If you want women to see you as a real man, you need to:
- Be confident in who you are and what you’ve got to offer women and the world.
- Go after your biggest dreams and ambitions in life with unrelenting confidence.
- Love and accept people for who they are.
- Love and admire yourself (i.e. have high self-esteem).
- Be masculine in how you think, behave and take action in life.
- Make a woman feel girly and feminine in response to your masculinity.
When you are what women refer to as a real man, you will effortlessly make women feel attracted to you when you meet them and you will easily deepen a woman’s love, respect and attraction for you during a relationship, to the point where she never wants to leave you.
Do you know how to attract women when you meet them and then deepen the woman’s feelings when in a relationship?
Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man works and how you can use it become the real man that she is desperately looking for…
As you will discover from the video above, you don’t have to be tall, good looking, rich and have a perfect body to be considered an attractive man by the majority of women in this world.
Some women are superficial and will only accept a man who is good looking, tall, rich, drives a luxury car and has a perfect body, but the majority of women are much more flexible about what they find attractive in a guy.
You can be the real man that women are looking for and it all begins with your ability to be attractive to women based on your inner qualities (e.g. confidence, masculinity, charisma, ability to love, etc).
“Where Are All the Real Men?”
Have you ever heard a woman complain and say, “Where are all the real men?” when she is referring to the quality of men she has to choose from in the dating scene?
It’s an increasingly common complaint from modern women because the amount of available real men is rapidly declining.
Why?
More and more men are falling victim to the brainwashing they receive via the media about what women want. For example: Men are told that they need to be tall, handsome, rich, drive a luxury car, have a huge dick and have a perfect body…and THEN they will be worthy of an attractive woman.
It’s crazy.
Most guys go through life never knowing the REAL reason why they get rejected by women. I reveal the real reason in this video…
As you will discover from the video above, guys make up all sorts of excuses for their lack of success with women, but it really comes down to one, simple thing: Their inability to trigger feelings of sexual attraction inside of a woman during an interaction.
When you know how to attract women with your confidence and personality, most women will feel enough attraction for you to want to have sex or begin a relationship. Some women are very picky, but most are happy to secure you as their man if you’re able to make them feel enough attraction and have some (the more the better) of the qualities of a real man.
If you are serious about understanding how to be a real man, you have to stop believing what TV commercials have been telling you about what women really want in a man.
Being a real man is not about driving the latest car, wearing an expensive shirt or spraying on a designer cologne. You can do those things if you want to, but being a real man is deeper than that and you know it.
Can Any Man Become a Real Man?
Yes.
Being a real man is a way of thinking, living and taking action and it all comes from who you are deep down.
Some guys think they can get a few quick tips and pretend to be a real man, but if you are serious about being the real man that women want, you have to go a little deeper than just a few quick tips.
When you approach this part of your life properly, you will enjoy:
- High self-esteem.
- Respect from others.
- Your choice with women.
- A sense of fulfilment, pride and satisfaction that comes from following through to achieve your biggest goals and ambitions in life.
- Happiness for life.
- Love and great relationships with beautiful women.
- Lots of great of friends and lots more people wanting to be your friend.
Being a real man is within your reach. When you follow the path of a real man, your life literally gets better every day.
I know because I’ve been walking the path for more than 12 years now and after having sex with more than 250 women, I recently got married to my sexy 22 year old girlfriend (she’s 15 years younger than me) and I’m a role model for men all over the world via The Modern Man.
If Women Want a Real Man, Why Do Some of Them Hook Up With Bad Boys?
The truth is, women really don’t want a bad boy, but because there are usually no real men available, bad boys are often seen as the next best thing.
Why is a bad boy better than a nice guy to most women? In most cases, a “nice guy” will lack confidence and be nervous or anxious around people, so women end up feeling stronger than him, mentally and emotionally.
Then, when it comes to sex, she won’t fully enjoy herself and open herself up to the guy because he’s emotionally weaker than her. It just doesn’t feel right to surrender her heart and mind to a weak guy.
However, in most cases, a “bad boy” will be very confident and dominant, so it will feel right for her to open up and surrender (body, heart and mind) to him during sex.
Women know the real thing when they see it and “bad boys” get dropped like hot potatoes when a woman realises she has finally met that rare breed…a real man.
If she can’t find a real man, she might eventually fall pregnant to a bad boy and then break up with him later, or marry a nice guy and then divorce him later. However, real men are the type of men that women do not cheat on, do not want to leave and will never let go of.
Watch this video to understand more about why nice guys usually get rejected by women and what you should do instead if you want to be successful with women now and for the rest of your life…
As you will discover from the video above, there’s nothing wrong with being a nice guy, but you also have to be sexually attractive to the woman. Being nice is not what triggers a woman’s feelings of sexual attraction for a guy.
If you trigger a woman’s feelings of sexual attraction for you and you are ALSO nice to her, she will be happy to have finally met a good guy who turns her on. However, if you’re just being nice, there usually won’t be any reason for her to want anything more than a polite conversation with you.
