to know him, and I know that the other guy is a bit of a douche. I know it would be weird to try and escalate things at the gym, especially with all her friends around there. What do I do in this case?
Thanks in advance Dan!
Hey Rohith
Thanks for your question.
If it was me, I would have gotten the girl’s number and then chatted to her on the phone later to escalate things to a meet up. Alternatively, you can add them to Facebook, but if you do that, make sure that your Facebook shows you actually living a good life (i.e. don’t have lonely photos of yourself at home).
BTW: We teach how to approach and talk to women in university/college environments in 21 Great Ways to Get a Girlfriend: http://store.themodernman.com/products/21_great_ways_to_get_a_girlfriend.html
Cheers
Dan
Dan,
Thanks so much for your reply! I’m saving up right now for that product, so I’ll be purchasing it soon.
Just another quick question. In a college environment, obviously, there are loads of beautiful girls just walking around. I would have no problem approaching them and talking to them. I see them at the library, on the street, other study spots, etc. However, since the college environment is concealed and it’s a community, it’s a bit difficult to “game”. I have no problem doing this at parties because of course it’s acceptable there, but if I do approach these girls at these other places. I run the risk of being known as “that pickup guy” on campus. What’s the best way to do this? What do I say? I’m asking this because it’s not so easy to be so straightforward to a college girl because it seems that they don’t take compliments as well as an older woman and may find that I’m coming on too strong.
Thanks again Dan!
Hey Rohith
You’re welcome mate.
The secret is not to be a “pick up guy” who uses tricks on women. Nothing about what we teach here at The Modern Man will make women see you as a “pick up artist” or as someone who uses tricks or lines on women, etc. It’s about being a confident, cool, easy going guy and walking up to chat to women. Then, you allow the woman to feel attraction for your confidence (and other things that we teach in our programs) and then escalate to a phone number, kissing, sex and a relationship.
About what to say: That type of thing is taught in our programs. Giving you a line right now won’t solve your problems with women. You need to get a proper education on approaching and talking to women.
If you are unaware of The Modern Man approach to women, I suggest that you watch this video http://www.themodernman.com/success/which-product-is-for-you.html and listen to this audio: http://www.themodernman.com/the_truth_about_dating_power.html
Cheers
Dan