Not all women like short men, but many women are open to being with a short guy. Why?
The majority of women in this world have what I call an “Open Type,” which means that they are open to being with all different types of guys, as long as the guy can make her feel attracted in other ways (e.g. he is confident, charismatic, alpha, etc).
A woman’s attraction to a man is directly linked to how capable he is of surviving, thriving and prospering in this world. So, if a nervous, self-doubting short guy approaches a woman, she will be turned off by his lack of confidence.
On the other hand, if a confident, self-assured short guy approached her, she would be attracted to his confidence and then, if she’s one of the women who have an Open Type, she will be open to being with him.
Watch this video to understand why a woman’s attraction works that way and how you can use it to your advantage as a short guy…
As you will discover from the video above, not all women require a man to be a 6ft, male model with loads of money to qualify for them. Many women are much more flexible about what they find attractive in a guy than most men realize.
When a guy asks me, “Do women like short men?” he’s usually asking because he feels as though his lack of success with women is due to his lack of height. Yet, it’s not.
Let’s just cut right to the chase: If you’re hung up on your height and feeling insecure because of it, women are not going to like you because they are going to feel turned off by your lack of confidence.
The most important part of what I’ve just told you is this: It’s not your height that’s the turn-off, it’s your insecurity about it. Believe me, that’s a fact and it’s a fact you need to take action on right away if you want to begin enjoying the kind of success you want with women.
Of course, I’m not saying that all women like short men. However, many women will overlook a guy’s height as long as he has the confidence and masculinity to make up for his shortcomings.
It’s just like how you’ve seen 1,000s of “ugly” men with beautiful women. Why does that happen? The guy has traits that overrule his lack of perfect physical appearance, such as confidence, masculinity and social intelligence.
Most guys assume that it must be about money and the only reason why an “ugly” guy can get a girl is by paying for her or being mega rich and offering her a luxury lifestyle. Sure, that does happen, but most guys aren’t rich.
The vast majority of short, bald or “ugly” guys who attract hot women do so by displaying the personality traits and behaviors that naturally attract women (e.g. confidence, charisma, masculine vibe, humor, etc).
Not all women will accept a short guy who has an attractive personality, but many women. If you have to talk to 10 women to find 3 matches, that’s much better than not talking to any women and continuing on in life alone with zero matches.
If you’re a short guy, you still deserve to be loved, wanted and respected. You’re not a freak and there is nothing wrong with you being short. You’ve got to accept who you are and get on with enjoying life in the ways that are possible for you.
Getting Over Your Insecurity About Being Short
If you’re not enjoying the kind of success you want with women and you believe that your height is standing in the way, then you’re simply mistaken.
You’re not coming up short in a woman’s eyes because of your height, but because of your insecurities over your lack of height. Women are attracted to confident men who feel secure in who they are and what they’ve got to offer.
Guys who are socially intelligent have noticed and have already realized that women go for all sorts of guys. They don’t buy into the rubbish they see in TV commercial, which tells them that they need to have six-pack abs, be 6.5ft tall, have a gym body, drive a sports car and have a high status career to be attractive to women.
They are smart enough to know that confidence trumps everything and as long as that confidence is backed up by social intelligence and masculinity, he essentially has his choice with women anywhere he goes, regardless of his height.
At this point, you are likely beginning to become very clear about the answer to the question, “Do women like short men?” If not, read on and I’ll help you understand why your lack of height is not something that you should use to bring yourself down even further.
For now, just understand that to change your outcomes with women, you need to take your focus off your height and onto improving your confidence instead. A tall guy without confidence is just like a short guy without confidence – neither is truly attractive to women.
Don’t Believe What You See in Glossy Magazine Advertising
It’s a fact that TV and glossy magazine advertising has a lot to do with modern man’s mistaken belief that women are only attracted to tall, dark, handsome men.
They are also only attracted to men who wear certain colognes, watches and designer labels. Heck, according to some TV and magazine ads, you also have to have six-pack abs, a perfectly groomed head of hair, a sports car and be living a celebrity style lifestyle.
