One of the best ways to stop feeling intimidated by beautiful women is to understand that they don’t actually want you to feel that way.
Most of the guys that a beautiful woman meets will feel intimidated by her and try really hard to impress her.
Simply based on her looks, guys will behave as though she is so valuable and is something to be afraid of.
Yet, she’s just a normal girl and she doesn’t want you to be afraid of her.
In fact, she actually wants you to be more of a challenge for her to overcome, rather than being so keen on her just because she looks good.
If She Acts Cold, She is Usually Just Testing Your Confidence Level
Some beautiful women are open, easy and friendly when guys approach them.
Yet, the majority of beautiful women have to put up their guard and act a bit cold and disinterested, otherwise they will make it easy for nervous, insecure guys to get a chance with them.
Women are mostly attracted to a guy’s confidence, so acting cold towards you is one of the quickest ways to find out if you have enough of it. You want to have sex with her because she is beautiful and she wants to have sex with a guy who has the type of confidence that she is looking for.
When a woman tests you by not contributing much to a conversation or by looking at you in a judgemental way, the trick is to just maintain your confidence. Don’t think, “Oh no! I’m losing her!” and start panicking or looking nervous.
Simply relax and let the silence happen in the conversation, or smile at her judgemental look. She will so impressed by that and excited to finally be talking to a guy who doesn’t panic when she offers a bit of a challenge.
She Doesn’t Want You to Be Extra Nice to Her Because of Her Looks
One of the biggest mistakes that guys make around beautiful women is to be extra nice to her in the hope that it makes her “like” him.
There’s nothing wrong with being nice to a beautiful woman, but it isn’t the thing that turns her on and makes her want to have sex with you.
If you want to feel confident around beautiful women, you have to focus on making them feel attracted to you. When a woman feels attracted to you, she will help to keep the conversation going and will be much more open and friendly with you.
When you know how to attract beautiful women and have a few experiences doing it, you begin to feel more confident around them. You stop feeling intimidated because it’s no longer a case of you trying to get a chance with her, but her hoping to get a chance with you.
Personally speaking, since working out how to attract women, I’ve had sex with more than 250 women.
Some of my girlfriends would be considered to be very pretty, some cute and girly, some girl next door types, while others have clearly been model material or actually working as models (I hooked up with four catwalk models over the years).
Despite the differences between each woman that I’ve had sex with over the year, one thing has remained the same every time – the way I treat each woman.
I don’t care if she is a TV reporter (an ex-girlfriend of mine was), a catwalk model (same again) or a dental nurse (that was the one time I actually enjoyed going to the dentist), I always treat each woman the same.
They don’t get extra special treatment from me just because they happen to be pretty, sexy or beautiful. In fact, that approach to women is one of the main reasons I have been able to have my choice of women.
So many women are relieved, impressed and utterly intrigued that, unlike other guys, I am not shaking in my boots because of their beauty and sex appeal.
She Doesn’t Want You to Feel Afraid to Come Over and Say Hi
Most beautiful women only ever get approached by drunk guys or nervous, nice guys who are hoping to get a chance with them.
What beautiful women are hoping to experience is a cool, confident, charming guy to walk over and be NORMAL around them. Yet, most normal guys are too intimated to approach.
…and that is a huge opportunity for you.
One of the things that amazed me when I began to approach and pick up women, was the fact that most guys just stand around and stare at the hotties in a bar or club. They are too afraid to make a move and get rejected in front of everyone because they don’t even know how to attract women.
Secretly, they know that they have no idea what to say or do to get the beautiful woman to feel attracted and are just going to hope to get lucky. Yet, after a few failed approaches, most of those guys give up and just stand around looking at women.
When you can be the guy who is not only confident enough to approach beautiful women, but you also know how to attract them, you will realize that you have hardly any competition from other guys. It’s basically you vs. drunk guys and nervous guys.
Most “good looking” guys don’t want to look desperate by approaching, so they just stand around trying to look good. What allowed me (an average to below average looking guy) to have so much sex and choice with women was that I actually approached and also focused on actively attracting women.
So, if you are interested in approaching and talking to beautiful women, but need a bit of a confidence boost first, check this video out…
2 Ways to Feel Less Intimidated Around Beautiful Women
Here are 2 more ways to relax and feel less intimidated around beautiful women…
1. Don’t Place Her Above You in Terms of Value
When a guy approaches a beautiful, he usually blows it by acting like a little boy who has just met his superhero. He’s feeling so much attraction for her that he comes across as excited to be talking to her and eager to get her approval.
