If you want to be happy in a relationship, you need to:
1. Love and accept each other for who you are, while also always trying to do better and be better for each other.
Neither of you need to be perfect right now, but always try to do better, be better and love better.
2. Don’t take things too seriously.
Always try to smile and laugh at things that you’d otherwise get angry at for each other. If you’re not used to living life that way, you will initially have to remind yourself and possibly even force yourself to smile and laugh more.
The reward is less stress, more love and easy happiness together.
Here’s a video that I made to explain this point…
3. Try your absolute best to love each other unconditionally.
Allow both of you to feel safe in the knowledge that you are loved and that the other person is going to be patient with you, stick by you and allow your love to grow and mature.
4. Deepen her love, respect and attraction for you over time.
In the past, a woman had to stay with a man for life, even if she was unhappy.
It was shameful to divorce, so a woman would stick by her man even if he was unable to deepen her feelings of love, respect and attraction. Heck, he could even treat her badly if he wanted to and she would still stick around.
Not anymore.
In today’s world, a woman is free to do whatever she wants. She doesn’t have to settle down early, remain a virgin until marriage or even get married at all.
To keep a relationship together in today’s world, a man needs to know how to deepen a woman’s love, respect and attraction for him over time. If he doesn’t, she may eventually fall out of love with him, get bored and cheat on him, break up with him or divorce him.
5. Genuinely see each other as more than enough.
It’s only natural that you will find other women attractive (e.g. when walking down a street, looking at porn, watching TV, etc) and that she will find other men attractive.
However, as long as both of you have the mindset that you are both more than enough for each other, you won’t feel the need to find happiness in a new person. Sure, after 15 years of a relationship, she won’t look the same as she once did, but that doesn’t mean you still can’t look at her as being the sexiest woman on Earth in your eyes.
You both have to decide that you’ve chosen each other and don’t need anyone else. A woman will stick by her decision to stay with you if you deepen her love, respect and attraction for you over time.
The Truth About Relationships Between Men and Women
Despite all the changes that have happened in our society and the effects on relationships, it is still possible to keep a relationship together for life if you approach it right.
Personally speaking, I recently got married after a short engagement to the girl of my dreams. In the video below, I explain why I got married, my approach to the relationship and what I do to make sure that the relationship will last.
Staying Happy Together For Life
Have you ever seen those couples who’ve been together for decades, but are still happy and madly in love with each other?
You can just tell how happy they are and how much they love each other by the way they look at each other. They are there for each other as best friends, but they are also lovers.
The man will look at his woman as though she’s the sexiest woman on Earth and she will look at him as a sexy man. How is that possible?
Simple.
You have to deepen the love, respect and attraction that she feels for you. As a man, you have to know how to create that type of dynamic and then you need to create it and maintain it.
Leaving it to chance or taking her for granted is no longer an acceptable relationship strategy for a man. The relationship is either going to get better and better over time, or it’s going to get worse.
Keeping the Sexual Spark Alive
It is normal to stop having sex?
Yes and no.
When a couple reaches their 50s or 60s, they don’t have much sexual drive anymore unless they are taking hormones.
However, from the ages 18-50, happy couples still have sex. In most cases, it won’t happen as often as it did in the first couple of years of the relationship, but it will still happen.
If a couple truly loves each other and after 10 years of marriage, only has sex once a week, they don’t have anything to worry about. When a couple is truly in love and going after mutual goals or spending a lot of time with their family, they know that sex isn’t the most important thing.
There is no set number of times per week that a couple needs to have sex. As long as they find each other attractive, are in love and have sex whenever they feel like it, there’s nothing to worry about.
Do You Know How to Make Her Feel Attracted to You?
One of the most important things that you need to do is continue to make your woman feel respect and attraction for you as a man.
Things that can turn a woman off and make her lose respect for a man include:
- Not following on his promises.
- Being insecure, clingy or needy.
- Hiding from his true potential in life behind her and the relationship.
- Being nervous in social situations.
- Putting her down often.
- Being too protective or suspicious.
- Always letting her win because he is afraid that she will get angry.
- Never letting her win because he wants to control her.
There are many different ways that a woman will lose respect and attraction for her man.
As a man, you have to know how to make your woman feel enough attraction for you in the relationship, otherwise she may decide to fulfil her desire to feel attracted elsewhere with another man.
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Hey & THANKS Dan,
After many years with your advice (having consumed Mastery methods and mindsets, The Flow & The Modern Relationship) I can say that ‘the modern man’ truly is the relationship and Life -‘guidance’ that can most successfully be applicated to real life that I’ve ever come across.
Knowing of these ways and how to successfully keep a relationship great and lovely it can be scary seeing where part of society today is headed, lead by feminism and ”forced-equal” gender roles. Sweden, where I reside, is a leading country when it comes to this. How do you Think this will play out in the future?
Do you think we will eventually see yet another role-reversal here, where in time we start going back to more traditional roles? Or do you think we will keep heading towards a more ”gender-equal” promiscuous way of living?
With all this recent research regarding whether we as humans are meant to be monogamous at all? What is ”natural” and what is ”cultural”, etc. How do you think this will play out in the future?
And does it really matter what actually is ”natural”, as we’ve come a long way from being animals.
Cheers!
/Kim
Hey Kim
Thanks for your positive feedback and question.
