The secret of how to keep a woman interested is to maintain and build on her respect, love and attraction for you as a man.
Do you know how to do that? Watch this video to understand how it works…
You can keep a woman interested and deepen her feeling for you over time by:
- Being a confident guy around her, other people and in life.
- Being a man of your word, rather than giving up when things get challenging.
- Being the fun, positive, forward moving guy that makes her feel happy and safe to be around you because she knows that you will keep pushing forward to make life better for yourself and her.
- Loving her and accepting her for who she is, while also loving and accepting yourself.
There are many other ways to keep a woman interested, but those should help give you an introductory understanding of how it works.
Guys often contact me for advice on how to keep a woman interested during the initial dating phases and well into a relationship. More often than not it’s because the guy lacks self-confidence and as a result, he doesn’t seem himself as very valuable to women.
That is a big mistake to make with women.
They don’t want you to feel like you’re not good enough. They are hoping to meet a guy who believes in himself and can be the challenge that they’ve been hoping to meet…
As you will discover from the video above, most guys react in the same old, boring way when they meet a woman they like. If you can have the courage and wisdom to be the challenge that women desperately want to meet, you will laugh at how easy it is to keep a woman interested.
Do You Live an Exciting Lifestyle, or is Your Lifestyle Fairly Ordinary?
One of the biggest mistakes that a guy can make is to think that a woman won’t remain interested in him if he leads an ordinary, average lifestyle.
Based on the the amazing lifestyles that has seen other guys living on TV shows and in the movies when they’ve had a hot girlfriend, he may begin to believe that his lifestyle just isn’t good enough for attractive women.
Of course, this is wrong because in the real world (not the fantasy world of TV and movies), it’s not what a guy does that captures a woman’s interest, but who he is as a man.
If you’re confident enough to be yourself at all times and if you have clear understanding of who you are as a man and what you want from life, then you are an interesting enough guy for most women.
Sure, you should do interesting things in life and go to interesting places when you can, but there are only so many places you can go before you’ve done it all. At the end of the day, keeping a woman interested when talking to her for the first time, on a date with her or 20 years into a relationship with her comes down to who you are as a man.
If you lack confidence around women, pretend to be something you’re not and are too afraid to rise through the levels of life and reach your true potential as a man, then you’re not an interesting guy. Instead, you’re just another fearful, self-doubting who needs to a woman to be gentle with him.
When it comes to the topic of how to keep a woman interested, it’s not about doing 100s of fun and exciting things that you think might be of interest to her; it’s about being interesting as the man you already are right now.
Consistent Confidence
If you could work on one thing about yourself that would make it easier for you to keep a woman interested, it would definitely be your self-confidence.
If you are able to be confident when you meet a woman, when on a date with her, during sex and in a relationship, she will feel naturally attracted to you and will find it easier to remain interested in you, rather than losing interest because you’re insecure.
If you are sincere about improving your success with women, you need to develop the type of self-confidence where you always believe in yourself, you always keep pushing forward in life and you never give up until you achieve what you want.
I call it Consistent Confidence and it is a key trait that women instinctively look for in a guy when they’re first talking to him and while on a date.
Some guys do manage to get lucky and score themselves a woman without Consistent Confidence, but their insecurities always end up causing problems in the relationship (e.g. they become clingy or overly-protective or unable to control their jealousy) and it then falls apart.
With that in mind, let’s have a look at some of the common mistakes that guys make when they lack confidence, but want to keep a woman interested…
Faking it
Guys who lack confidence and don’t consider themselves to be very interesting or appealing to women, often fall into the trap of pretending to be confident and happy with their life in an effort to make themselves appear more interesting.
Fake confidence and fake happiness are not the same as genuine self-confidence and genuine happiness and women are natural experts at telling the difference.
Why?
They have to be good at it to separate the real men from the fakers. Despite the fact that women can now earn their own money, buy food at the supermarket and be protected by police, they still have the instinct to find a confident guy who will be able to survive, thrive and prosper in life while keeping her safe and protected.
So, if your body language doesn’t match up to your confidently spoken words, a woman will see right through your act and will then be unable to feel true attraction and respect for you as a man.
When it comes to knowing how to keep a woman interested, what you need to focus on is consistently being a confident guy, while pushing forward in life and rising to your true potential as a man.
Don’t fake it, do it.
Trying Too Hard
A lack of confidence can also lead a guy to trying way too hard to impress a woman, in the hopes of getting her interested and keep her interested.
This might mean behaving like a super nice guy and trying really hard to say the right things all of the time, but being overly-nice in that way can make a guy come across as insincere and untrustworthy. A woman is not going to remain interested in a faker and she’s not gong to remain interested in a guy that she can’t trust as the “real deal” either.
A woman is looking for genuine self-confidence in a man and she knows that a man who has it doesn’t need to try too hard to impress a woman.