Yes, a beautiful woman is great to look at and she is special, but she doesn’t want to be with a guy who feels like her is less valuable than her. A guy like that will most-likely become insecure and clingy in a relationship and she will then have a hard time when trying to break up with him.
She wants a guy who at least feels like her equal, but ideally, a guy who feels like he would be doing her a bit of a favor by being with her. Beautiful women won’t go around admitting that openly because many guys will take it as an invite to treat her badly.
Beautiful women expect a guy to know the deal and if he doesn’t, she just rejects him and waits to meet a guy who understands.
2. Remember That She is Actually Insecure About Her Looks
According to a global survey on beauty conducted by Dove cosmetics, 96% of women do not consider themselves to be beautiful.
Weird, I know, but it’s true.
Even though a woman will act like she is very confident and as though she thinks she is the hottest woman in the world, she will almost always be insecure.
She knows that she doesn’t look as good without make up and that she doesn’t look like the perfectly Photoshopped women in magazines and on TV commercials. She knows what she looks like when she wakes up and it’s a lot different to how she looks after doing her hair and putting on make up for 1-2 hours.
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Thanks for the message dear educators,i would like to know the things which makes the woman to laugh and enjoy being with a guy.I have met with beautiful women but i usually fail to make conversation progress, maybe just because i don’t have the things which the beautiful women like to talk about.
Hi Kastirio
I am now a dear educator? Cool, thanks…lol.
Yes, it sounds like you need some advice on conversation if you’re being overly formal in your comment and calling me a “dear educator”…! Listen to The Ultimate Guide to Conversation. There’s some free tips on keeping conversations going and keeping them interesting in this video.
Cheers
Dan
This is solid advice Dan! I’ve read the Flow three times now and breaking the conversation first before she does is absolute magic. I’ve literally had a girl’s jaw drop when I broke off saying I had to finish up grocery shopping and get dinner started because I was starving. She asked if I was gonna call her later. I said if you can cook, I wouldn’t need to call (with a wink) she took the hint and came over to help me cook and after eating, played Xbox (got that idea from you) then sealed the deal with sex. My confidence has skyrocketed after reading the Flow.
Hi Timothy
Cool! That’s the first Xbox success story we’ve received. Lol…
Just for the record for those reading along with the comments: Xbox isn’t a technique we use to seal the deal for sex. Timothy did that because HE wanted to. Girls respect guys who do whatever they want to do.
Enjoy the great times ahead!
Cheers
Dan
Maan!, this article ive just read will turn tha table for real
Hi Sheriff
Glad you enjoyed it mate. Now, put it to action.
Cheers
Dan
Hi Dan
I used the tips from this post on the weekend and just wanted to say a thanks!
Just knowing this really helped me relax and I spoke to 3 beautiful girls at a cool bar in my city. I got a phone number from 2 of them. Thanks so much for your advice!
I’m going to invest in your programs now that I know that your approach works. Which one do you think is right for me? My main problem is keeping a girl interested once I have her.
Garry
Hi Garry
Thanks for your positive feedback and congratulations on your success so far.
Based on your main problem, the ideal program for you is Better Than a Bad Boy. Once you watch that program and start using the advice, the only problem you will have is trying to get rid of women. The program is about being what women refer to as a “real man” and when you present yourself in that way, women stick by you for real and don’t want to let you go. You’ll see that most women will like you and want to be with you, when you start using the advice from the program. So, when you have that power of choice, it’s very tempting to start dating multiple women at once. Or, you can choose a girlfriend or wife – it’s up to you.
Enjoy the great times ahead! I hope to hear about more of your success.
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan!
What is the best way to go about ‘hitting on’ girls that you get introduced to through a female friend?
Basically I have a friend who is a real socialite she works in a big super store and she is always trying to fix me up with girls at her work sometimes on her own accord other times I’ll point someone out that I like the look of. I don’t know how she goes about it but I think she gets them to look at my Facebook and she gives them my number and they do text me.
I don’t seem to be getting anywhere though, can you give me any pointers on were I’m going wrong. Example of a conversation I had last night with a girl;
Her; Hi Michael, this is Tiffany Amy’s friend from work 🙂
Me; Amy doesn’t have any friends does she 😛 and whos Michael this is Brad Pitt think you’ve got the wrong number! 🙂
Her; Hehe oh ok I better try another number then 🙂 and thats mean she does have friends haha.
