Finding your life purpose is the most important thing you will ever do as a man.
Without a clear purpose in life, you will be floating around in the wind like a plastic bag. You will have no direction and will be easily swayed.
When you are a man of purpose (i.e. you have a mission and you’re following through on it), you glide through the air like a bullet and head directly towards your target.
Even if there is a bit of wind (i.e. obstacles that come up along your way to your target), you have such force and determination that you stay on target and reach your destination. If you get knocked down, you get right back up, reload the gun and shoot for the target once again.
Men of Purpose Are Attractive to Women
Another reason why finding your life purpose is important as a man, is that a man of purpose is very appealing and attractive to women.
Women are naturally attracted to guys who have mental and emotional strength to follow through on their biggest goals and ambitions and never give up. This attraction is directly linked to a woman’s need to align herself with a man who will be able to survive, thrive and prosper in this world.
Throughout human history and still to this day, survival has always been a challenge for humans. In the past, we had to hunt and gather our own food and now we need to work and compete in the workforce or business world to be able to survive, thrive and prosper.
When a woman meets a guy who is a man of purpose, her natural instinct of attraction kicks in.
Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man works and how you can use your clarity of purpose and your determination to achieve it as a way to make her feel attracted to you…
As you will discover from the video above, having purpose in life is just one of the ways that you can attract women to you as a man.
What is Your Life Purpose?
Every man has a purpose in life, but finding your purpose is not always an instant or an obvious discovery.
Some guys are lucky enough to grow up knowing what they want to do and they then follow that path throughout life and live it out to its fullest potential.
However, for most guys, the idea of having a life purpose seems to make sense, but they just can’t seem to work out what it is for them and where they fit into the world.
As a result, they often go through life hoping that one day, the idea for their life purpose will come to them in a flash of inspiration. Unfortunately, that doesn’t happen for the majority of guys and they end up wasting much or most of their life waiting for that elusive flash of inspiration and insight.
How Do You Know if You’ve Discovered Your Life Purpose?
You’ll know that you’ve found your life purpose or are on the path to realizing your life purpose, when it is the thing that gets you out of bed in the morning more than anything else in the world.
Years into working on it, you still feel excited and still have an unrelenting passionate about it. You’re always thinking of ways that you could improve your skills in the area or improve the area (of life that you’re focused on) for other people.
From all my experience with the topic of having purpose as a man, I’ve found that if a guy simply follows his gut instinct and heads along down the path that he feels will lead him to achieve his life purpose, then he will either:
- Stick with the path he chose, rise through the levels of his true potential in the area and achieve his life purpose.
- Grow from the experience and then realize that his life purpose can be even bigger than he once imagined. He will then begin heading down the path of his new aspirations and dreams.
When finding your life purpose, you won’t always have a crystal clear picture of what you will achieve and how. Sometimes, you just have to trust your gut instinct and take several connecting paths to reach the point where you realize your life purpose.
During that time, you will be building valuable skills and acquiring knowledge that will prepare you and help make you ready to begin achieving your true purpose in life.
However, if you don’t trust your gut instinct and instead hide away from doing what you really want do be doing in life, then life will get pretty gloomy for you. Over time, feelings of regret, emptiness and disconnection from the world around you will increase and you will feel unfulfilled at your core.
Have You Been Ignoring What You Really Want to Do With Your Life?
Ask yourself, what do you really want in life? What do you really care about doing in this life more than anything else? Be honest with yourself.
What would make you happy?
What would make you feel totally satisfied with life, even if it means following a path that others might think is silly or impossible?
If you can answer those questions easily, then you will know where you want to head in life. You don’t have to have a complete, step by step plan on how to get there, but you do need to trust your gut instinct and then build a vision of how it could play out.
You then need to have an intense desire to go after it will unlimited determination.
The Difference Between a Hobby and a Life Purpose
When the subject of life purpose comes up, many guys will make the mistake of thinking that their hobbies and general interests are their purpose in life.