Myths About How to Be a Real Man
It’s time to bust some common myths about how to be a real man and free you from the brainwashing that you’ve likely been receiving via TV sitcoms, TV commercials, movies and music videos.
Myth 1: A real man is a man who “has it all” – Cash, cars, and model looks
It’s no wonder that most modern men think that women are attracted to guys who “have it all” because that’s the sort of message they’re bombarded with daily via TV commercials and billboard campaigns.
The guy who “gets the girl” is the guy who wears a certain brand of clothing, drives a certain make of car, wears a particular cologne or watch, styles his hair with a certain product, holidays in a certain location…and so it goes on, right?
Well, it’s a total myth fuelled by nothing more than the product manufacturers and their advertising think tanks. Real men know that looks, material possessions and “image” are not the main attraction for women because none of those things can make her feel like a real woman.
Wearing a nice watch or styling your hair in a certain way is no replacement for confidence, masculinity and the many other traits of a real man.
The world has changed a lot since the days of the old Hollywood heart-throbs, where a man was shown to be able to sweep a woman off her feet with a mink coat and a diamond necklace. Modern women really aren’t that shallow and you’ve got to believe it.
In today’s world, women are much more independent; they have their own careers and their own cash, so they can buy their own cars and shop for as much bling as they like.
Yet, because of their independence, they are also much “tougher” in terms and don’t allow themselves to be lead around by anything other than a real man or a bad boy. They have to be that tough, because they have to be able to hold their own in everyday life.
The downside of this for women is that they lose the freedom to just be a woman and be girly. Yet, that doesn’t stop a woman yearning for it though.
Believe me, no matter how “intimidating” a woman might appear on the outside, on the inside she’s longing to be able to let down her guard and just be the natural woman she is; to be girly at times, to be emotional and to relax into your masculine direction.
When a woman meets a real man, she meets a man who has the masculine qualities that allow her to relax into being feminine. She meets a man with real mental and emotional strength that she can surrender to and be her real self in the bedroom. When it comes to the subject of how to be a real man, it’s not something that you can fake or do superficially.
So, don’t let any billboards or TV commercials tell you that all you need is the latest “men’s moisturiser” or sports car. The truth is, all you need is you. As long as you demonstrate the mental and emotional qualities of a real man, it doesn’t matter what material possessions you do or don’t have.
You’re a real man and that’s that.
Myth 2: A real man is a “metrosexual” man
Once again, the notion that women are attracted to “beautiful” men who take great pride in their appearance is a total myth perpetuated by clothing and cosmetic manufacturers.
Sure, just as guys scan a room full of people to pick out the most attractive women, it’s only natural that women should do the same to pick out the best-looking guys. But, and it’s a big but, good-looks are not the be-all-and-end-all as far as women are concerned.
It’s fine to make the most of your appearance, but if a guy lacks self-confidence and struggles to strike up an interesting conversation with her, or even worse, tries to attract her attention with a lame pick-up line, she’s not going to be impressed by how well dressed or well-groomed he is, she’s just going to see him as a “social loser” and want to get away from him.
Good looks can only get a guy so far; if he doesn’t have the masculine qualities that make her feel like a woman, he’s not going to hold her interest for long.
If you think women aren’t going to be attracted to you because you don’t have “good looks,” then you’re missing the point. Likewise, if you’re wasting a lot of time, effort and money into “perfecting” your appearance, then you’re also missing the point.
Women want a man who can make them feel like a real woman (i.e. feminine, girly, free to be emotional). It’s inner character that shows what a man’s made of, not outer appearance.
You can have a perfect gym body and still be virgin because women don’t care about your body unless you have the more important qualities, such as confidence, masculinity, social intelligence and so on.
If you’re a pretty boy who lacks confidence, you’re also going to be lacking sex as well. You might be able to get laid with women who throw themselves at you (and let’s face it, they’re usually not that attractive), but as a guy, looks will not solve your problems with women.
Being a pretty boy is not how to be a real man. So, don’t get sucked in my the advertising from cosmetics companies who are trying to sell women’s products to men, by relabelling them as “men’s moisturiser” and so on.
I remember seeing a Nivea commercial for “men’s moisturiser” and it said that women will think you look “tired” if you don’t wear moisturiser. What a joke! Women don’t care about how a guy looks unless he actually has the mental and emotional qualities they’re looking for in a man.
Sure, women might point out the “good looking guys” but that doesn’t mean those guys get laid or that they can keep that woman interested. Women aren’t as shallow as TV commercials make them out to be, so don’t get sucked in by that.
Myth 3: A real man is a “new man”
Back in the 1990s, a new type of man was being promoted via TV because women had more of a voice…and men were listening. They talked about the “new man,” which was an afterthought of the failed type of man called the S.N.A.G (Sensitive New Aged Guy).