Instead, he impresses her simply by being his natural, cool and confident self all the time. It’s not an act, it is who he really is. He really is a confident, cool guy and as a result, women (and people for that matter) like him and want to be around him.
A big part of knowing how to keep a woman interested comes down to being able to relax into being your best self, all the time.
Putting Her on a Pedestal
Guys who lack self-confidence and thus doubt their ability to attract women and keep them interested, will often make the mistake of putting women on a pedestal.
This might lead to behavior such as hanging on her every word, going along with everything she says and continually telling her how amazing he thinks she is, how beautiful and how much he likes spending time with her.
Although some women will be flattered by all the attention and praise for a while, that won’t last forever. Eventually (if she doesn’t realize it immediately), she will pick up on the fact that the guy lacks confidence, isn’t desired by other women and is basically hoping to score with her…if she will “let” him.
In his mind, he thinks it is a good idea to let her be in charge and he feels as though he’s being the perfect gentleman by waiting until she is ready to like him in a sexual way. What he doesn’t realize is that most modern women will have sex on the first night or first date and she will then love the guy and want to be in a relationship with him.
If the guy is also a good guy, she will say, “He’s so sweet to me. He’s such a nice guy,” but she won’t also say what really happened when they first met, “He made me work hard to impress him when we first met. I felt lucky to kiss him and snatch him as mine before some other girl did.”
No…she’ll just say that he is nice and sweet, which will further confuse the type of guy who puts women on a pedestal. He’ll be thinking, “Huh? I’m sweet to her! Why doesn’t she like me?”
Why do nice guys usually get rejected by women? Watch this video to find out…
As you will discover from the video above, it’s a good thing to treat a woman well, but she will only truly appreciate it if you are also making her feel sexually attracted to you.
If you offer her attraction + nice treatment, she will label you as a charming guy. However, if you just offer nice treatment, she will label you as a nice guy and won’t have much or any sexual or romantic interest in you.
Sexual Chemistry
Sexual chemistry happens when you and a woman both feel sexual attraction for each other and also get along in a way that makes you feel as though you have a unique connection between you both.
If you can approach a woman with confidence and then let her experience your confidence and flirting during an interaction, she will become sexually attracted to you. To keep a woman interested, you then need to build on the sexual chemistry between you and create a unique feeling connection with her.
This will happen naturally if you are confident and alpha and it will then build up the sexual tension to a point you both feel as though you just have to kiss and have sex with each other…
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Dan, you talk about testing but I am having a hard time processing this area. how should I look at women’s tests? I often find any sort of test from a woman really unattractive. Is it better to find a woman who doesn’t need to play games? Isn’t bad behavior an indicator of bad character? As a man, why would I say, want to pass a test? Isn’t that implying that I’ll put up with bad behavior? Isn’t a woman just difficult if shes constantly testing you why would you want to be in that kind of relationship or even marriage? Please shed your valuable insight!
Hey Aldon
Thanks for your question.
I used to think the same way as you, so I can understand. However, I thought that way because I simply didn’t understand what women’s intentions were with all the testing. They test to see how much of a man you are and how confident you are. Why is that important to them? Women don’t want to have to “mother” you or “baby” you through life. They want to find a man who is mentally and emotionally stronger than them, so they can relax into being girly (i.e. feeling like a real woman) around you.
A woman testing you is not a sign of bad character. It’s actually a sign that she is easy to pick up. Why? Most guys can’t handle the tests that women put men through and as such, women have a hard time finding what they refer to as a “real man.” So, when you pass her tests with ease, she will be the easiest pick up you’ve ever done in your life.
If you want to know how to pass women’s tests, watch this program: http://store.themodernman.com/in/2cf8a89
Cheers
Dan
Thanks Dan I understand your point but at the same time, there are just as many attractive women who don’t test or play games. I find that the ones who do tend do be more immature, difficult and not relationship material – or in other words the ones with bad attitudes, characters, unstable etc. Would you disagree? It’s also hard for me to grasp that a woman is testing me as instinctive female behavior is there a way I can internalize this? Or should I not be thing about it… Aldon
Hey Aldon
You’re welcome.
The attractive women who don’t appear to be testing initially are still observing and analysing your behavior, reactions and responses to see if you are man enough to be her man. Teenage girls use the same approach when interacting with boys as women do when interacting with men. It’s just that some women you come across, will be more experienced than others. Meaning, many attractive women will have experienced one or more relationships with guys who were weaker than them (mentally and emotionally), so they know that they really want to avoid making the same mistake again and will test and be challenging to weed out the weak guys and only accept the strong ones.
