If you want to get a girl to notice you, it’s pretty simple.
You’ve got to display the personality traits and behaviors that naturally attract women.
Watch this video to understand how it works…
As you will discover from the video above, getting a girl to notice you isn’t all about how you look or what you wear.
Yes, really good looking guys do get noticed by women and guys who are fashionable also get noticed by women, but that doesn’t mean that the guy actually gets laid.
To be successful with women, you’ve got to be able to attract them with your personality and behavior. If they don’t approach you (most girls don’t approach, so don’t worry), you need to have the confidence to walk over and talk to them yourself.
Watch this video to understand how you can build up the confidence to walk up and talk to girls that you find attractive…
As you will discover from the video above, your success with women is most-likely within your control.
You get to decide how you feel (i.e. you either allow yourself to feel confident or force yourself to be insecure) and you get to decide how much attraction you make girls feel (i.e. you either display the personality traits and behaviors that naturally attract women, or you don’t).
Are You Too Easily Impressed By Girls?
A lot of the guys who come to me asking, “Dan, how can I get girls to notice me?” are usually the type of guys who are too easily impressed by girls.
How?
A guy will see a girl that he finds physically attractive and he will like her immediately, simply based on her looks. He won’t give a crap what she wants to talk about, what she studies at university or what career she works in, where she lives or what the name of her pet is.
In his mind, she is physically attractive, so he is interested.
…and girls can see that.
If a girl is attractive, she will be bored out of her mind at how easy guys are to impress. She wants a guy who she has to work hard to get noticed by and then work hard to impress.
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As you will discover from the video above, most guys refuse to give girls the attraction experience they so desperately crave.
It’s so boring for an attractive girl to see that yet another guy is hoping to get noticed by her. Then, when he finally works up the courage to talk to her, he is hoping that she will like him. He will say and do whatever he can to impress her and hopefully get a chance with her.
Boring.
She wants to feel lucky to be talking to you and getting your attention. She wants to see that you could easily attract other women, but you are choosing to talk to her because you are temporarily impressed by her.
If she impresses you further (e.g. by being nice, showing interest in you, laughing at your jokes, etc), then you will continue interacting with her. However, if she doesn’t behave in the way you like, you will simply lose interest her and give your attention to another girl instead.
Stop Trying to Get Noticed by Girls Based on How You Look
You may have read somewhere that dressing in a certain way or styling your hair a certain way is going to get you noticed by girls.
While presenting yourself well is a good thing, looking good is only going to get you so far. If a girl likes what she sees in your physical appearance, she might want to know more about you by having a conversation with you and seeing how that feels.
However, don’t expect her to take on the masculine role and come over and talk to you first. That happens in the movies, but in real life, most girls simply wait for confident guys to approach them, make them feel attracted and then move to a phone number, kiss or sex.
After that, they will begin a relationship and the guy who was hoping to be chosen for how he looked, is left behind yet again and wondering, “How can I get girls to notice me? What else should I wear? Should I build muscle? Should I try to make more money by getting promoted at work?”
If most of your efforts to get a girlfriend or get laid are going into trying to look good so that girls notice you, then you’re missing the point.
You’re living in a fantasy world where girls will come over and approach you if you look a certain way or wear certain clothes.
Have you ever wondered why guys who are less attractive than you always seem to have a girlfriend, when you can’t even get girls to notice you?
Well, now you know why.
In most cases, those guys don’t sit around waiting to be noticed. They use their confidence to approach and then attract women with their personality and behavior, or they make women notice them by displaying the personality traits and behaviors that attract women and when they see signals of interest, they approach and attract the woman further.
Make Girls Want You to Notice Them
When girls observe your body language and behavior, they will either feel attracted to you or they won’t.
If you are displaying the personality traits and behaviors that naturally attract girls (e.g. confidence, charisma, masculine vibe, the ability to make people laugh, etc), girls will automatically realize that other girls are going to be interested in you too.
You will stand out from other guys and they will hope to get noticed by you.
If they do get your attention, you will see them primping and preening themselves (e.g. fixing their hair, adjusting their clothes, applying lipstick or make up) and showing some signs of interest in you (e.g. repeated eye contact or regularly looking at you, smiling at you, etc).
When you notice that happening, you’ve then got to make sure that you begin a conversation with her, so that you can make her feel more attracted to your personality and behavior.
For example: If you start talking to a girl and she notices that you’re confident, charismatic and have a masculine vibe, then she will feel attracted to you. If you can also get her laughing, she will feel even more attraction for you.
The more attraction you make her feel, the more she want to be with you sexually and romantically.
An Easy Way to Get a Girl to Notice You
One of the easiest ways that you can display the types of personality traits and behaviors that are attractive to girls is to smile at her and then wave to say hello.
This takes confidence to do, which is why it’s attractive to girls.
When you can be the confident guy who has the balls to smile and wave at a girl in a relaxed, easy-going way, you will be seen as a charming and mysterious guy who they will most-likely be interested to meet.
Warning: Some girls may test your confidence by pulling a “What the?” face when you smile and wave, but if you can just keep smiling and remain confident, she will drop the test and begin smiling back at you.
When she sees that you didn’t crack under her pressure, she will feel attracted to your confidence. Also, now that you’ve waved at her, you’ve already had a bit of communication between you and she has responded back with a smile, so she’s going to be much more open (and even excited) if you approach.
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Great read! I struggle with this. I feel that I am generally shy and nervous around women, and in social situations. But it’s actually a weird feeling because it’s not always often. How do you tackle this situation? Also, what can I do to improve as a male in this area?
Hey David
Thanks for your positive feedback.
Essentially, you need to go through the process of building real confidence. At the moment, you are experiencing situational confidence or fleeting confidence. That type of confidence will never serve you well if you want to go out meeting women and pick up beautiful women. It will also cause you problems in relationships because you will be more-likely to become insecure, jealous or clingy.
The program that includes our exclusive Confidence Building System (that we tested for years before making available), is Dating Power: http://store.themodernman.com/products/dating_power.html
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan, quick question. I went out tonight and went through the Flow and used to conversational techniques on 2 girls that I met. However, it always seems that she gets taken away. For example, first time, I literally got cockblocked by 5 guys coming in at once while I was doing a good job (or so I thought) flirting with this girl. One of them happened to be a friend or somebody she knew. Her attention was immediately split among 6 guys now.
Another time, I was talking to a girl, and I guess I admit I wasn’t creating as much sexual tension as I probably should have, but in any case, one of her friends called her on her phone, and she left me and I didn’t see her again. Now I have to tell you, the reason I couldn’t move on to the next one was that this party happened to be a sausagefest. I guess my question to you is how do I deal with these cockblocks or distractions?
It was kind of frustrating because I felt so close to getting something to happen, but these situations got ruined while I watched other guys make out with pretty girls. Thanks in advance Dan!
Hi Rohith
Thanks for your question.
None of those situations sound like it was your fault. What you’re dealing with there is completely normal and EXPECTED. Don’t go through life thinking that everything will always go from A-Z without a hitch.
You simply need to talk to any of those girls again and then escalate a phone number, kiss or sex…or just talk to some new girls. You will not always be cockblocked – you’ve just been unlucky to experience that recently.
Cheers
Dan