Muscles can make women feel attracted, but they are not the only way to attract women.
You can attract women in more than 100 different ways (e.g. confidence, charisma, being charming, making her laugh, having a masculine vibe, etc). If you can attract women in many other ways, you don’t have to have muscles, money or fame.
Women will love you for you because who you are makes them feel so good. Watch this video to learn a surprising truth about what women are really attracted to in men…
Muscles Aren’t That Important
If you’ve been wondering whether or not you need to work on changing the shape of your body to attract women, something must have put that thought into your mind. What was it? A billboard ad, a comment from a woman, a line from a Hollywood movie, a TV show, a music video or comments from people online?
Somewhere along the way, you’ve manage to start thinking that if you just get the body, you will then get the girl.
Yet, that’s not how it works.
Yes, women can feel attracted to a guy’s muscles, but muscles really aren’t that important to a woman. What’s most important is how you make her feel when you interact with her. THAT is why you will see guys who don’t have muscles, but do have a hot girl.
Watch this video to understand how attraction between men and women really works…
Does Having Big Muscles Attract Attention From Women?
Sure.
If you are bigger than other guys, women are going to notice, but it’s almost always not going to be the thing that makes her want to have sex with you or be your girlfriend.
Imagine this…
A woman is talking to two guys. One of the guys has big muscles, but is nervous around her and doesn’t really know what to say or do to make her feel attracted. The conversation she has with him feels awkward and doesn’t create much of a spark between them.
The other guy has a normal, but slightly thin physique and when he talks to her, she is laughing, feeling good and there’s a spark between them. He’s confident, charming and charismatic.
Who is she going to feel more attracted to?
Simple: The guy who is making her feel a wide range of attractive emotions. The guy with the big muscles isn’t really of any benefit to her life. All he seems to be good at is lifting weights up and down in the gym. Big deal.
The other guy has charm and he’s going to be much more interesting, exciting and enjoyable to be around from the woman’s perspective.
If you don’t know how to attract women with your personality, muscles aren’t going to fix that problem. Sure, some women might look at you initially and feel some attraction to your strong looking physique, but if your personality, conversation style and behavior doesn’t turn her on, she will quickly lose interest.
Why Are You Really Interested in Building Muscle?
If you want to work out and build muscle because you enjoy doing it and want to feel stronger, then go ahead. However, if you’re doing it because you think it will solve all of your problems with women, think again.
No matter how big your muscles are, if you lack the ability to attract women with your personality, most of the women you meet will rapidly lose interest in talking to you. They may feel a bit of initial attraction to your physique, but if you don’t know what to say or do to turn them on during a conversation, it will get boring and they will lose interest.
Personally speaking, I’ve had sex with more than 250 women and I recently got married to a sexy 22 year old (I’m 37) who has a perfect body. Yet, I don’t work out. The only exercise I do is when I bang her and when I go bike riding her and my friends.
You can work out if you want to, but just don’t think that adding a few centimetres with your biceps will solve your problems with women. What is most important to a woman is how you make her feel when she interacts with you.
Does your personality turn her on or off? Does your behavior turn her on or off? Does she feel like she’d be lucky to get with a guy like you, or do you make her feel like she’d be settling by hooking up with you?
You may not know it now, but you have so much power when it comes to attracting women. You can make women feel intense attraction for you who are as a guy. You can literally attract women in more than 100 different different ways…
Want to Know the SECRET to Success With Women?
Watch this hidden video where Dan exposes his BIGGEST secret to success with women, which allows you to easily get laid or get a girlfriend.
This video is only available here and you can watch it for free right now.
I have been working out to improve my health, to get out the house and get some confidence back but I am going to the gym because I want to and have been putting if off for some time.
I use to think years ago that it was the answer to success with women but I know now that it is not and I will not fall into that way of thinking.
Hi Steve
Thanks for your comment.
Yes, exercising is great as we all know, but as you are aware of these days: It’s not the answer to success with women. I remember when I first began to notice that most of the big, “buff” guys in a bar/club where standing there nervously and not approaching women all night…that is, unless they drank a load of alcohol. However, by that point, most women are turned off by the sloppy conversation and drunken behavior of the guy.
All you need is confidence, masculinity, conversation skills and a willingness to move from a conversation to kissing, sex and into a relationship. Once you can master “The Flow” of a natural sexual courtship, the world’s your oyster when it comes to women.
Cheers
Dan
Very interesting and well written article. I think a lot of men would benefit from reading this but unfortunately have been sucked in by the media. I even know of some guys who purposely go to the gym a couple of hours before going out to clubs to pump up their arms!
I sometimes feel a bit awkward when I hear girls talking about how hot a guy is or moaning about only being approached by ugly guys. Is a way to put a positive spin on this to think about when we (men) talk about how hot we find certain women and celebrities and the girls must be feeling the same insecurities hearing us say stuff like that?
P.S I did receive your email with the discount to Better than a bad boy (cheers!) and just letting you know that I should be getting it in a few weeks. You can delete this part of the comment by the way!
Hi James
Thanks for your comment and positive feedback.