Me; Yeah you better 😛 I’ll be deleting your number after this text! I think Michael’s number is (I gave her a made up premium number) just stay on the line as long as possible until he answers 🙂 Who? I’m not her friend I’m just with her so I can get discounts! shh don’t tell her 🙂
Her; I’m guna tell her! I don’t even want to know what that number is 😛 does ‘Michael’ have a last name?
Me; Fine! Didn’t want anymore discounts anyway! 🙂 (I told her what the premium number was) Yes he does its Bradley, are you checking me out on the FBI’s most wanted list or something? what about yours? I’ve just been calling you Tiffany the cutie on the second checkout up until now.
Her; Oh yeah haha I thought I recognised that number I’m just being really slow! My last name is franklin is sounds so manly lol yes gotta make sure theres no stranger danger around 😉 thanks but I don’t remember you that well.
I didn’t reply after that because I couldn’t think of anything to reply to recover that situation so just left it. Is there something wrong with my conversation style? This kind of stuff continuly happens to me getting on well then either no reply or a bad reaction and I’m just puzzled. I know I should be approaching women on my own and doing it myself but if I’m getting set up why not take advantage any tips on how to go about it? Is it a good idea to text girls?
Thanks
Michael
Hi Michael
Thanks for your question.
You’re doing a lot better than most guys, but you are trying way too hard. Basically, you’re using a beginner level approach and doing too much of it because you don’t fully believe in yourself yet. What to do? First, listen to 21 Great Ways to Get a Girlfriend. One of the “ways” to get a girlfriend is “meeting women through friends” and we explain exactly what to say and do to get the girl interested, get her number and get her eager to go on a date with you. In many of the examples, we also explain how to escalate to kissing and sex in the certain “way” to get a girlfriend.
Second, you need to work on your confidence, because until you are truly confident you are always going to be doubting yourself and worrying that you’re losing the girl’s interest…and that will turn her off. Watch Dating Power and start using the Confidence Building System we provide. You also asked about texting girls. Ben gives specific instructions on when you should text and when you should pick up the phone and call in Dating Power.
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan!
I don’t understand thats my natural communication style I talk like that to all my female friends and my male friends girlfriends. In that interaction I wasn’t thinking about what I was going to say and what would be funny thats just what came to me when she said those things. I thought you guys recommended injecting humor and making interesting conversation and being natural? Personally I hate talking about standard things like ‘Hi Tiffany, so how long have you known Amy and how long have you been working at that place? Thats not interesting to me, I would only want to know that stuff later on if she could actually vibe on my level and keep up with my humor.
Is there anything specifically wrong with my communication style though other than maybe going overkill sometimes?
Thanks
Michael
Hi Michael
You’re welcome.
So, your natural communication style is to make a joke about everything the woman says? Dude, that isn’t natural. You’re trying too hard.
Yes, we recommend using humor, but you are overusing the technique to the point of making it feel a bit weird. Some guys overuse particular techniques when they see them working because they assume if the technique works, then it must work even better if they use it even more. Everything in moderation. Use it as “prescribed” and you will succeed. Personally speaking, I use humor in my conversations with women, but very sparingly because my confidence and masculinity is so strong now that women like me for deeper reasons…hence these mastery level programs about the deeper side to all of this.
In the beginning, it’s great to get such positive reactions from women and be able to kiss, have sex and get a girlfriend by using all the “easy” techniques in The Flow (have you read it?), but if you’re serious about this area of your life, you will then work on your deeper confidence and masculinity. That is where the power is. When you are what women refer to as a real man, that is when the game changes and women feel desperate to be with you and stay with you.
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan!
Well no lol but I do that quite a bit with everyone if my friends text me sayng ‘what you doing’ I’ll hardly ever answer with a standard response. I will agree with you though that maybe I was overkilling the humor slightly but thats because I don’t want to be seen as boring and the conversation ends because of that I mean thats happened to me a lot before. I’ll remember that in the future ‘moderation’.
Ok, isn’t it kind of hard though to show deep confidence via a text lol thats also maybe why I overuse the cocky stuff because if that isn’t there then theres nothing in the conversation that would indicate confidence, social intelligence etc, so I go overboard with the surface level stuff because thats all I have in that format. I suppose its a hundred times better in real life you get the full experience better for you and her.
I haven’t bought the flow but I will if I’m making little errors like this and not realising it then I probably need it, my friend told me about this website.