As for trying to internalize it – that will happen naturally when you understand it. Testing is a natural and instinctive behavior of women, but some women take longer to realize the importance of it. So, if you come across inexperienced women, they might give you a chance. However, they will eventually lose interest in a relationship if you’re not stronger than them (mentally and emotionally). If you want to be the type of strong man that women will never leave, this is the program for you: http://store.themodernman.com/in/2cf8a89
Cheers
Dan
What does it mean to be unpredictable? Isn’t everyone somewhat predictable otherwise they would just be crazy… After getting to know someone you can always expect them to act a certainj way…
Hey Jeffrey
Thanks for your question.
Lol…many people make that assumption when they hear that women like unpredictable men. Of course it’s not about being crazy! Being unpredictable is another way of saying: Being spontaneous, try new things, don’t always behave in a romantic way, sometimes be assertive and sometimes be flexible, etc.
If you want to learn how to be predictable in a sane way and in the way that women love, then read this: http://store.themodernman.com/in/58e9e6c
Cheers
Dan
I’m not sure if this is the right place to ask this question but here it goes…
What sets your stuff different from the others, you said somewhere on your site don’t listen to bad PUA advice, but what is “bad” PUA advice? How do I know they are bad? What makes your stuff the right way to go?
– Usually the way I’m able to tell not to “trust” a certain PUA website is by how the website is designed… pop-ups, if they have videos how do they sound and dress, and frankly they ALL sound and look smooth and dress really well (same same same), uses A LOT of words like “secret, seduction…” they even use things like stealthy (at least for me raises eyebrows)… and maybe it’s just me but I feel a bit apprehensive towards what they are trying to sell me, because I don’t get a natural feeling from them. When I say natural feeling I mean feeling that I shouldn’t try what they say since they are a waste of time…
So far, the videos I’ve seen of you, you look, dress and talk like a normal person with normal expressions, and it doesn’t seem to me you are putting on a show if you know what I mean… You’re like someone I can be friends with and talk too. When I saw your stuff I was like “Ah. I don’t feel apprehensive.”
Though I probably might of answered my own question but I think I want to hear it from you:
– What sets you apart from everyone else?
– What is a bad advice, and how do I know what I’m looking at is bad advice?
Hey Gab
Thanks for your positive feedback and question.
Answers:
1. What sets us apart from other sites? Check out the side by side comparison on this page: http://www.themodernman.com/about-the-modern-man.html
2. Bad advice is “advice” coming from someone who isn’t even successful at what they are advising. Most PUAs and “seduction gurus” are simply posers, copycats and frauds who pretend to be successful with women just to make a quick buck. Even one of the biggest “dating gurus” of all time (his name starts with D) married a woman who many think is very unattractive, after he spent years claiming he had the secrets to picking up attractive women. He later said something along the lines of this in one of his programs, “I’d rather have an average or less attractive woman with a good personality, than an attractive woman with a bad personality.” What a cop out! He’s basically trying to say that all attractive women have bad personalities and you should avoid them. Little does he realize (because he’s not actually good with women) that attractive women are some of the nicest people in the world, but ONLY show that side to a guy if he passes their tests. If the guy comes across as being afraid of her, placing her above himself in terms of value, etc – then the attractive woman will usually reject him and will not show her easy-going, down to Earth side.
Basically, if you want to be successful in life, don’t try to emulate people who are not successful. If I had listen to the PUAs (some of my friends did), I wouldn’t have become successful with women. By the time I wrote The Flow, 5 out of 6 of the new guy friends I’d made (who were also trying to become successful with women) were still struggling because they were using PUA tactics. When they saw my success, they finally started to understand that being natural and real was the answer. When they did that, they too began enjoying natural and easy success with women. Instead of trying to pick women up, they (like me) just talked to women and allowed things to quickly flow from one stage to the next. Before you know it, she’s on her back in bed calling out your name in pleasure as you give it to her.
Guys use our advice to have sex with lots of women and enjoy lifestyle. They also use it to find a woman and keep her. Lately, a lot of our customers from the early days have posted up comments talking about getting engaged, married, etc. Others are still living the life and having sex with lots of new women. It’s pretty awesome to know that we’ve given guys that power of choice.
As for you getting started – Gab, do me and you a favor and read what customers post up here in the comments: http://www.themodernman.com/success/modern-man-success-stories.html They’ve done a great job of explaining why you should learn from us. They say it in their own words in many different ways, but honestly – you just won’t understand until you’ve actually gotten one of our programs. You’ll see how advanced our advice is and how much it changes your life when you do.
Cheers
Dan
So if a girl is being challenging does it mean that:
1. She’s available (single)
2. She’s just being a girl? and that we as guys should allow her to be a girl…?
Hey Michael
Thanks for your question.
She could be being challenging for so many more reasons than that! 🙂 However, no – it definitely doesn’t mean she is single.
As for allowing her to be a girl: Of course. If you try to get her to act like a man, she will be unable to feel proper attraction for you.
Cheers
Dan