An example is when a guy thinks, “Okay, well, I love cars. That’s what makes me happy. I want to make enough money to buy a Ferrari or a Lamborghini one day. That’s going to be my purpose in life.”
Yet, working hard and saving up to buy an expensive car is simply a goal based on acquiring a material object. Achieving that will not deliver him total life satisfaction for his entire life, unless he’s a shallow person with very limited dreams.
There’s nothing wrong with aiming to acquire material possessions, to live a comfortable life or to become wealthy. However, those things are not your life purpose and they are not what life is all about.
Material possessions and wealth are simply added luxuries in an already amazing world. There are so many documented stories of business people who only ever got into business to make money or to “escape the rat race,” thinking that it would satisfy them and make them eternally happy.
Yet, all they ended up with was numbers in a bank account and an empty feeling about life. Instead of having a real desire to contribute to the world, change the world or achieve something amazing, they worked hard to get money and to get away from the world.
Unfortunately for them, they didn’t know that a fulfilling life purpose is something that brings you closer to the world, not farther away from it.
Turning a Hobby into a Life Purpose
In the example of a guy really loving cars, he could turn that into a life purpose by getting deeply involved in the automobile industry.
For example: He might become a car collector, start or join a club for car enthusiasts, continually improve his knowledge on the subjects related to cars or even write a book about the complete history of cars.
He might also try to get a job with a company who are designing cutting edge cars and use his passion and knowledge to help make the project a success.
He might even start a business of his own. If his love for cars is going to be a fulfilling life purpose and not just a hobby, then it needs to go beyond the car itself.
To make it his life purpose, he should delve right into the industry, topic or area and contribute in the best way he can, rather than just buying a car and feeling proud of himself.
A Man with Purpose
Felix Baumgartner, the Austrian man who jumped from the edge of space in a supersonic free-fall in 2012, is a man who knows all about pushing his limits and reaching for his true potential as a man.
Millions of viewers watched his record-breaking jump on YouTube and held their breath as he attempted to become “the fastest man alive.”
His success inspired a lot of people, not necessarily in terms of wanting to go out and take up extreme base jumping, but in terms of giving them a reason to think, “What am I doing with my life?”
Before jumping from the edge of space, Baumgartner had already made over 2500 “death-defying” jumps from some pretty extreme locations, including one from the iconic Christ Redeemer in Rio.
He started skydiving at the age of 16, honing his skills as a member of the Austrian military display and competition team before joining Red Bull in 1988. He describes himself as “born to fly,” but by the 1990s he felt he’d “gone as far as he could with traditional skydiving,” so he started pushing his boundaries with base jumping.
You could argue that Baumgartner didn’t have to find his purpose, he knew from an early age what he wanted to do with his life, but it’s not that cut-and-dry.
At the age of 16, he didn’t set himself the target of jumping from the edge of space; he set his sights on pushing himself to the limits of what it was humanly possible for him to achieve and the Red Bull Stratos project came into his life as a result of following that purpose.
If he’d been thinking small or just thinking about skydiving to amuse himself for the sake of a hobby, he would have stopped pushing himself after any one of his 2500 jumps.
In 2003, he achieved something no man had ever done before when he crossed the English Channel with a carbon wing; he could have stopped there, but he didn’t. Always following his gut instinct desire to do what he loves to do, he followed a path that lead to a point where he jumped into the record books from the edge of space.
Will he stop there?
Not at all.
He’s now pushing his potential as a pilot to the next level. In a recent interview he said, “You can’t keep me out of the air. I have already been flying as a commercial helicopter pilot in Europe, and now I will have the time to take that aspect of my career to the next level. I’m really looking forward to it.”
What is Your Gut Instinct Telling You to Do?
Finding your purpose is about listening to what your gut instinct has been telling you all along.
Many guys will waste decades working in an industry they’re not even passionate about, while always knowing what they’d really love to be doing. Often, the excuse will be, “I can’t afford to leave my job and pursue what I love, because I wouldn’t start earning money from it for years.”
Yet, that isn’t a valid excuse because when it comes to achieving your true purpose in life, you don’t reach the top of the mountain on day one.