Thanks
Michael
Hi Michael
Yes, you won’t find much success hiding behind text messages or Facebook messages. Be a man and pick up the phone or talk to women in person. When I meet a woman in person, she feels it (my power, confidence and masculinity) immediately and the job is basically done. I don’t need to do much else other than escalate to a phone number, kiss or sex. In most cases (sometimes they aren’t single, etc), she will really like me, want to be with me and I will then decide yes or no basically. I don’t have to spend time trying to get women to like me anymore – it just happens naturally right away.
Ahh, I figured you haven’t read The Flow! There is a crucial technique in The Flow that stops guys from trying too hard, so until you know that you’ll be approaching your interactions/conversations with the insecurities you currently have. My other assumption about you was that you’d been learning for free on the internet from random sources or newsletters. Be careful of that: Most dating advice sites online are run by amateurs and guys who are faking to be good with women, just to take your money. Listen to this to hear what we went through just to make Dating Power – we are the real deal. We didn’t even record Dating Power until we’d done years of seminars and heard long term success stories from previous attendees. We are serious about helping guys succeed with women – it’s not a hobby for us, this is what we do. We’ve even put our reputation on the line in front of TV news cameras to prove that our advice works. As for where you learnt about the cocky stuff, if my assumption is right about who you learnt it from – do a search for photos of that guy’s girlfriend and you will see that he is a fraud. He can’t even attract beautiful women.
If you are serious about becoming successful with women, only learn from true experts like us. Also, if you decide to learn from us, make sure that you do not mix amateur advice and techniques in with our expert, proven advice. Our advice works and 1,000s of guys around the world are proof of that.
Cheers
Dan
Hi Dan
Using the modern Man products has made a MASSIVE difference to my life. I suffer from social anxiety and for longer than I care to remember my interactions with women were awkward to the extreme, filled with feeble nice guy conversation with no flirting or attraction building at all. I was truly hopeless and had not a clue what I was doing. Defusing a bomb or trying to wrestle a rhino would have been more productive lol!
Anyway, on to the good stuff! Thanks to your awesome products I can handle myself much better around women now, I still have a long way to go before I’m at the level I want to be at but now I am finally starting to become more confident and attractive to women and taking more risks in my interactions with them.
I actually did something recently which the old me would never have dared do…something I kinda learnt from Ben! Ok, so I was in a club, busting moves on the dancefloor and got chatting to a girl. After a while she starting feeling my chest. I remembered Ben’s story at this moment and proceeded to give her tits a little feel for a few seconds to show her my confidence. The look on her face was priceless and her attraction to me shot up big time!
Thanks for all the help guys!
Hey Sean
Thanks for sharing your success so far. Much appreciated.
Yes, as you are experiencing, your confidence and skills with women develop WHEN you USE our advice in real life. You get a massive confidence boost out of just listening to our advice, but USING it is a completely different story. THAT is when things REALLY start to happen.
I hope to hear more about your success in future. Thanks again.
Cheers
Dan
Hi Dan!
When I searched for advice from the Modern Man, my original objective was learning how a female mind works. It was not a longing for romance, surprisingly enough. It stems from the fact that I used to be puzzled that women’s preferences used to be so different from my expectations. I could not understand why they choose having fun with guys that I considered wimps! This put me in an uncomfortable position on various levels, e.g., at work, in social situations, in the local community. I played a nice guy and did not get appreciation. Or even women used to shy away from me, and I had a feeling that they suspected insincere intentions on my side – which was never the case.
I instinctively started to change my attitude, and I have been successful sometimes, but I never knew which elements of my behavior would be ultimately responsible for the success with approaching women. I figured that it would have to take me another five years or more to work out the strategy based on my experience. Thus, I decided to learn from the experts like you.
I like your expert advice, which is professional, eye-opening, solid and sincere. And it truly works!
Before I finish, I would like to share what happened to me just recently. I spent a couple of days with other people travelling to a different city on a business trip. I have not met any of these folks before. During the two days we spent together I played a cool guy who used your proven techniques (still learning and have not mastered them, but they already work). By the end of this spree, I have effortlessly been able to achieve different levels of attractions of 5 girls (from lukewarm to hot), not to mention two other girls that I only met in a pub when we all went for a concert during one of the evenings. I could not believe this happening! Now, I could develop a further relationship with any of them. They are all in their early twenties, I am in my forties – I am puzzled again!
