Women have all sorts of different tastes and opinions about clothes, so there isn’t one type of clothing that will attract all women.
Some women hate it when a guy wears a shirt because it looks too formal, but other women love a guy in a shirt because they say it looks smart and elegant.
If you want to be attractive to a woman, the most important thing is how you make her feel when you interact with her. Yes, she might have a certain style of clothing that she likes guys to wear, but if your personality and behavior turns her on, she will begin to look at your clothing and style in a more positive light.
Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man really works and how you can use it to your advantage to attract women in pretty much any clothing that you decide to wear…
“Will Wearing Designer Clothes Get Me Laid?”
No.
If you dress very well and spend a lot of money on high end clothing, a woman may look at you and think, “Oh, he’s stylish…he looks good” but that doesn’t mean she is going to approach you or that she will be willing to have sex with you if you approach her.
The majority of women appreciate it when a guy makes some effort to look good, but what’s most important is how he makes her feel when he interacts with her. If a guy’s personality, behavior and conversation style doesn’t turn a woman on, she isn’t going to say, “I feel nothing for him, but I still want to have sex with him because he wears Versace.”
Of course, unattractive women usually like it when they meet an insecure, confused guy who doesn’t know how to attract women with his personality and behavior. They feel less worried about losing him to an attractive woman because he doesn’t know that in the human mating dance, it is women who have to look pretty…not men.
In the mating dance of the peacock bird, the male is the colorful, pretty one and the female is the bland, plain looking bird. Female peacocks select males based on how colorful and vibrant their feathers are.
In today’s world, a lot of men have been tricked into thinking that they need to be very good looking and adorn themselves in the best clothes to stand a chance with women. Yet, it just isn’t true.
Yes, some women will only ever accept a male model with loads of money, muscles and the best clothes, but the majority of women have what I call an Open Type, which means that they are open to being with all different types of guys, as long as the guy makes her feel attracted in other ways (e.g. confidence, charisma, charm, humor, etc).
A woman might be going through life saying, “I hate guys who wear t-shirts and jeans…I only like guys who wear ironed business shirts and suit pants.” Yet, when she meets a confident, charismatic guy and he makes her feel attracted to his personality and behavior, she will place less importance on the fact that he’s wearing jeans and t-shirt.
In fact, the more she feels attracted to him, the more she will actually come to like the fact that he wears t-shirts and jeans. She will actually begin to find that look attractive because it’s the look that the guy she feels most attracted to wears.
Most guys don’t get this, so if they hear a woman saying that she likes something or doesn’t like something, they take it as a permanent fact. They assume that the woman cannot change her mind or feelings.
If they hear a woman saying, “I like guys who wear the latest fashions” or “I only date good looking guys” they assume that most (if not all) women think that way and the only way to get women attracted is to look good and wear the latest fashions.
Yet, it’s not.
You can attract women with your personality, behavior and conversation style. You can turn women on in so many different ways. You are not limited to making a woman feel attracted to you because of your looks because you are a man, not a peacock bird.
Look Good, But Don’t Go Overboard
A good rule of thumb to use when approaching fashion as a man is to make an effort to look good, but don’t go overboard.
Unless you’re a fashion designer or work in retail sales for fashion, it’s not something that you need to spend a lot of time thinking about.
Simply decide on what type of clothes you like to wear that also fit in with the type of crowd that you like to hang out with.
For example: If you’re into nightclubbing, then wearing dorky, nerdy clothes isn’t going to make a good first impression on women. Sure, you can attract her with your personality and get to see your fashion sense in a more positive light, but there’s no need to make things any harder for you than they already are.
Clothes Do NOT Maketh the Man
If you listen to the advertising campaigns of big brands and to the gay men on TV who push fashion, you might get sucked into thinking that, “Clothes maketh the man.”
I recently saw a gay guy on TV saying, “Every guy HAS to have at LEAST 10 pairs of shoes.” He was so serious about it and then an attractive woman appeared on the TV to back him up. Most guys will see that as real advice because the hot chick agreed.
In another show, a guy guy and an attractive woman said, “It takes a real man to wear pink” and I rolled my eyes and felt sorry for the guys who’d be watching the show. Most guys don’t realize that the gay guy is trying to make men be more feminine and tolerant of feminine men and the woman is simply agreeing because she can’t admit what she really likes about men.