Hey, I used to be guilty of doing what those guys you know are doing now: Going to the gym before going out on a Friday or Saturday night, in the hope that an extra bit of bulge in my biceps would make women want me, behave better around me, etc. Yet, as always, they rejected the heck out of me because I simply wasn’t confident. I’m so glad to have left those sad, sorry days behind!
About your question: Sure, if you look like a male model, women will say that sort of stuff about you, but it doesn’t mean they will like you when you speak to them and you’re not confident. As mentioned in this article, I’ve lost count of how many guys have contacted me saying that they are good looking, have a perfect body, etc but have never had a girlfriend, have never had sex, etc. Why? Women CAN feel a superficial level of attraction for a guys looks, but what REALLY matters is his confidence, masculinity and social intelligence. Guys who are “good looking” will get some INITIAL attention, but they will just as quickly lose that attention if the women see that he is nervous, shy, a lower-ranking male, etc.
As a female friend of mine said recently, “Anxiety makes a guy look ugly. Confidence makes him look sexy.” That’s the truth about attraction. If you want women to see you as attractive, you need to display what makes them feel attraction: Confidence, masculinity, social intelligence, etc.
Here is what you ALWAYS NEED TO REMEMBER:
You ALWAYS see guys that you consider to be ugly, unattractive, etc with beautiful women. Do not lie to yourself. You SEE THAT ALL THE TIME. If you cannot accept the truth, you will buy in the BS that is pushed by the media and you will believe that the superficial level of attraction that women can feel for “pretty boys” is all that matters. You’ll think, “See, I can’t attract women because I don’t look like that” and when you do that to yourself, you can never win at the game of dating. You will always be a nervous, self-doubting loser (yes, I have to use that word. I know it’s not nice, but it’s true. Guys who buy into the BS about looks are losers at the game of dating. They don’t get it).
If you want to learn how to have utter belief in yourself when it comes to your attractiveness to women…and in turn, have women feel attracted to you BECAUSE of that powerful confidence, watch Better Than a Bad Boy.
Cheers
Dan
Thanks so much for helping me understand my situation. Today is my 30 year anniversary. My wife and I separated one year ago and we were still dating until 4 months ago when she met a high school boy she dated for 4 years. He moved in with my wife about 1 month ago when his wife threw him out having discovered the illicit affair. I have been taking care of my dad and mom for last 16 years. DAd passed 14 years ago – mom does not drive- so it’s all fallen on my shoulders. My wife said her mother neglected her when she was a child and her childhood was unhappy as her father was a mean alcoholic. I had no brothers and dad worked nights. I am 68 and I really appreciate all the info about confidence and being a man. I want you to know that you are helping a lot of guys out there. I may be buying your book. Thanks so much. Joe
Hi Joe
Thanks for your comment and positive feedback.
Sorry to hear about you and your wife. That must have been a terrible experience to go through, especially when you found out that your wife started dating a younger guy. Unfortunately, separations and divorces are all too common in the modern world. I’m doing my best to ensure guys don’t make the mistakes that lead to women losing respect, attraction and love for them or both the man and the woman to fall out of love with each other. Hopefully, you can take the steps you need to take to discover the happiness or life fulfilment that you’re seeking.
When you’re ready to start meeting women again, I’d recommend you listen to 21 Great Ways to Get a Girlfriend instead of reading The Flow first, because the 21 Ways to meet women and find a girlfriend may be more suitable to you than just going out to bars. For instance, we explain how to approach, talk to, attract and get the phone number of a woman in an adult learning class, a bookstore, a cafe, a shopping mall, on a bus tour (e.g. winery tour, tourist tour) etc.
Cheers
Dan
how do i seduced my wife 40’sister that already married and have three kids to have sex with me. Because i very interesting in her about her style and other. This cause me almost thinking of here and wan to have sex with her but i really cant open my mouth or do something.if i open my mouth to ask or seduced her and i feel it she will reject me and could tell to her sister thats my wife. She had a husband but in the school holiday my wife sister will come back and stay at my house. I really think i will get her but feel of rejection. How do i get her for sex and without knowing of my wife.
Hi Andy
Thanks for your question.
I don’t provide advice on how to have extra-marital affairs. I’m trying to keep relationships, marriages and families together, not destroy them. If you want to cheat that is up to you, but I believe that if you get married and say your vows you keep those vows. A man should keep his word, no matter what. If you get divorced, sure – go and meet new women, but cheating on your wife while you’re married – not something I help with. Additionally, cheating on your wife with her SISTER who has three children…dude, that’s pretty selfish. Having an affair with her will cause problems for their family for a long time, if not a lifetime. Do the right thing.
Cheers
Dan
Hi Dan,
I have enjoyed reading your products and have had much success thanks to you,gone to speed dating events and got contacts which ended up in the bedroom,also same result from singles functions.And been on many fun dates.Do approach in bars and shopping centres and i have had success got some numbers and dates.I get a buzz from some of the girls responses when i approach them it gives me a high. I am now at a stage where i get remarks from girls saying that takes confidence to do what you did. And now i am approaching more women in supermakets which was the hardest thing for me but i relize the earth is not going to tilt more on its axis if it does not go the way i want I JUST KEEP AT IT and work hard and i know i will get results that i want from some other girl i approach.I am dating one girl at the momment but wish to date a few more and see how it goes.