Cheers
J
Hi Jerry
Thanks for sharing your success! Much appreciated!
Once again, this is another case of what we always say, “When you USE our techniques and advice, you will get results.” As you have experienced Jerry, you will make huge strides in progress and get amazing results when you actually USE the advice in real life. Another thing I always say, “You have to actually talk to women to get a girlfriend.” It sounds obvious, but a lot of guys sit around thinking, “Why don’t I have a girlfriend?” and then you ask them, “How many women have you spoken to where you actually talked to them in an attractive way and went through the right process to escalate to a phone number, kiss or sex?” The answer is almost always, “None” or “Probably two or three this year.”
To get a girlfriend or start having sex with women, you need to talk to them and go through what we call The Flow process. If you’re not good with women, you will have to talk to a LOT of women before you get lucky. However, if you follow our advice, pretty much every woman you meet will like you and want to be with you.
It’s great to hear that you’re now getting results Jerry. Just make sure you keep taking action and MOST IMPORTANTLY: Escalate to a phone number, kiss or sex. Don’t try to “get to know” women for a while before you do anything. Use our advice on escalation and the next thing you know, you will wake up one morning and realize that a beautiful woman is naked beside you and she LOVES you.
Enjoy the great times ahead!
Cheers
Dan
Dan, Ben & Stu,
I would like to say thanks to you guys. I started reading, listening to, and watching your products a few years ago. I can’t express enough the impact they have had in every area of my life. From work relations, to how I handle my family, to all the new friendships made, girls I have met, and goals pursued, the things you have taught me have stuck in the back of my mind and have made a major difference in how I have handled situations. While we all have different circumstances and different areas we need to put extra effort toward, no progress can be made until you can set your mind on the correct track. Your products do just that at an accelerated rate. Starting from such a low point in my life filled with lack of confidence, poor social skills, terrible anxiety, and nothing but memories of a painful long-term relationship gone horribly wrong, I have witnessed first hand a complete turn-around. While I still have plenty of work to do before I reach a mastery level and get consistent results, I can say that I have experienced many situations with girls that I would have once considered undoubtably impossible. I’m talking about situations with instant deep levels of attraction, multiple women fighting for my affection at once and a general instant acceptance from girls everywhere I go. I will admit these situations have caught me completely off guard, and I am now working on expecting these things to happen and fully accepting them as the evidence I need to improve. There are definitely ups and downs as you work through these things, but if I make an honest comparison of my life just 3 years ago to the way it is now there is a major unmistakable improvement. To anyone trying to decide what advice to take when it comes to success with women, this is it. As long as you continually give it a fair effort, you will improve and it will not just be some sleezy trick to use at a bar, you will actually improve your life and become something genuine that women truly desire. Thanks guys!
Hi Bret
Thanks for sharing your success so far.
Yes, that’s one of the best things about improving your success with women – it also improves pretty much every other area of your life at the same time, especially work relationships and prospects, friendships and relationships with family. Enjoy the great times ahead Bret. The more you apply the advice, the faster you will continue to develop into the powerful man that you are fast becoming.
Cheers
Dan
Dan,
How do you get a girl your in a relationship with or have been dating for a few weeks to wear things that you like and wear her hair the way you like it?
I mean I’m not trying to mould a girl I’m with into my ideal women like suggesting or asking her to wear stuff that isn’t even her scene but the girl I’m currently with is always questioning why I’ll give her a straight answer because it looks hot but shes always reluctant to fulfil my requests. Should I find a new women who is more willing to please me in that way? We haven’t gotten to the point in the relationship where were really comfortable with each other and she has no need to impress me like that its still early but for the most part shes not interested.
Cheers.
Hey Fergus
Thanks for your question.
Sounds like she’s just testing to see who’s really the boss in the relationship. If you can create and maintain the right relationship dynamic with her, she will eventually begin wanting to wear things that you like.
Cheers
Dan
Thank us so much for this and all the previous Lectures. Dan u’ve just nailed it. Am so happy to part of this family after signing up to your newsletter. I have been able to win my dream girl and we are now enjoying a great relationship. Am still learning more.keep it up.
am Desmond. From Ghana,west Africa
Hey Desmond
Thanks for your positive feedback and CONGRATULATIONS on your success.
Enjoy the great times ahead with your girl…and YES, you’re welcome to keep coming back and learning more. I still have SO MUCH MORE to teach here at The Modern Man. I will be working non-stop for many more years to come to teach everything I want to teach here.