Women are intelligent, but they say all sort of stupid things about what they want in a man…and then go for guys who are the complete opposite. For example: No doubt you’ve heard women say that they want a nice guy, right?
So, why do they often reject nice guys and go for bad boys?
As you will discover in that video, you can’t always listen to what a woman says as being literal fact. When a woman says that she likes a guy who has good shoes, it doesn’t mean that she won’t have sex with or even marry a guy who wasn’t wearing good shoes when he met her.
Likewise, if a woman says that she doesn’t like chest hair on a guy, it doesn’t mean that she won’t have sex with or marry a guy with chest hair.
She’s just being a girl and saying whatever she feels like, but if she meets a man who makes her feel a lot of attraction in other ways (e.g. confidence, charisma, etc), she will change her mind and begin to love men with chest hair because the man that she is most attracted to has chest hair.
Clothes are not the thing that make you irresistible to women. Yes, clothes can make you look good and help you make a good first impression, but they are not the most important thing to most women.
What makes you irresistible to women is when you trigger their feelings of sexual attraction with your personality, behavior and conversation style and then build up the sexual tension between you to the point where she feels an intense desire to have sex with you…
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Hey Dan, would this also apply to say the hipster crowd?
Hi Amrish
Thanks for your question.
Yet, I have no idea what you’re talking about. Would “what” apply to the hipster crowd? What is your definition of the “hipster crowd”? Also, is that the crowd in which you see your ideal women?
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan
You said dress for the kind of “scene” or “crowd” you like to be around and develop your style around the type of women you’re trying to attract.
As for the hipster crowd, they are those people who are a subculture of men and women typically in their 20’s and 30’s that value independent thinking, counter-culture, progressive politics, an appreciation of art and indie-rock, creativity, intelligence, and witty banter.
They usually dress in old school fashion, messy hair etc.
As for women in the hipster crowd, I do find them attractive but not really my thing though.
Hey Amrish
Okay, thanks for explaining further.
Mate, you know I love your contributions to the site in comments, but as usual I am going to be helpful by pointing something out (it may sound harsh, but you need to hear it):
1. If the women in the hipster crowd aren’t your thing, why are you asking me? Why do you care? Be a man who knows what he wants and focusses on achieving that. Ask questions that are in line with what you want, not what you don’t want.
2. Of course it applies to the “hipster crowd.” They are a “scene” so the same rules apply.
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan
You’re not harsh at all, you made a good point.
I’ll take your advice to heart.
Btw I recommended this site to a friend & he’s open to checking it out 🙂
Have a good one Dan!
Hey Amrish
Okay, that’s good to hear. You know that my only intention is to help. Just make sure you focus on what you want, not what you don’t want. When you’re heading towards the goal of success with women, be laser focused and do what you need to do to get the results that you want.
Cool – thanks for the referral. I look forward to helping your friend also.
Cheers
Dan
You made me laugh at wearing the pink bit Dan. I’ve been telling friends on a constant level that wearing bright (and sometimes shocking) pink shirts are not exactly a ‘one step up’ for the fashion-dating scene but they’ve kept ridiculing and arguing that it takes a real man to wear pink. Thanks for the assurance, I was wondering if perhaps pink did help guys stand out positively to most women.
Hey Jared
You know what it is? It’s the high amount of gay guys on TV giving fashion advice, mixed with the fact that confident, masculine women have a voice on TV. They all say, “Men should wear pink” because that suits their taste of men.
The majority of women (i.e. feminine women), do not like guys wearing pink, do not like it when men cry and do not like guys behaving nervously around them.
Cheers
Dan
Dan,
What would you define your “scene” or crowd as, where do you like to be and who do you like to be around? What scene do you see your ideal women in?
-Jesse
Hi Jesse
Thanks for your question.
I like to be around people who are real/authentic and who are pushing towards bigger and better success in life. I prefer not to be around people who complain and make excuses for their lack of success in life or with anything, who mostly talk about others as a topic of conversation and who aren’t going anywhere in life.