Well, time for a reality check: Just take a look around you at the couples you see out in bars and restaurants, or at the movies, or taking a walk in the park, or even just doing some grocery shopping in your local store.
The guys you see with beautiful women don’t all look like they’re straight off the pages of a glossy magazine, do they? No, of course not! You see guys of all shapes and sizes – and with every hair color – out with their girlfriends.
They’re not all movie star look-alikes; they’re not all showing off rippling six-packs; they’re not all driving expensive sports cars, and most importantly, they’re not all tall. Are they? Come on, admit it.
With this being the reality, getting hung up on your appearance and focussing on what you think you don’t have by wondering, “Do women like short men?” is a complete waste of time and energy.
Apart from the guys who got lucky, the guys that you see out there in the real world (not in the glossy magazines and TV advertisements) who are enjoying the kind of success with women that you dream of, didn’t sit around worrying about not being good enough.
They used their confidence, masculinity and social intelligence to make women feel the all-important feeling of attraction. Many of the guys you see with women are short, bald, overweight, dressed poorly and so on.
Don’t get sucked in by the false reality pushed by advertising executives and their clever teams of marketers. Believe in the real world that you see around you. That is the world in which you can have any type of woman you want.
In a woman’s eyes, it’s not a guy’s outer appearance that decides his attractiveness; it’s not how he looks on the outside that matters but who he is as a man on the inside.
As a female friend of mine once said to me, “Anxiety makes a guy look ugly. Confidence makes him look sexy.” If you don’t have the type of confidence needed for success with women, then learn.
Don’t sit around worrying and coming up with excuses for not being confidence or coming up with reasons to feel fearful and unworthy. Become confident and be confident and you will soon see that you’re lack of height wasn’t the issue all along.
Sexual Attractiveness – The Facts
Guys ask me all sorts of questions, based on their personal insecurities. One day it’s, “Dan, do women like short men?” the next it’s, “Do women care if you’re bald?” or “What kind of clothes do women like on men?”
Forget all the superficial stuff and focus on the fundamentals. When it comes to your sexual attractiveness, three essential qualities that women look for in a man are:
1. Confidence
Women are instinctively attracted to confident men because confident men have always been better survivors…and life hasn’t always been so easy as it is in the modern world.
Guys who lack confidence set off a negative reaction inside of a woman and she instantly feels as though she wouldn’t be very safe with him. Her gut instinct tells her that she might end up having to mother him or that he’d become insecure or unstable if they got into a relationship.
2. Masculinity
Truly masculine guys make women feel weak at the knees in their presence, not by having bulging biceps or being 7ft tall, but by displaying mental and emotional masculinity. If you want to make a woman feel like a woman, then you need to have the mental and emotional masculinity of a man.
If you still haven’t gotten over childhood issues to become a man or are constantly creating new insecurities for yourself (e.g. Are my clothes good enough? Should I whiten my teeth? Should I spend more time in the gym? Maybe if I do all that, THEN women will like me), women are going to instinctively feel turned off by you.
They will sense that you lack the masculinity and maturity that it takes to be an emotionally strong man. In a relationship, a woman won’t be able to feel as though you’re “her man” and she’s “your girl.”
Instead, she’ll sometimes feel as though she’s more like your mother or big sister and that you need someone to take care of you, which is a huge turn off for women.
3. Social intelligence
A guy can be 6ft tall, look like a movie star and wear all of the latest designer bling, but if he doesn’t have the ability to socialize naturally with other people or have the communication skills needed to strike up interesting conversations, he’s not going to attract or hold a woman’s interest for very long.
A guy with confidence, masculinity and social intelligence has what it takes to approach and talk to women in a way that turns them on and makes them feel excited to be interacting with him.
This is why you often see short, fat, skinny, ugly, weird-looking and even scruffy looking guys with beautiful women. It’s not always about the guy being rich (99% of the population isn’t rich). In most cases, these guys are getting through to women on a much more fundamental level and that is where you need to place your focus.