Cheers
Dan
Hello Dan!
I just thought I’d be social and come over… just kidding man.
Dan I got the flow and I am giving it my very best to put your advice to work because I really want to solve the romantic aspect of my life.
I’m just a little stranded somewhere. at the club or in the mall, I get very much intimidated by groups of women with guys in them. I’m afraid that if I approach the group to flirt with one of the girls then the guy(s) could try to phase me out.
Tell me what you have to say about my situation.
Your help is so much appreciated.
Sam, South Africa.
Hey Sam
Haha, nice one.
Mate, guys like you should not start out trying to approach groups of men and women together. Approach women on their own, in a pair, in a group of three, etc. Set yourself up for success, not failure. If you want to learn how to approach groups, I recommend that you watch this: http://store.themodernman.com/in/ff7fdd
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan,
Does starring at girls turn them off? Is it putting them on a pedestal? Because I have a lot of girl friends that tell how annoying it is when guys do that. But i want to hear what you have to say. Is there such thing as a “Confident Look” versus an “Insecure Needy Stare”?
Hey Joshua
Thanks for your question.
I explain what makes a guy come across as creepy in Better Than a Bad Boy: http://store.themodernman.com/in/2cf8a89 It’s difficult to explain in a comment. You have to learn a lot about sexual presence, the masculine/feminine dynamic, etc and then see me do the different body language demonstrations to understand why some guys turn women off and why some guys turn women on when they look at them.
Cheers
Dan
One interesting result of employing some of your techniques is that now I have many girls on the go. And thus, while we do have interesting conversations, it is usually me who will check out when conversation with a given girl becomes bit boring. I do not consciously do it.. it just happens. And indeed it is having magical effect. They are mild to extreme surprised about me stopping the conversation rather than they doing it. I also notice they being eager to know when we are going to talk next..
Keep up your good work.. Dan & Co.
Hey L
Haha! Nice. You’re doing it right. Nice to hear from guys like you.
Enjoy the great times ahead!
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan thankyou again for a timely post. I’ve got a kind of success story for you. As in I went out to a few bars & clubs last weekend with my mate & I came away with a bunch of phone numbers off girls & Facebook requests. I even have photos of me with several girls kissing me or licking my face!!!!! Yep it was that sort of night lol. Even got intimate with a girl dressed up as a burlesque dancer! I showed my married brother the pics & he said “Sweet Jesus they’re gorgeous, I wish I was single ….” They all seemed to enjoy my company, however when I texted or called them after a day or so I only got static. Don’t get me wrong I enjoyed the attention I got & put it all down to your advice & the flow (which is awesome) but where am I going wrong in “sealing the deal”?. Not sure if I’m turning them off or just worrying unnecessarily? Or I start off un intimidated then get tongue tied? ‘m hitting the night spots again tomorrow & hope for more success & even better stories to share with you.
Hey SJ
Thanks for sharing your success so far. Great to hear!
As for not getting a warm, eager response from women when you call them: In most cases, this will just be the woman testing to see how interested you are. Remember: You came across as a confident, cool guy in the club, so most women will assume that you have loads of women interested in you. In those situations, you have keep following her up and moving things forward.
Additionally, it can also be that on your Facebook account, you don’t seem to the guy she met in the club. For example: You’re confident and cool in the club, but your Facebook profile makes you look like a loner, quiet type, etc.
Cheers
Dan
I guess, most men get scared because they have no experience with very beautiful women. Fear of the unknown. Many guys can be comfortable and show their true personality if they get some time. They don’t really have any positive feedback to draw reference from.
Hi Akshay
Thanks for your comment.
Good points you make there. One thing to point out though. You said, “…if they get some time.”
In most cases, beautiful woman won’t give a guy a chance to grow on her, unless she meets him at work, through friends, at university, etc and also happens to have no other options. Even in those cases though, she will almost always prefer a guy who is confident around her immediately, rather than having to be gentle with a guy and hope that he gets over his insecurities one day.
I help new guys every day who’ve been dumped by a woman in those circumstances (i.e. he grew on her over time or picked her up when she was feeling down after a break up). The solution to success with women is never to look for handouts by trying to get lucky (watch this video to find out why: http://www.themodernman.com/dating/how-to-get-lucky-with-women.html).
To be successful at picking up women and keeping a relationship together, you’ve got to earn a woman’s attraction and respect by being a confident, emotionally attractive man that she can look up to and respect now and in the future.
Cheers
Dan