With the S.N.A.G, women had said they wanted men to cry and be more sensitive, so men did it and they got dumped. Then, after millions of people got divorced or became so depressed that they started the Prozac (an anti-depressant) craze, women started to say that men shouldn’t cry and they should be strong.
Yet, still high on their new sense of equality and voice in society, women went on to say that they wanted men to let women run the show too. They said, “Relationships should be 50/50. No man should be able to tell me what to do.”
It was a case of one confused woman after another, followed by men who were looking to impress women (and impress people by being politically correct) who said that, “Yes, relationships should be 50/50.”
It’s no surprise to me that people around that time were consuming more anti-depressants than ever before. Sales went through the roof for pharmaceutical companies because men were pretending to be half-man and half-woman (a “New Man” or “50/50 Man” as they were being called) and women were trying to be half-man, half-woman.
It just isn’t right and the unhappiness and divorce statistics from around that time reveal it as a mistake.
A “new man” was to be a man who played an equal role in a relationship, or put another way, a man who no longer played a traditional male role. The “new man” was touted as a man who shared responsibility for household chores; breaking away from the tradition of certain tasks being viewed as “men’s work” or “women’s work.”
Yet, when a team of researchers studied the effects of men sharing the housework with women in marriage, they discovered that divorce rates went through the roof. These days, I get so many messages from guys who desperately want help to save their relationships.
Despite doing everything a “new man” is meant to do, they’re having less and less sex and their woman seems to have no respect for them anymore. The problem is, playing an “equal” role in a relationship takes away the all-important sexual dynamic that is needed to keep the sexual spark alive between a man and a woman.
Just because women now work and they can speak their mind on TV or in pop songs, it doesn’t mean that what they say is now the way things should go.
In most cases, women don’t say what they really want from men because it would be embarrassing for them.
Why? If you don’t know the answer to that, then you definitely have a lot more to learn about women and how to be a real man. The fact is, what women say they want in public and what they do behind closed doors or away from prying eyes are two, completely different things.
When you get rid of the doubt and insecurities that have been brainwashed into your mind by advertising and marketing campaigns and you instead turn your attention to developing and living your true self as a man, you’re going to learn that women really do want you.
When a woman is around a real man, she senses his supreme sexual confidence and naturally feels the desire to surrender to him sexually.
Instinctively, she knows that she has found a rare man amongst so many guys who simply lack the wisdom and awareness of how to be a real man.
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i am a handsome guy who attracts many girls on my outings.my approach to girls is very good and can get a girl to come to my room or go to her room,but i screw up in a sense that cant convert to romance and lead it to sex.im pleading for guidance on how i could resolve my situation.
thanks
Hi Kagiso
Thanks for comment.
Essentially, the way you are escalating with the women would lead them to putting their guard up. There are certain things that we recommend to SAY when you are transitioning from a conversation to a kiss and to sex, which lower a woman’s guard and make her open to full sexual escalation.
You can learn about that in Dating Power
Cheers
Dan
can man-eaters be tamed? the kinds with strong personalities, big attitudes and do what they want including going through men and jumping ship at the slightest setback? or should i go for a more nurturing, submissive girl?
Hi Wilfred
Thanks for your question.
Of course. Women like that will only ever be tamed by a man who is stronger than her, mentally and emotionally. Some of them might settle for a lesser man, but they are the women who end up adding to the horrible divorce statistics because they end up cheating on the man or walking out on him.
At the end of the day, you just have to become what women refer to as a real man. Then, you will have your choice of any type of woman. When you become a real man, you will find that the so called “man eater” type women are just as girly and submissive as other women. However, since they aren’t used to being like that, they get so excited about having finally found a MAN like you that (no kidding) they will propose to you, beg you to impregnate them, etc.
Guys who’ve watched Better Than a Bad Boy have posted up success stories like that on the Better Than a Bad Boy page http://www.themodernman.com/videos/better-than-a-bad-boy.html and also on the Success Stories page http://www.themodernman.com/success/modern-man-success-stories.html
Cheers
Dan
Hi Dan,
My girl left me for this other guy who’s the total opposite of me. He’s a chubby beefcake who looks like he’s still in high school and seems like a big loser with nothing going on for him. He’s not smart, does drugs and isn’t someone that girls chase after which is why i’m confused. I’m sure he’s fun and carefree since he’s a loser, but how do I know if that’s just her type or if she would want to date someone like you and me (once I truly become the modern man?). Or is there something wrong with this girl because i think (and i’m pretty sure everyone else thinks) much less of her now.
Hey Billy
Thanks for your question.
It sounds like she’s just being a typical girl and being silly with her dating choices just to feel free again. You are likely a really good guy, but since you ruined her attraction and respect for you as a man (see: http://www.themodernman.com/videos/the-3-stages-she-went-through-before-breaking-up-with-you.html), she is likely going through a phase now where she is confused and just doesn’t care who she dates.
Cheers
Dan