So, if you haven’t already realized it, the answer to the question of, “Do women like short men?” is “Yes” if you are a man with genuine self-confidence, true masculinity, and social intelligence, and “No” if you are an insecure man who is shy, anxious and nervous around women.
The choice is yours; If you choose to remain hung up on your height and to feel insecure because of it, you’re choosing to limit your success with women because you’re unwilling to see the real world around you and accept it.
However, if you’re wise enough to allow yourself to see the truth and begin to focus your attention on developing the inner qualities women are instinctively looking for in a man, then you’re choosing to become a man who has what it takes to enjoy unlimited success with women…regardless of your height.
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Great article!
Scenairo:
A woman meets two guys shes equally attracted to both of them ones shorter then her the other is taller and better looking than the other guy and your telling me the second guy has no advantages over the shorter guy?
Lars
Hi Lars
Thanks for your question.
No, I am not saying that at all. The taller or good looking guy will have an initial advantage, but if he is not confident, masculine and socially intelligent, the woman will lose interest. A woman will initially judge a guy on his looks, height, clothes, etc, but all of that will be wiped away if he doesn’t have what women really want.
Why do initially judge men on superficial things? Read: http://www.themodernman.com/dating/do-women-judge-men-on-looks.html
Cheers
Dan
So true. I am very small buit, have 172cm (without shoes) and the average height in my country is 181cm. People in my city are even taller and I have very few friends shorter than 185cm.
To be perfectly honest, I would say it this way: being short IS disadvantageous, people sometimes make comments on that and you have to learn how to deal with it and not to feel inferior.
That was the hardest part for me. I did a lot of stupid things like googling heights of celebrities to make sure my height is ‘ok’. In the past I also googled countless of articles, something like ‘is it ok to be short?’ etc.
Also in bars, the first thing people notice there is height and physical appearance and about 80%tall and 60% shorter women tend to like tall guys more. I never felt comfortable there and never had much success.
Among other guys you have to compensate your height with masculinity to get respect (others very often get respect naturally since they look more intimidating) and you need to weight that up not to appear arrogant.
That being said, I once had a one-night-stand with a stunning girl that was about 190cm with her heels on. Had two relationships with girls that were taller than me and rejected several girls that were taller than me and interested in me (last time about a week ago).
So to wrap that up I would point out these lessons I learned:
1) When a tall woman says “I cannot imagine going out with a guy shorter than me”. Does NOT f*cking mean she it not interested. That was a HUGE mistake I made. When a woman brings up dating, it’s because she thinks about it, not because she wants you to know she doesn’t want you, let alone when she shows other signs of interest.
2) As you said Dan, if there is no attraction/connection(with women) respect(with guys), height and physical appearance DOES count. So in the initial stages it counts quite often. Then it counts less and less.
When there is some chemistry between the two, any physical traits are overridden. It is also the other way round. My longest relationship was with an average-looking girl and in the end I didn’t care about appearance and we broke up for a totally different reasons.
Think about it that way: when you will be both old and ugly, you won’t give a damn about how your partner looks like, but about what you experience together. You don’t want to end up with a beauty queen you don’t have feelings for. Reversely, it’s the same for women.
The same thing applies when you are young and hot ;-))
3) When you have these inferior thoughts, it always helped me to look in the past and think of the examples I wrote above.
Of course being shorter is hard sometimes, but virtually everyone has a ‘thing’ they can obsess about(height/appearance/intelligence/money/family issues/health). Real men can deal with that, that’s why they are called real men.
Hey Tomas
Thanks for your positive feedback and input.
You made some very valid points there and you’ve obviously grown up and learned how to deal with being a bit shorter than most people around you. Good on you man. Most shorter guys go through life feeling inferior, never realizing that feeling inferior is self-created, as is feeling worthy and confident.
Your comment at the end about everyone having their “thing” that they feel insecure about is spot on. For me, it was my bent nose (I broke it as a 12 year old boy). When I was hopeless with women, I would always worry that women were looking at me and thinking that I wasn’t good looking enough. Lol…
Cheers
Dan