My ideal women? Hot. Where do I find them? Everywhere. I enjoyed many hot women for many years that I met in many environments/situations (listen to: http://store.themodernman.com/in/e8ead2) and I’m now with one woman, who is a hot girl I met in a nightclub one night. Some guys will assume that a hot girl in a nightclub would be a bad choice for a lifetime relationship, but those same guys simply don’t know how to handle such a woman. She rejected most guys who tried to hit on her, but committed herself to me. Why? This is why: http://store.themodernman.com/in/2cf8a89
Cheers
Dan
Wearing nice clothes is something women will appreciate but, naturally, you still need to make an impression on a deeper level.
Hey J
Exactly mate. Well said.
Most guys just don’t realize that women are looking for strong men (mental and emotional strength), not perfectly styled pretty boys. Here’s an old Tweet of mine that sums things up pretty well:
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan
That is one of the best things I’ve heard a woman say!
Thanks for sharing! 🙂
Hey Amrish
You’re welcome mate. Her comment pretty much sums it all up. Confidence is #1 if you want women to find you sexually attractive.
Cheers
Dan
Dan
Bet you’ve never got this question guys wearing makeup lol? Specifically eyeliner. I’m rolling in the goth/emo scene so its part of that scene. I’m not expecting women outside of this type of scene to get it and really not bothered if they don’t only interested in girls who are like me. Just interested in your views.
Hey Kenneth
Thanks for your question.
A confident, alpha male can do whatever he wants and women will still feel attraction for him. Girls who aren’t into the goth scene will still feel attraction for a goth looking guy IF he is really confident and isn’t worried about what people think. Women see past the superficial and respond to their gut instincts. Not all women will “like” him, but most will feel real attraction for him IF he is confident and alpha.
Read: http://www.themodernman.com/success/alpha-male-vs-beta-male.html
Cheers
Dan
Dan,
You’ve been asked this question a few times but here it comes again lol if you are a true alpha male do most women feel attraction for you or do all women feel attraction for you? Ive sometimes seen you say most but lately on a comment you said all women will which is it lol?
Do women make an initial assessment on a guy and feel attraction if he’s got the qualities you guys talk about and then as she interacts with him more her interest will either increase or decrease depending on the type of guy he is? Making some women head over heels for him, others attracted but not at that infatuated stage and some attracted but not interested in taking it further because you have little or no compatibility with one another, correct?
If not can you do an article on this lol
Tom
Hey Tom
Thanks for your question.
To clear up any confusion: If you are a true alpha male, then almost all women will feel some sort of attraction for you. Obviously, you probably won’t attract butch lesbians or women who look for weak men. Yes, women make an initial assessment of a guy, but are open to changing their mind about him depending on the confidence, social intelligence and masculinity that he displays.
If you’re not an alpha male, then you will find it difficult to get women attracted and keep them them attracted. You might be able to “grow on” some women over time, but the fastest route to success with women is to become more of an alpha male. Read: http://www.themodernman.com/how_to_become_an_alpha_male.html
Cheers
Dan
Dan,
Why do women like a man more when he’s dressed well? Any reasons for this lol?
I can honestly say the amount of women interested in me, checking me out, fixing their own appearance etc when I’m wearing a shirt and tie as opposed to more casual stuff is through the roof.
Yes part of it is if you feel you look good/cool you have more confidence and swagger women like that but there’s definitely times I’ve been in all up in my head not feeling the vibes and still notice lots interest.
Cheers
Hi Jake
Thanks for your question.
It happens because women have to judge a guy on his appearance BEFORE they meet him. Wearing the shirt and tie is a POTENTIAL signal to her that you’re a smart, successful man who is going places in life. However, if you interact with the woman and you are nervous and self-doubting and can’t make her feel attraction for your personality, the shirt and tie will instantly become meaningless to her.
Getting looks BEFORE you meet a woman means nothing in terms of getting the end result of sex or a relationship. A look is just a look. You can get looked at all night and then go home alone to jerk off to porn as usual. What means something is interacting with her and making her feel attracted to your personality and then having the skill to go from a conversation to kiss and then sex that night, or get a phone number and get her out on a date. All of that is taught in my book: http://store.themodernman.com/the_flow.html
Cheers
Dan