I predict that women are going to keep calling out for men to be real men, as they always have. Except, this time around, more men will be wise enough to know that being the type of man that women want is not achieved by doing whatever women SAY they want a man to do. As I explain in the article above, women change their mind like the weather. One minute they are saying, “We want men to cry” and the next they’re saying, “It’s such a turn off when men cry!” Being successful with women will never be about handing over your power to women.
If I can achieve what I’ve set out to do with The Modern Man, I will be helping wake men up to this and together, we will create a tsunami of change in the culture. It simply takes guys like you Kim, to stop being pushed around by women and start being the man ALL the time. Then, when you help out a couple of your friends during conversation, the ripple effect comes into play. Eventually, most men should know that women want men to men and to not bow down women in fear.
As for the future of relationships: I’m still considering whether I should write about book about that. My ideas are ahead of their time and would be considered sci-fi by most people, so I will hold off on that for now. However, regardless of what happens in the future, I think that the feminine human (woman) will always be sexually attracted to the masculine human (man) and that masculine/feminine dynamic will form the basis of our relationships. Women are always going to want the men to be the men, regardless of how advanced we become as a species. Sexual attraction between humans because of the masculine/feminine dynamic, so as a man – the more masculine you become, the more sexually attractive you are to women. In terms of your relationship with your woman, the more truly masculine you are in your thinking, behavior and actions, the naturally loving and harmonious your relationship will feel for both of you. Your woman will be able to truly live in her feminine state of being and express herself, her love for you and her attraction for you without bounds.
As for monogamy: That is a personal choice. Read this (and vote in the poll on that page if you’d like to): http://www.themodernman.com/relationship/is-marriage-worth-it.html
Cheers
Dan
You know what? I would be the first in line to get this book.
One last thing that’s been on my mind; My girlfriend (she’s 20, I’m 21, we both just left college) was a virgin before meeting me, as she wanted her first time to be special.
We’ve been together for 9 months, and as the newly in love feelings has wore off, I’m starting to think this girl could be the one for me.
Do you think the fact that she hasn’t experienced anyone else will be a negative thing? As in, will it make her wonder? What sparked these thoughts was finding out she’s always been a fan of movies depicting the free-loving 70’s. She’s never showed anything that would actually support such desires outside the theatre thou.
We have a GREAT sex life, the best I’ve ever had. And I know I will be willing to introduce toys, role-playing, and whatever games it takes to make it stay that way.
What do you think? Will her curiosity get the better of her, or is it a positive thing that she hasn’t been with other guys.
I’m not the worrying kind. Usually. It’s just this weird feeling. That she might actually be the one.
I should add she isn’t that big of a party girl, after having had a conversation a couple of months ago about what I thought of her going out with single friends, she doesn’t do this anymore. As she said what we had was far more important.
If I would decide she is the one for me, do you think this lack of experience with other men for her would prove a problem?
Thank you for helping men be men!
//Kim
Hi Kim
It all depends on how she perceives life and relationships. If she has a traditional outlook and you can maintain the right dynamic between you and her, then yes – you can keep the relationship together. At least 50% of marriages still stay together for life. You just need to know the right way to go about it.
BTW: You mentioned in your comment, “…And I know I will be willing to introduce toys, role-playing, and whatever games it takes to make it stay that way.” You don’t need to do ANY of that to keep your sex life alive. That is NOT what keeps the sexual passion for each other alive. What does? Watch this and learn: http://store.themodernman.com/in/2cf8a89
Cheers
Dan
I guess saving yourself until 20 years of age says a bit. Her parents were married until her dad cheated and they broke up (both now having found a new partner), something that she doesn’t seem to have completely forgiven her dad for, she still after many years refuse to see her dads new gf. This does kind of scream traditional views to me. It’s just her love for those movies that made me Think twice.
Will her (previous) virginity be a PROBLEM in ITSELF.
Or would you say that the problems that we could potentially face are the ones every couple marrying/long terming potentially faces if the man doesn’t know what he’s doing?
I realise I still have a bit to learn. Do you offer student discount on your products?
Hi Kim
Well, she sounds like she’s a good candidate for a lifetime relationship.
However, in today’s times, you really do need to know what you’re doing when it comes to relationships. Women don’t just “put up with” an unhappy relationship anymore. If you don’t learn and simply try to guess your way through it, you’re most-likely going to make the same mistakes other men make that lead to become one of the 50% of people who get divorced. It’s just not like it used to be. These days, we men need to know what we’re doing when meeting women and being in a relationship.
About student discounts: I can’t do that because it would be unfair to full-paying customers. However, I’ll let you in on a secret: When you do become a customer you will gain access to 50% discount offers. Our customers love our programs and they really love the discounts. When you get on board, we will take care of you and ensure you are guided to ultimate success with women.
Cheers
Dan
Good advice again.
I hate the “advice” that says that “Oh, long-term relationships should have love relegated in favour of a business-like relationship” and that “Oh, sex will dry up. Make it like a business-contract and you will experience true love which is better than chemical love”
Your advice is good. I have seen 60-70 year old people looking very happy with each other (probably married for ages) and holding hands etc…
Hey Severus
Thanks mate.
Yes, it’s pretty difficult for people to avoid the silly advice from unsuccessful people. Everywhere you turn, you will hear people saying that love dies and you can’t keep the passion alive because THEY couldn’t do it. Yet, if you’re smart, you will stop and see that many couples do stay madly in love for life and the passion for each other remains. The difference? They approach their love and relationship correctly.
Cheers
Dan