You need to get involved in the industry or profession in some way, rather than thinking that glory will happen on day one.
Work your way up and make a promise to yourself that you’ll keep going until you get to where you really want to be in life.
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Hey dan I want to start the new year off right. My approach anxiety is gone and I’m able to start attraction. However I am having trouble telling if a girl is interested in being kissed. My biggest problem right now is escalating things to sex and missing out on the fun. Which product do you think would help me in escalating to sex thanks
Hey Jordan
Thanks for your question.
The program for that is Dating Power: http://store.themodernman.com/products/dating_power.html We explain how to tell if a woman wants to be kissed, but also how to get her to kiss you first. We also explain how to go from a simple conversation to sex that day or night. Check it out.
Cheers
Dan
Dan,
My life purpose is music, well to be a singer/songwriter I’ve always wanted to push my music out into the world but after years of working on my song writing I’ve come to the realisation that I’m not that gifted, I am an average song writer and when I do create I often hit road blocks or its just not how I wanted it to turn out after months of working on projects. I often got low when it wasn’t working out for me and wondered if it was worth it.
I decided to give it up and just focus on being a singer but again man I question if I’m good enough to be successful in this, to get the work to be offered projects etc I practice over 3 hours a day but there are limits on how much you can improve your voice, after awhile your just maintaining what you’ve built, with the song writing I had a far reaching vision with it but with singing I can’t see the levels it would basically just be a job get a gig do it, theres no aim.
The problem is I don’t want to do anything else with my life if I’m not a singer or writing my own songs then I don’t have a purpose in life, nothing else interests me even other paths in music don’t interest me I don’t want to be behind the scenes helping other people realise their goals I would just end up being bitter in 5 to 10 years, I’m turning 25 next week and I’m tired of living day to day.
Hey Dan
Thanks for your comment.
Since you don’t want to do something else in the music industry, then it’s not your purpose. If it was, you’d get involved in different ways. Maybe you just need some time to let go of the rockstar dream and start falling in love with other parts of music and the industry. If you are that into music, something will appear in front of you. Follow your gut instinct.
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan,
Huh? I thought a purpose was something that you were dead set on wanting to do lol I don’t wakeup excited about working in the music biz I wakeup excited about creating music surely if I’m just doing something else in the industry its just a job, like most people settling for something they aren’t that stoked about doing but couldn’t do what they really wanted to do so fell into something else related. I get you have to give up on crazy dreams like if you’re in your 40’s and wanting to be a professional soccer player thats not happening but if its possible for you to do it why would you give up if your gut is pulling you in that direction?
If its not creating music then I’m not interested in going down any other purpose paths no other industry interests me.
Hey Dan
Then keep focusing on making music.
If you’re that set and convinced that music is your purpose, then it is. Some of the most popular musicians in the world are not those who sing the best notes or write the most complicated songs, they are those who bring their real personality into the music. Maybe you need to begin focussing on getting yourself out there and getting noticed, instead of just practising alone all the time.
Believe me, getting past all the noise in a competitive industry is hard work. There are literally MILLIONS of lame, amateur, copycat “dating advice” sites run by FAKE dating gurus, who compete for the attention of my audience. Yet, The Modern Man rises in popularity year after year. Why? It’s like Ben (from The Modern Man) said in the early days of The Modern Man, “It will all come out in the wash. The cream will rise to the top” in reference to the endless stream of copycat sites and fake dating gurus. A million people could copy what I do here at The Modern Man, but they can never be me. There’s only one Dan Bacon from The Modern Man and if I do my job properly, then people are going to want to learn from me. Likewise, there is only one of you. If you do your job properly, then people are going to want to listen to your music. It’s not easy to break through in a noisy, competitive space, but if you work hard and really do have something valuable to offer, you will prevail.
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan,
I’ve got a somewhat deep question, and I’ve already identified that I don’t like the people I’m living with, so that doesn’t help my confidence, anyways the question: If a person does something with their life that they are not happy with or don’t like doing, can it make them, anxious, unconfident in life generally – dating, women, socially and all?