Thanks Dan, Ben ,Stu
Hi Christian
Thanks for sharing your success so far.
It’s awesome to hear that you USED the advice we provide on speed dating (in 21 Great Ways to Get a Girlfriend) to escalate to sex. As we always say, “Use our advice and you will get results.” It’s pretty simple!
Yes, keep going and you will find that your results will only keep improving as long as you keep using our advice. Enjoy the great times ahead!
Cheers
Dan
Hi Dan, when you talk about confidence is that the same as being in state? Are you in state all the time, I find it hard to do this especially when I don’t have much energy and it’s difficult to be powerful.
Hi Bill
Yes, I can approach women at any time because I no longer have any social insecurities, anxiety, etc. I am truly confident now without exception.
However, if I am feeling tired or not in the mood to talk, but see a woman I find attractive, I use the GIST technique that I explain in Alpha Male Power. When you use that technique, you will immediately get into state.
Cheers
Dan
Yo Dan!
I just wanted to thank you so much for your amazing products and determination to get these important facts out to us beginners. First of all, I purchased the flow back in the summer and ever since then my whole life has changed and not even just the area of women. I’m talking my business and everyday affairs have skyrocketed to a whole new level! I have a quick question regarding diet and social performance that you may have never got before. I have noticed that when I eat healthier and I limit my coffee and caffeine intake to a moderate amount I can think clearer and communicate much more effectively with women. What are your thoughts regarding this? Thanks Dan. And by the way, now I eat healthier and workout because I want to. I don’t do it to impress girls (Learned that from you). Cheers my friend
-Joshua
Hey Joshua
Thanks for sharing your success – much appreciated!
It’s great to hear that all areas of your life are improving, not just with women. One of the side benefits of becoming more confident and improving your social skills is what you have been experiencing. Thanks for sharing that here for others to see.
About your question: You should not associate your eating of food or drinking of coffee with your ability to talk to women. The healthiest mindset to have is: I am always in the right frame of mind to talk to women. It’s easy for me. However, if you think in the way you’ve suggested, you will mess with your confidence and won’t be able to take action when you need to. You will see a woman and think, “Ah! No, I can’t – I’ve had an extra cup of coffee!”
If you need more help with confidence, make sure continue learning from our other programs. Each of our programs included new insights and techniques that will take you to higher levels of confidence and competence.
Cheers
Dan
This article is amazingly explain..if only my parents taught me this stuff, my life wouldn’t be with so much insecurities
Hey Dan! I’ve bought a few of your products (The Flow, MM&MS and Dating Power) in the past and they’ve really helped me to gain a great understanding of women. I’ve had a lot of success over the past few years using the techniques, to the point where its become really easy to pick up girls.
Even girls who’ve rejected me in the past, I’ve bumped into them recently and now they see i’m a changed man I’ve ended up spending the night with them, which has been my greatest success.
There are times when i go out and feel really confident and i feel unstoppable when it comes to meeting girls, it’s really that easy.
However, i’ve always been a very socially shy person since i was young and its something i’ve struggled to get past.
I still lack confidence and it’s really imprisoning, to the point where it stops me being successful. Due to this, i often hold back from saying things and approaching girls, which is so frustrating as i know exactly what to do and i’ve had a lot of success already!
In the past i didn’t have a clue about women and i basically sucked. Now i know so much (which really works!) and i’ve had a lot of success, although everything hinges on my confidence level. If i’m confident, i’m successful, if i’m not, then i don’t get anywhere.
Can you relate to this and is there anything you can do to help me stop being so shy in social situations and become more confident?
Cheers.
Hey Jamie
Thanks for your question.
Great to hear about your success so far. I know the stage you are at – you’re getting laid quite often and women really, really like you, but you don’t yet fully believe that you’re there yet. So, you keep going back into your shell thinking something like, “Why am I losing confidence again? I was confident last week at that party. What’s happening? Why the ups and downs?”
Over the years, I’ve coached a lot of guys who are at your level and every time, the technique that has cured them and got them up to the mastery level is the GIST technique. You will find that in Alpha Male Power: http://store.themodernman.com/in/d2e92f
Also, since you have Dating Power: Go back and watch the section on confidence and making sure you are using the Confidence Building System properly. I’ve also coached a lot of guys who learnt the Confidence Building System from us, but only “half” used it, so they got half the results.
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan
My best mate thinks that if he can get me to build bigger muscles, I’ll have a girl that will love me for it lol
Hey Amrish
All you need is muscles. Just ask the next guy with big muscles that you see, who is feeling nervous around women and getting rejected because of it.
Cheers
Dan
P.S. No offense to anyone who works out at a gym. Both Ben and Stu enjoy working out a gyms a few times a week. However, the difference between them and most other guys is that they are confident and have elite skills with regards to interacting with and picking up women. There’s nothing wrong with working out, but it’s not the answer to success with women. Watch this video for more info: http://www.themodernman.com/videos/what-is-your-skill-level-with-women.html