For example Dan, obviously you love what you do – working for the ModernMan, and I’m assuming it somewhat does enhance your confidence, even if a little bit, and so if you did something that you DIDN’T like, would it have the reverse effect?
Because for me I’m still at college; my last year, and some of the things I’m studying, I was forced into by my parents into doing (particular courses), that I don’t even like doing – have no interest in them, so basically not enjoying or doing very well in the things I do currently overstresses me and doesn’t help my self-esteem either.
Sorry for the constant blabbering, I just think I need to help myself a little, before I let your programs help me, that’s all.
So yeah anyways, I would love to hear your take on this man.
Thanks again
MC
Hey MC
Thanks for your question.
Yes, I wouldn’t feel as happy, confident and clear-headed if I wasn’t living my life purpose. That is why it is so important to have purpose as a man. Guys without purpose try to dull their pain and distract themselves with porn, alcohol, computer games, TV, pointless hobbies etc. Yet, the pain never goes away.
When you live life on purpose, your whole perspective of yourself and your place in the world changes. You know that you are an important, useful person in the world and are doing what you want to do, which gives you more self-esteem, pride and determination to keep going.
Cheers
Dan
Dan,
What happens if you’re starting to get to the end of the line and you haven’t even scratched the surface of what you wanted to be doing?
I’ve wanted to be a professional actor right for 15 years, I’m 35 now. There are limitations on what I can do with my career windows of opportunity have past.
My dad always said I was wasting my time with the acting and now it just looks like he’s correct obviously a narrow way of looking at it however I can just about pay the bills but my lifestyle is not fantastic, before I started out I didn’t really care about that I mean its kind of the deal you make if you want to be in the acting business you’re not going to be raking in the big bucks, as long as I was achieving I didn’t care but I haven’t.
While I have been ‘doing it’ I look back and feel like I’ve been stuck in 2nd gear waiting to get in 5th for about 10 years, you say make it happen but its not a purpose that is solely in my own hands I have to be given opportunities. If anything I just feel like a bit of a loser purpose does give you a lot of happiness and fulfilment as you say but if you’re not achieving its the worst empty feeling in the world. I try to be a man about it and re-evaluate but eventually as a dude your spirit can just get broken.
Cheers
Josh
Hey Josh
Thanks for your question.
If the path to your purpose is blocked, you need to find another way there. Example: If you’re trying to make it as a TV sitcom actor and it hasn’t been working out, try to get some TV commercial gigs first. If you’re trying to make it on Broadway, do some other big shows first and work your way up to getting leading roles.
The same applies to me here at The Modern Man: Even though my advice is better and has been proven to work, I’ve had to fight to rise to the top amongst all the noise online. In my industry, there are thousands of guys pretending to be good with women and posing as dating gurus just to make money (about 95% of “dating gurus” aren’t even very successful with women in their own life). There are also millions of blogs and thousands of online magazines (backed by million dollar companies) that write about similar topics to me. Even though they are just making up their advice as they type or giving out incorrect advice because they don’t know what they heck they are talking about, guys still visit their site because they don’t know about The Modern Man. Guys who don’t know about The Modern Man don’t know that I have spent years testing and perfecting my techniques (by helping real clients) before teaching them via the website. It doesn’t even cross their mind to find me, so I have to do whatever I can to rise above the thousands of websites who are distracting the guys who need my help.
The Modern Man is growing in popularity every day (traffic just keeps rising), but it hasn’t been easy to break through all the noise online. The reason I have broken through is that my advice actually works, so guys are helping to spread the word by telling their friends. The other reason is that only death would stop me from working on The Modern Man. This is my purpose and nothing or no-one will ever get in my way.
That’s how it works…nothing gets in the way of your purpose. You use your masculinity (how you think, behave take action, respond, etc) to push through the obstacles and rise the higher levels of your purpose. No excuses, no pity me moments, just pure masculine action all the way to complete fulfilment of your purpose.
Cheers
Dan